Wife & Sex - going through the motion - Page 4

tiolaixiong · #46 06-11-2011, 08:48 PM

Sound scary got to diy for 2 yrs ,i support u eat outside bro kenergy like some bro says here if the wife go thru the motion mode lie still cant wait for u to finish it they feel like fulfilling the duty i rather not to have sex it really felt like an insult ,to be frank if i am in your sitution 100 percent i eat outside

nuclearkid · #47 06-11-2011, 08:59 PM

After the marriage comes to a point when sex is a chore, its loses a part of itself. The intimacy is slowing dying and soon the couple will be sleeping in separate rooms. The logic that eludes me is why women, who are thought to be better at multitasking than men, can't perform a dual role optimally. After the kids are out, it seems like everything revolves around the little one(s). And if you've noticed, kids these days...many are brats that lack manners and courtesy. More often than not, you don't get a 'sorry' out of a kid knocking into you or holding the lift or door for the person behind. So, the women are hanging up their husbands to dry while focusing on their offspring. And some of them can't raise their children properly. What are they really good for? Taking nothing away, there are solid mothers around but that's the minority.

muchunboy · #48 06-11-2011, 09:47 PM

Very sad that most brother here feels this way and had expressed themselves much better than me. Sex life screwed when just in early 30s. Go to FL also very pointless and shallow, just like buying a service. Does not address the emotional void.Only comfort is I'm not alone.

Shazam · #49 06-11-2011, 09:58 PM

I got 7 children at home in a 3-room flat.

Even if wife and me is in the mood, also cannot do anymore because too crowded and no space.

In the end, we just buried our sex life for good for the rest of our life.

Feeding the 7 children, house and car come first. Both of us in late 30s.

hornyboyboy · #50 06-11-2011, 10:58 PM

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Originally Posted by tiolaixiong

Sound scary got to diy for 2 yrs ,i support u eat outside bro kenergy like some bro says here if the wife go thru the motion mode lie still cant wait for u to finish it they feel like fulfilling the duty i rather not to have sex it really felt like an insult ,to be frank if i am in your sitution 100 percent i eat outside

I agree. Nowadays when I heard faster la,can you faster get it done and over with. I'll retract my little bro. If sex is about routine, might as well I go stroke myself. At least I still can fantasies pretty woman with a CFM look.

jameschong1 · #51 06-11-2011, 11:08 PM

[QUOTE=ferragamo;6533813]Before marriage my wife was very active during sex, willing to try everything.
Now after marriage, especially after kids - the times we have sex, it is just going through the motion - strip, touch abit, insert, pump, cum
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u can try those japan games like whipping her, tie her up & sex

alec · #52 06-11-2011, 11:22 PM

Same here, I tried to be a loving n patient hb for 2yrs, afterwhich, i got depressed over the situation and i was lost, and then someone from my past came up to me, willing to listen to my problems, gave mi hope and "counselling".... I feel for u bros as well!!!

frivolous_ami · #53 06-11-2011, 11:51 PM

Thats why i see marriage as losing its purpose and meaning in our time. For most of the time, it seems like a futile strive to make someone else happier. But what about oneself? Life is too short a time to be striving for ingrates. Hao ren mei hao bao.

I learnt my lesson without having to go into marriage. Everything about marriage with the ideal girl just fell apart when you know that it wont be the same always. Almost all gals i ever dated are really like what many guys are frightened of. ie high maintenance and all show but no go. Want do this, cannot. Want that also no. But die die want guy to pay. So many demands but hardly much reciprocation.

We know most gals are like that. Yet, as some bros said, there are guys who keep falling for the same thing.

My belief is, why bother. Time very scarce. Why waste on the wrong gals.

sgjoey · #54 07-11-2011, 05:22 AM

All bros ought to realise that frequency of sex between a couple really does depend a lot on chemistry. More precisely, it depends on the biochemistry of the brain -- the potent cocktail of hormones given off that make a couple want to go at each other. Unfortunately, it is perfectly natural that after a few years, the love hormones tend to drop considerably. Don't blame your wives -- this is a perfectly natural process.

Very often however, sperm continues to be produced, so many men in their thirties and beyond continue to have strong desires to have sex -- which their wives may not reciprocate.

The result in many cases is the male sex deficit -- which may be made up in several ways -- porn (usually accompanied by masturbation), affairs (and maybe separation and divorce) or commercial sex. Or simple resignation, and over time, the man's libido will also suffer a gradual drop.

That's life.

zacarie · #55 07-11-2011, 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by nuclearkid

After the marriage comes to a point when sex is a chore, its loses a part of itself. The intimacy is slowing dying and soon the couple will be sleeping in separate rooms. The logic that eludes me is why women, who are thought to be better at multitasking than men, can't perform a dual role optimally. After the kids are out, it seems like everything revolves around the little one(s). And if you've noticed, kids these days...many are brats that lack manners and courtesy. More often than not, you don't get a 'sorry' out of a kid knocking into you or holding the lift or door for the person behind. So, the women are hanging up their husbands to dry while focusing on their offspring. And some of them can't raise their children properly. What are they really good for? Taking nothing away, there are solid mothers around but that's the minority.

We women are supposedly good at multitasking.. So we're suppose to be able juggle between sex and the hubby. but the men are just tt good at multitasking.. they are juggling outside affair, work, marriage. They seem to like the many task on hand instead of having to just juggle work n marriage..
and bout holding the door.. My kids have held the door countless times for me to push the pram thru. I have able bodied man walk thru while he is holding n me on the other side. no word of thanks or help.. Which is .......

ferragamo · #56 07-11-2011, 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by muchunboy

Very sad that most brother here feels this way and had expressed themselves much better than me. Sex life screwed when just in early 30s. Go to FL also very pointless and shallow, just like buying a service. Does not address the emotional void.Only comfort is I'm not alone.

This is my exact same feeling... Many people say go FL etc.. It is very pointless , it will feel very empty and sad
And in fact makes you feel worse! Thinking why you have to be here instead of at home

I think a big percentage of men here do not wish to be like that, alot would rather have a satisfying sex life at home.. Sign

kateheartspade · #57 07-11-2011, 10:22 AM

Since the sex life suffers after having a kid, then don't have kids lor. Maybe I never liked kids, which is why I'm considering this option.

lightweaver · #58 07-11-2011, 12:05 PM

Feel for the ts. I do dread hvg kids too. Been with my gf n now wife for 10+yrs. We make out like 4/5 times a wk. Guess we practice scheduling sex where we need to get to bed by 11. After some foreplay or a light tease we alwas end up hvg. There was a period we always slept late n it dwindled. Set time for it. Also early in our r/s we both know sex matters and our house rules is whoever wants it gets it. The thing bout sex is the more u do the more u wan.

http://www.straightdopedad.com/keepi...with-children/

Mikesgch · #59 07-11-2011, 01:36 PM

Me too, before having kid, sex was ok. Over the years gradually, kid becomes the top priority and to her sex is nothing important! Dependjng her mood, probably once two weeks or a month. She no mood, even diy next to her and she simply lying beside you and continued to sleep or surf net. WTF! How not to eat out? Have been trying to loom for FB......maintain the family and also sextisfied!...

nuclearkid · #60 07-11-2011, 06:00 PM

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Originally Posted by zacarie

We women are supposedly good at multitasking.. So we're suppose to be able juggle between sex and the hubby. but the men are just tt good at multitasking.. they are juggling outside affair, work, marriage. They seem to like the many task on hand instead of having to just juggle work n marriage..
and bout holding the door.. My kids have held the door countless times for me to push the pram thru. I have able bodied man walk thru while he is holding n me on the other side. no word of thanks or help.. Which is .......

It appears my point was slightly taken off context, let me try it again. On the issue of multitasking, let's stick to the confines of this thread. Men who are philandering, or as you have euphemistically termed 'multitasking', outside are beyond this discussion. Though I would like to suggest that there are more than a handful of fellow bros who allude that eating outside is a consequence of starvation at home. Who's right, who's wrong, not for outsiders to judge.

When I spoke about courtesy/etiquette, I don't refer to your own kids. I would expect nothing less from mine when it comes to giving me a damn hand when I need it. I didn't raise a child to turn his back on me. The next time the opportunity crops up, like a child stepping on your foot or bumping into you as s/he plays on his/her little gadget, see if you get an apology out of them. Its rather ubiquitous these days, you'll get to test this out sooner rather than later. Many kids are scoring better in class but absolutely flunk the acid test of graceful behaviour in a social setting. Courtesy is somewhat a dying decorum in this country.

I am not trying to say that fathers are exonerated from this responsiblity, parenting is a joint effort. But considering the amount of air time some mothers are hogging with their kids (as testified by some guys in here), it would be easier for the guy to stomach the neglect he suffers if the kid was properly taught. He can say...at least the kid(s) is/are raised properly...the bloke is simply unfortunate collateral damage. But if the woman is doing a half-baked job of childraising while overlooking her other half, I go back to my earlier assertion...what is she really good for?

I share your irk in running into a guy that failed to recognise your gracious effort in holding the door for him. The next time a lady does that for me, I'll be sure to PM you to thank you in blank and white, if its you!