Feeling lonely and a bit heartbroken over a fling

[Marcel]

This doesn't really count as a heartbreak story becos the girl in question isn't my gf and we have only physically been together for a week. We didn't really fight over anything and we still keep in contact. It's more of a pre emptive move on my part and if i am correct she probably doesn't feel about me the way i do about her. I miss her.

I first got to know her thru facebook. She's a thai girl and i added her without actually knowing her beforehand. That was like around 2010. I just occassionally read up on her facebook stories and know she went to singapore but not to work as an FL but some east coast pub and has many singapore frens. Fast forward to 2011 and i finally plucked up courage to chat to her on FB and ask for her contact number. She agreed and when i visited bkk i called her up hoping she would meet me and surprisingly she agreed so we spent one night at a club called shock39 but nothing more because i had to fly back the very next day.

Anyway we didn't really keep in contact much except the occassional phone call until june of this yr whereby i decided to fly to bkk again and stay there for 1 week holiday. At the same time i was in contact with another thai girl who used to be an FL but quit a long time and we met up on FB and she was kind of attracted to me. Now my sole purpose of going to bkk was to meet the first girl that i mentioned and not to meet the 2nd gal that used to work as an FL but if somehow there was a problem with the 1st gal the 2nd gal could be insurance.

Ok to cut things short this girl actually agreed to fetch me from the airport and we spent a wonderful time together. I found out that she has 2 roomates and they live in a rather run down apartment in ratchada area. Both her roommates used to work in some sg thai disco and both have sg bfs.

Anyway i spent a wonderful 1 week together with her and had sex a couple of times and so on and she was also pretty honest with me. When she brought me to a temple to pray and i asked her what she was praying for she told me she was praying for more guys and to be honest on her FB page i see her with a couple of different guys that she's clubbing with.

Yeah i can say we were like a couple during that 1 week. Just to further add on. On the last day of my week stay i just decided to see the 2nd girl cos i was curious and she was promising me she would take care of me etc etc. So i decide to leave the 1st gal for a while and check the 2nd gal out. Went to her condo and met she and her frens. 2 of her frens were in some relationship with ang moh guys and 1 was going to get married with a guy from france. They told me they were like high class and didn't club in places like hollywood etc. Yeah her condo was pretty upscale and nice. A condo in srindra area.

Anyway her fren suggested to me that we go clubbing and i foolishly agreed and i got really tempted when gal 2 said i could sleep in her room that night and she would drive me to airport the next day. We were kissing and all since she treated me to a few drinks of barcardi. I decided that i needed to stay with her and temporarily forgot about girl 1 and did not answer her phone when she called me.

Before i could sleep with gal 2 i had to go out with them to a number of clubs in the sukhumvit area. Here was the part where i should have declined and just gone back cos i should have known i was going to get my carrot chopped. True enough when we go into club 1 her fren told me to buy one bottle of drinks for them. This is much much more expensive than the bottles they sold in scratch dog or RCA. 1 bottle of grey goose cost around 4k baht and upwards while in rca a johnny walker black label 1 litre would be like 2.8k baht with maybe 500-800 for the mixers. Since that was my last day over there i was really low on money so i declined and just took the complimentary drinks for the cover charge. After hanging out in that club for like maybe 40 mins to 1 hr they decided to club hop again. So we got into her car with 1 extra female fren so it's 4 females and 1 guy and go to this 2nd club in the sukhumvit area i forgot the name but i was given a name card by the manager. Ladies could enter foc but guys needed to pay cover charge. Inside the club her fucking fren asked me to buy them drinks aka open a bottle. I declined cos i really was low on money and i think i might have gotten a bit argumentative. Without hesitation she went to get the manager and she told me she was going to throw me out. Mins later the manager arrives with 2 guys to escort me out the club. Gal no 2 doesn't even say anything she just keeps quiet and i get kicked out.

so once i'm outside i desperately call gal 1 a number of times. Nobody answers. With nothing left to do i take a cab back to my hotel but i cannot sleep cos i need to contact gal 1. I call throughout the morning but nobody picks up. It was raining heavily. I then call again noon time and same thing nobody picks up. My flight was in the late noon so with a heavy heart i get the hotel door man to get me a cab and i go to the airport alone. Prior to that i took a bike taxis a few times to her apartment. I could not locate her car but managed to sneak into her apartment and was desperately knocking on her door. Nobody opened the door. Called her room mate and she told me she could not get thru to her on the phone too nobody was answering.

Back at the airport i was thinking was it cos she was angry with me that she decided not to answer my phone calls? Did something happen to her? I could not locate her car parked at the apartment carpark. I then took a flight back to sg and reached around 8pm then took a cab back home. Called her again at night but nobody answered.

I think it was only around 2am or something when i could reach her. On my whatsapp she msged me i call you you don't care about me. OK la around 5pm when i was still flying. Spoke to her asked her if she was angry she replied no. She was cool and all with me just that she fell asleep and her phone was in silent mode. Her roommate was sleeping with some other fren probably in some other apartment and that she parked her car deep inside. Of course i could not understand what she meant by that cos her apartment has 1 small carpark and it's very easy to see what cars are parked there.

All that occured last week and it's going to be 1 week from the day i came back from thailand. Over the next few days we had a few chats on whatsapp and on the phone but they were pretty brief. I feel pretty lonely and start to miss that week i spent with her.

I'm not exactly an angel since if i was not kicked out of the club by gal2's fren i would probably have gone back with her and stayed with her and let her drive me back instead, ditching gal 1 whom stayed with me for almost the entire week cept for that 1 night and the following day.

I know boss sam says we need to use our higher intellect to think rather than follow our base instincts and i can see it pretty clear. This gal regularly meets guys from sg and some of them have sex with her and she's like a fling but i just fucking miss her. I just do.

On our last phone chat i stupidly asked her if she kid teung me or not of course she replied yes. These words don't have any meaning. It's not even 1 week since i flew back and i just have the feeling she's well forgotten about me while i still miss her.

Yeah that's my story. Pretty logical and sensible on how i think but i still miss her. Seems like i cannot control my emotions.

[Greatking]

Originally Posted by Marcel

This doesn't really count as a heartbreak story becos the girl in question isn't my gf and we have only physically been together for a week. We didn't really fight over anything and we still keep in contact. It's more of a pre emptive move on my part and if i am correct she probably doesn't feel about me the way i do about her. I miss her.

I first got to know her thru facebook. She's a thai girl and i added her without actually knowing her beforehand. That was like around 2010. I just occassionally read up on her facebook stories and know she went to singapore but not to work as an FL but some east coast pub and has many singapore frens. Fast forward to 2011 and i finally plucked up courage to chat to her on FB and ask for her contact number. She agreed and when i visited bkk i called her up hoping she would meet me and surprisingly she agreed so we spent one night at a club called shock39 but nothing more because i had to fly back the very next day.

Anyway we didn't really keep in contact much except the occassional phone call until june of this yr whereby i decided to fly to bkk again and stay there for 1 week holiday. At the same time i was in contact with another thai girl who used to be an FL but quit a long time and we met up on FB and she was kind of attracted to me. Now my sole purpose of going to bkk was to meet the first girl that i mentioned and not to meet the 2nd gal that used to work as an FL but if somehow there was a problem with the 1st gal the 2nd gal could be insurance.

Ok to cut things short this girl actually agreed to fetch me from the airport and we spent a wonderful time together. I found out that she has 2 roomates and they live in a rather run down apartment in ratchada area. Both her roommates used to work in some sg thai disco and both have sg bfs.

Anyway i spent a wonderful 1 week together with her and had sex a couple of times and so on and she was also pretty honest with me. When she brought me to a temple to pray and i asked her what she was praying for she told me she was praying for more guys and to be honest on her FB page i see her with a couple of different guys that she's clubbing with.

Yeah i can say we were like a couple during that 1 week. Just to further add on. On the last day of my week stay i just decided to see the 2nd girl cos i was curious and she was promising me she would take care of me etc etc. So i decide to leave the 1st gal for a while and check the 2nd gal out. Went to her condo and met she and her frens. 2 of her frens were in some relationship with ang moh guys and 1 was going to get married with a guy from france. They told me they were like high class and didn't club in places like hollywood etc. Yeah her condo was pretty upscale and nice. A condo in srindra area.

Anyway her fren suggested to me that we go clubbing and i foolishly agreed and i got really tempted when gal 2 said i could sleep in her room that night and she would drive me to airport the next day. We were kissing and all since she treated me to a few drinks of barcardi. I decided that i needed to stay with her and temporarily forgot about girl 1 and did not answer her phone when she called me.

Before i could sleep with gal 2 i had to go out with them to a number of clubs in the sukhumvit area. Here was the part where i should have declined and just gone back cos i should have known i was going to get my carrot chopped. True enough when we go into club 1 her fren told me to buy one bottle of drinks for them. This is much much more expensive than the bottles they sold in scratch dog or RCA. 1 bottle of grey goose cost around 4k baht and upwards while in rca a johnny walker black label 1 litre would be like 2.8k baht with maybe 500-800 for the mixers. Since that was my last day over there i was really low on money so i declined and just took the complimentary drinks for the cover charge. After hanging out in that club for like maybe 40 mins to 1 hr they decided to club hop again. So we got into her car with 1 extra female fren so it's 4 females and 1 guy and go to this 2nd club in the sukhumvit area i forgot the name but i was given a name card by the manager. Ladies could enter foc but guys needed to pay cover charge. Inside the club her fucking fren asked me to buy them drinks aka open a bottle. I declined cos i really was low on money and i think i might have gotten a bit argumentative. Without hesitation she went to get the manager and she told me she was going to throw me out. Mins later the manager arrives with 2 guys to escort me out the club. Gal no 2 doesn't even say anything she just keeps quiet and i get kicked out.

so once i'm outside i desperately call gal 1 a number of times. Nobody answers. With nothing left to do i take a cab back to my hotel but i cannot sleep cos i need to contact gal 1. I call throughout the morning but nobody picks up. It was raining heavily. I then call again noon time and same thing nobody picks up. My flight was in the late noon so with a heavy heart i get the hotel door man to get me a cab and i go to the airport alone. Prior to that i took a bike taxis a few times to her apartment. I could not locate her car but managed to sneak into her apartment and was desperately knocking on her door. Nobody opened the door. Called her room mate and she told me she could not get thru to her on the phone too nobody was answering.

Back at the airport i was thinking was it cos she was angry with me that she decided not to answer my phone calls? Did something happen to her? I could not locate her car parked at the apartment carpark. I then took a flight back to sg and reached around 8pm then took a cab back home. Called her again at night but nobody answered.

I think it was only around 2am or something when i could reach her. On my whatsapp she msged me i call you you don't care about me. OK la around 5pm when i was still flying. Spoke to her asked her if she was angry she replied no. She was cool and all with me just that she fell asleep and her phone was in silent mode. Her roommate was sleeping with some other fren probably in some other apartment and that she parked her car deep inside. Of course i could not understand what she meant by that cos her apartment has 1 small carpark and it's very easy to see what cars are parked there.

All that occured last week and it's going to be 1 week from the day i came back from thailand. Over the next few days we had a few chats on whatsapp and on the phone but they were pretty brief. I feel pretty lonely and start to miss that week i spent with her.

I'm not exactly an angel since if i was not kicked out of the club by gal2's fren i would probably have gone back with her and stayed with her and let her drive me back instead, ditching gal 1 whom stayed with me for almost the entire week cept for that 1 night and the following day.

I know boss sam says we need to use our higher intellect to think rather than follow our base instincts and i can see it pretty clear. This gal regularly meets guys from sg and some of them have sex with her and she's like a fling but i just fucking miss her. I just do.

On our last phone chat i stupidly asked her if she kid teung me or not of course she replied yes. These words don't have any meaning. It's not even 1 week since i flew back and i just have the feeling she's well forgotten about me while i still miss her.

Yeah that's my story. Pretty logical and sensible on how i think but i still miss her. Seems like i cannot control my emotions.

Wah!!! WALL OF TEXTS! It's killing me!!!!!

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by Greatking

Wah!!! WALL OF TEXTS! It's killing me!!!!!

Yeah and you copied the whole damned lot in your response you twit. You have been zapped accordingly.

[Marcel]

feel quite pai seh that i wrote that essay. I was just too long winded.

[Greatking]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Yeah and you copied the whole damned lot in your response you twit. You have been zapped accordingly.

lol.. hahah ok... i also find it lame after posting that.

[Marcel]

Anyone have any advice for me?

I met this thai girl from facebook and she's not working as an FL although she could stay and have sex with me in the hotel.

Man i do miss her. Never broke up or quarrel just that it seems she's not beem on what's app for a few days.

[Apocalypse]

Originally Posted by Marcel

Anyone have any advice for me?

I met this thai girl from facebook and she's not working as an FL although she could stay and have sex with me in the hotel.

Man i do miss her. Never broke up or quarrel just that it seems she's not beem on what's app for a few days.

Ok to cut things short this girl actually agreed to fetch me from the airport and we spent a wonderful time together. I found out that she has 2 roomates and they live in a rather run down apartment in ratchada area. Both her roommates used to work in some sg thai disco and both have sg bfs.

They are all fls, from the salesgirl, to the waitress to the girl that work in the thai discos. I wouldn't even be surprise is girl A knows girl B. Just tell girl A you want to be her sg bf and you will send her $500 every month you should be fine. at least she will be around for you next weekend when you go over and fine her.

Don't mean to suan you or anything, I could be wrong of course. The missing her part gets better after a while.

[sane1]

Originally Posted by Marcel

Anyone have any advice for me?

I'm going to be v frank with you n hope u will reflect on yourself. Because of gal 2, u never answer the call of gal 1 who spent 1 week to play host to u.

N for gal 2 who hosted u in her condo n drove u to club with her friends. U couldn't even open a bottle for them, if u r low in cash, u can also swipe card.
If u really really can't afford, u can always let gal 2 know your difficulties instead of being argumentative with her friends. U r making her embarrassed!

When things turn sour with gal 2, u r returning back to gal 1. What u treat her as? Spare tyre? N now u r telling the ppl that u miss her.

Ur image is totally tarnished, sorry to say that n seriously, gals regardless of nationality will really look down on guys like that.

Move on, do a reflection n dun repeat all these embarrassing acts again.

[Marcel]

Originally Posted by sane1

I'm going to be v frank with you n hope u will reflect on yourself. Because of gal 2, u never answer the call of gal 1 who spent 1 week to play host to u.

N for gal 2 who hosted u in her condo n drove u to club with her friends. U couldn't even open a bottle for them, if u r low in cash, u can also swipe card.
If u really really can't afford, u can always let gal 2 know your difficulties instead of being argumentative with her friends. U r making her embarrassed!

When things turn sour with gal 2, u r returning back to gal 1. What u treat her as? Spare tyre? N now u r telling the ppl that u miss her.

Ur image is totally tarnished, sorry to say that n seriously, gals regardless of nationality will really look down on guys like that.

Move on, do a reflection n dun repeat all these embarrassing acts again.

Bro now thinking back it was kind of embarrassing and i wasn't a nice guy doing that but after doing some retrospection and some thought i really regret it. I know i shouldn't have done it and i just felt i should not even have agreed to meet gal 2 in the first place.

Thankfully i didn't tell gal 1 that i went to meet gal 2. I told her that i went to meet a male friend of mine and didn't hear my phone. When i came back to sg i got a few msgs from her you ignored me, you don't care me in which i quickly rectified it with her talking to her. I got a like from her on something on my facebook but that was last tuesday. I tried calling her on wednesday but nobody answered and she had not been on whatsapp since thursday.

Strangely even though we aren't a couple and there was no official break up or argument to show that things have soured between us i feel like someone that has just broken up with his gf. Perhaps me being a piseces does not help i read that fish guys tend to over think situations.

[Apocalypse]

Originally Posted by sane1

N for gal 2 who hosted u in her condo n drove u to club with her friends. U couldn't even open a bottle for them, if u r low in cash, u can also swipe card.
If u really really can't afford, u can always let gal 2 know your difficulties instead of being argumentative with her friends. U r making her embarrassed!

wrong. if you can't afford, or you don't want to pay $ for her, dun tell her you can't pay, just leave and say you are meeting another girl in another joint. She will ask you not to leave, and you can just buy them some beer, if they really want you to stay.

[jj_jj]

I'm confused about the "pre emptive move" element of your story.

All I see is you kena KC and you either don't know this or are in denial.
Most bros after LOS trip will feel a bit of "longing" for the "special feeling" they had from the 1 tirak or many.

May be, like me, just after entering departure hall, the heart starts missing a beat, haha.

[Marcel]

To bro jj the pre emptive move from me is i am treating it like i have broken up with her. I msged her earlier on whatsapp just now and she dis reply to me with 1 or 2 worded replies. Even though that doesnt mean anything it is like i sense she is not interested in me anymore or maybe i am paranoid.

[sane1]

Originally Posted by Marcel

Even though that doesnt mean anything it is like i sense she is not interested in me anymore or maybe i am paranoid.

U r right, she's not interested in u anymore.

Bro Apo is right, women r complex especially a attractive one when she has so many choices and u r only 1 of them.

She set her expectations in her heart and if u fail to meet 1 of them. She's not willing to tango n entertain u anymore.

In your case, at the very least, be a gentleman to return her call instead to keep her waiting. She's a street smart gal and probably know what's going on.

U have already been strike off from her list. Move on.

[Geiko]

TS a fling isn't a fling if its not short lived!

[Marcel]

Originally Posted by sane1

U r right, she's not interested in u anymore.

Bro Apo is right, women r complex especially a attractive one when she has so many choices and u r only 1 of them.

She set her expectations in her heart and if u fail to meet 1 of them. She's not willing to tango n entertain u anymore.

In your case, at the very least, be a gentleman to return her call instead to keep her waiting. She's a street smart gal and probably know what's going on.

U have already been strike off from her list. Move on.

Seriously it's just well kind of weird like we could have a good ending and then somewhere along the way she just lost interest in me or she found someone better.


I have met a few thai fls in thailand before for holidays. This girl that i'm talking about here doesn't count as one of them since i never met her as an fl and i don't think she does fl.

Anyway back to the fl thing was that well for 1 or 2 of them i could be so chummy with them but somehow a few weeks later or days etc i could just break off with them like somehow i piss them off.

There's this other girl i knew and i recontacted her again in 2010. Anyway in 2010 she let me stay in her apartment and all was cool and fine. Come next year 2011 well somehow she got kind of pissed off with me or whatever cos we have real communication problems or something like that. Anyway mid way of my vacation she actually took back the apartment key she gave to me and chased me out of her condo. Thank god i knew another thai gal to take me in.

That's why this yr i booked a hotel but then again it's not as if i could stay in that gal's apartment since it's so rundown and small and shared by 3 ppl in 1 room.

Perhaps i'm just barking up the wrong tree but well i still it's odd that somehow my frenships with them don't seem to last and yes it's not actually a frenship in the conventional sense since they are fls but well i actually know a few fls who actually got married to their singapore customers. A few of them.