Unable to maintanin erection for penetration

[skyver86]

Hi guys, i think i am in a serious need of help at the moment.

my wife and I are in the midst of family planning when i realized that i could not hold my erection long enough for penetration. I mean i can get erected when my wife helped me to bj or hj. but once i get up from the bed only, it starts to soften. I dont have this problem when masturbating. have tried to go for jg regularly, exercising and taking half of the blue pill, but it still don't really help. i am not sure if it is due to the length of the foreplay with my wife or the problem lies with me. This problem has been bothering me ever since and i felt very depressed about it. so much so that i dont ask for sex from my wife any more and would prefer to masturbate on my own instead. Just wonder if someone could help me on this please? Thanks in advance.

[ModelsInc]

if take blue pill still cannot stand...u better go see doc to find out what's the problem.

In the mean time, we can help your wife.

[sgjoey]

Originally Posted by skyver86

Hi guys, i think i am in a serious need of help at the moment.

my wife and I are in the midst of family planning when i realized that i could not hold my erection long enough for penetration. I mean i can get erected when my wife helped me to bj or hj. but once i get up from the bed only, it starts to soften. I dont have this problem when masturbating. have tried to go for jg regularly, exercising and taking half of the blue pill, but it still don't really help. i am not sure if it is due to the length of the foreplay with my wife or the problem lies with me. This problem has been bothering me ever since and i felt very depressed about it. so much so that i dont ask for sex from my wife any more and would prefer to masturbate on my own instead. Just wonder if someone could help me on this please? Thanks in advance.

Have you tried taking a whole pill instead of half? (I am actually curious why you would only take half a pill.) Your symptoms sound like typical erectile dysfunction, but of cos, I am not a doctor.

And in case cost is a consideration, use generics. They are far cheaper, and work just as well. If you need more details, just PM me.

[BushTracker]

Originally Posted by skyver86

Hi guys, i think i am in a serious need of help at the moment.

my wife and I are in the midst of family planning when i realized that i could not hold my erection long enough for penetration. I mean i can get erected when my wife helped me to bj or hj. but once i get up from the bed only, it starts to soften. I dont have this problem when masturbating. have tried to go for jg regularly, exercising and taking half of the blue pill, but it still don't really help. i am not sure if it is due to the length of the foreplay with my wife or the problem lies with me. This problem has been bothering me ever since and i felt very depressed about it. so much so that i dont ask for sex from my wife any more and would prefer to masturbate on my own instead. Just wonder if someone could help me on this please? Thanks in advance.

Do you have the same problem with other than your wife? Assuming you do.

Too stressed lately? How long have you been on the blue pill? Maybe it is time to up the dose?

How often do you wank by watching porn?

All these could be contributors.

[Kyrosh]

I tia gong that there is a mental, as well as a physiological component to sustaining an erection. I think abstaining from porn and masturbation will help greatly, but it takes time for your brain to reset from porn and masturbation to actual penetration with your wife.

but most importantly go see a doctor la.. not shy to buy blue pills, but shy to see doc meh? see a family planning doc lor. I shui bian google also got so many come up le.

All the best with helping sg with our falling birth rate bro.

[skyver86]

Originally Posted by BushTracker

Do you have the same problem with other than your wife? Assuming you do.

Too stressed lately? How long have you been on the blue pill? Maybe it is time to up the dose?

How often do you wank by watching porn?

All these could be contributors.

LoL. I don't have another wife bro. One is enough to give me headaches.

Am considering to up the dosage and probably lengthen the foreplay a bit. I wanked around once a week. Sometimes once in two weeks. Depending on my feel.

I understand it might be a factor and had tried to stop watching for 4 months, it didn't really work for me. Am changing my job soon, hope situation will improve.

[skyver86]

Originally Posted by Kyrosh

I tia gong that there is a mental, as well as a physiological component to sustaining an erection. I think abstaining from porn and masturbation will help greatly, but it takes time for your brain to reset from porn and masturbation to actual penetration with your wife.

but most importantly go see a doctor la.. not shy to buy blue pills, but shy to see doc meh? see a family planning doc lor. I shui bian google also got so many come up le.

All the best with helping sg with our falling birth rate bro.

I am considering seeking professional help bro. I had tried to stay away from porn for 4 months. It didn't really work. I find that I'm actually using masturbation to gain confidence in myself to be able to have a go with my wife. Haiz.

[airman]

Originally Posted by skyver86

I am considering seeking professional help bro. I had tried to stay away from porn for 4 months. It didn't really work. I find that I'm actually using masturbation to gain confidence in myself to be able to have a go with my wife. Haiz.

Pm me if you need contact details of my urologist.

[Frankiegoes]

Hi...I think you've to play some erotic game before penetration...do the first shot playing with her, than a little break eating something...than the blue pill...and finally you can fuck (I suppose) ;-)

[iampig]

Originally Posted by skyver86

I am considering seeking professional help bro. I had tried to stay away from porn for 4 months. It didn't really work. I find that I'm actually using masturbation to gain confidence in myself to be able to have a go with my wife. Haiz.

When you are masturbating, what are you masturbating to? Are you masturbating to any fetish?

I am asking this is because if you masturbate to a fetish, you are training your brain to only get arousal from that fetish and so during vanilla sex without the fetish, you will not be able to get enough arousal to maintain your erection.

If this is the case, then you need to train your brain to get use to vanilla sex again. For example, if you have the urge to masturbate, then masturbate using a photo of your wife.

I found this reddit post useful : https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comment...made_sex_with/

[skyver86]

Originally Posted by iampig

When you are masturbating, what are you masturbating to? Are you masturbating to any fetish?

I am asking this is because if you masturbate to a fetish, you are training your brain to only get arousal from that fetish and so during vanilla sex without the fetish, you will not be able to get enough arousal to maintain your erection.

If this is the case, then you need to train your brain to get use to vanilla sex again. For example, if you have the urge to masturbate, then masturbate using a photo of your wife.

I found this reddit post useful : https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comment...made_sex_with/

hmm.. i masturbate as i watched porn. I suppose that contribute as well ? any other suggestions on how i can train my brain to get use to vanilla sex again bro ? i dont think it affects the effects of blue pills right? thanks in advance.

[skyver86]

Originally Posted by Frankiegoes

Hi...I think you've to play some erotic game before penetration...do the first shot playing with her, than a little break eating something...than the blue pill...and finally you can fuck (I suppose) ;-)

bro, you mean like strip poker that kind ? sounds like a plan bro!

[iampig]

Originally Posted by skyver86

hmm.. i masturbate as i watched porn. I suppose that contribute as well ? any other suggestions on how i can train my brain to get use to vanilla sex again bro ? i dont think it affects the effects of blue pills right? thanks in advance.

I found the post in the reddit quite useful : https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comment...made_sex_with/

To quote from it :

So here's what I did to fix this problem:
1.
I stopped masturbating with my hand. It just isn't the right sensation, and in my opinion it's just a totally lazy way to get off. When I used to masturbate, I would just sit in my computer chair and jerk my hand up and down at a pace that I could NEVER match with actual bodily thrusts during sex. Sex is far more physically engaging. You have to hold yourself up. You have to thrust your hips. I wanted to simulate actual sex without having to worry about anxiety issues that may come with a girl in the room, so what I did was buy a Fleshlight. I made sure to NEVER hold the Fleshlight in my hand and move it over my penis like I used to do with my hand while masturbating. Instead, I stuck it between my boxspring and mattress so that it remained stationary, and fucked it like I would have to fuck a girl. I started using the Fleshlight without a condom, but as my erection strength improved I began to use condoms every time.

2.
I stopped watching porn entirely. Simply put, if you're used to threesomes and double anal with porn stars, plain old missionary sex with a "normal" girl probably isn't going to be all that stimulating. The only visual stimulation that I allowed myself during my sessions with the Fleshlight were PICTURES OF GIRLS THAT I HAD ALREADY HOOKED UP WITH or GIRLS THAT I HAD A LEGITIMATE CHANCE OF HOOKING UP WITH. I wanted to make an effort to stop going to a mental fantasy land every time I got off, because I wouldn't be able to go there during real sex. Realistic mental and visual stimulation only.

3.
I started doing Kegel exercises. They work and I swear by them. The problem that a lot of people have with Kegels is finding a routine and sticking with it. What I did was buy a mobile app called Prostate Aerobics ($2.99). I set two alarms per day and did them 6 days per week (Sunday off). I started at level 1 and let it automatically bump me up to level 9 over the course of ~6 weeks. After I had done level 9 twice a day for a week or so, I started setting 3 alarms per day (still with one off day per week). It starts out easy but actually gets pretty difficult. One session of level 9 is over 10 minutes long. My erections got stronger and I was able to maintain them much easier. Morning wood was stronger than ever. Random boners during the day came back. I seriously cannot recommend Kegels enough.

[sgjoey]

Exercise, including kegels, certainly helps. You should probably attack the problem using multiple strategies. Apart from exurcise, masturbate less, or save it totally for your wife. Take supplements that are proven to promote virility, such as Tongkat Ali. At the same time take your ED meds - full dose, not half. Good luck. (PM me for more info on PD meds.)

[Xgenre]

What's your height and weight? Better go see a doctor to do a proper check up. Is your wife pretty? Sometimes we marry nice ladies whom we are not sexually attractive to. Don't masterbate so often because your wife will never be as tight as your five fingers.

Come, let me help you distress with a suitable song. Just have a laugh and slowly solve the problem.