Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[sta1100]

Originally Posted by k9er

A key that can open many doors, is called a "master key".

A door that can be opened with any keys, is useless.

Key is the man, and door, the woman.

Wise words.

Well said good bro

[joncheong]

I met up with a good buddy last night at Geylang...We used to cheong together and share FL tips about 3 years before he got married... After that he decided to be a good husband and stop cheonging, which i felt happy for him as well....until about last month he called me, asked me out for drinks and shared his sorrows with me....

although childless, a few months into his marriage...his wife stopped having sex with him, citing stress in her work in the banking industry....my friend being a very gentleman and understanding hubby also didn't pushed her for sex but deep down he is indeed in need of sex....so he tahan for 2 plus years without sex....once in a while pcc....until he jio me out to go geylang....i tried to dissuade him although he was the one who suggested it....but i pitied him and decided to accompany him last night.....

we went to the famous 1654 house and he became a man again....he even thanked me lolzzz....i know he has began his trip down the slippery road but what to do....i cannot see him becoming a monk for the rest of his life right?

[ch1818]

Bro Jon - I need not wrong leh. With a wife at home yet cannot fulfill the needs, nothing wrong for the man to be looking somewhere else for it...... My personal view lah, did the wife spare a thought for the husband then....

[joncheong]

Originally Posted by ch1818

Bro Jon - I need not wrong leh. With a wife at home yet cannot fulfill the needs, nothing wrong for the man to be looking somewhere else for it...... My personal view lah, did the wife spare a thought for the husband then....

I am neutral about this lah hehe....just that i feel bad from accompanying my buddy to geylang..i know he could have gone there alone also....

[Shadow_warrior]

All human beings, young, old, male, female even animals need to feel love. Its in our DNA

Why do men feel so rejected when their partner rejects their love, their hugs, their kiss, they request for intimacy
Why do they need the feeling of being loved, treasured, appreciated, accepted.

If the wife, gf don't get it and they are still involved with the person, they should get out because they don't understand how people function and just plain selfish because they want the same things too.

Anyone don't need love, intimacy, to feel loved, treasured accepted?

furthermore by someone who swore to do so till the end of time, someone that men trust, the wife

How hurtful is that? If women don't get it- please, you don't deserved to be loved back because you cant give, you shouldn't receive.

[sleepygordon]

Originally Posted by ch1818

Bro Jon - I need not wrong leh. With a wife at home yet cannot fulfill the needs, nothing wrong for the man to be looking somewhere else for it...... My personal view lah, did the wife spare a thought for the husband then....

The wife is suppose to provide all sexual needs of the husband. The reverse is true also. If either one not happy sexually and nothing is done to remedy the situation then to me eventually anyone will stray...

[ffuckoff]

My colleagues mentioned to me about this thread in this forum recently and told me that many Singaporean men are complaining of not getting enough sex from their wives. I decided to register for an account and check out the truth for myself.

Since this is a commercial sex forum, it naturally draws on like-minded men to visit the site.

In a way this forum is a good platform for many sexually-deprived men to voice out their frustrations and those men who are facing or have faced similar problems naturally will inevitably unite as one. Like the saying goes: "Birds of the same feathers flock together" so this is understandable.

As far as I can see, those men who have flocked together with the same feathers have already done serious damage in the relationships with their wives and instead of introspecting, many are just pointing the fingers unfairly at their wives. To these men who are not getting sex with your wives, don't just point the fingers at your wives. It is mutual.

By ranting your sexual frustrations here, your sexual problem back home is still unresolved. Some even put up the bravado and dished out your purported "wisdoms" but I suspect that in real-life at home, you are unable to confront your relationship problem head-on and blame it all on your wife only. Some may not even have the resolve to put your relationship problem right in the first place.

The problem with such a forum is that it can provide a platform for like-minded people to congregate and eventually start forming an unfair view of certain issues and without you realizing it, everyone suddenly believes that this is the fact.

As a happily-married woman and with many happily-married friends, I want to say that the views of the many in this forum does not represent the all of the Singaporean men. My husband is sitting beside me while I am typing out this message so he does not represent the majority here.

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by ffuckoff

My colleagues mentioned to me about this thread in this forum recently and told me that many Singaporean men are complaining of not getting enough sex from their wives. I decided to register for an account and check out the truth for myself.

Since this is a commercial sex forum, it naturally draws on like-minded men to visit the site.

In a way this forum is a good platform for many sexually-deprived men to voice out their frustrations and those men who are facing or have faced similar problems naturally will inevitably unite as one. Like the saying goes: "Birds of the same feathers flock together" so this is understandable.

As far as I can see, those men who have flocked together with the same feathers have already done serious damage in the relationships with their wives and instead of introspecting, many are just pointing the fingers unfairly at their wives. To these men who are not getting sex with your wives, don't just point the fingers at your wives. It is mutual.

By ranting your sexual frustrations here, your sexual problem back home is still unresolved. Some even put up the bravado and dished out your purported "wisdoms" but I suspect that in real-life at home, you are unable to confront your relationship problem head-on and blame it all on your wife only. Some may not even have the resolve to put your relationship problem right in the first place.

The problem with such a forum is that it can provide a platform for like-minded people to congregate and eventually start forming an unfair view of certain issues and without you realizing it, everyone suddenly believes that this is the fact.

As a happily-married woman and with many happily-married friends, I want to say that the views of the many in this forum does not represent the all of the Singaporean men. My husband is sitting beside me while I am typing out this message so he does not represent the majority here.

what a pathetic defense and shallow view.
Can you speak for all the women and the hurt men? Do your lady friends tell you the truth or half truths like a lot of women do? here the men speak freely and openly
You have your forums, and men have theirs- whats your point?

withholding intimacy is something a woman should do? what were your vows when you were married?
Look at all the hurt feelings here, and how the men have tried? Its written in ALL 66 pages of the forum
How the man tried, talking, try to initial romance, plan trips, going for counseling...ARE YOU BLIND???? You are saying the man doesn't want to confront or try? Or blame his wife? what is the wife doing? any of the above? no- they are giving excuses, half baked reasons, and seriously half baked love.
So when your man leave don't go crying foul play?

which man, women, baby, child, human, animal does not want to be loved and feel intimacy?
the fact is the women now don't know their place, as we can see from your post.
Good luck with you sad views, that's why the divorce rates are so high and adultery rates for men and women are overwhelming.

You don't see us men go to women's forums and start berating women for not giving sex, being intimate with their husbands? trying to teach them the "real value of life" or preach as if we are right? we are in our own forum talking to guys who experience the same thing.
See? that's why women just don't get it? you are the best example....
And yes, don't say women are angels, women who give sex in the line of work, betraying their husband, children, cheating as per the recent cases, says it all.

You say you are happy? try not giving your man love, intimacy, care, try saying to him, hurry up and cum, or I don't want to foreplay, just get on with it, or make him feel like a beggar when he wants to have sex, lets see how long you are happily married, and how long he will wait for his wife's heart to change.

I want to say that the views of the many in this forum does not represent the all of the Singaporean men

You cant make that claim, you cant speak for men, Singaporean or any man for that matter. You are just like the women who are withholding intimacy or giving it out like its a pain to give, and the road down the future is the same- relationship dies.
You should follow the nick you chose....its apt.

[Botakhead]

Bless all who don't get enuff sex from your partners.

[Brainstorm]

Originally Posted by ffuckoff

As a happily-married woman and with many happily-married friends, I want to say that the views of the many in this forum does not represent the all of the Singaporean men. My husband is sitting beside me while I am typing out this message so he does not represent the majority here.

Thanks for introducing this forum to your husband. He might wish to register a nick that you do not know of and participate in this forum too. There is free porn to download, porn that he can use to satisfy himself when you are unwilling, unable or simply not free to fuck him. You have no idea how appealing this forum is to men.

As for the happily-married part, long may you stay happily married. This forum attracts unhappily married ladies too.

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by ffuckoff

As a happily-married woman and with many happily-married friends, I want to say that the views of the many in this forum does not represent the all of the Singaporean men. My husband is sitting beside me while I am typing out this message so he does not represent the majority here.

Oh good your husband is a goody two shoes good for you, he never goes out to curi makan...or did he? The monster knows that only darkness resides in all human....it resides in you too...and please don't think you know it all..you may think you are happily married but never assume on behalf of your "happily married" friends....life is a stage where everyone is just a actor...don't deceive yourselves...one day when you really find out your man has really been fucking around the blow might be too devastating for you to take...the case of the 50 men charged for underage sex is just a good example...look at some of the men charged, who would have thought these men would fuck around behind their wife...

So monster got only one advice for you...learn to "expect the unexpected".

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Oh good your husband is a goody two shoes good for you, he never goes out to curi makan...or did he? The monster knows that only darkness resides in all human....it resides in you too...and please don't think you know it all..you may think you are happily married but never assume on behalf of your "happily married" friends....life is a stage where everyone is just a actor...don't deceive yourselves...one day when you really find out your man has really been fucking around the blow might be too devastating for you to take...the case of the 50 men charged for underage sex is just a good example...look at some of the men charged, who would have thought these men would fuck around behind their wife...

So monster got only one advice for you...learn to "expect the unexpected".

bro, this woman is naïve like the other wives out there

they think its okay to withhold intimacy from men, to starve them of sex and love and its fine, they have their reasons, and we as men HAVE to accept it

when we find sex outside, they will say we are dirty old men
when they find sex outside, they will call it love, they will give their reasons, I didn't feel loved, you neglected me and all the BS

like I said, we all bleed the same, blood is red. We need the same things, if women don't realize that and still defend their acts, well reap what they sow.

Here's to happily married men and women who believe they are behind closed doors. For a man willing, there must be a willing woman
http://sg.news.yahoo.com/ex-scdf-chi...074038943.html
http://sg.news.yahoo.com/prosecution...083018161.html
http://sg.news.yahoo.com/law-prof-te...054020669.html

[HCKing]

Lol. to be honest we guys also have a part to play for our girls general princess mentality as we are too used to giving in to them.

[analog]

Originally Posted by bernardlee

Sad stories repeat everyday. Everytime I see new couples in wedding dinners, I wish them good luck.

Divorce is a massive screwing for a man whereas a woman walks away with more assets and than she came into the marriage with and if they have children she maintains a primary benefit of marriage - access to his disposal income.

Agree. This issue, the women's charter, will be part of the PAP's undoing, mark my words.

But there is one thing that women do NOT leave a broken marriage with, and that is their youth. They can no longer use that as a hook to snare another man, now they are in a situation where they either become a real woman and get their priorities straight or die alone....and dying alone scares most people.

Cheers,
Jim

[analog]

Originally Posted by joncheong

I met up with a good buddy last night at Geylang...We used to cheong together and share FL tips about 3 years before he got married... After that he decided to be a good husband and stop cheonging, which i felt happy for him as well....until about last month he called me, asked me out for drinks and shared his sorrows with me....

although childless, a few months into his marriage...his wife stopped having sex with him, citing stress in her work in the banking industry....my friend being a very gentleman and understanding hubby also didn't pushed her for sex but deep down he is indeed in need of sex....so he tahan for 2 plus years without sex....once in a while pcc....until he jio me out to go geylang....i tried to dissuade him although he was the one who suggested it....but i pitied him and decided to accompany him last night.....

we went to the famous 1654 house and he became a man again....he even thanked me lolzzz....i know he has began his trip down the slippery road but what to do....i cannot see him becoming a monk for the rest of his life right?

Bro:

Your buddy, if no kids, leave. No need for counselling, just leave. Any woman so stupid as to think a guy gets married to be a monk, deserves the lonliness that will come with that attitude.

Tell your bro to leave.

Cheers,
jim