Need advice with girl-friend. Please help.

[JohnG12]

Hi all,

I just got back from a trip with some friends, and i have known one of the girls for quite some time.

At first things were okay between us, but we started to hang out together during meals, wonder off on our own during trips out, visited each other's rooms frequently to have lunch, dinner and watching movies.

I managed to get close to her several times, play tumbling with each other on the bed, talking to each other on the bed with physical contact, momentarily touching hands/legs. When we're out and no one's looking, she would stand very close with contact.

I thought we had something going between us, judging from the attention I seem to get from her. I proceed to up the ante and started massaging her legs one night. Before long she said she wanted to go back to her room.

After that things went down and we got a little distant for a while. then she started coming over to my room again, but this time i kind of drew a line judging from the response I got that night.

I came back feeling kinda frustrated/disappointed.

Any ideas how to intepret this?

Confused.

[superhuman]

details needed for us to be aunt agony..

1) how long have u known her

2) on a scale of 1-10, how WELL do you know each other

3) is either one of u attached

4) do u 2 have many r/s before

5) does she know u like her, do u know if she has feelings for u (have u checked with her friends)

[badzmaru]

Hey Bro,

Sounds to me like she's in to you but not quite ready to take it to the next level physically. My advice, without any further details, would be to keep up the talks, walks, dine etc for a while longer. Eventually, i think she'll be more receptive to your touches. Be patient and consistent and you should be well rewarded in the long run. Good luck!

[scorpionnn]

My way of interpreting :

1. She's playing hard to get.
2. She got horny with the massage, but is unsure, go back room cool down.

So you can either :
1. Play along
2. Wait and see her next step, but meantime, continue upping your ante

If I'm in situation like this, I will play along. Nothing to lose anyway, but please, play smart and if things gets lucky, you get to up her and both of you becomes a pair thereafter. Whatever it is, fuck first, decide later.

[forgetmenot]

I'm lousy with girls...but my view is the same as badzmaru. when she stopped the massage, it's her way of asking "am i sure i want to do this?". Whatever "this" means, that's not the point, but rather she's unsure of the kind of relationship she wants with you.

(...or maybe she code red on that day, paiseh to say )

Anyway, seeing that she's still on speaking terms with you, i'm sure she still treats you as a friend. She's just being cautious.

my 2 cents

[KimEmma]

She come back to your room means that she is still keen. But suggest to go low with her. Test out with her . Or better still have a good talk with her .

[sane]

If u like her, y not make known to her? Either make it or break it. U could be friendzoned.

I have plenty of platonic guy friends too when we could go swim, drinking, get drunk, partying in chalet/BBQ overnight with 100% clean fun as I have absolute 0% interest in them. Even if i m single, i wouldn't consider that type.

[ReferencePoint]

Think that nothing much going on lor. Just kids testing water. TS, dun think too much into it la.

[asdfghjkl]

Originally Posted by sane

I have plenty of platonic guy friends too when we could go swim, drinking, get drunk, partying in chalet/BBQ overnight with 100% clean fun as I have absolute 0% interest in them.

all are friend-zoned already.. target approaching!

[thewildone]

Originally Posted by sane

If u like her, y not make known to her? Either make it or break it. U could be friendzoned.

Good advise for TS.

Just confess. Nothing to lose. If she likes you too, you can lead it to the next level. If she isn't interested, she's still a friend. Use her as leverage to find another one.

You know what she's probably thinking after all that bed-tumbling and massaging? "What is wrong with this guy? Is he gay or just fooling with me? When will he MAN up and be sincere with his feelings?"

You only have a small window of opportunity left bro. And from the negative signs, the green light is flashing to turn red soon.

[JohnG12]

1) how long have u known her
2 years plus

2) on a scale of 1-10, how WELL do you know each other
about 7 I suppose? I didn't know her that well till we went on this trip.

3) is either one of u attached
She is, i'm not.

4) do u 2 have many r/s before
She has, about two I think, including the current one.

5) does she know u like her, do u know if she has feelings for u (have u checked with her friends)
We were teased / rumoured before, but I was not that close to her till the trip. During the trip itself, we were teased again from all the frequent times we were spotted walking together and how close she sticks to me. One of her closer friends joked that she didn't want him anymore.

@scorpionnnn....I would very much like to f first, talk later. But er...lol i think i'm too concerned about losing her / everyone knowing / blah blah...

When we are with others, she will join others in teasing me with another girl as well. But then her actions kind of signal to me otherwise. very confusing.

Let me share more details about one day in particular.

It was a long day and the girl went off with others to grab some stuff while I was with my guy friends.

It was late, so I casually msg'ed her if she managed to get what she wanted. When she was back (I heard her voice and movement) she immediately msg'ed me that she's back, and the next instance she called my room no.

Again, she sounded chirpy/happy and started telling me where they went, what she brought. I told her to settle down first, and give me a call when she's ready.

She called, so I went over to her room, climbed into the bed with her and started talking. again there was some physical contact here and there, e.g. tease her on her arms / legs. She kind of shoo my hand away, and everynow and then turned her back towards me, then turned back face up.

at this point we were under the blanket...and numerous points during our chat our faces were just a few fingers apart.
But I can also feel that she's kind of constantly moving to the edge of the bed when I casually inched closer to her.

But we continued talking.

I tried to steel up and just go for her lips, but somehow I'm not sure if she's giving me the signal to go ahead.

It wasn't long before it was late and I could see clearly she was tired, so I excused myself and said goodnight.

Did I interpret her body signals wrongly, or it is simply me holding myself back?

[sane]

Originally Posted by JohnG12

1) how long have u known her
2 years plus

2) on a scale of 1-10, how WELL do you know each other
about 7 I suppose? I didn't know her that well till we went on this trip.

3) is either one of u attached
She is, i'm not.

@scorpionnnn....I would very much like to f first, talk later. But er...lol i think i'm too concerned about losing her / everyone knowing / blah blah...


She called, so I went over to her room, climbed into the bed with her and started talking. again there was some physical contact here and there, e.g. tease her on her arms / legs. She kind of shoo my hand away, and everynow and then turned her back towards me, then turned back face up.

at this point we were under the blanket...and numerous points during our chat our faces were just a few fingers apart.
But I can also feel that she's kind of constantly moving to the edge of the bed when I casually inched closer to her.

But we continued talking.

I tried to steel up and just go for her lips, but somehow I'm not sure if she's giving me the signal to go ahead.

It wasn't long before it was late and I could see clearly she was tired, so I excused myself and said goodnight.

Did I interpret her body signals wrongly, or it is simply me holding myself back?

Maybe she has some liking for u but holding back since she's attached n has a bf.

Continue to do so, u might lose her as a friend unless u r attempting to replace her bf lo..

[shiokpleasure]

All i can say is, if you're alone and never even roamed around, wtf are you doing???!!!
Just cup her neh neh and you'll get your answer.

[owl888]

When u massage learn from Mr Botak, sure score one!

[alan0338]

are u both underaged ....