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#946
07-04-2013, 01:44 AM
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Re: Wife & Sex - going through the motion
Staying single is the way to go...
I understand that the need for companionship is strong too...but we can always have more friends of both genders to help with companionship... It is not just husbands and wives...long time bf/gf also have similar issues...isn't it strange that a woman (or a man)...who feels like not having sex with the present partner any more....will suddenly be up for sex again with a new partner (how else will the person attract another partner without sex??)...this indicates to me that it is not the person not wanting sex....it is just the person not wanting sex with the same old partner, that's all.... My take, which is unconventional, is to stay single...find someone I like to be with...and when the sex is no longer satisfactory to either of us...we both move on... Men and women both have issues and baggages to carry in our lives and within our relationships...no one is more right or more wrong when things go sour...for whatever reason, (usually for the kids...)...we hang on for much longer than we should... No doubt there are some couples who are perfect for each other until their golden years....but to force ourselves into believing that we are all one of those couples may not be the wisest thing to do...it's like living as if we also won the lottery like those people who did...we will run out of money very quickly because we did not in fact win any lottery... Sure...buy a ticket for the hope of striking it...but when all indication shows that we do not have the winning numbers...it is time to throw out the old ticket and buy another ticket...hanging on to a dead marriage without sex is only honourable in our own minds...our bodies will never agree with it... I say...talk it out with your partner...compromise and find ways to make it work...no sex? how about a HJ? No HJ? how about I pay someone else to give me a HJ? Cannot have paid sexual service? How about if I find someone who will do me for free? Worried about STD? How about if I only find virgins?? Keep negotiating..and if no improvement is forthcoming...it is time to move on...nothing is going to change if the other person is not on board with changing... I have been divorced a while now and my kids still call me papa and introduce me to their friends as their father...I do not think the kids will disown us if we choose to make our lives happier...but...we must choose and take action...comnplaining can only release stress up to a point...then the sexual frustration will take over again... Having gone through a few long term girlfriends in the last decade...I am a much happier person...and a nicer person too according to my friends who knew me from before...I'm far less cranky and irritable...a lot more sociable...my kids are now asking to spend time with me instead of hiding from me...all the positive changes came from getting regular sex... Knowing is one thing....doing is the key to improving our lives... Cheers and wishing everyone some sexual happiness...
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#947
07-04-2013, 02:12 AM
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i once brought a lady overseas for a short trip to hk....had sex for two nights there...when back in singapore she helped me plan a wedding....scared the shit out of me and she went cranky when i told her i am not ready for marriage yet...
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#948
07-04-2013, 12:30 PM
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Think of it this way...while some women hate giving BJs...there are equal number of women who love giving BJ...if we hook up with a woman who hates giving BJ and then complain about not getting BJ...is that the fault of the woman?? No...it's partially our fault because we should have known that she is not into giving BJs...all we have to do is find the ones who love giving BJ and we are happier... Nevertheless...the original argument still remains...being human...after a while...either she slowly stops giving BJ (due to tireness, boredom and whatnot...)...then it is time to move on... It may sound selfish but how do you know she is not bored with you as well? Maybe the reason she stops giving you good BJ is because she is no longer excited by you? Maybe she liked you because you love giving her oral...but over time, you either don't feel like licking her everyday, or that you start doing a half-arsed job...maybe she is also ready to find a new FB too.. Communicate....talk about what is important to both of you...and agree right from the start that if things are no longer rosey and sweet...that you are able to discuss the issues calmly...and if things are still not working out, one or both parties can press the eject button and move on... Men and women are the same and can get cranky when expectations are not met...and if you do not communicate before the start of a relationship...then each person will make up their own expectations...that is too dangerous a game to play because men and women go in vastly different directions when making up expectations...talk it out and settle on an agreement first...then you can have your cake and eat it too for a long time... Having said all that...and the worry that women are clingy and must settle down...be sure that you can handle rejection too...if she says she is moving on...do not get angry or bitter...be her friend and move on...who knows, maybe she will introduce another woman friend to you if you stay nice and gentlemanly...after all, she is fully aware of your lifestyle and thinking because she agreed to it in the first place...perhaps she knows a girlfriend or two who share the same ideal... I am very over the fact that being in a relationship means must get married...I think being in a relationship simply means being happy for the time together...nothing more...and you will be surprised at how many women think similarly too (not including those who just want to have fun or just to gain some sexual experience...)...they may be too shy to say it up front...you will only know if you talk it out with them...out of 10 women you talk to about this...maybe 8 will walk away in a huff and 1 will slap your face...but all you need is 1 to agree...and you have a like-minded woman for a year or three... My lottery ticket is to eventually find a woman that we are both so happy to be together that we will stay together for longer than expected...no plans but the no plan route leads us to being together anyway....then...we know we want to be together for the right reasons...But until I find that woman...I am happy to keep changing and seeking to find my own happiness...to find someone who will share the same idea of fun as me...even if it is only for a year or two... .
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Thanks to everyone who upped me... ************ ---For most women, it's what you do before sex that shows her your love... -------For most men, it's what she does during sex that displays her love.... But for me...it's what she does after sex that tells me if and how much she loves me...
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#949
07-04-2013, 01:17 PM
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I dont know man, I think a couple really needs to sort out their needs and priority.Sometimes us guys can be tired from overwork and when we want it, it might be just the time our other halves are tired. Give and take abit. I hate to think the day my wife would leave me just coz I suffer from ED or impotence due to old age or illness.
The age old solution is always to DIY or get someone to DIY (via my fave massages) or makan outside. The crux is to be tactical and practise extreme stealth x
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#950
07-04-2013, 01:31 PM
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...Where hv u been all tis while ??..Well said, u are really a guru of sorts on such r/s matters. Enjoy reading the words of wisdom frm ur own experiences, which u hv shared in ur original post abv...Keep it up, bro !! .. haha...cos it benefits all bros reading ur tis msg..Cheers ! Quote:
You r a bachelor enjoying life both ways...Happy u r finding ur own happiness in ur own way...Cheers to u ! Quote:
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#951
07-04-2013, 02:47 PM
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Yes bro..communication is key... It is not just about the act of sex though bro...it is about the willingness to try...if she is not willing to have sex (as in your case of ED in old age as a reverse case...) is she willing to give you HJ, or use toys with you to at least keep you happy? Vice versa...are you willing to do the same for her even though ED has set in? DIY together?? Sharing is caring type of love?? That is more key that just the act of sex...for a partner willing to find ways to fulfil sexual urges of a person...that is all any person can ask for... Yes bro...of course you can makan outside...but touch wood...let's say kenna caught and now she wants a divorce and half of your assets...will the fact that you makan outside simply because she won't give you sex be acceptable to the judge and her lawyer?? I doubt it bro...and hence...be upfront with a need...it is not a luxury where we can forgo...sex is a natural part of a person and while some people have lower sex drive than others...being married should not mean forcing both persons to go to the lower sexual drive level of a couple...some middle ground must be found... Some people can handle getting less sex and they are 'happy' to reduce the need for release...others are driven up the wall from a lack of sex...and unless his or her partner is understanding and allow some latitute in the sex department....(be it HJ, finding FB, allow paid sex etc...), something will give...and often times, it is the relationship that breaks... Not disagreeing with your take bro...but most men get married so that they can get regular sex...if still must DIY and makan outside...why get married?? Most guys makan outside and inside and sideways blantantly before marriage anyway...why get married so that we now have to be stealthy and tactical to do exactly what we have been doing before?? Just my thoughts bro...no offence meant.... .
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Thanks to everyone who upped me... ************ ---For most women, it's what you do before sex that shows her your love... -------For most men, it's what she does during sex that displays her love.... But for me...it's what she does after sex that tells me if and how much she loves me... Last edited by Wizrd; 07-04-2013 at 02:52 PM. Reason: spelling
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#952
07-04-2013, 02:49 PM
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How are things with you?? Sorry but I had some internet then password issues...so after a few months absence, now I can finally be back for a while... Thanks bro...take it easy yeah? .
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Thanks to everyone who upped me... ************ ---For most women, it's what you do before sex that shows her your love... -------For most men, it's what she does during sex that displays her love.... But for me...it's what she does after sex that tells me if and how much she loves me...
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#953
07-04-2013, 04:20 PM
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#954
09-04-2013, 05:34 PM
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There is ONE thing and one thing only that differentiates a man's wife from every other woman, she has sex with him, the rest do not. If, as a wife, you do NOT have sex with your husband, you then become like all the other women, nothing special. A man's brain works like this: She has sex with me then she loves me. She doesn't have sex with me, she is like all other women. Its that simple really. The sex keeps your man connected to you, if there is no sex, there is no connection, PERIOD! Men are NOT like women, we didn't get married for companionship, we already had that with our friends, we get married for a lover. It might be shallow, it might be vain BUT ITS THE TRUTH! To a man SEX IS EVERYTHING. Its kind of like money, if you have enough, you don't think about it much, if you have none, you're obsessed with it. The only guys who are obsessed with sex are guys who get none. its like starving, its the same thing. It's just life. Good for you that you're keeping your connection with your man, good for you. Cheers, jim
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#955
10-04-2013, 07:43 PM
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Very well said Bro... Exact words from my mouth or rather what i felt also... And as u said such is life...
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#956
10-04-2013, 10:23 PM
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is sex that important to a man, like no sex means divorce?
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#957
10-04-2013, 11:10 PM
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No no no....it is not about how important sex is... It is about an agreement...a contract, if you will...one that stipulates...no sex outside of marriage....that means...I should get all my sex within the marriage, right?....and then one day...the wife says...no sex for you...oh hang on...now...something has gotta give, you agree?? Having your cake and eat it too is a game women have played all too often...yes, some men are guilty too...but in this case...women are more often the culprit... If the rules are amended...and sex can be had anywhere, any place, with anyone a person desires...then no one would complain if the wife (or husband) says no...more power to you woman...I'm just stepping out for a quick fuck...see you at dinner time, ok darling?? Too easy...  (the next dilemma is of course a bit more difficult to resolve...if the wife is not sexually appealing...then now how....yeah...I guess, if she is willing, most guys will still lan lan must proceed.....but I still think abolishing the stupid 'no sex outside of marriage' rule is the way to go....) .
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Thanks to everyone who upped me... ************ ---For most women, it's what you do before sex that shows her your love... -------For most men, it's what she does during sex that displays her love.... But for me...it's what she does after sex that tells me if and how much she loves me...
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#958
11-04-2013, 01:49 PM
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To me I can only explain it using a tree as a example. A tree needs, water, sunlight and of course some crap so that it will grow. Too much sunlight not enough water, it will dry up. Too much water it will drown. So likewise for a marriage to sustain for the long run, there must be a equal balance of both sex and feelings. To most married men like me, our main gripe is practically the lack of sex. We are not asking for it every night yet each time we ask we are rejected from the very start. What is worse is the way we are make to feel each time we try to initiate it. Just like as if there is something wrong with us as if we are maniacs.
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#959
12-04-2013, 12:25 AM
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But no need divorce lah just find a fb or go geylang kio kuey or find FL to relieve are all more practical Read your signature but your inbox is full, meant to ask you what does nymphomaniac means ? Thanks
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#960
12-04-2013, 12:43 AM
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Re: Wife & Sex - going through the motion
is like man and wife are bulls and bears fighting over who wins over no sex?
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