Gers Are Still Gers

[asjer]

It's rare but it's not unheard of. For my wedding and most of my cousins, we made a profit through shared red packets. Furthermore, we chose not to make it glamorous or style even if it happens only once in a lifetime. If the woman married the man out of true love, then she would not compromise years of debts just to repay a day of celebration. If a man is silly enough to give in to his wife to be before marriage, then that man has no one else is blame but himself for his follies. We can pamper our other half but we should never spoil them.

Originally Posted by suteerak1099

p.s.: in wedding banquets, going dutch for the billing.. is unheard of.

[asjer]

In your own words, just because girls spread their legs, guys should pay for all? Then what's the difference if compared to prositutes?

Originally Posted by chioer

Its not that nowadays girls always want their guys to buy this or buy that.... Just that you guys fuck us girls... Whats wrong if we ask you to pay for stuff when we are out? If you cant afford a girl, then dont think of bonking one mahz!

[OceanEleven]

Originally Posted by asjer

In your own words, just because girls spread their legs, guys should pay for all? Then what's the difference if compared to prositutes?

I t may be blunt but her words seems to give others this impression. I hate to say it but could it be this kind of mentality that’s leads to all the contrast and conflicts among the sexes?

[Deep Blue]

Originally Posted by asjer

If the woman married the man out of true love, then she would not compromise years of debts just to repay a day of celebration. If a man is silly enough to give in to his wife to be before marriage, then that man has no one else is blame but himself for his follies. We can pamper our other half but we should never spoil them.

Perhaps few can see beyond this point, the power of "Once in a lifetime" is enough to weaken a solid heart.

[siamcutey]

Originally Posted by OceanEleven

I t may be blunt but her words seems to give others this impression. I hate to say it but could it be this kind of mentality that’s leads to all the contrast and conflicts among the sexes?

However twarted the mentality of our Local girls may be, it doesn't warrant a reason for SG men to go for Prostitutes instead to find their love.

But sadly this sad fact actually happened to some of our SG samsters who chose to find a WL as their love giving the reasons they cannot click with SG girls.

What a shit of crap reasons. Don't you agree?

SC

[siamcutey]

Originally Posted by suteerak1099

there you go again... incompetence in comprehension, by all means, please disclaim it. clearly, its not that you dont read, but simply cant read.

my sentiments on the gals mentality on the receiving end (these days): she expects gifts & all the attention, but when its her turn to reciprocate.. she's most likely to give flesh - assuming that its what the guy deserves.

hence, now the growing trend: i'd give you sex, only if you give me what i want.

not ruling out the fact that there are cheerful givers and goodwill presents too, except that the gals simply reciprocate inappropriately...

Talk so much....
So how about your thai girlfriend who has multiple men sponsoring her monthly with money and she returning the favour with sex....

Like that your girlfriend also no different from the example you quoted above.

U got anything to say over here?

SC

[Deep Blue]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

However twarted the mentality of our Local girls may be, it doesn't warrant a reason for SG men to go for Prostitutes instead to find their love.
But sadly this sad fact actually happened to some of our SG samsters who chose to find a WL as their love giving the reasons they cannot click with SG girls.

SC

Perhaps harboring the thoughts of a possible future continue to spurn them on chasing the WLs, given the superficial care and concern is more than often to melt an already broken heart.

[JWNY]

Guys who are going off topic, kindly continue your postings somewhere else and show some consideration towards thread starter. Thanks

No malice

JWNY

[OceanEleven]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

However twarted the mentality of our Local girls may be, it doesn't warrant a reason for SG men to go for Prostitutes instead to find their love.
But sadly this sad fact actually happened to some of our SG samsters who chose to find a WL as their love giving the reasons they cannot click with SG girls.
SC

I believe they are fully aware of the situation they are in, afterall they are the one who are the leading cast in their own world. Be it dream, fantasy or simply a sad fxxk in the end, I guess they do have a choice for themselves. I had seen many couples work things out and being happily together till now but there are failures who lost money, time, emotions too. End of day, who is to judge them. I would rather leave it to them to enjoy what they deem best.

[siamcutey]

Originally Posted by OceanEleven

I believe they are fully aware of the situation they are in, afterall they are the one who are the leading cast in their own world. Be it dream, fantasy or simply a sad fxxk in the end, I guess they do have a choice for themselves. I had seen many couples work things out and being happily together till now but there are failures who lost money, time, emotions too. End of day, who is to judge them. I would rather leave it to them to enjoy what they deem best.

I don't think men in such situations are not fully aware of the pitfalls.

Not trying to scold you but if you know your friend is in trouble, will u leave him to enjoy what he deem is best or offer your advice time and time again even he does not like it to the extent that your relationship between you and him is strained?

I tell you, I will choose the latter reason.

If today your own son happens to live in his own world, will you leave it to them to enjoy what they deem best?

Why is it Gers are still Gers? Because it is their perogative and their rights.
Why is it females are the ones to carry the 10mth pregnancy? Because Gers are still Gers.


SC

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by asjer

Frankly, when the guy have tons of "fertilisers" (money, not sperm), he won't have to worry about getting a good tree cos the trees will be flocking to him instead.

definately not wrong about that, and boundaries definately not limited to 1st world societies as well. sad to say, when all that attention (wanted/unwanted) comes flooding in... it'd be quite a pain in the neck to filter as well.

Originally Posted by asjer

Local or foreign soil, the trees are all the same, just up to us as men to decide what kind of trees we really wan to have for the rest of our life cos most trees are deciding already what kind of man they wan to shelter but bottomline is still the same, the one with the most fertilisers gets the most shelter from tree/trees.

agreed, and so the saying goes, we know how to choose, others also know how to choose. hence, when seeking, its also important not to be too superficial... dont deny that many local gals these days are self-sufficient. character and all, make compatible gf material... but in terms of prospects as spouse... i'd say there truly are few and far between.

Originally Posted by asjer

My personal experience was, when i was down and out going after trees on a 2 wheeler, am classified as thick skinned, now when am on my BMW 5 series and ignoring trees cos i have my own tree, am classified as arrogant and proud.

sigh, sad but true... and i suppose thats what brings about the term "double standards" as well.

[siamcutey]

Originally Posted by suteerak1099

dont deny that many local gals these days are self-sufficient. character and all, make compatible gf material... but in terms of prospects as spouse... i'd say there truly are few and far between.

sigh, sad but true... and i suppose thats what brings about the term "double standards" as well.

So in your Humble Opinion, since SG so many gers are buey kan in your eyes, you think which country has a lot of girls with good prospects as spouse???

Thailand is it?

SC

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by asjer

It's rare but it's not unheard of. For my wedding and most of my cousins, we made a profit through shared red packets. Furthermore, we chose not to make it glamorous or style even if it happens only once in a lifetime. If the woman married the man out of true love, then she would not compromise years of debts just to repay a day of celebration. If a man is silly enough to give in to his wife to be before marriage, then that man has no one else is blame but himself for his follies. We can pamper our other half but we should never spoil them.

thanks for the highlight... however it may be, in asian context... many though 'modern', but very much still are influenced by the traditional values... and so customary practices still are prominent these days, let alone; marriage ceremonies, babies' full month observance, funeral rituals...etc.

and for the common issue of 'face', somehow or other.. there's tendency that the male side is obliged to host (foot all/majority of the bill) the function.... so as to be recognised as the good/promising son-in-law.(not forgetting the commonly abused terms: 娶老婆 vs 嫁女儿)

ironic as it gets, marriage is supposed to the be a joyous occassion for the couple, but when family/in-laws come into the equation... things at times get abit more complicated. i've witnessed brewing disputes over the banquet billing/angbao splitting by the parents/in-laws. which truly sets the wedded couple in quite a major fix.

IMO, as long as the wedding is planned & budgeted by the couple alone, frictions are less likely to surface. the key: wedding is just for a day, its the marriage (days that follow) that truly matters.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

Talk so much....
So how about your thai girlfriend who has multiple men sponsoring her monthly with money and she returning the favour with sex....

Like that your girlfriend also no different from the example you quoted above.

U got anything to say over here?

SC

SC ah SC, you discredit yourself here, there and everywhere, and now you trying to start some flame war here?? in the 1st place, you dont even know my gf, let alone her itinerary... yet you exude much confidence that she's whoring herself to sponsors...

very typical of you to be stereotypical towards victims of circumstance, and you continue ceaseless over trivial issues of receiving goodwill benefits. your incompetence/incapcity to comprehend, does not set the benchmark/quotum that others must follow.

p.s.: would appreciate if you could be more mature - keep your begrudged comments towards me in my "woeful thread, and respect the threadstarter here, by not tarnishing his thread.

and once again proven that you can't read: what i state here doesnt enforce/advocate others to attempt tirakship, but to explore prospects in foreign soil, if its fruitless here.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

I don't think men in such situations are not fully aware of the pitfalls.

you assume too much... players should know (or have researched about) the rules of the game before they even suit up to step into the arena. the handicap level high or low, is for them to achieve... and very much redundant for you to be telling them how they play the game.

likewise, in anything and almost everything we do in life has its highs and lows. none can foresee and foretell when will 1 hit the wall, but its the 1 involved who negotiates or engage the hurdles that come along.

if the movie you find yourself seated in, not suitable to your liking or too savage/gut-wrendhing and causing you pain... its not as if you cant walk out of it, and spare yourself the torment. rather than have yourself glued to the seat, eyes peeled... screaming and crying like a disturbed child. (and disrupting others around you)