halfway go soft how?

[czhsg]

ok bros, would appreciate some advice from those who ever been in my situation. I have been having sex with my gf for a year. Ever since i started dating her from day one, I have abstain from sex at GL through sheer willpower. After a few months, I waver a bit and went for the occasional hj or bj with cap, but never the full package.

So the sex with gf was good. But now suddenly i find halfway during sex my penis go soft. This happen 3 times already. Worried that its erectile dysfunction, i got a bit disturbed. I am only in my twenties. I don't smoke, but i drink every night, 2 or 3 cans of beer. I have a relatively healty lifestyle with exercise, except for the drinking part. But I don't drink before sex or during the day.

Reading from other thread, I suspect my problem is psychological. Coz after 1 year plus never go GL, I was finally so worried that recently I went to GL150 and China street side FL to testing 2 times see if got problem not. I found my performance comparable to last time active days leh. Only with gf halfway go soft.

I notice that my overall sex drive drop a bit, and I like lose interest with sex wth gf. I dunno is it do too long with same person, or is it because I just start working not long, things not stable so I get too stressed. I don't understand why I cannot hold my interest in sex with gf despite her being attractive to me.

My purpose for opening this thread is to find out from fellow bro, if u have this type of problem before and its psychological, how did you solve the problem. Did it go away on its own? Any tips can share? I am prepared to see doctor but i suspect psychological problem he may not see things from the same perspective as those of us who chiong GL before. Appreciate advice from mature forummers.

Lastly, salesmen in forum, please don't pm me sales items. I would like to hear experience of bros here only, on how they overcome this problem of lose interest halfway during sex or if the problem just went away on its own after some time. No sales items please. thanks.

[aO3Dre]

Try adding some spice to your sex life.
Those usual men/women magazines usually encourage some sort of cosplay, or even outdoors...

[Xgenre]

If I were in your position, I will go buy a vibrating cock ring. I will not post any links here because I'm not a salesman. Not affliated to any shop. I'm no doctor too so please do read my ideas with a pinch of salt. Let me explain why wearing a cock ring is worth exploring.

Firstly, the vibrating cock ring is worn at the base of your cock after your cock is hard. The simple idea is that it prevents blood from flowing out of your cock. You will thus remain hard. The cock ring isn't so tight that you can't cum and shoot sperm. You can still function normally.

Secondly, the vibrating cock ring does bring about an erotic feel with the buzzing. Helps you pleasure your gf more when the vibrating part hits her clitoris. Helps you find a good reason why you are wearing the cock ring.

3rdly, I do remember reading about using cock ring as a treatment for erectile dysfunction. Patients use a pump to draw blood into their penis and make it hard. Then wear a cock ring to prevent the blood from flowing out of the penis.

If you need to buy a cock ring, go google sex shops or my thread http://sammyboy.today/adult-d...toy-shops.html A lot of bros added their views there.

[oubboss]

Get ur mind off other things and imagine u bonking angelina jolin . Sure cum

[rohan]

Originally Posted by czhsg

ok bros, would appreciate some advice from those who ever been in my situation. I have been having sex with my gf for a year. Ever since i started dating her from day one, I have abstain from sex at GL through sheer willpower. After a few months, I waver a bit and went for the occasional hj or bj................................................ ...................

Bro C, you 'started' without any prob. things happen only lately, could it be stress or work? try to loosen up.

[epidurals]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

If I were in your position, I will go buy a vibrating cock ring. I will not post any links here because I'm not a salesman. Not affliated to any shop. I'm no doctor too so please do read my ideas with a pinch of salt. Let me explain why wearing a cock ring is worth exploring.

Firstly, the vibrating cock ring is worn at the base of your cock after your cock is hard. The simple idea is that it prevents blood from flowing out of your cock. You will thus remain hard. The cock ring isn't so tight that you can't cum and shoot sperm. You can still function normally.

Secondly, the vibrating cock ring does bring about an erotic feel with the buzzing. Helps you pleasure your gf more when the vibrating part hits her clitoris. Helps you find a good reason why you are wearing the cock ring.

3rdly, I do remember reading about using cock ring as a treatment for erectile dysfunction. Patients use a pump to draw blood into their penis and make it hard. Then wear a cock ring to prevent the blood from flowing out of the penis.

If you need to buy a cock ring, go google sex shops or my thread http://sammyboy.today/adult-d...toy-shops.html A lot of bros added their views there.

bro, i've tried the vibrating c.ring. have to admit it does help. but after a few tries all it did was to numb my cock after a few mins.

surprisingly. i realise that once i go soft i change to fingering my gf. automatically her moaning would help me recharge at a faster rate. depends what turns you own personally la. find out whether its something visual, physical or for me it was something aural.

whatever it is, big part is your mental state. if you find yourself zoning out midway through... try to get yourself to focus before each session? getting into the mood helps, but dont over do it man.

good luck and keep us updated

[fresno99]

bro
could be becos ur gf is inexperienced in sex, and did not stimulate you enough whereas the paid FLs know how to stimulate you. Maybe go find a XXX movie and watch it together with gf, then while watching, do some touchy feely and frenching to build up the stimulation. I am sure halfway through you will be rock hard and wanna cum.

[angrybigpenis]

Well, if she is still in the mood, ask her to NJ you till you are hard again...or do a strip tease....or something.

Could it be physiological instead of psychological? Were you stressed out at work? Tired after some exercise? Lack of stamina?

Drink plenty of water, eat fruits and rest. Just enjoy the moment.....if didi go soft again, pleasure her....at least one of you should have an orgasm.....finger or lick her to cum heaven. She might just give you the BJ of your life or allow you a 'backdoor' pass.

[czhsg]

hmm... fresno9p I think you are spot on. I recall that at first when I restricted myself to having just gf, I was sian 1/2 by her inexperience. But she's improved in some ways now. Guess I shouldn't ask for too much.

angrypbigpenis, thanks for the suggestion, gf has been putting more attention into dressing. She happens to be the goody 2 shoes conservative type, so getting kinky will likely make her uncomfortable. I'm a lucky bastard but it works both ways.

Gee... its tough that something pleasurable should need effort to focus on. ohhh.. the good ol GL150 days... Guess i gotta try to focus on the sex this weekend.

[seansean83]

Hey bro what happen to me is totally the opposite

Having sex with my gf is ok,recently i decided to try others fl.My first time trying and i can't get it to stand.I tried 4 times already,even if i can stand,when the girl is wearing condom for me ,i will become small.I was so pai seh.Very disapointed with myself

The same night i tried having sex with my gf and its ok.Dun know whats wrong with me.Wasted of money on the fl.Never had a chance to bang them
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[crowleyking]

many things are psychological in nature

one must learn to relax and not think too much. Dont be overly concerned about performances.

hope this helps

[peanut123]

Originally Posted by crowleyking

many things are psychological in nature

one must learn to relax and not think too much. Dont be overly concerned about performances.

hope this helps

Yes, I agree with bro crowleyking. I think its psycohlogical. Sometimes, I feel damn horny. But after spend some time walking up and down looking for girl, feeling hot and tired, and the girl not very good service, I sian zipuah and dick go soft very fast.

After rubba rubba and BJ, it gets hard again. But within a couple of minutes if no stimulation or FJ dun feel so good ( maybe pussy too dry or pussy too loose ), become soft again. Damn, have to ask for HJ then.

Sometimes i wonder if got anything wrong with me, but actually, a few days later go find a friendly, pretty girl with good service, huah, hard as a rock and can bonk well again. So, all in the mind lar.

[czhsg]

ok.. knowing that others go through the same problems make me feel normal. Guess I'll just have to take it easy and wait and see. Since there's nothing wrong with me it should be fine on its own in future (i hope)

[rs07]

i agreed with peanut123. initially while at home, feel damn horny and when travel to geylang and recce girls there, its not so horny and its soft, but maybe after get a girl, inside the room and the girl stimulate u, then u have the feeling again. I just back from angeles city. that place is hot and cheap

[rh8611]

looking forward to more professional reply from bros here.. might try vibration ring..