Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[willroyce]

Originally Posted by sundial

I gave up making love. The constant black faces turned me off
Even I fuck my wife cannot keep it hard. The horny mood goes away after entering less than 2 mins. Or I just can’t cum. But with ML or other gals I can cum twice .
I enjoy it more also..
So I rather spend $$ to fuck now.

very true bro... my marriage ended in divorce and nowadays I just have sugar babies with me.. just go and message in sugarbook easier and sex is the best

[willroyce]

Originally Posted by Johnydoh813

When my wife started losing interest in sex, she started looking at other hot celebs more and follow... and best thing is.... started chatting with ex BF. I won't say what they chat since maybe that guy on this forum. Never know.... She never delete her texts so I happened to see as something told me to do so.

Haiz... what to do.... what to do... now I feel like visiting a FL just to get an outlet.

i am really sorry bro.. sometimes hoes just stay hoes.. honestly its better to go to a MP and have some fun for yourself... even I do that some times or i check in with SB

[willroyce]

Originally Posted by ferragamo

so what is your solution nowadays?

and what happens at home? totally sexless?

A lot of marriages are ending and one of the causes are lack of intimacies.. many husbands and wives are cheating and even for me.. I lost hope on marriage and focusing more on career.. I rather have fun with sugarbabies from sugarb.com

[willroyce]

Originally Posted by Oyabun

Looks like marriage is not what it seems to be

yes bro.. everything changed

[willroyce]

Originally Posted by v-factor

I'm still here. LOL.

Been through the same. Countless conversations and frustrations. Quarreled, fought, and there are even times when Mrs would initiate divorce, saying that since she cannot fulfill her duty, she'd let other women do the job.

Or asking me to go find a girlfriend, but don't let her find out. She'll be okay with what she doesn't know.

Eventually I gave up. I started to not talk about it. But time to time, I'll joke about having a girl outside. When the conversation starts, I'll jab in a casual comment "since there's no sex at home".

After countless reminders like that, plus the ultimate threat of going to find myself a fuck buddy, she decided to do something about it.

Now, we're not even comparable to the times we were dating, but at least now she's playing along, calling herself dirty and a slut.

great share for our bros here.. but i wish my wife did the same but she ended up cheating with my business partner

[tabao11]

Originally Posted by willroyce

great share for our bros here.. but i wish my wife did the same but she ended up cheating with my business partner

Get used to it

[Swordandshield]

Surprisingly or not surprisingly there are many bros out there facing the same situation. Judging by how long this thread has survived. I guess this issue will always be there and most of us have to face it as part of marriage.
My side of story is strikingly similar to many bros there. After having kid, my wife libido has dropped drastically to a point that I stopped asking her. It’s both of respecting her choice and not wanting to disappoint myself.

To be honest I have been taking part in both the house chores and upbringing of kids. I tried to free up her time so she can fee more relax so she may think about sex. But things are not as I expected as she would rather spend the extra time to watch drama, which I understand as both of us have really little time for our own indulgence (kid sleeps at 9pm-ish).

I have come to realize that this may drag a few more years so I’m pondering should I just release my energy thru those massage with HJ. My bottom line is that I will never have sex outside. Just wanna to hear from any bros here is that considered cheating? How else should I do?

[MCDF]

My 5 cents advice, dun start if you hv not
Once started, it is easily to be hooked.
Or maybe my self will is weak.

I personally find it takes two hands go clapped.
I too believe that lesseb the load on wife can help intimacy. But I am wrong. It really depends on your wife.

For me, since my eldest was born, i start to be hands on all the way for more than 10+ years. Including chores, fetching children, coaching, etc. But this only create opportunities for my wife to cheat on me which i found out 8years ago.

But I finally succumbed of no release to G about 3 years ago. After that, it was sort of no return for me.

I can only now pretend to be as "correct" as a dad in front my children and continue to coach them. While knowing my wife is still cheating, and me occassionally releasing outside.

[tabao11]

Originally Posted by MCDF

My 5 cents advice, dun start if you hv not
Once started, it is easily to be hooked.
Or maybe my self will is weak.

I personally find it takes two hands go clapped.
I too believe that lesseb the load on wife can help intimacy. But I am wrong. It really depends on your wife.

For me, since my eldest was born, i start to be hands on all the way for more than 10+ years. Including chores, fetching children, coaching, etc. But this only create opportunities for my wife to cheat on me which i found out 8years ago.

But I finally succumbed of no release to G about 3 years ago. After that, it was sort of no return for me.

I can only now pretend to be as "correct" as a dad in front my children and continue to coach them. While knowing my wife is still cheating, and me occassionally releasing outside.

It's common.

I had a very few chance that I know I will definitely get hooked up as I encountered few ladies (different timing) that hinted to me to go further, quite open with conversation topics... love my body..etc Still not taking any move yet...

[Swordandshield]

Originally Posted by MCDF

My 5 cents advice, dun start if you hv not
Once started, it is easily to be hooked.
Or maybe my self will is weak.

I personally find it takes two hands go clapped.
I too believe that lesseb the load on wife can help intimacy. But I am wrong. It really depends on your wife.

For me, since my eldest was born, i start to be hands on all the way for more than 10+ years. Including chores, fetching children, coaching, etc. But this only create opportunities for my wife to cheat on me which i found out 8years ago.

But I finally succumbed of no release to G about 3 years ago. After that, it was sort of no return for me.

I can only now pretend to be as "correct" as a dad in front my children and continue to coach them. While knowing my wife is still cheating, and me occassionally releasing outside.

Sad to hear your story bro. Then how u and ur wife are doing now? in terms of relationship and intimacy.

[Neoguri]

Originally Posted by Swordandshield

Sad to hear your story bro. Then how u and ur wife are doing now? in terms of relationship and intimacy.

Seems like Singapore is also moving towards the "sexless marriage" phenomenon like in Japan?
I watched the documentary on "Sexless Japan" and thought it is because of their culture of avoiding open discussion and confrontation, and that it would not be the case in Singapore?

I think we are not at that stage yet, but the replies on this thread just makes me link them together...

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by tabao11

It's common.

I had a very few chance that I know I will definitely get hooked up as I encountered few ladies (different timing) that hinted to me to go further, quite open with conversation topics... love my body..etc Still not taking any move yet...

I really salute u bro ...kudos to u...your self control is v. good despite all the temptations..keep it up !

[itsasony]

Let me share my experience.
I think I am lucky, my wife maintain her fantastic figure. We used to have sex like once a year when she decide to let me have the best day of my life. This after my second child.

But recently because of covid I wfh. She still has to go out and work. I spent more time now doing house chores and teaching kids questions they faced in school. Maths really tough and tougher to get across to the young age.

Then my wife once she got home she has ample time to rest. So she granted me more sex. Now the problem is....With me. I can't erect for long. Getting old.