Affairs wif MARRIED MAN

[AngelEye]

Being with a married man, nothing is certain. The feeling? is like waiting for your loved one to return from a far away place everytime. Can't share with anyone (not even ur closest friend) that there is someone in ur heart, but he's near yet so far. Not reachable at times and u hv to endure the feeling of missing that loved one, knowing he's out there, but u can't reach him.

U can't bring him to your friend's party, celebrations..and can only envy those who had their bf by their side.

When time permits, u get so excited of meeting him that u forgets the world.

U reject some eligible single men becos there is no way u can have 2 men in your heart.

Meeting places have to be away from crowds, (mutal understanding) must be prepared that planned meetings can be called off at last minute.

When u feel lonely, there is only a picture or a phone number or the old sms msgs to comfort you. (mutual understand, that there cannot be phone calls during certain hours)

[dec_gal]

Agreed with AngelEye, especially the sms ... I hv been keeping those old sms.. jus can't bear to delete away too... sigh ....

and always get hv to be mentally prepared that he may jus MIA ... therefore jus hv to treasure the moments togather... and if U needed him the most , he may not be ard beside you too....

Originally Posted by AngelEye

Being with a married man, nothing is certain. The feeling? is like waiting for your loved one to return from a far away place everytime. Can't share with anyone (not even ur closest friend) that there is someone in ur heart, but he's near yet so far. Not reachable at times and u hv to endure the feeling of missing that loved one, knowing he's out there, but u can't reach him.

U can't bring him to your friend's party, celebrations..and can only envy those who had their bf by their side.

When time permits, u get so excited of meeting him that u forgets the world.

U reject some eligible single men becos there is no way u can have 2 men in your heart.

Meeting places have to be away from crowds, (mutal understanding) must be prepared that planned meetings can be called off at last minute.

When u feel lonely, there is only a picture or a phone number or the old sms msgs to comfort you. (mutual understand, that there cannot be phone calls during certain hours)

[KingEros]

Originally Posted by AngelEye

Being with a married man, nothing is certain. The feeling? is like waiting for your loved one to return from a far away place everytime. Can't share with anyone (not even ur closest friend) that there is someone in ur heart, but he's near yet so far. Not reachable at times and u hv to endure the feeling of missing that loved one, knowing he's out there, but u can't reach him.

U can't bring him to your friend's party, celebrations..and can only envy those who had their bf by their side.

When time permits, u get so excited of meeting him that u forgets the world.

U reject some eligible single men becos there is no way u can have 2 men in your heart.

Meeting places have to be away from crowds, (mutal understanding) must be prepared that planned meetings can be called off at last minute.

When u feel lonely, there is only a picture or a phone number or the old sms msgs to comfort you. (mutual understand, that there cannot be phone calls during certain hours)

Originally Posted by dec_gal

Agreed with AngelEye, especially the sms ... I hv been keeping those old sms.. jus can't bear to delete away too... sigh ....

and always get hv to be mentally prepared that he may jus MIA ... therefore jus hv to treasure the moments togather... and if U needed him the most, he may not be ard beside you too....

Seems like BOTH of you are not lack of experiences with married men.

IMHO (& certainly not a direct response to what 2 of you have posted) ...
1) As a father of 2 ... I'd never see the logic why "attractive & eligible women" would succumb to even giving married men more than their fleeting time & flirting attention
2) As a married man myself ... I've always taken precautions to only make advances on "attractive & eligible women" who know not to expect much more than I can give

At the end of the day, I just wanna say affairs (whether it's for emotional satisfaction or sexual gratifications or both) are always meant to be good while they last. No model answers to follow ... & definitely no 100% right, no 100% wrong. Know what I mean?

BTW, it seems like the assumption so far is for only single women to have affairs with married men. Will the married women step forth & share their point of view too? If there isn't any (& there is interest), then perhaps I might consider being the story-teller here ...

[AngelEye]

KingEros, just share with us all what's ur experience.

[Shark69]

Originally Posted by AngelEye

KingEros, just share with us all what's ur experience.

heh.. yeah he sounds experienced enough..

[geckoSG]

I agree, there's no 100% right or 100% wrong.

As long as both parties are happy about it while it last is more important.
Do not regret your decisions...

My third & fourth flings were so emotionally involved together that we never
regretted it, just that they calls it quit as its beyond what they can handle.

These 2 love affairs of mine is really memorable and I really treasure them,
I still view the photos we took together regularly and felt the heart pinch
whenever I think of them.

They may look plain jane to everyone, but were angels in my eyes.

FBs just wanna meet, get sexually satisfied and goes their way, no
expectation. I guess I've passed that stage that I can't make love unless
there is feel.

Guess I am looking for the happiness of dating, concerns more than just
sex.

[KingEros]

Originally Posted by AngelEye

KingEros, just share with us all what's ur experience.

The following is my experience with a married woman ...

When: A few years back ...

Where: AdultFriendFinder ...

Who: A Chinese MILF in her late 30s ... happily married, in many peoples' eyes at least ... her husband is in senior management of a government-linked company, who provided her with a penthouse roof in Bukit Timah ... trained as a beautician who established a name for herself in then-TCS, she stopped working once she got married ... really living the tai-tai lifestyle.

How: Basically, she was attracted enough by my profile pic (same as my avatar here) to respond to my "self solicitation email", with a "nice prick, is it real?" ... I told her "for me to know, for you to find out"
That's how it all started ...
She will only meet in the afternoons (when her only son was in school) & only in hotels (becoz she doesn't wanna risk being sighted) ... totally neat & tidy for me too.

What: To be perfectly honest, sex was the only agenda for me ... initially at least.
That sentiment was soon affirmed via ...
1) being a beauty expert, she had snow-like complexion
2) well-maintained over the years, she had the cleanest-looking shaven pussy
3) rarely bonked over the years, she must also have the tightest pussy (for a woman her age)
4) with no intention to have any more children, she already had a diaphragm** in her for years ... which means it was always "good old raw sex"
Then, I found that she was a real gem, for the following reasons ...
1) she loves showing off her array of tasteful lingerie ... which never had an audience in the past
2) she loves doing manicure & pedicure for me ... when my prick needed a breather in between rounds
3) she loves brewing expensive herbal soups for me ... every single time we meet up

Why: Despite the good life she was given by the husband, she found it all too mundane ... so she decided to just come out & have some fun on her own. Can we blame her?
Despite her same pampering on her husband, this guy was totally unappreciative ... in fact, even told her not to bother manicuring/pedicuring him!! Or should we blame him instead??
Whichever your choice, I just know i's not my fault.

** According to her ... a month before she first met up with me, her gynae commented that her diaphragm was in pretty good shape & so, could stay on in her for another year or two ... apparently, the diaphragm gets inspected annually after the 3rd year & will be replaced with a new one by the 5th year or earlier, depending on its condition ... however, within 6 months of our carnal liaison, her gynae had the diaphragm replaced with a discreet comment: "your new partner is very wild, huh?"

[KingEros]

Originally Posted by geckoSG

FBs just wanna meet, get sexually satisfied and goes their way, no expectation. I guess I've passed that stage that I can't make love unless there is feel.

Yes, I fully agree with you ... that there is indeed such a thing as "I've passed that stage where I can't make love unless there is feel". Well, at least I dun perform as well anymore ... if the chemistry isn't there.

However, I dun quite agree with you on your definition of FBs ... only WLs walk away after the bonk without any emotions & you know that's not even always true!!
In any FB relationship, unlike with WLs, you will communicate ... & when this happens, emotional entanglements will inadvertently creep in.
For instance, I never shy away from telling my lovers "I love you", provided:
1) I am fully certain these 3 words won't freak them out
2) they fully understand I never say these 3 words to 1 exclusive party

Humans are humans ... they stray into affairs out of loneliness, including feeling worthless and/or unappreciated. If not, it's all about money ... which in my eyes, is nothing more than a transaction, just like with the WLs with lots of RTFs.
Also, in my eyes, affairs are no different from a BF-GF relationship ... except that it is conventionally frowned upon, because of a certain moral yardstick founded on what is deemed civilisation.

[geckoSG]

Originally Posted by KingEros

However, I dun quite agree with you on your definition of FBs ... only WLs walk away after the bonk without any emotions & you know that's not even always true!!
In any FB relationship, unlike with WLs, you will communicate ... & when this happens, emotional entanglements will inadvertently creep in.
For instance, I never shy away from telling my lovers "I love you", provided:
1) I am fully certain these 3 words won't freak them out
2) they fully understand I never say these 3 words to 1 exclusive party

Humans are humans ... they stray into affairs out of loneliness, including feeling worthless and/or unappreciated.

I agree that its slightly different, all my FB so far is meet, get into mood,
fxxxx, wash up, TCSS and goes off. Not much of a feel sort of thing...

That could also be the reason why the 3rd & 4th fling of mine are so
memorable. If I were to have a new RS, I hope the lady would be sort of
a nice friend in emotion, open for exploration and is able to accept our
kinda of RS for long term, I do not wish to have another too short term
sort of fling... Taxing for my emotion.

[KingEros]

Originally Posted by geckoSG

... the 3rd & 4th fling of mine are so memorable.

These 2 are not the 2 you've previously posted (as linked in your signature block), right?
Cannot bring yourself to rite about it without bringing more than a few tears to your eyes?

[KingEros]

Originally Posted by AngelEye

KingEros, just share with us all what's ur experience.

The following is my other experience with a married woman ... separated from her husband, waiting for her divorce to be finalised.

When: More than a few years back ...

Where: SingaporeCupid ...

Who: A Chinese lady in her early 30s ... she is a senior marketing executive of a MNC.

How: Basically, she was attracted by the way I write ... this may sound strange, but she got turned on by the way I dun use chat lingo in my emails & my sms.
Anyway, it took 2 weeks of MSN chats before she was comfy enough to meet up ... with me picking her up from her place in Sengkang, before swinging over to Punggol jetty for a stroll on whatever was left of the beach. Despite the lure of her sizeable half-cupped cleavage & perky thonged ass, I behaved myself totally so as not to scare her away ... end up getting rewarded with a peck on the lips, initiated by her when I dropped her off.

What: A few nights later, she started inviting me over to her abode (that's what she call her Sengkang flat) to watch "Desperate Housewives" with her ... which became a weekly routine for us.
Since that first invitation, I just stayed on after each screening to address her sexual desperation ... & even her terrier's, which will always insist on watching me bonk & hearing her moan all night long.
Sex with her was my only agenda then ... as she was insatiable, as long as I could show her new sexual tricks.
In exchange, I had to run the risk of dating her in the public ... as she was free to do so in her "separated" status & was less appreciative of my risky plight.

Why: Apparently, her marriage broke down because her husband could not face the fact that she was doing much better than him in their respective career, despite the fact that they graduated from the same faculty of the same university in the same year. Some would say this guy must be stupid ...
On the other hand, all this woman needed was a shoulder to lean on when she watches her TV ... essentially, just a man who dun get sick of flaunting her as his own in public. Others would this gal was just being silly ...
Whatever the truth, I just know I stood to gain lor.

[Oralcraz]

Originally Posted by dec_gal

Agreed with AngelEye, especially the sms ... I hv been keeping those old sms.. jus can't bear to delete away too... sigh ....

and always get hv to be mentally prepared that he may jus MIA ... therefore jus hv to treasure the moments togather... and if U needed him the most , he may not be ard beside you too....

Yes.....is difficult to erase once u put in yr true emotion into the relationship. I can understand that. Usually, I think women put in more emotional feelings then married men in affairs. That's probably why u feel this way and why AngelEye express in her post. I don't believe that between a man and a woman (not gigolo or WLs), they can just hv sex and then bye bye. Not even a ONS (unless u are drunk). I always believe that a woman will only allow a man to play sex with them if they hv feelings for him but may not be vice-visa. Of course there are some men who would put in their feelings too but I think very rare.

So, in short, still the same old advice. U must know where's yr stand, what u want and what is the consequences. Love is Blind and sometimes uncontrollable, so, nothing is correct or incorrect.

[dec_gal]

Originally Posted by Oralcraz

Yes.....is difficult to erase once u put in yr true emotion into the relationship. I can understand that. Usually, I think women put in more emotional feelings then married men in affairs. That's probably why u feel this way and why AngelEye express in her post. I don't believe that between a man and a woman (not gigolo or WLs), they can just hv sex and then bye bye. Not even a ONS (unless u are drunk). I always believe that a woman will only allow a man to play sex with them if they hv feelings for him but may not be vice-visa. Of course there are some men who would put in their feelings too but I think very rare.

So, in short, still the same old advice. U must know where's yr stand, what u want and what is the consequences. Love is Blind and sometimes uncontrollable, so, nothing is correct or incorrect.

"he" is jus the next guy that i knew after i left my ex... sigh...
that's y feeling is stronger? i also dun know... but i do treasure this relationship.. jus keep the finger cross that his OC will not find out lo
"what to do ?"

[dec_gal]

Originally Posted by geckoSG

I agree that its slightly different, all my FB so far is meet, get into mood,
fxxxx, wash up, TCSS and goes off. Not much of a feel sort of thing...

That could also be the reason why the 3rd & 4th fling of mine are so
memorable. If I were to have a new RS, I hope the lady would be sort of
a nice friend in emotion, open for exploration and is able to accept our
kinda of RS for long term, I do not wish to have another too short term
sort of fling... Taxing for my emotion.

hi, btw... how to u cover ur "meetup" ? i mean what excuse u will tell ur OC ?
and how often do u meetup with ur fling....

[Oralcraz]

Originally Posted by dec_gal

"he" is jus the next guy that i knew after i left my ex... sigh...
that's y feeling is stronger? i also dun know... but i do treasure this relationship.. jus keep the finger cross that his OC will not find out lo
"what to do ?"

Sorry to probe but why u fall for a married man? There are many bachelors out there. Dear dec gal, what do u expect out of this relationship? He divorce wife and marry u? Or u just carry on and let fate decide? Many years ago, I sort of having a relationship with a beautiful sexy colleague who is 12 yrs younger then me (no sex, just intimate bcos havin problem with my wife) . After six months, cannot tahan, gave up. Very tiring and taxing. Realise no positive ending. Anyway, feelings difficult to control but just wish you all the best.