Should continue chasing?

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Need some advice from bros/sis, this might be a little lengthy.
I know that she have other suitors, and i know its common thing for girls..

Her short background:

Shes Malaysian and divorced before
have a kid around 5/6 years old in malaysia
Working as beer girl at coffeeshop and always end around 1130pm - 12am
goes back hometown twice or 3 times per month for her child during her off

I been chasing her for more then 6months now, can't really remember the exact date i started to have more then just simple crush on her.

At start, i met her in a pub; she previously worked in as a cashier.
She always been rejecting my invitation for supper(after her work) or even lunch(before her work) during the start.

I did some mistakes like texting telling her I liked her, was rejected by her previously telling me she treat me as friend and she have no intention of going into relationship currently.

that didn't stop me from chasing her and i still continue interacting with her hoping that she would at least give me a chance even after being rejected


3 months pass and she switch job, i managed to actually ask her out 3 times full day, once with her friends, another two time was going shopping with her and simple dinner and movie before dropping her home on cab.
p.s. i noticed that she mention she stays at "blk xxx" but notice that she did not actually go to the blk she said when the cab left.

There was once she text me when she was back in her hometown telling me she was worried sick that shes noticed her dropping hair, and saying shes afraid to tell anyone even her family members.
But of cause i dare not say that i'm the only one she told to.


Before her birthday told her i wanted to celebrate her birthday with her after her work, but was rejected saying there isn't any need to celebrate her birthday.
Try my luck on the night of her birthday, and she actually agreed to meet up for just plain supper before sending her home. Even through its just plain supper, i really felt happy.
Not sure if i did the right thing as some bro did mention that showering gift isn't a good idea.

But as i thought it was her birthday, so i brought her a necklace and bracelet which cost me a bomb, and not sure if its due to it being expensive or she did appreciated my thoughts.
(I know bro here gonna scold me for buying expensive stuff which cost 1k for a girl whose not even my girlfriend yet).. she did say she wanna pay me for the bracelet as she don't want owe me too much
p.s i'm not rich and merely earning just nice for myself.
Till now i'm still the one who start the texting, always trying to find something to talk to with her.
I have try calling but usually ends up with no one answering the phone. And she will text me back telling me she just woke up etc.. reason
I wanna ask bros/sis here, what could i actually do?

[pitless]

either she does not want a relationship and wholeheartedly just wanna take good care of her kid or you really is not her cup of kopi

[Johnbass]

Mind over matter...
She doesn't mind you as a bro...
You don't matter to her...

[sammyboyfor]

She sounds like absolute crap to me. You've obviously set your standards very low.

[justl00king]

TS bro, admire your persistence!
If by the 2nd date n we're still not getting jiggy with it, I'd have moved on to next target

All the best, hope your sincerity touches her n u'll have a happy ending
Good luck!

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Or how should I try confess again? I'm thinking like tell her face to face; see if she will accept me anot. But scare le...
Another thing is I can't seems to find the right place to confess, everytime meet her is at places like simpang bedok for supper etc..After her work.
I really don't dare speak up and ask sia.. what's your best suggestions?
How you guys go about asking to be in relationships with her?

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by Advanced

what's your best suggestions?
How you guys go about asking to be in relationships with her?

Why don't you ask yourself a more fundamental question and that is why on earth you want to have a relationship with a freakin' low class divorcee with a kid in the first place?

Are you just looking to fuck her or do you actually want to enter into a long term relationship?

If you're thinking of procreation for God's sake think of your poor children. Is this the sort of mother you want them to have?

[chenpaul]

Boss, thought you only have issue with ladies who sell their bodies. Also so harsh on divorcee with kid

[maxsee]

Instead of chasing after skirt....based on what you wrote here....you should be finding ways to make more money....right now you can barely make ends meet....why would you want to go after girls...

[loneyheart]

She has no chemistry w u .... mayb just a friend ..... action just start wo need to ask .... it go w feel after so many outing n no action even hold hand n kisses ... sorri bro just move on

[demonhunter]

TS , I would say forget it to this kinda girls .

First n foremost , if u are serious abt her .... life would be really tough down the road .

She has lost faith in Men . im sure something fucked up happened to her that's why shes raising her kid all alone . even if she accepts u , there would be a lot of problems like suspicions and prevention of what happen to her before .

I would say , have fun with her but not get serious ....But I don't think you should hurt her further .



let her be ... im sure shes going to call u

[discordpiggy]

Originally Posted by demonhunter

....
She has lost faith in Men ......
let her be ... im sure shes going to call u

I call u... i also lost faith in men!lols

[demonhunter]

Originally Posted by discordpiggy

I call u... i also lost faith in men!lols

I give free therapy .... make women believe in men again .

[Advanced]

Double post

[Advanced]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Why don't you ask yourself a more fundamental question and that is why on earth you want to have a relationship with a freakin' low class divorcee with a kid in the first place?

Are you just looking to fuck her or do you actually want to enter into a long term relationship?

If you're thinking of procreation for God's sake think of your poor children. Is this the sort of mother you want them to have?

Lol boss, it isn't her fault she divorced, her ex-husband had affair and even have another kid outside.
I'm looking into a long term r/s.
That's why I wanna seek advice on how to move next step with her lol..
I don't dare hold her hand le.. like never had a good timing to do it, cannot be hold her hand in cab right lol..
Want confess, also feel like not right place to do it..

Originally Posted by loneyheart

She has no chemistry w u .... mayb just a friend ..... action just start wo need to ask .... it go w feel after so many outing n no action even hold hand n kisses ... sorri bro just move on

Is I don't dare hold or kiss her.. lol

Actually by right ytd arrange meet her, end up she tell me her ex colleague/sister wanna meet her go shopping. Then tell me go home first, later at night then see how. (End up didn't meet).
Thought today wanna meet her eat supper. She tell me she meeting her brother liao..
Sometimes dunno is real anot ma .. or she go meet other guy and since she still "single" got choice.. no need say much to me.