Chitchat Nus student refuses to take responsibility for girl he made pregnant

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Dear Leon Lee..1 more month till our daughter will be born, how quickly time must have passed for you i bet.. For the past month I've been trying to contact you in attempts to update you on the condition of our baby which you've ignored.When you DID reply, you chose to hide behind your mother yet again.. despite you being 21. You claimed that i was blackmailing you. Are you aware of the risks of a baby being born premature to 35 weeks..? Do you not care that she's suffering the most right now? Our angel, who's done absolutely nothing wrong.You said that my parents can contact your family if i really "want anything from you". I don't understand.. Are you not an adult? She's our baby and not your family's, why can't we treat the situation as such..? All i asked of you was to do your part during the pregnancy, to respect Cadence.Are your tinder dates and NUS camps really that much more important to you that you won't spare some thought for your child who is suffering the most now because of our fight..?While you're out partying and enjoying life in FASS and Sheares with your new girls, i'm having horrible contractions every night, alone. I've never felt so much frustration and desperation towards a person before and i do not know where to begin.. I made so many mistakes and decisions out of pure anger which led to being shut out, I'm so very sorry for that.. I truly am. I just feel so confused and upset when i see you out at camps and clubs having the time of your life while pretending that neither the baby or i exist. Perhaps if you were the one carrying our child and i was the one ignoring you, you would begin to understand how unjust it all feels. You do not care about the emotional baggage and frustrations that come along with being pregnant and having to watch the father of your child gallivant.. From my perspective, all that seems to matter to you is your life in NUS and how much female attention you're gonna get in Sheares or how popular you are.Meanwhile, the contractions are long, agonizing and very worrying i just wish you could feel my fear.. I won't deny what i did to you..My actions were overboard and purely out of hatred that you were so easily able to move on with your life and ignore me and our child.. Till now, i pray you'll do what is right and do your part, but it seems your own daughter doesn't matter to you.Your hatred for me has grown since the start of our relationship because I'm manipulative, controlling and overbearing. I've learnt my lesson and i truly am sorry for the way i treated you.The thing is,I have as much fault in this situation as you do, so why is it my family and I have to be the ones bearing full responsibility for something that should be shouldered by the BOTH of us..? I know I've pushed you to the very edge so you don't want anything to do with me.. But don't make our child suffer for my mistakes, please?The last time I saw you, we fought over some girl named Clarissa who's message notification appeared on your phone saying she was "coming over to your place" and previously asking if "you want a Clarissa delivery? ;)". When i confronted you, you denied everything saying she was "just a friend.I didn't want you to leave without telling me the truth so i hugged you and we fought.During the scuffle, you kicked my womb which has led to this..Why didn't i just let you go? I ask myself that constantly.. Sadly, I let my emotions get the better of me and now our baby might suffer.You said you were aware of the fact that you're a dad and that you've got responsibilities now.. You said that you knew it wasn't right for you to get physically or emotionally involved with any girls for now and that you would respect the baby at least until she was born.. So why..? Are you so desperate that you've got to resort to tinder in hopes to look for girls who don't know about your baby and therefore would be willing to have sex with you..?I mean.. judging by the amount of porn stars and naked girls you seem to need to follow on Instagram, there has to be some degree of desperation but is resorting to tinder when you've got a child on the way really necessary..?Why didn't you just abort?I chose to keep the baby and continue with the pregnancy even after he walked away because of how cruel aborting her would be especially at 5 months. I had gotten so attached to the little angel inside of me at that point i couldn't bear to go through with it. Her kicks and movements were the only thing that would cheer me up on rough nights, i couldn't deal with throwing her away like that.What about early on in the pregnancy then..?Leon and i never had a smooth relationship and that was due to the way i treated him. He tried to respect my decision against abortion from the beginning and we stayed together purely for the child. We told my parents and they were disappointed at first, but realized how much i would need them. So, they were supportive and we made plans for the future. But in May, just a week after my birthday, things all changed. His mother and family got involved which resulted in him having the back up needed and walking out completely..Since then, he's taken no emotional responsibility and claimed that if it was any other girl who you got pregnant, he would. but it's because I'm the one who's pregnant, he refuses to. The only form of "responsibility" he's tried to take is to throw money at the problem. I'm sorry but i don't want money.. I want the father of my child to treat me as such and not like i'm some invisible, hated object that should be thrown into a corner and ignored as much as possible.. Sometimes, I wish it were the case but bills won't stop the grievous contractions or comfort my fears over Cadence's health.. Money won't ease the anger when i see photos or hear of him going out and having the time of his life, pretending that we don't exist, refusing to sign her birth certificate or have anything to do with his own flesh and blood..I know.I got myself into this situation with you purely from my own foolishness and now I'm paying the price while you're doing god knows what or, who.I just feel so sad seeing how your desperation to satisfy your sexual desires outweigh your own baby. I have more fault than you in this whole situation, i do admit it and I've apologized countless times.. Please trust me when i say that I feel horrible about the way i treated you and how controlling and abusive i was.I am messed up, rude, toxic, unreasonable and so many other things but I don't shy away or try to ignore and hide from my responsibilities.. So why do you..?You can rid yourself of me, you deserve to, I was horrid to you. But is washing your hands of your own flesh and blood really necessary?All i want is for you to take responsibility for her instead of running away with the next girl who's willing to get in bed with you or thinking that money is going to solve this, is that too much to ask? You're an adult and you're enrolled in a prestigious university, something that you've never failed to remind me of. Are you really incapable of growing a backbone and taking up responsibility over this child who is just as much yours as she is mine.. Does your NUS life take priority over this child who you've fathered..? I'm not saying i'm innocent in this situation. I've messed up and done idiotic and stupid things out of anger and i am sorry. I cannot emphasize this enough.. Is it really too much to ask of you to put the baby first and do your part instead of pretending we don't exist and hiding from the truth?Please.. she's your daughter.This is just a rant which i typed during one of my particularly bad episodes of pains to vent my frustrations and maybe warn other girls before they decide to get involved with him, or any other guy unprotected. Do not make the same mistakes i did. I'm aware that i'll eternally be viewed as a bitch and the one who's completely to be blamed by his friends and family who support his actions. Perhaps to some it's alright to leave someone pregnant and go on with life as if nothing has happened.. I'm sorry that we do not share the same sentiments. Source: lonebabysteps.blogspot.seallsingaporestuff.com/article/nus-student-gets-girl-pregnant-refuses-take-responsibility


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