Been single for more than 10 years

[LengKia]

Originally Posted by peanodood1337

(Posted in another thread. But same topic. So cut and paste lol)

First, you have to accept that its perfectly ok being single. What's so bad about that? Do ONS or go GL when you have urges. Save money that you would have spent on wife and kids to be a filial son. Treat your parents well.

Then when you grow old, check yourself into a nice old-folks home with your savings. Play chess everyday. Talk cock with fellow uncles. Watch TV. Oogle at chio nurse. Sounds ok right?

I have seen too many peers/relatives in unhappy marriages/divorces. Marriage is overrated. Don't get peer-pressured into settling down just because "its time to settle down".

Get a FB. Go into casual dating. Not difficult if you have decent finances and don't look utterly shite. See what develops from there.

Be happy. You owe it to yourself to be happy.

Take care bros.

after reading all the experiences and comment from the bros, it really make want to go back to those days of singlehood....unfortunately it is always difficult if you have a child...

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by LengKia

after reading all the experiences and comment from the bros, it really make want to go back to those days of singlehood....unfortunately it is always difficult if you have a child...

Bro, from your statement I feel encouraged living a lonely and single life. And if I have chance to get a gf or married someday, I know my 100% freedom would be lost forever. In the mean time I shall enjoy my singlehood as much as I can.

[peanodood1337]

Originally Posted by LengKia

after reading all the experiences and comment from the bros, it really make want to go back to those days of singlehood....unfortunately it is always difficult if you have a child...

Different folks different strokes. I would imagine having someone call you Papa for the first time is a different class of happiness on its own right?

There's always pros and cons in everything. Even I feel lonely sometimes. When that happens, I'll just call someone up for a movie, dinner or... something else

[topcook1]

Single is definitely much better...Man just need a woman to bonk only..Woman seems to be a burden to man ..

[singmarine]

It is prefectly normal to be single. Once u married the next step is seperation then divorce if things dun got work out. Worse still if you have children to add in the equation. 1 out of every 4 friends around me are facing this problem.

[Beasty]

Originally Posted by topcook1

Single is definitely much better...Man just need a woman to bonk only..Woman seems to be a burden to man ..

I used to think like you. Bonk a gal, 1hr finish. What's next? At the end of the day you are still alone.

Man and woman sure have emotional needs one. But it's hard to get to know gals, considering my current lifestyle...

[k_y_jerry]

Bonking will Satisfy ur lust but to be love and love someone esle is totally a different thing all together

[MrSoapy]

Originally Posted by jnudes

I stopped ringing my married friends over the last 5 years. Got sick of those rejection and excuses. Once they are married and have kids, they ignore you completely. I supposed this is normal human nature. Family is always number one.

Bro, there's one more you forgot to add: we singles will die alone if we choose to be single forever. Now I treat marriage as a business where almost everything from marriage ceremony to giving birth and raising kids need money. And it is expensive to live especially with a materialistic gf or wife. While I must admit cheonging with a WL is so much cheaper and without any commitment.

Luckily I am not from SG and I dun intend to live there as the city too stressful for me. With the current hardship there is no one else to blame but the citizen themselves. And btw one cannot separate suicide and sin city from the society. And it will continue on as long as the current govt is in power.

Yes. The path of being Single is definitely not an easy route. Singles will eventually get sick and die alone. There will be nobody to visit you when you are sick in bed, nobody to chat with you when you need someone close to share your joys and sorrows, nobody to assist you when you need help. You come alone, go alone and die alone. Nobody will bother to remember who you are, where you are from and why you are here. Everthing seems to be dull, boring and miserable without any companion.

However, there will be not much worries for singles to leave this world. We come to this world naked and leave this world empty handed. Perhaps the only thing we can bring along will be those good and bad memories. It's much more peaceful if you leaving this world alone, no need to look behind our shoulder as we move on to another place.

For many guys who are married, most of them will not tell you their true marriage life. They seems happily married to their wife and kids. However, 9 out of 10 of them has been suffering from some kind of disappoinment. Some get to realized after marriage that their wife is not really an ideal partner. Their character, attitude and lifestyle is not what they used to be before marriage. There's a saying that love is blind and marriage restore sight. Many of the couples find that they don't really enjoy their sex life at all. Some get to discovered that their partner is a dead fish, no passion in making love, dislike having sex with each other. They are disappointed and disatisfied with the kind of life and sexual relationship they have. Hence they begin to "steal eat" outside, get involved in affairs with other man/woman. Nothing much to offer except to file for a divorce. But the woman's chartred in S'pore always favours the woman and the judge will always lean on their side. Man will always be on the losing end, have to come out with $$$ to sustain the lifestyle or their divorced wife. It's not the end but just the beginning of another nightmare for man.

Just think again, how many good woman left in this society can you find that can be wife material? How many of those woman left can offer and shower you with true love and give you the kind of sexual desire that you want to sustain the marriage. Not many left and not many can do that in this materialistic world. Marriage seems to be a business deal these days and it's big gamble and risk that you will need to undertake if you want to experience a married life.

Is it worth the risk and are you ready and prepared should your marriage failed?

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by MrSoapy

Yes. The path of being Single is definitely not an easy route. Singles will eventually get sick and die alone. There will be nobody to visit you when you are sick in bed, nobody to chat with you when you need someone close to share your joys and sorrows, nobody to assist you when you need help. You come alone, go alone and die alone. Nobody will bother to remember who you are, where you are from and why you are here. Everthing seems to be dull, boring and miserable without any companion.

However, there will be not much worries for singles to leave this world. We come to this world naked and leave this world empty handed. Perhaps the only thing we can bring along will be those good and bad memories. It's much more peaceful if you leaving this world alone, no need to look behind our shoulder as we move on to another place.

For many guys who are married, most of them will not tell you their true marriage life. They seems happily married to their wife and kids. However, 9 out of 10 of them has been suffering from some kind of disappoinment. Some get to realized after marriage that their wife is not really an ideal partner. Their character, attitude and lifestyle is not what they used to be before marriage. There's a saying that love is blind and marriage restore sight. Many of the couples find that they don't really enjoy their sex life at all. Some get to discovered that their partner is a dead fish, no passion in making love, dislike having sex with each other. They are disappointed and disatisfied with the kind of life and sexual relationship they have. Hence they begin to "steal eat" outside, get involved in affairs with other man/woman. Nothing much to offer except to file for a divorce. But the woman's chartred in S'pore always favours the woman and the judge will always lean on their side. Man will always be on the losing end, have to come out with $$$ to sustain the lifestyle or their divorced wife. It's not the end but just the beginning of another nightmare for man.

Just think again, how many good woman left in this society can you find that can be wife material? How many of those woman left can offer and shower you with true love and give you the kind of sexual desire that you want to sustain the marriage. Not many left and not many can do that in this materialistic world. Marriage seems to be a business deal these days and it's big gamble and risk that you will need to undertake if you want to experience a married life.

Is it worth the risk and are you ready and prepared should your marriage failed?

Right now I am learning to cook at home as one way to cope with my single lifestyle. As far as I know no matter how boring one life is, the life has to go on. It is up to us on how we going to spend the time.

I thanked this forum for able to read and discovering the ugly truth about the reality of marriage life. Only then I realized why divorce was on the increase these days.

To find a good woman you can count with your own fingers. Consider yourself lucky if you can find a good one.

[muscleboi]

Originally Posted by jnudes

Right now I am learning to cook at home as one way to cope with my single lifestyle. As far as I know no matter how boring one life is, the life has to go on. It is up to us on how we going to spend the time.

I thanked this forum for able to read and discovering the ugly truth about the reality of marriage life. Only then I realized why divorce was on the increase these days.

To find a good woman you can count with your own fingers. Consider yourself lucky if you can find a good one.

bro, i agree fors the first part but not really on the last part..how do you define a "good girl"? one who doesnt feed you on bed but doesnt stray most probably cant be bothered to? or one who supports you and feeds you well and doesnt stray? its hard to find one that fulfills the latter..

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by muscleboi

bro, i agree fors the first part but not really on the last part..how do you define a "good girl"? one who doesnt feed you on bed but doesnt stray most probably cant be bothered to? or one who supports you and feeds you well and doesnt stray? its hard to find one that fulfills the latter..

A good wife is someone who will be there in good and bad times, who is loyal (does not sleep around), who is family-oriented, who is good at cooking, who respects the older generation and set good example for younger generation, who can satisfy the husband sexually, who spends wisely and save enough money for future kids education, who leads a normal and simple life (unlike those who dress like celebrity and leads a materialistic life).

And lastly good wife is usually linked with a certain religion like Christianity. And due to her strong influence with her religion, she will avoid herself straying around. There are rules set up in the ten commandment in the Bible. But then this is my observation within a Christian community. No idea about others like Buddhist, Islam or Hindu.

Young women are busy chasing their career and material needs these days. If guys can fuck around, so can they. They are demanding equal rights with the guys. When the guys win they also wan to win. In the past guys win most of the times. For a relationship to survive, one party (either husband or wife) must learn to let go and give way (sacrifice).

[muscleboi]

Originally Posted by jnudes

A good wife is someone who will be there in good and bad times, who is loyal (does not sleep around), who is family-oriented, who is good at cooking, who respects the older generation and set good example for younger generation, who can satisfy the husband sexually, who spends wisely and save enough money for future kids education, who leads a normal and simple life (unlike those who dress like celebrity and leads a materialistic life).

And lastly good wife is usually linked with a certain religion like Christianity. And due to her strong influence with her religion, she will avoid herself straying around. There are rules set up in the ten commandment in the Bible. But then this is my observation within a Christian community. No idea about others like Buddhist, Islam or Hindu.

Young women are busy chasing their career and material needs these days. If guys can fuck around, so can they. They are demanding equal rights with the guys. When the guys win they also wan to win. In the past guys win most of the times. For a relationship to survive, one party (either husband or wife) must learn to let go and give way (sacrifice).

bro, i think you're talking about more than one woman. hardly a single woman can fulfill all the requirements you stated. say for example, how can you get a girl to satisfy you sexually on bed and yet be religious?

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by muscleboi

bro, i think you're talking about more than one woman. hardly a single woman can fulfill all the requirements you stated. say for example, how can you get a girl to satisfy you sexually on bed and yet be religious?

When a religious couple have sex they just do it the fast and easy way, fuck, shoot and game over. Not really foreplay involved, even wear a sexy lingerie is also not on the menu. And the main reason they fuck is to get pregnant and give birth later on.

If you want to have a passionate fuck like those pornstars with added menu like wearing sexy lingerie, etc, religious person does not fit in as usually they don't watch those things let alone softcore movies. Non-religious woman are more open-minded and they can even do all sorts of sex, even with someone husband, etc. This is where the question of loyalty and adultery comes in place.

I agree with you to combine religion and sex together would be tough for a woman. Currently we are living in a stressful society and as more and more woman are getting more open-minded, even divorced woman is slowly getting accepted in the society and they don't feel ashamed about it at all. Divorced, what the big deal, can marry again mah.

[Beasty]

[QUOTE=jnudes;9008906]
And lastly good wife is usually linked with a certain religion like Christianity. And due to her strong influence with her religion, she will avoid herself straying around. There are rules set up in the ten commandment in the Bible. But then this is my observation within a Christian community. No idea about others like Buddhist, Islam or Hindu.
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I think the more a person restrains herself, the easier it is for her to sin. There will be many charismatic bros in the church. What if she falls to temptations

[jnudes]

[QUOTE=Beasty;9382168]

Originally Posted by jnudes

And lastly good wife is usually linked with a certain religion like Christianity. And due to her strong influence with her religion, she will avoid herself straying around. There are rules set up in the ten commandment in the Bible. But then this is my observation within a Christian community. No idea about others like Buddhist, Islam or Hindu.
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I think the more a person restrains herself, the easier it is for her to sin. There will be many charismatic bros in the church. What if she falls to temptations

There are holy and religious people falling into temptations and ruin their own reputation and life in the end. As for me I am neither holy nor an atheist. I am in the middle. I admit I do go and cheong, I only do it few times in a year. Not a hardcore drinker or cheongster. And I truly satisfied with that.