The Departure of my ex...

[mcguyver]

Hey Bro..hang in there.I can see that the bros here really cares a lot for you. My piece of advice...life is very unpredictable, you don't know what will happen next. I understand the loss of your love ones came at a sudden, but life must go on and we cannot live our life with the past. To overcome what you are going thru is easy to say then done. But don't drown your sorrow and despair..go out with your buddies and spend time together. The wound needs time to heal and people around you, are the best medication as they will provide listening ears and give you morale support. Bro, is a new year..give yourself a new start..I am sure you will recover well in no time.

In fact, from your incident..I am glad to know that the bros here are surprisingly caring and everyone are just like big bro to one another. I guess this is what life is all about and I very surprise to find it in this forum. To all bros CHEERS! to a better new year, may 2010 a better year for every bro!

[Tallchap]

For years i have been reading sb forum, looking reading at jokes, FR, stories, news but this is the 1st time i drop tears while reading ur post. looking at others encouraging you i realised that singaporean is full of kindness indeed. Anyway i know how u feel deep inside = PURE SAD.. for myself, when my mother move on, i reach home too late to catch her last breath. Always feel regret when i think of this but i guess just like what everyone say, there is a time to move on. The sun will always rise from the east and the time keep ticking so =) at the very least, We r still alive and we should do our small part in making all around us a better place. So have a smile, dun worry u r not alone in this situation. I have seen worse in others be contend with what u have on hand and continue ur life. God bless.

Cheers

[Rangers]

Thanks all brothers for your encourgament... my bros who know me for years
also did tried their ways to help me though it is nt very effective ways.. i
remember 8 months after my gf moved on.. they actually jio me to Ktv
lounge at Peace centre and i oblgied them... That nite.. they arranged a
Malaysian girl to sit with me while they fool around with their girls... Cant
really remember her name...i think is Cheryl if i dun remember wrongly..
Anyway that nite i am really tipsy after down quite a couple of glasses of
Martell and beer.. but physically i still honour her as a lady.. Towards the
end of the drinking sessions.. she pulled me away from the rest.. and bring
me to a quiet corner...

Me: y did u bring me here?..
she: if i dun bring u here... later u will be surrounded by girls who will ask u
for tips...
Me: Oh thanks... i then take out a 50 dollars bill and pay her for the tips..
She: i dun want... anyway u did not touch me..
Me: pls keep it.. as u have spent yr time sitting with me and nt forgetting
u have to earn a living here...

In the end, she keep the tips and bring me back to my brothers...

[Rangers]

Once back to my brothers.. one of them suggested bringing the girls to 81 for bonking...

Gunner: guys these girls are k.. i suggest we bring them to the nearest 81 for
banging... steady or nt?..
Scouts: On lah.. mai tu liao... what abt rangers?.. cheryl u accompany my
bro.. he is dead drunk le...
Me: i dun want... my head is spinning .... i want to rest on bed...

what happened next.. i dun really remember le... anyway they are driving to the nearby 81 at lavender and i actually end up in the room with cheryl..

we are looking in each other eyes and we nearly frenched at that moment...

Gf: dear.. u will be outstationed to shanghai tomorrow.. but promise me u
will nt go to ktv clubs at nite and be unfaithful to me.
Me: no lah i will nt go there..
Gf: sure or nt.. u guys once outstationed will do things funny especially
when those ktv girls are so sexy and hot...
Me: i will nt do anything funny.. once i am done with the work for the day..
i will stay in the hotel room and msn u k...
Gf: promise?..
Me: yup and i will even use my spare time to shop for yr hello kitty..

At that sharp moment... my mind is filled with the memories of my gf and i stopped in time... and instantly i am more sober...

Cheryl: r u k?..
Me: yup.. we cant do that... stove $200 to her.. thanks for accompanying
me tonite.. u r a nice girl... i cant do that...
Cheryl am i nt attractive enough?..
Me: that is nt the issue...
Cheryl: then dun give me the money.. we did nt even do anything at all..
Me: just keep it... u have spent enough time with me le...

Note: Names havebeen changed to protect my friends...

[see see only]

Bro rangers ....

Me commented by my friends as cold blooded .... I guess I am


But me sincerely very touched for your feeling towards your ... But mate take a good rest .............. settle down with your feeling (they always say - our heart is the most powerful thing in this world, now i undertsand)

BUT Life has to go on Bro, i guess you know what i mean - Jia You man


Dedicate your future sucess in her name .... in your heart or whatever - she will be more glad ...

[turty008]

Very touching story that brought tears to me..
sometimes it's only when shit happens in life then we realize who are really those that actually cares for us.
though that moment may be short lived, but the intense emotion felt would be remembered throughout our lives.

take your time to get over it, but don't miss out someone out that who now really cares for you.



best regards.

[Rangers]

but the intense emotion felt would be remembered throughout our lives.

What a precise statement to describe my feelings for her.. anyway back to the story....

Me: it is late now.. do u want to go hm for a rest?..
Cheryl: no lah.. can i stay here instead as i am very tired now..
Me: k then... i then rest on the dressing chair...
Cheryl: come and sleep beside me.. i wun eat u hehehe..
Me: no lah.. i prefer to rest here...
Cheryl: Erm.. r u married?.. she point to my wedding band..
Me: Yes and no.. shortly after i put on the wedding band on her ringer.. she
passed away..
Cheryl: what... and we paused for a long while..

Me: but i regard her as my wife...
Cheryl: your first time to ktv... her chatty mood is slowly back again..
Me: nope... at times have to entertain clients with my boss.. but i would
choose to reject girls for company...
Cheryl: Nt many men is willing to wear wedding rings... guess that she must
be the only love in yr life...

That nite we have a gd chat.. one of the longest chat in the past 1 year plus ba... perhaps the influence of liqour have help me to opened up myself...

Cheryl: dun u feel lonely?..
Me: Yup.. at times.. but i would numb myself with work.. lan gaming with
brothers.. no gf but many brothers who would stick to me for years.. if
not i would look at her photo and that will give me the strength to go
on....
Cheryl: hmm..
Me: sleep now... u must be tired le..

Slowly she dozed off... and i fall aleep soon on the dressing chair.. resting my head on the dressing table..

[Rangers]

After that nite.. i confessed to my brothers that nothing have been done..

Gunners: what u spent $200 just to chat with her... whalan u damn winner
liao..
Me: but at least i dun feel guilty or anything..
Gunners: bring u to niteclub to enjoy bonking... that will perhaps help u to
not to think too much about her...
Me: bro.. i appreciate yr kind intention.. but it wont help...
Gunners: r u always so rational when it comes to relationships..
Me: bro if i am rational.. perhaps i would have get over her by now and
happily married le.. nope me nt rational but irrational...
Gunners: u need to move on with life... plenty of girls outside...

[Vodka_Blu]

Bro Rangers, I've gotta admit tt you're a guy of values and sentiments, else you wouldn't have went so far till now... Deep down, Salute... Do move on, memories will always be memories in a certain part of our hearts... Wish ya luck...

[skyline72]

Bro Ranger, I respect u.

[Rangers]

Back to the story, the next few days have nt been easy for me.. Unwilling to
have any develpments with her.. my gf sister, i choose to avoid her calls
and sms.. Finally i decided to have a gd tok with her to end this issue. After
organising my thoughts well of what to tell her.. i text her..

MeI: I dun expect things to develop to this stage.. but i only treat you as
my sister...

After texting her.. i resume with my work and wait for her reply..

Gf sister: Kor.. do u think we can meet up at the pub again as i need to tok
to u?..

Me: Nope at the pub.. it is better to remain sober if we need to tok..( After
the lesson with Cheryl.. i have learnt my lesson nt to drink as one thing
leads to another.)

Gf sister: K then.. meet you at Jack place at causeway pt.
Me: C u then.

[Rangers]

After deciding on the appt.. i am rather anxious... cos i really dun know how
to reject her without hurting her so much... While i am debating with myself
of what to do.. my mobile rang... Cheryl called me and ask me to meet her
for dinner.. i declinled as i told her that i have something on le.. We have
been going out for a few times for dinner together as friends.. nothing
develops between us. By this time, she has know me well nt to ask me
about too much of my past with my gf as it will only trigger the sad memories of her.... Finally the time for me to meet my gf sister has arrived..

All along.. i dun feel gd abt meeting her... as usual she was already there
waiting for me at causeway pt.. i received a shock when i c her.. she was
dressed up in the same way as my gf.. exactly the same dressing that she
put on..

[Rangers]

Me: Y r u wearing jie clothes?.. finally i found my tounge...
Gf sister: to give u a surprise mah... u once commented that jie look great
in this outfit.
Me: But u r nt her... Mei.. she is the only girl that i love in my entire life..
even if there is someone else in this world who look exactly like her..
i wun fall for her... even if she is my gf.. she wun be happy with me as
i am treating her as a subsiitue...

After this long statement we paused for a long while...

Gf sis: but kor i do have feelings for u... i am really touched when u took so
much time and effort to take care of jie without any grumbles..
Me: i am just doing what i ought to do. Nothing special abt it. listen to me:
mei u r young and pretty.. u deserve a better bf.... someone who will
really love you.

Gf sis: Up to now.. i knew that i am asking for the impossible...
Me: I dun want to treat anyone as a subsitiue.. especially u... Hope that u
will understand and honour my love for yr sis...

With this ending statment.. she was tearing... but i sat there.. nt daring to do anything to comfort her... the beef steak was left untouched on the table.. we have no mood to eat anything le...

Gf sis: i really envy sis..

We left the place after this statment... This time we were both quiet...

Me: i go this way... bye take care..

[kurosaki ichigo]

Please continue your story

[cckman]

Bro, take care and pls pls pls, get over it fast and live your life in the fullest. Give yourself a chance to start life fresh again.