Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[ilovedoggie]

Originally Posted by lugi

Wah, so good ah... I also leh.. but ask me for tips...

How I wish I was based in Wet Nam again..

i give her tips 100kd nia haha and she look disappointed. i texted her today and we chat on yahoo now... she seem to be super enthu

me: e dg o dau
her: o gan ben canh a. hieu kg?
me: hieu. trong tim cua a ah?
her: e muon trong tim cua a nhung a da co nguoi ag trong tim cua a
me: xin loi dau e ma...

seriously i didnt do anything to her. merely talking in TA and she look at my traveling photo in US, Japan, HK and Macau, Egypt, France, Spain, Italy etc in my iphone album. she said, " I WANT ALSO!"

this is stunning... awesome wetnamese KC culture...

[lugi]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

me: e dg o dau
her: o gan ben canh a. hieu kg?
me: hieu. trong tim cua a ah?
her: e muon trong tim cua a nhung a da co nguoi ag trong tim cua a
me: xin loi dau e ma...

seriously i didnt do anything to her. merely talking in TA and she look at my traveling photo in US, Japan, HK and Macau, Egypt, France, Spain, Italy etc in my iphone album. she said, " I WANT ALSO!"

this is stunning... awesome wetnamese KC culture...

Super flirtatious. Don't u love to be KC-ed sometimes?

I am now desperately loading my photos into my iPhone as well... haha

[ilovedoggie]

Originally Posted by lugi

Super flirtatious. Don't u love to be KC-ed sometimes?

I am now desperately loading my photos into my iPhone as well... haha

yeap! but i only love it when it comes to play with my small head... but if kc comes to play with my heart i don't want...

please upload it asap and showcase it to VBs... they merely got chance to go out of the country except go di lam hahahha...

[volcano]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

even though my girl keep telling me the ppl there is simple and dont think much. she sounded like she's trying to promote her village to me.

i give the shop owner my cigs and he also dun smile at all... no thank you no whatever sign of appreciation. just plain head nodding. i am like... come'on it's Malboro! and they can only afford to smoke their cheap and lousy local cigs like Kings.

majority of those villagers are really very simple minded,very down to earth and contented with what they have....but if u meet those 'cunning wolves' then u better pretend to be 'blind and deaf'.....

i am not sure abt An Giang,but majority of the smokers at village smoke either Jet or Hero...or if u really wants to give them a better treat,then u might consider to buy a ctn of 555 at the DFS then give them as a gift...and do remember to tell them that the 555 is from SINGAPORE......trust me,all her relatives that smoke will love u deep deep....

[volcano]

Originally Posted by lugi

I was even told that giving 20sgd per ang bao is chut chut..:confused

how much shld the amt of ang pow be actually depends on oneself.everybody has a different view.just to share mine with u...

50k - all those relatives that are close and below the age of 18

200k - really close relative that is above 18 years old.

1)the nephew of my wife,parents divorced since he was only 6 years old,and bcos both parents re-marry,so he actually stay with my wife's family until he went to work 2 years ago.

2)wife of my younger BIL

500k - my younger BIL

1 million - MIL

next year i need to prepare a BIG ang pow for my 'little darling'...newborn son of my BIL which will also address me as 'pa'.still dunno give wat,most likely will be something memorable instead of cash.

small reminder.....

sometimes,'money minded' distant relatives which never met for years will suddenly appear out of nowhere when they 'receive wind' that there is a new 'foreign money god'....then its best time for u to be a 'blind and deaf' person liaoz....u know wat i mean....

btw,its always gd to experience the life of staying at a village,after that then we will really appreciate and not take for granted of wat we have in modern city life.hope u will have a memorable trip.

[jf66312]

Originally Posted by volcano

how much shld the amt of ang pow be actually depends on oneself.everybody has a different view.just to share mine with u...

50k - all those relatives that are close and below the age of 18

200k - really close relative that is above 18 years old.

1)the nephew of my wife,parents divorced since he was only 6 years old,and bcos both parents re-marry,so he actually stay with my wife's family until he went to work 2 years ago.

2)wife of my younger BIL

500k - my younger BIL

1 million - MIL

next year i need to prepare a BIG ang pow for my 'little darling'...newborn son of my BIL which will also address me as 'pa'.still dunno give wat,most likely will be something memorable instead of cash.

small reminder.....

sometimes,'money minded' distant relatives which never met for years will suddenly appear out of nowhere when they 'receive wind' that there is a new 'foreign money god'....then its best time for u to be a 'blind and deaf' person liaoz....u know wat i mean....

btw,its always gd to experience the life of staying at a village,after that then we will really appreciate and not take for granted of wat we have in modern city life.hope u will have a memorable trip.

thanks for the info...am havingheadache as to how much ang pow to give to my bxa's family...

next year's new year is in Jan so have abt 3 mths time to prepare...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by volcano

majority of those villagers are really very simple minded,very down to earth and contented with what they have....but if u meet those 'cunning wolves' then u better pretend to be 'blind and deaf'.....

i am not sure abt An Giang,but majority of the smokers at village smoke either Jet or Hero...or if u really wants to give them a better treat,then u might consider to buy a ctn of 555 at the DFS then give them as a gift...and do remember to tell them that the 555 is from SINGAPORE......trust me,all her relatives that smoke will love u deep deep....

Yes, there's 555 that's made in Vietnam, Made in Thailand or from the UK. So if you tell them you bought the 555 from Singapore, they will deem that its of higher class.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by volcano

btw,its always gd to experience the life of staying at a village,after that then we will really appreciate and not take for granted of wat we have in modern city life.hope u will have a memorable trip.

i like the feeling of watching the padi field in the afternoon, with the afternoon breeze ... wow... so relaxing, no stress.. but RING RING.... knn, phone ring, got to attend to business again.

[SingViet]

Its really going to be quite a shocking experience for Singaporeans when they first go to the village to meet the `relatives' of their potential spouse. I remember when i first went with my wife to her village in Ben Tre in 2003, i kanna big big shock. She introduced me to almost all of her village. It seems that almost everyone living there is her relative. From her father's side to her mother's side, can kill leh. Everyone i must give some money, minimum 50k for kids. During that time, still using the old notes, like toilet paper. My wife asked me to changed like 6 to 7 million VND (if i didn't remember wrongly) and exchange rate was like S$1 = 7000VND then. Meet this and that, everyone must give VND. I was like... knn... i am santa clause huh? Go back 1 day, finish all VND. I still have to take out my S$ to change for VND at the market. Ever since that trip, i dread going back to her village.

[ilovedoggie]

Originally Posted by volcano

majority of those villagers are really very simple minded,very down to earth and contented with what they have....but if u meet those 'cunning wolves' then u better pretend to be 'blind and deaf'.....

consider to buy a ctn of 555 at the DFS then give them as a gift...and do remember to tell them that the 555 is from SINGAPORE......trust me,all her relatives that smoke will love u deep deep....

how to spot those cunning wolves? actually maybe i was really thinking too much...

thanks for your tips abt the cig

Originally Posted by SingViet

Yes, there's 555 that's made in Vietnam, Made in Thailand or from the UK. So if you tell them you bought the 555 from Singapore, they will deem that its of higher class.

thanks for the info abt 555 cig. will do that if i hv next trip.

Originally Posted by SingViet

Its really going to be quite a shocking experience for Singaporeans when they first go to the village to meet the `relatives' of their potential spouse.

Ever since that trip, i dread going back to her village.

i couldn't agree more. it's a shocking experience not just because of the environment, living condition but also the culture. my next trip wd be her sin nhat in a few months time.

[lugi]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Its really going to be quite a shocking experience for Singaporeans when they first go to the village to meet the `relatives' of their potential spouse. I remember when i first went with my wife to her village in Ben Tre in 2003, i kanna big big shock. She introduced me to almost all of her village. It seems that almost everyone living there is her relative. From her father's side to her mother's side, can kill leh. Everyone i must give some money, minimum 50k for kids. During that time, still using the old notes, like toilet paper. My wife asked me to changed like 6 to 7 million VND (if i didn't remember wrongly) and exchange rate was like S$1 = 7000VND then. Meet this and that, everyone must give VND. I was like... knn... i am santa clause huh? Go back 1 day, finish all VND. I still have to take out my S$ to change for VND at the market. Ever since that trip, i dread going back to her village.

It's not even Tet and has to dole out money. Makes me think twice about going roi.

Perhaps I have to do some pre-departure psycho on the vb or just bring as little money along as possible.

[lugi]

Originally Posted by volcano

how much shld the amt of ang pow be actually depends on oneself.everybody has a different view.just to share mine with u...

50k - all those relatives that are close and below the age of 18

200k - really close relative that is above 18 years old.

1)the nephew of my wife,parents divorced since he was only 6 years old,and bcos both parents re-marry,so he actually stay with my wife's family until he went to work 2 years ago.

2)wife of my younger BIL

500k - my younger BIL

1 million - MIL

small reminder.....

sometimes,'money minded' distant relatives which never met for years will suddenly appear out of nowhere when they 'receive wind' that there is a new 'foreign money god'....then its best time for u to be a 'blind and deaf' person liaoz....u know wat i mean....

btw,its always gd to experience the life of staying at a village,after that then we will really appreciate and not take for granted of wat we have in modern city life.hope u will have a memorable trip.

This is indeed useful and a good guide. May come in useful one day.

Thanks for sharing.

[ilovedoggie]

Originally Posted by lugi

It's not even Tet and has to dole out money. Makes me think twice about going roi.

Perhaps I have to do some pre-departure psycho on the vb or just bring as little money along as possible.

u will never know until you have been there. i am not sure about your vb. i did ask my vb if need to give some money before departure. she say NO LAH!!! in the end she gave me money and ask me to pretend i am the one giving to them. but this is still unhealthy, in our perspective.

how well do you know and trust your vb anyway? sry if i am too straight forward

avoid tet at all cost... those men will definitely make u drink and drink bcuz their liquor cost less than $1 so they can drink like tomorrow nvr comes. and they will play cards and gamble and gamble all day long doing nothing good. the women will do their daily chores.

[lugi]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

u will never know until you have been there. i am not sure about your vb. i did ask my vb if need to give some money before departure. she say NO LAH!!! in the end she gave me money and ask me to pretend i am the one giving to them. but this is still unhealthy, in our perspective.

how well do you know and trust your vb anyway? sry if i am too straight forward?

Put it simply, I'm going there at my own terms, not there specifically to see her parents or for them to see me. And I told her so. She said yah lah.. you always want FUN..

I've told her that I'm really a poor guy in Singapore struggling to make ends meet. And for the few times we went on holidays, I only book those 2-3 star hotels and eat at small restaurants, never those lavish ones. She has never asked me for anything in return.

At least so far so good for me. I always try to understand what they deem most important, their families etc. and I will tell them how much I love my family too. I would want to work hard and give them a better life, and she would agree whole heartedly. I would usually stop at that as I think that already sinks in. Maybe, she thinks I am at her level, striving hard to provide for the family so can empathise with me.

Things may change in the future, but at present, things are going well.

[Dragon1]

Hi Everyone,

Long time have not been into the forum.

Can I know, how to buy a house in Vietnam. My understanding is that, we as foreigner, we are not allow to buy a house there.

If I want to own house co-own with my gf, how to go about it?

I was told that we can register a company there, as a joint-venture with my gf, that use the company to buy a house. Can??? How to go about it.

Many thanks.