Gers Are Still Gers

[Deep Blue]

Life still goes on, with or without them.......

[jng1103]

Originally Posted by Deep Blue

Like a car, be it a Nissan, Ferrari, Honda, Benz etc......Will you change your car every now and then when it get a scratch or dent?

Well, if you cant get rid of the car, you need to make a strong stand that who is the 'boss'. I hate ppl being late for appointment and there was once she was late for 45min without any sms to inform me. Guess what? I make sure she pay for the dinner or else I'd just walk off and go drinking with my kakis. I think we, as men, must always show our women who's having the upper card.

My buddy just bought a car few months ago and complained that his wife's parents always (almost every Sat early morning) asked him to drive them around for groceries, shopping, visiting extended family members, etc... It got too frequent that my buddy nicknamed himself as Ahmad aka driver.

[asjer]

Bro, you should had dropped her at the nearest MRT station and let her take the train home. I had the same experience before and the 1st time, i told her that am not obligated to pick her up from work and if she jolly well wanna give me an attitude, she can take other mode of transport. The 2nd time it happened, we were already married and she pregnant with our first kid and i still dump her at the MRT station. I believe that we as human are entitled to have bad days but to vent it on another person is just not logical. Relationship is about compromising and respect, not competing and trying to control one another.

Originally Posted by Deep Blue

She hopped in the car and I greeted her with a warm smile and asked her how’s her day. What I got in return was a good lashing……..

[asjer]

Errrr ...... bro, rather fierce rite?

Anyway, it's not about cars cos personally, my mrs can very well afford her own car anytime she wants. Think it's more that most men give in to women cos they have this mentality that men are the stronger while women are the weaker sex hence without knowing it, most men tend to give in to women when they start with their weaker sex routine. In the long run, it becomes a habit and an attitude is bred out of it.

My philosophy remains the same, can pamper our women but never ever spoil them.

Originally Posted by jng1103

We are men with pride. Why on earth do we have to swallow our pride for the sake of the lady sitting next to us? If we are capable of owning a car with good income, for god sake, we got plenty of nice women out there to choose for. Just send your woman the strong signal, as I always do. If she keeps making nonsense demands, ask her to pay for the car loans and petrol. Otherwise, get her mouth zipped and sit tight in the car for a damn f**king FREE ride.

[Deep Blue]

Originally Posted by asjer

Bro, you should had dropped her at the nearest MRT station and let her take the train home. I had the same experience before and the 1st time, i told her that am not obligated to pick her up from work and if she jolly well wanna give me an attitude, she can take other mode of transport. The 2nd time it happened, we were already married and she pregnant with our first kid and i still dump her at the MRT station. I believe that we as human are entitled to have bad days but to vent it on another person is just not logical. Relationship is about compromising and respect, not competing and trying to control one another.

Perhaps I was easy going by nature, I did tell her about my concern and sort out our grievances, she did realise her mistake, anyway, she promised that she will be more understanding.

BTW, when can I add points for others?

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by jng1103

Never was my intention to insult any bros here. I can only salute those guys who can afford a car with his own hard earned money. *hat off to them* Many times we heard women claimed that, "if our men dont treasure us, we should look for a greener pesture." I believe the same goes for us, MEN.

I am happy that you finally found your true princess who appreciates you. No worry, plenty of women out there who are hunting for good (characters + loaded) men and I think we are at the driver seat if we fulfill the basic requirement, that is to have a strong earning power. Nonetheless, the game is always against our butt.

I just booked my car, recently. I was contemplating between a getz and a lancer. Eventually, settled for a lancer to .... kao char bo. That was what I told a pal, if want to kao char bo, have to expand budget (but not go into deficit) for better options.

You are absolutely right about women. Its all about money. Once the girl gets impressed with guy's earning power, the girl is playing by the guy's rules.

Sad, but true. Even good girls go for guys with higher earning power and potential. These days there are so many younger girls going for guys much older than them, even up to 10 years difference or more. The whole point is, it doesn't matter whether guy young or old. But, simply whether got enough money and, at least, some character.

Girls themselves know that they want someone who is eligible and can spend on them. Its a silly equation and I used to believe that if guy honest (and imbued with all the nice-nice virtues), sure can find good girl to settle down. In Singapore, thats history, cos' without either money or car, guy is not eligible (in most instances) to be in the dating game.

Then again, if girls are that easily motivated by materialism, it is the guys' rights to treat them like call-girls (but don't go overboard too.)

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by jng1103

My buddy just bought a car few months ago and complained that his wife's parents always (almost every Sat early morning) asked him to drive them around for groceries, shopping, visiting extended family members, etc... It got too frequent that my buddy nicknamed himself as Ahmad aka driver.

This is really unhealthy.

This happened to me recently when I went to showroom to book my car. My parents kept asking about whether car can go m'sia and got 3 brake light. I was like, "WTF!?"

I got this feeling that when guy has car, everyone takes him for a free taxi. And, car is a very personal thing. If his in-laws need to move around, they should take a cab, instead of inconveniencing the poor guy.

Ur friend very lucky to have this nick. lol. I agree with you, like ahmad the driver.

[Deep Blue]

Originally Posted by vesfreq

Girls themselves know that they want someone who is eligible and can spend on them. Its a silly equation and I used to believe that if guy honest (and imbued with all the nice-nice virtues), sure can find good girl to settle down. In Singapore, thats history, cos' without either money or car, guy is not eligible (in most instances) to be in the dating game.

This is happening every where.....A recent survey in Shanghai, the Shanghai gals demands the guys to have house before they will consider marriage.....

[Deep Blue]

Originally Posted by asjer

The 2nd time it happened, we were already married and she pregnant with our first kid and i still dump her at the MRT station.

This is a little too much in a way but I presume she is in the early stages of pregnancy so you bear to leave her at the MRT station. Sometimes when we guys do something bad, the matter will be blown out of proportion when they relate the matter to others. Then all arrows will start pointing at us, again the weaker sex issue come into play.

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by Deep Blue

Like a car, be it a Nissan, Ferrari, Honda, Benz etc......Will you change your car every now and then when it get a scratch or dent?

Sigh...

Was just talking with a cousin. He was literally sobbing man and about to get married soon. But, getting married is not the reason why he sobbed.

It was because of his in-laws. They wanted dowry in the form of 20 tables. The in-laws will give him 10k to offset part of the cost of the tables (each table about 1k). But, the catch was that he has to give up all the ang pows (collected during the wedding dinner) to his in-laws.

He was caught by surprise, cos' the in-laws didn't mention about this, in the beginning when they were making preparations months back. Now that the in-laws mentioned, he is in a fix, cos' he has to fork out another 10k and will not have the ang pow money to offset the remaining 10 tables.

I was also puzzled, as dowry is usually just a +++en. It seems like this +++en is a bit too much. He was aware that giving dowry is a tradition, but the way the in-laws interpreted it is like asking for his blood.

My cousin thought of bailing out, yet hesitated cos of his wife to-be.

Guys, what do you think? Does this sound like ur regular dowry? Its a bit extreme, imo. In the first place, wedding preparations (eg, photos) already soaked up quite a lot of his savings. The in-laws aren't doing any to help and, instead, adding salt to the wound.

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by Deep Blue

This is happening every where.....A recent survey in Shanghai, the Shanghai gals demands the guys to have house before they will consider marriage.....

Wah!

I think marriage is big biz in Singapore. Almost like incorporating a private ltd co. I was telling my cousin (the guy I mentioned in my earlier post) that no pt getting married, since the money save can use for retirement and buy fancier cars to kao char bo. lol

Kao char bo, but not to get so "involved" until obligated to get married.

[Deep Blue]

Originally Posted by vesfreq

Sigh...
Guys, what do you think? Does this sound like ur regular dowry? Its a bit extreme, imo. In the first place, wedding preparations (eg, photos) already soaked up quite a lot of his savings. The in-laws aren't doing any to help and, instead, adding salt to the wound.

Does his wife to be knows about this? Did she say anything or talk to her parents? From your writing, seems that the parents are selling the daughter, more like making a fast buck from the dinner.

If I am in his shoes, I will postpone the wedding. Call me poor if you want, no money no wedding. Simple as that, I am not going to drain all my savings, max out my cards for a wedding. Wedding is a two-way issue, not all on the guy. Think about it, wedding photos in terms of $3K or more, plus her wedding gown, evening gown etc, ang bao to the “sisters” etc……For we guys, it is just a suit all the way.

I had known a mutual friend, he is doing fine with a decent income but married to a ITE girl. She is drawing a $1K plus salary. For the wedding, he drained all his resources, went for a honeymoon in Japan all because the wife wanted it and now he is paying off the never-ending debts from credit cards. He thought of selling his car but considering his job nature and the good lashing from the wife, he did not do it. Looking at all these, is this worth it?

[beck7777]

ya agree... no money no wedding... and if i'm the one coming out with all the cash, i rather not marry... y do guys have to pay for everything when marriage is about two person... duhz...and for those in-laws wanna 'sell' their daughters, i cant stand it! and its such a headache... i know of 1 case where the in-laws insist on wedding dinner and willing to fork out the money 1st to make sure there's a wedding dinner... think they scared nobody know their daughter is gatting married.. duhz..

[t123]

Originally Posted by vesfreq

Wah!

I think marriage is big biz in Singapore. Almost like incorporating a private ltd co. I was telling my cousin (the guy I mentioned in my earlier post) that no pt getting married, since the money save can use for retirement and buy fancier cars to kao char bo. lol

Kao char bo, but not to get so "involved" until obligated to get married.

I support what you said, my mum just nagged at me said that I am not having GF. I told her and my dad, that gals at GL are abundance, if KTV also can. I am having phobia to commit, recently, a gal from movie was lamenting why I neber go full throttle after her and I was thinking and worrying too much. My 2 biggest worries, not gotten over my phobia after severely hurt by BGRs before, and this gal is a the DHL jumbo.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

Mind telling everybody here what you said in your WOes of Tirak thread whereby u were thanking your gf's sponsors??? and believing when she said she no sex with them. So all so kum lan send free money ah. U think this is Wheel of Fortune?? Even WOF also need to answer questions and spin the wheel.

Chey, U were here slamming the SG girls and no one said a thing while I say you, u kaopehkaobu. U don't know what is freedom of speech?

Explore prospects in foreign soil is an alternative not fruitless. Just that one never look hard enough.

SC

friend, i dont know how many times i have to repeat myself about the sleeping with sponsor bit. but i have to re-iterate that its via remittance. and as for sg gals... if you can find bliss, you have my heartiest well wishes.