Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Seletar]

[QUOTE=Golden question;6115341]

Originally Posted by Seletar

she want buy land,u ask her go and die hahaha
i still remember ask my wife if 1 day she pass away,she want to bury here or vietnam.she say she want here.

i ask her why,she say if bury there ppl will go urine on her grave cos viet man like to anyhow urine at public hahaha

Here can not bury lah, must burn scare pain leh, I prefer bury in Vietnam

[ilovedoggie]

My viet gal asked me to back to her house somewhere in An Giang. I am still doubtful if I should do so because I scared i go there i might kana cut open and my organs sold for money... How? Should I go?

[evoking88]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

My viet gal asked me to back to her house somewhere in An Giang. I am still doubtful if I should do so because I scared i go there i might kana cut open and my organs sold for money... How? Should I go?

er if u scared and dun trust her i think just dun go ? if u go then be prepared to take any risks

[lament]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Vietnam is far away as compared to china. Their governance to economic development is still too primitive relative to china. Their government also lack the commitment and drive as compared to china. Their economic activity and strength has greatly weakened for the past 2 years, foreign reserves has also been halved within 2 years, from 240 billion USD to 120 Billion USD. I am kind of skeptical on how long more can Hanoi defend the VND

This I strongly agree. Vn started on the road to modernisation with Doi Moi policy which started in 1986, when I first go there back in 2002 for business and relying on numerous online business reports for information. Not much have changed in Vietnam.

Almost 20 odd years past Doi Moi and the company is still in bad shape due to the high levels of corruption and internal siphoning of company funds.

In the provinces, the govt officials also abuses government funding, I witness them having daily meals in restaurants and taking nap in hotels and charging them to their department budget.......

Back in 2002, SGD100 will get me at most 900,000VND, today it has almost doubled. A bowl of pho cost me 10000VND and today 20000 to 25000 VND....

well.....inflation is going overtime in VN .....

[lament]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

My viet gal asked me to back to her house somewhere in An Giang. I am still doubtful if I should do so because I scared i go there i might kana cut open and my organs sold for money... How? Should I go?

nothing venture nothing gain....an giang is quite a nice place by the way.

Went to chau Doc to pray a few months back but a tiring long journey though ....

you can take ferry to Can Tho or Me tho and then go by land transport...much faster than the land route of @8hours.

in my early days of plying JC area, most of the pretty girls asre from an giang ....you may get to taste local delicacy ....

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by lament

Back in 2002, SGD100 will get me at most 900,000VND, today it has almost doubled. A bowl of pho cost me 10000VND and today 20000 to 25000 VND....

well.....inflation is going overtime in VN .....

Bro, you getting old la. In 2002, S$100 will only get you around 700,000 VND, then iby late 2003, it can only get you 750,000VND. Pho in 2002 will only cost you 7000VND by the roadside, some even sell for 6000VND.

[SingViet]

Another report on Newspaper concerning foreign spouses in Singapore.


Title : Foreign wives face dilemma in S'pore
By :
Date : 11 July 2011 0729 hrs (SST)
URL : http://www.channelnewsasia.com/stori...140139/1/.html

SINGAPORE: Some foreign wives on long-term visit passes are finding that life is fraught with uncertainty and anxiety. Putting their Singapore-born children through school, food on the table, a roof over their heads, or even just staying in the country - these are just some of daily battles they face.

Family Service Centres (FSCs) which MediaCorp spoke to are seeing an increase in the number of foreign wives seeking assistance.

According to the FSCs, the husbands of some of the women seeking help have either died or are in jail. Others have been abandoned by their husbands.

While these woman can find employment as work permit holders, many are not equipped with the skills or qualifications to meet the requirements.

There are no official statistics but their increasing numbers are a concern.

Voluntary welfare organisation Yong-En Care Centre has seen 11 such cases this year. There were none last year.

Yong-En Care Centre's executive director Trevor Tan said: "Education (for the children) becomes very challenging because these families are poor. Language is (also) an issue. I've seen some of them ... and when you speak to them in English, they don't understand what you're saying."

Mr Tan added: "The child could be five or six years old. They should be in preschool and they could be learning English to start off with. Otherwise, when they start school, they will be greatly disadvantaged."

Apart from giving the foreign wives who come to the centre for help up to S$60 each month, Yong-En Care Centre offers English classes for them and free tuition for their children.

When contacted, the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports said that it does not require FSCs to track the number of such cases. Still, the ministry works closely with agencies to "keep abreast of developing trends and ensure that vulnerable groups receive the necessary assistance".

Social workers told MediaCorp that more men were marrying foreign brides and some do not have the means to support their wives and children. They noted that a greater awareness of assistance at FSCs could also have contributed to the increase in the number of such cases.

'Cases are just tip of the iceberg'

Sociologists Tan Ern Ser and Paulin Straughan point out that the lack of cross-cultural understanding between the woman and her husband and in-laws can severely strain the marriage.

The language and cultural barriers could result the foreign wives feeling isolated and make them totally dependent on their husbands. When the relationship sours, these women have no choice but to turn to formal channels for assistance.

FSCs typically offer emotional support and counselling, sourcing for crisis shelter and alternative accommodation as well as education on legal rights on matters such as immigration, housing, divorce and personal protection orders.

But sourcing for financial assistance is limited as financial aid goes mainly to citizens or Permanent Residents, said Mrs Sara Tan, director at Hougang Sheng Hong FSC.

Nevertheless, these women can seek financial help through their Singapore-citizen children but "often times, the assistance period is not long", said a PPIS Family Service Centre West spokeswoman.

The spokeswoman added: "We believe that what we see at FSCs is just the tip of the iceberg. There may be many more who may not want to seek help from agencies due to various reasons."

For instance, some of them worry that their difficulties could result in their permanent residence application or social visit pass extension being denied, said PPIS.

Others worry that their husbands may be annoyed with them for seeking help. And if their husbands divorce them, they may have to leave the country and be separated from their children, said PPIS.

Social workers believe that allowing these women to work would provide a long-term solution towards financial independence.

Associate Professor Straughan urged that PR be made an option for foreign wives with children.

She said: "When a foreign bride stays in a marriage long enough to have kids, we should also give them the necessary support to grow a stable family."

When contacted, the Immigration and Checkpoints Authority (ICA) reiterated that marriage to a Singapore citizen "does not automatically qualify a foreigner for long-term stay, permanent residence or citizenship in Singapore".

It added: "Foreign spouses of Singaporeans may still submit an application for long-term stay in Singapore for the ICA's consideration even if their Singaporean spouses pass away.

"Each application for immigration facilities is carefully assessed on its own merits and ICA will advise the applicant accordingly."

- TODAY/fa

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

My viet gal asked me to back to her house somewhere in An Giang. I am still doubtful if I should do so because I scared i go there i might kana cut open and my organs sold for money... How? Should I go?

scare dont go,if want to go dont scare.u already have a very negative mindset of that girl and their country,so why go?waste your time and money

[Seletar]

Originally Posted by Golden question

scare dont go,if want to go dont scare.u already have a very negative mindset of that girl and their country,so why go?waste your time and money

If the girl asked u go to her house, it means she has the intention to be your gf.Let her parents see u, if not she won't ask u visit her at the village

[lament]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro, you getting old la. In 2002, S$100 will only get you around 700,000 VND, then iby late 2003, it can only get you 750,000VND. Pho in 2002 will only cost you 7000VND by the roadside, some even sell for 6000VND.

Well, it was about 800,000 when I first got there round late 2002. by 2003 was about 900,000. This all from goldsmith shops.

am i that old ....you not that young either ...maybe i getting senile ....

[lament]

Originally Posted by Seletar

If the girl asked u go to her house, it means she has the intention to be your gf.Let her parents see u, if not she won't ask u visit her at the village

this means wedding bells in the works ....

remember one thing though that if you were to stay in her house, please register with the local police before you get into big trouble .....

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by lament

Well, it was about 800,000 when I first got there round late 2002. by 2003 was about 900,000. This all from goldsmith shops.

am i that old ....you not that young either ...maybe i getting senile ....

When I first stepped in HCMC was around end of 2003 or early 2004.... It should be around 9-10k . Now 16k..... having pho bo in the street near my apartment in Hanoi was abt 20 or 25k.

[Honey Boon]

they can never be like China because half of their population (men).... mostly useless and lazy , correct me if I am wrong

Originally Posted by miua55555

For me, I see vietnam as the next potential China. Now they are opening their doors to foreigners and foreign investments. I think it is good to get their properties before their currency strengthen.

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

they can never be like China because half of their population (men).... mostly useless and lazy , correct me if I am wrong

i thought more than half of their population is woman,cos most man kill in vietnam war

[eQuipment]

not say i wanna say, but sometimes imported brides are just not as docile as they appear to be. many of them are raised with the war-hardened mentality, and since most of their men loaf & free-load, the girls are the ones that find finances to sustain the family (extended family inclusive).

its not uncommon, but there have been plenty of unreported cases when the viet bride calls it quits after 2yrs or 3yrs tour-of-duty, or soon after a kid is born, or when they learnt that the man she married is an empty shell & cant quite sustain her "family".