Gers Are Still Gers

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by OceanEleven

They never seem to be never short of absurd logic. Need a car to ferry the baby? So what’s next? Buy a house because the dustbin that comes with it is nice? Makes one ponder hard what had all those years of education gone to.

maybe its the education that truly confuses things. those who havent undergone that much education seem to have better sense in balancing preferences for needs vs wants, and tend to make more rational decisions than some with higher education.

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by FDSeah

Gals is will ask for more...if u give her $10 she will ask for $100 next time..

My gf and i are getting marry soon..and she want to buy acar soon after we marry...i told her that it is abit tight for me if we buy acar after we marry cuse i have spent most of my money at the wedding..Then she say:"then how i go around if i got ababy??" Wait till u buy acar then we have baby!!

Fuck man...must buy car then have baby???what the hell!!!

She never talk MRT before? There are scores of couples who lug their babies around in the train. Its just a qn of whether ur gf wants to lug baby around.

If in a hurry, can take cab too. lol

[FDSeah]

I am not sure about u guys but for me: I am the one who pay for evrythings wedding,photo shoot,HDB,everything lor...and hae to gave her mom 10table some more wow liao....
Shit man...how about u guys?

[jng1103]

Originally Posted by FDSeah

Gals is will ask for more...if u give her $10 she will ask for $100 next time..

My gf and i are getting marry soon..and she want to buy acar soon after we marry...i told her that it is abit tight for me if we buy acar after we marry cuse i have spent most of my money at the wedding..Then she say:"then how i go around if i got ababy??" Wait till u buy acar then we have baby!!

Fuck man...must buy car then have baby???what the hell!!!

I had a similiar encounter with my future mother-in-law. She kept pestering my CO to buy a car coz it's cheap now. I almost smacked her face and asked her to pay for the monthly loans and petrol if she ever asks us to drive her for groceries. Till then, she kept quiet whenever she sees me. I dun give a f*ck care who she is, coz there's no free lunch in this world.

No need to give face. Nowadays, sillypore women are very commanding and crossing the lines. If you dont stop them, they will shit on your head. Period.

[jng1103]

Originally Posted by FDSeah

I am not sure about u guys but for me: I am the one who pay for evrythings wedding,photo shoot,HDB,everything lor...and hae to gave her mom 10table some more wow liao....
Shit man...how about u guys?

My ROM should be in the near future. I'd already warned my CO that we will spilt all the bills in 50-50. Well, the only item that I'll pay in full is the wedding ring which costs S$1k++. That's affordable and justifable. If her parents making hoo-hah for ang pao money, I'll just walk away and let her face the consequences.

Guys, our hard earned money shouldnt spend lavishly on the wedding, honeymoon, etc... Otherwise, we may end up like those ah peks at Chinatown, poor and old and waiting for their time to 'go'. Invest wisely...

[OceanEleven]

Originally Posted by FDSeah

I am not sure about u guys but for me: I am the one who pay for evrythings wedding,photo shoot,HDB,everything lor...and hae to gave her mom 10table some more wow liao....
Shit man...how about u guys?

I don’t understand why pay for everything? It is about two people being together, not one supporting the other. Loving her is one thing, spoiling her is another. Remember the famous quote “What is mine is mine, what is yours also mine.” By providing for all is not showing that you love her but rather digging your own grave and allowing her to be more dependent on you.

[Five Stone]

Originally Posted by FDSeah

I am not sure about u guys but for me: I am the one who pay for evrythings wedding,photo shoot,HDB,everything lor...and hae to gave her mom 10table some more wow liao....
Shit man...how about u guys?

Don’t know about your abilities but I can see this is pretty draining in terms of financial. Look at the sums? HDB down payment, renovations, to furnish it, wedding photos, ang baos, wedding dinner and I bet they will keep the 10 tables ang bao money as well. Well, you better start drawing lines, else end of day you might suffer more than you imagine.

[Five Stone]

Originally Posted by vesfreq

She never talk MRT before? There are scores of couples who lug their babies around in the train. Its just a qn of whether ur gf wants to lug baby around.
If in a hurry, can take cab too. lol

Done, that's it. They never seems to consider the fact that there are more people out there who are leading a more simpler life. A mother with one kid in hand and pushing another in trolley and catching a bus or taking the MRT. Then think when we can afford to drive them, they will start complaining we are late, or unable to fetch them around etc. So when they can start to be more appreciative towards what we had done??

[FDSeah]

As normal gave my gal acall when reach home from work"hello, i am home liao..." gal:"just now mom say u sometime look very gong and ur dressing look so old fashion" me:"what lah at home dress so nice for who to see..."gal:"yah but at least must be look good mah"me:"what ever lah"abit fair up liao...shit..

now i am thinking should i marry this gal??asking for so much still want to complain this complain that...
Feel like telling her we should delay the wedding to next year since they have so much complain about me...so she have some more time to think over.

[jng1103]

-- Masterpiece --

Originally Posted by OceanEleven

I don’t understand why pay for everything? It is about two people being together, not one supporting the other. Loving her is one thing, spoiling her is another. Remember the famous quote “What is mine is mine, what is yours also mine.” By providing for all is not showing that you love her but rather digging your own grave and allowing her to be more dependent on you.

[jng1103]

-- I cant agree more. Well said --

Originally Posted by Five Stone

Done, that's it. They never seems to consider the fact that there are more people out there who are leading a more simpler life. A mother with one kid in hand and pushing another in trolley and catching a bus or taking the MRT. Then think when we can afford to drive them, they will start complaining we are late, or unable to fetch them around etc. So when they can start to be more appreciative towards what we had done??

[jng1103]

Sometimes I really dont understand. sillypore women hate it when we labelled them as 'materialistic'. They arguments are "we do work hard and earn a living (well, how much is left???)", "we can live in a decent HDB", "we can take MRT/Bus", etc...

However, when it comes to dating, they "seldom" offer to pay, they got "jealous" coz their gal frens' hubby driving them around, they "dream" of overseas vacations and hoping their men will pay ALL, etc...

Why is that so? well, they claimed that their income is 'lower' than us. If you notice, they do spend lavishly during their ladies nite out. What does it tell us?

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by vesfreq

She never talk MRT before? There are scores of couples who lug their babies around in the train. Its just a qn of whether ur gf wants to lug baby around.

If in a hurry, can take cab too. lol

others in underdeveloped countries can even go on foot while running errands, administer arduous chores (that might even put us men to shame)... and not as if mishap/ miscarriage is something they disregard.

even in our parents/grand parents days, there werent efficient commuting services available. despite the inconveniences.. livelihood proceeds in good order.

where there's a will, there's a way. inconvenience is just an excuse.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by FDSeah

As normal gave my gal acall when reach home from work"hello, i am home liao..." gal:"just now mom say u sometime look very gong and ur dressing look so old fashion" me:"what lah at home dress so nice for who to see..."gal:"yah but at least must be look good mah"me:"what ever lah"abit fair up liao...shit..

now i am thinking should i marry this gal??asking for so much still want to complain this complain that...
Feel like telling her we should delay the wedding to next year since they have so much complain about me...so she have some more time to think over.

i think you should clarify to her, that your surname is not "beckham"". you dont have a wardrobe dedicated for undies, home attire, sleep...etc (respectively).

what's the point of look good on the outside, but empty on the inside? 面包能填饱肚子，面子只能乃一下子。

[Rof|maoxz]

Originally Posted by jng1103

My ROM should be in the near future. I'd already warned my CO that we will spilt all the bills in 50-50. Well, the only item that I'll pay in full is the wedding ring which costs S$1k++. That's affordable and justifable. If her parents making hoo-hah for ang pao money, I'll just walk away and let her face the consequences.

It's good to voice out your position at the very beginning. Dun start to keep mum and whimp when you can't handle the situation.