advice needed

littlejohn · #1 09-10-2008, 12:54 PM

I am a married man, 2 1/2 years ago, I started an affair with a collegue which I never thought that will happen to me as I am a Mr Nice guy in other's eye, we have been together since then, I don't know how to discribe our relation, lover or SB, we have sex almost every week. Initially, maybe I am going for the thrill, but as time goes by, feeling grown. She did not ask for anything from me but sometimes when there are disagreement, things like, we got no future, you interfere too much of my life, you go home can, i go out with friends cannot. She dont to be interfered but many a time, its due to my over concerned.

At first when we just started, I told her I will give her my blessing if she find someone, but now, I feel jealous and angry when she goes out with guys and ended in argument again. We even think of giving up but we love each other and its quite a long relationship

I need advise from bros here for your opinion wat should i do? Pls help.

yang punk · #2 09-10-2008, 01:16 PM

Firstly...such things always happen to Mr Nice Guys!

Next you must appreciate what you have got cos some men don't even have 1 and you've got 2 ladies servicing you!

Thirdly, don't mistaken your jealousy for concern. Yes you have no right to be jealous unless you are prepared to give up your marriage for her! For a single girl to give up her life with no hope of having the prospect of marriage and family is indeed a sacrifice which we men cannot even begin to appreciate... think 20 - 30 years down the line...

If you love her...and if she can find someone who can give her the future you can't or will not... let her go. Be thankful for what you've already got from her.

(been there done that...)

Jchua · #3 09-10-2008, 01:21 PM

Bro, my frank advice is: LET GO. U r going over the board, and it will eventuall hurt you and your family more than u expected. You cannot have both the world and still want more. Feeling is just an emotional excitement, when u cool down, and reality sink in, u will realised that what u doing is wrong. There should be no string attached for a cheap trill that a married man enjoyed.

tetanka · #4 09-10-2008, 01:29 PM

Bro, since you are married. if yr marriage life is a happy one, it is worth the risk?

NewFreedom · #5 09-10-2008, 03:05 PM

4 sum weird reasons... double post. pai seh

NewFreedom · #6 09-10-2008, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by littlejohn

I am a married man

repeat 2 urself everyday. i noe i am hypocrite when i had flings wif married women but at least i do it when i m single n available. never when i was attached.

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Originally Posted by littlejohn

I started an affair with a collegue which I never thought that will happen to me as I am a Mr Nice guy in other's eye, we have been together since then, I don't know how to discribe our relation, lover or SB, we have sex almost every week.

everytime u hv funny tots abt ur colleague, switch n tink of ur wife. tink of hw she will feel, tink of hw disappointed ppl ard u will be, n wat kind of role model r u setting 4 others who respect u n look up 2 u.

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Originally Posted by littlejohn

Initially, maybe I am going for the thrill, but as time goes by, feeling grown.

a r/s started out of lust will never last. that is y "u" always comes after "a" rite at d end.

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Originally Posted by littlejohn

She did not ask for anything from me but sometimes when there are disagreement, things like, we got no future, you interfere too much of my life, you go home can, i go out with friends cannot. She dont to be interfered but many a time, its due to my over concerned.

1 ting i learnt abt woman, even if they expect sumting from u they wun say. wat can u gv her? an official title she is ur gf? ur wife? if u cant gv her anyting y should she commit 2 u?

similarly, if she is nt committing 2 u, y shld u be overly concerned? pls, she is nt ur gf nor wife. FB at best.

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Originally Posted by littlejohn

I need advise from bros here for your opinion wat should i do? Pls help.

stop everyting n divide ur attention away from her. we can gv u alot of advice but end of d day, talk no use. DO IT!

wat can we help anyway? help 2 take care of ur wife when u bonking ur colleague? or why dun like tat? gv me ur colleague let me take care of her 4 u so u no longer hv 2 worry abt her?

sorry if i m being blunt. its 4 ur own gd. n i m speaking from experience. so watever woman tell me nowadays, my heart is as cold/hard as steel nw.

kyooky · #7 09-10-2008, 04:17 PM

Let the girl go and return to your wife. Anyway , there's FL alway available.
It very selfish- for your's pleasure and destroy the girl future. It just my thought , no offence

sleaguepunter · #8 09-10-2008, 07:02 PM

while bonking for fun, just dont fall into the relation trap. So u continue to bonk but just dont fall for her. Your colleague already knew that u r married so u did not cheat her. So if she decide to end the affair, then u shd take it like a man.

SammyHulk · #9 09-10-2008, 07:51 PM

Such is the complexities of emotions. Looking in a logical manner, i bet my last dollar you already know what to do about this relationship. It is your own emotions that do not allow a clean break.

You can have all the advice you need but ultimately you have to make a decision and a tough one i know.

Frankiestine · #10 09-10-2008, 08:07 PM

well coming from some one who has being down that road before...dun say i nvr warn you....YOU HEADING INTO ONE BIG PILE OF SHIT!!!

alanthegreat · #11 09-10-2008, 11:27 PM

from what u wrote, u didnt even mention ur wife a bit except that u are married.

u are in love with ur lover. since u dont have children yet.. i gonna advice u to divorce with ur wife.

u are hurting ur wife more than urself now. whether u work out with ur lover or not its another matter. first.. even though she is in the dark and everything is normal. but in the short term, u should settle with ur wife.

Bull05 · #12 09-10-2008, 11:41 PM

Well it's not worth the price to pay for....

Stay clear

e463181 · #13 10-10-2008, 01:54 AM

play is play, but must know when to go home. unless you're willing to start everything from 'ZERO' again, after all the things you have built up & having now.

edmundhello · #14 10-10-2008, 04:03 AM

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Originally Posted by SammyHulk

Such is the complexities of emotions. Looking in a logical manner, i bet my last dollar you already know what to do about this relationship. It is your own emotions that do not allow a clean break.

You can have all the advice you need but ultimately you have to make a decision and a tough one i know.

I agreed with what bro SammyHulk has said. In addition, u have better control yr emotions.. whether u want to continue seeing her is not really an issue... By all means if you can control. But serious doubt so since you are already seeking advice. Just be mentally prepared that she will end the r/s with u anytime. So start today by telling yrself that she is gg to break with u 2moro. If not... as bro Frankiestine says...

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Originally Posted by Frankiestine

well coming from some one who has being down that road before...dun say i nvr warn you....YOU HEADING INTO ONE BIG PILE OF SHIT!!!

Note: You have been WARNED!!!

sammyboyfor · #15 10-10-2008, 04:05 AM

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Originally Posted by littlejohn

I need advise from bros here for your opinion wat should i do? Pls help.

Should be "I need ADVICE from bros here....".

"Advise" is a verb.