Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[Tomthefucker]

Originally Posted by Hotcoffee

I just check my wife iPhone. She been surfing Skout.

Me feel like ccb now.

Fuck her la. If I'm not marry I would had drive at least 7 series now.

observe her first.

If you noticed she's been logging her hp more often texting often, suddenly got dont know which friend birthday party to attend, meeting friends for coffee, been more careful with her hp for fear that u come close to it, hp putting face down etc then something is amiss.

Happened to me once. Found Tagged apps in wife hp.

I note her account, and created a fictitious account in tagged and join as her friend. From there read her account and look out for tell tale signs.

If you know her msn account password, maybe you would want to log into it during her work hours. Chances are during work, she will be chatting with those guys.

If you log on her msn, you will be able to see their chat unfolding right before your eyes. Thats how i collate those evidence last time..

[Klein76]

Originally Posted by tantan1234

I were reading thro these, realised so many ppl kana these stuff.

I worst.

Married 3 yrs. WIth kid

Have no sex,
she does not assist me when i am financially down, (borrowed money kana fucked by her)
she does not do housework,
she does not care for me,
she does not listen to me,
when she take care of kid, she do more she cao beh.

which brings me to tink:

no sex, no care, can't do housework, not good at taking care of kids, can't help me financially...


then she come here for wat? i married her for wat?
at times i feel like she is a friend living with me

You are not alone...i am also in this catergory...lol...staying together for the kids...hmm...does it made any sense?

[Klein76]

Originally Posted by alwayshornee

Similar situation....my wife dislikes sex n intimacy with her was like 3-4 time a year n going thru motion. No oral n no fondling....just kiss n intercourse.
Then I found out there was 3rd party n my world crashed.....

Now we sleep in separate rooms n act like normal family when with our teenage kids.
We agreed to divorce n now leading separate lives.

I don't eat outside by the way....though I m tempted too.

Just a qns to ask, since divorce is the way to end?do u feel bad since u have kids? they are the one who suffer in the end..

[tantan1234]

Originally Posted by Klein76

You are not alone...i am also in this catergory...lol...staying together for the kids...hmm...does it made any sense?

At times I feel tat i want to give my kid a full family. But i also think... shld we forsake my happiness in exchange?There are many yrs more to go. and the most impt thing i think is.... will the divorce takes place much later? when kids grow up they ask more qns.

[notti4u]

Originally Posted by tantan1234

At times I feel tat i want to give my kid a full family. But i also think... shld we forsake my happiness in exchange?There are many yrs more to go. and the most impt thing i think is.... will the divorce takes place much later? when kids grow up they ask more qns.

I think nowadays man tends to think a lot whether is this good or bad for our kids. I am in the same situation as you. For sex, have to beg and depends on her mood. Been to marriage counsellor still useless. Worse still, nowadays small or big thing, I kana screw mentally (not physically) by her.

Had to do most of the housework, washing, ironing, hang the kids clothes, pack their bags for school, clean their backside after they poo-ing... you name it, i do it. for her, she just take care of the kids well being which I also do but she mentioned she did more than me???

I guess we seen a lot of family without a complete family and in the end, we stay on with marriage becos of them. Studies shown that those in single family tends to be problematic kids and have inferior complex. Do we want that for our kids as we are responsible to ensure that they are not a nuisance to the society but to be a responsible parents to their own kids, right.

[Klein76]

Originally Posted by tantan1234

At times I feel tat i want to give my kid a full family. But i also think... shld we forsake my happiness in exchange?There are many yrs more to go. and the most impt thing i think is.... will the divorce takes place much later? when kids grow up they ask more qns.

I had been thinking about it too, my is sexless marriage more on my MIL who stay with me keep stiring my family,badmouthing me and brainwash my wife to severe tie with my parents, i am also not allowed to bring my kids home to see my parents and i also not able to visit them on cny, wonder is there such a things in this world? knn let her stay with me still stir up my family. so i seriously wonder should i give up this marriage or not? by the way i had been a good husband and dont eat outside i think i am better being off single if not for my kids, i cant tolerate this anylonger!

[Bryan747]

Originally Posted by Klein76

I had been thinking about it too, my is sexless marriage more on my MIL who stay with me keep stiring my family,badmouthing me and brainwash my wife to severe tie with my parents, i am also not allowed to bring my kids home to see my parents and i also not able to visit them on cny, wonder is there such a things in this world? knn let her stay with me still stir up my family. so i seriously wonder should i give up this marriage or not? by the way i had been a good husband and dont eat outside i think i am better being off single if not for my kids, i cant tolerate this anylonger!

I also almost didnt get to go back during CNY.. but luckily this year SIL wanted to go to my hometown to visit... that y i get to go back..
If can't bring kids go back and can't go back during CNY (through out the year can't go back to my parents place), I will definately beat her up and divorcing her..

[Bryan747]

Originally Posted by tantan1234

I were reading thro these, realised so many ppl kana these stuff.

I worst.

Married 3 yrs. WIth kid

Have no sex,
she does not assist me when i am financially down, (borrowed money kana fucked by her)
she does not do housework,
she does not care for me,
she does not listen to me,
when she take care of kid, she do more she cao beh.

which brings me to tink:

no sex, no care, can't do housework, not good at taking care of kids, can't help me financially...


then she come here for wat? i married her for wat?
at times i feel like she is a friend living with me

Is all wife like tat? How come my situation is exactly the same as yours...
Everyday complain me not giving her money... if I didnt married to her I think I'm already driving a beamer and staying at condo...

[tantan1234]

[QUOTE=notti4u;8350033]Had to do most of the housework, washing, ironing, hang the kids clothes, pack their bags for school, clean their backside after they poo-ing... you name it, i do it. for her, she just take care of the kids well being which I also do but she mentioned she did more than me???


Wah lap, exactly the same thing happened to me. Wife do a bit cry father cry mother liao.

Actually altho I mentioned sexless, or rather unhappy sex, tat is not the main point only. Like i mentioned earlier, she never showed the love, does not treat my family tat well, when i financially down borrowed less small sum only she SO unwilling. It IS BORROW, not to ask her to give. Because of this i was so disappointed. Shouldn't partner stand by one another in times of difficulties? Nw 3 yrs like tat liao, 10 yrs later?


I just dont feel the "husband" treatment tat i shld get.
I bet even best buddies will show more concern.

I feel tat problematic kids arises when both partner hate each other until one side lacks the concern. Like fight over custody and stop the other frm visiting and stuff like tat. I think if even if both parties want go separate, best is to talk and conclude both can visit anytime, and go out together during weekends, despite not living together. Guess this is the best we can do

[Klein76]

Originally Posted by Bryan747

I also almost didnt get to go back during CNY.. but luckily this year SIL wanted to go to my hometown to visit... that y i get to go back..
If can't bring kids go back and can't go back during CNY (through out the year can't go back to my parents place), I will definately beat her up and divorcing her..

I guess u are right, there is no reason for such things to happen in the first place,i always feel bitter within,feel like a unfillial sons at times, she dont even bother to ask and visit my dad with the kids when he is hanging in there in the ICU.i think divorce is unavoidable in the near future and i am really feel sad and sorry for my kids if that really happen....

[tantan1234]

Originally Posted by Bryan747

Is all wife like tat? How come my situation is exactly the same as yours...
Everyday complain me not giving her money... if I didnt married to her I think I'm already driving a beamer and staying at condo...

All of a sudden our stories hit a chord with so many husbands out there.
At times when i see other accomodating wifes I so hope she gives in just abit.

I want my kid, want a warm home. All i want.

Perhaps I want back the old her. The person who pat toh with me, everything ok, everything she follows, let me decide, plays a listening ear, and gives great advise...

[Mike2009]

looks like every married man suffer!
no choice

My kudos and respects to all bros who suffer in silence and keep the marriage for the sake of the kids.

Thks TS for the thread.....very interesting to see and comforting to know that every marriage has its own problems (sometimes i think i am only one whose marriage and life is like hell)

But to all bros...stay positive and happy!


Mike Poh

[lightweaver]

Been with my sg ch wife for 14 yrs since we were 20 and married for the past 6. We made an active choice not to hv kids.

We hv our fair share of hi and lows but one lesson tat stayed true til now is never "consider divorce". Both parties hv to b committed to tat. Make it work somehow.

I can't claim to hv any solution but I hope to offer my 2cents on "rewalking" ur journey.

Option 1
Take a cruise. Just the 2 of u. No phones, no kids. Just u 2. Sometimes SG life and family commitment just takes the romance out of everything. Do things together. Even things u won't normally do. Eg line dancing etc. see how u both feel after the trip. If nothing is there even with just both of u, then perhaps the problem lies deeper aka not facing certains truths. On the other hand, u may realize "us" still exists. Congrats. Make active changes to ur life.

Option 2
"Ignore til it's becomes painless".

This is extreme. If being together doesn't revive the spark, perhaps ignoring ea other is best. Start with 2 wks. Hopefully the other party queries. If not another. This will allow both parties to realize u dun "miss" ea other.

Just my 2 cents. I'm a freelance wedding photog and it's a blessing to partake in couple's wedding vows. There is so much love and hope. If ever u feel down, take a look at ur wedding photos. Remember those moments and how u got here where u are. Sometimes we just lose our way. God bless to the bros here

[joncheong]

Originally Posted by Bryan747

I also almost didnt get to go back during CNY.. but luckily this year SIL wanted to go to my hometown to visit... that y i get to go back..
If can't bring kids go back and can't go back during CNY (through out the year can't go back to my parents place), I will definately beat her up and divorcing her..

I would have thrown out the MIL like a refugee

[tamtam]

As for me, I have tried so many ways to salvage my marriage, example : Go holidays without childrens following, go out dating after children slept, heart to heart talk, etc....

It never worked !

So now i have made up my mind, i only live for my children...She is not in this equation anymore. I felt cheated the moment i marrys her.

Now i just make myself very happy bonking any kind of ladies i want, then go home be a nice father, there is no need to be a nice husband anymore.

My marriage really sucks big time !

The followings realities are what i have suck up all these years:

1) Buy a car for wife to use : you dont get to fuck her
2) buy and stay in condo : you still dont get to fuck her
3) Go expensive holidays with kids : you dont get to fuck her
3) Go expensive holidays without kids : She shopped till drop, too tired, she wont allow you to fuck her.
4) etc....still dont get to fuck her

On the other end...
1) If you willing to buy a car for fb, you will get alot of fb queueing up...
2) rent a condo for fb/girlfriend...They let you screw her anytime of the day, 24/7
2) provide fb/gf with some living expenses...they stick to u like glue.
3) Bring then for short cheap trip....they worshipped you, probably let you screw any hole on her body.
4) She bathed and powder herself while waiting for you to come over to spend time with her.

I will happily spend my money on my mistress and get good returns.
I used to go home with my sperm tank full and cannot release...how frustrating ! But now my sperm tank is always empty hehe.

I go home happy nowaday. Not a good solution for all, but it works for me.