I need help. Any female surfers here?

[Janet_W]

hv gt a lot of messages fr the ppl here. but one msg realli touched my heart. it was fr this guy called "Ah Gong" Thq 4 the kind words. U mk me feel lk u r my kor kor

have seen yr posting about searching out yr dear dear... from the way u write i guess you r still quite young and innocent...and currently pretty piss off on the situation.

let me KPO abit and enlighten you on some things....

1st, this is a sex forum for mostly men. therefore it is a place for men to fulfill their darkness sexual desire. so much so that some are really disgusting... welcome to the dark side.

2nd, all members here largely are protective about their members so i dont think u will get any assistance from them... some of them are here becos they cannot tahan their wife or gfs.

So i really doubt you will be able to seek out you dear dear.

My suggestion would be, try cool off a bit. think positive, maybe your dear dear is just surfing to meet ppl(guys) and get some info.

Have a good open and sincere chat with him. Present your concerns and hope he will have the courage to admit to you. then see how to move from there. To be frank he might still be bruffing you but at least you did you part. If he loves you he should own up. A relationship takes a lot of taking and giving and is never easy so take this as part of your life learning. Dont let your emotion take control of you. Worst senerio is split loh.

hope everything works out for you.

[Janet_W]

I guess here is lk sch last time, a lot of gangs & grps. And I know all of u dislike me. I get comments like :

Stupid
Dream on , bitch
stop all this nonsence
get real
quiet la. no vulgarity here pl.

here is lk oth forums, jus more boys here. I'm nt as young as u ppl thk i am and i oso hurt lk a normal person. And these words hurt.... hurt a lot.

[Janet_W]

jus an updt

my name is jo**e. my bf (or ex-bf) is edison. I knw his nick here now. he has a lot of them, at least 50 diff nicks. I dunno which is which. I gt his file of nicknames & passwords w me nw. a lot of them registered in 2004 and 2005 w some from this yr and last yr.

I confronted him. Ask him abt this webby. he denied it at first.we quarrel. i cry & cry. finally he admit 2 me. he does surf here. but 2 him it is jus a game. here is whr he can play god, he says he can zapper ppl and make them nvr able to post again or even mk ppl beg 4 his pts. i jus dun understand all tis. He said here he can many diff nicks, use them to zapper ppl who annoy him and they nvr knw it's him. He shw me by reducing a nick here from greenie to reddie. dat way dat nick is gone he said. guess dat is same as mine as mine is oso reddie when i log in 2 see. is dat y i can't seem to c my posting ?

Well he did nt knw I secret secret copy the file w all his nicknames & passwrds. nw wht do i do w this ?

can i trust wht he said is true ?

[Janet_W]

i guess here lk evrywh else. got bullies and got heros. i hv ppl who encourage me lk the Ah Gong kor kor. & i got the bullies who laugh at me and call me names. tis forum may nt be 4 me. & i dun wt 2 be here. but i nvr give in2 bullying. nt when i was in sch & nt nw either.

in cyber, anyone can b anyone. I am me. can only b me. edison, i still dun feel u saying all is true but here gt so many ppl on ur side but i will slowly learn abt tis forum and find out y. lookg at pics of naked girls r ok, even those that are so XX one too. but here oso can find XX in real life, dat is y i worry.

but nw i am here. i want 2 be w handsome guys 2. here may gt a lot of them. and maybe i go out w some of them. c hw u feel abt that.

[Deltaboy55]

Originally Posted by Janet_W

i guess here lk evrywh else. got bullies and got heros. i hv ppl who encourage me lk the Ah Gong kor kor. & i got the bullies who laugh at me and call me names. tis forum may nt be 4 me. & i dun wt 2 be here. but i nvr give in2 bullying. nt when i was in sch & nt nw either.

in cyber, anyone can b anyone. I am me. can only b me. edison, i still dun feel u saying all is true but here gt so many ppl on ur side but i will slowly learn abt tis forum and find out y. lookg at pics of naked girls r ok, even those that are so XX one too. but here oso can find XX in real life, dat is y i worry.

but nw i am here. i want 2 be w handsome guys 2. here may gt a lot of them. and maybe i go out w some of them. c hw u feel abt that.

I have not come into this site for a long time. Chanced upon this and I thought I, too will put in a few words.

I seriously doubt you can find any solutions here. What's the point airing your private and personal feelings about your bf to the strangers here? You will only get ridicule and cynicism.

It's something between the both of you. Go work it out in the privacy of your room or something. Despite of the fact that I do not know your true gender, I am speaking to you on face value. Doesn't matter to me whether you are truly who you are or who you are not.

[Cunt-Sucker]

Originally Posted by Deltaboy55

I have not come into this site for a long time. Chanced upon this and I thought I, too will put in a few words.

I seriously doubt you can find any solutions here. What's the point airing your private and personal feelings about your bf to the strangers here? You will only get ridicule and cynicism.

It's something between the both of you. Go work it out in the privacy of your room or something. Despite of the fact that I do not know your true gender, I am speaking to you on face value. Doesn't matter to me whether you are truly who you are or who you are not.

Janet, totally agree with Deltaboy 55. Ur thoughts of exacting revenge through guys here will only result in you getting more emotional & maybe even physical hurt. Some guys here may just wanna use u as a free sex toy. If that's what u want urself to become, no one will stop u. But end of the day, u r definitely gonna feeel shit about urself. Now how's that gonna help patch up with Edison? Or worse, how r u gonna face ur new bf if he happens to know of ur pasts here huh?

I know u r pissed. But please heed Ah Gong's advice. At most, just break up & find new bf huh? But first, please learn to love urself first...if you can't even love urself, I doubt u even understand the meaning of love...

[bangbangben]

wow... Hong Kong Drama series in SBF?

Sis Janet, you're back. Well hope yyour stay this time not as disruptive as the previous time you were here.

[wanmalay]

Janet = Edison or Edison = Janet ???

1 man show ??? really have my doubts. But anyway, quite a interesting thread.

[xlr8]

It's official ...school holidays started liao lor

[Booker]

Wau lao eh... Like that also can...

As advice by bros here... take the issue with your dear dear/bf/whatever in private lah.. So what if he surfs forums here.. what u going to do right.

Or if you are bored and need entertainment during the holidays, just post your contacts at the FL zone lor.. Sure can keep you busy all the way to school re-open next year.

Chill man... life is like that lah.

[WillamSexsphere]

I am no hero nor bully. And i will accept at face value on your predicament. Better a fool than to be heartless.

1. You are trapped in the web of love. You love your edison too possively as can be seen by your devil may care attitude to come here to seek out your loved one, as well as to offer yourself up to other guys just to take revenge on him. My question are -

a. is he worth it to abuse yourself?

b. Have you thought of the long term consequences of your actions - mental, physical, reputation and health? Very seldom men would want tainted goods as wife.

c. Do you think this petty revenge will make him remorseful and come begging you back? He had probably tasted other 'flowers' and his actions to you is probably someone to kill time. You gone, he will get another. If he truly loved you, he would have long ago left this site, after being found out, let alone have 50 nicks to screw around with others ( if what you wrote is true ).

Therefore this a character flaw in him which you must address - a leopard dont change spots so easily. Thus can your love for him be strong that you dont mind him fooling around?

d. There are many predators here and you are a prey. We may not be the cream of the crop of manhood, such as loving, faithful, etc, but many of us are cheongsters and do have a few principles in life - not to hurt anyone in our cheong lifestyle and if there is a gf or wife back home, we do so discreetly to find a moment's companionship that we lack.

We men view love differently - we are only here for a moment's lust but love is where the home is. Women view love as all encompassing and restrictively conditional. Thus men go for the moment's paid folly discreetly, so as not to hurt anyone, least of all our cherished womenfolk back home.

My point is - if you dislike your bf comming here, why try to find a bf cheongster here or you becoming a cheongster too? This would be the last place to find love with a man who will be faithful to u for eternity.

Please dont hurt/abuse yourself over a guy. You are not a WL or FL. I want to believe that you are a decent girl. And you deserve a better man, at least someone who perhaps does cheonging things discreetly, not boastfully, but love you with all his heart.

Either you loosen up, close your eyes to his philandeering or kick his sorry ass outta your life and find another faithful decent man and share the promise of eternity that true love can bring.

Good luck. Cheers! :-)




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[mega117]

Originally Posted by Janet_W

jus an updt

my name is jo**e. my bf (or ex-bf) is edison. I knw his nick here now. he has a lot of them, at least 50 diff nicks. I dunno which is which. I gt his file of nicknames & passwords w me nw. a lot of them registered in 2004 and 2005 w some from this yr and last yr.
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can i trust wht he said is true ?

What made u so sure he surf this "Health Centre and KTV lounge Tangos" and not the Freelance section.

If u can't beat him, why not join him like what he does here.
You also offer your service to the bro here, than post your report here of any ONS or massage with BRO here.than likely he will confront yoou, this you can get what u want .and all bro are happy too

[simonsay]

Interesting stories but the pace is a bit too fast from seeking female surfers for help until she discovered 50 nicks and password. Try slow down abit and add somemore drama in your romance....the story can last thru school holidays

[Arowana Police]

Read thru what Janet has written and this is indeed scary. Best advice to bro here is to delete any evidence of surfing this website if you are surfing from home. Or things like this could come back to haunt you, although I think Janet's case is a bit extreme.