Keeping A Mistress Abroad

[SioGan]

Wah lan eh! Hard to read leh, DuaKaTsua. Hokkien too chim for many here.

[virginboy]

Originally Posted by DuaKaTsua

TS Bro No One can Tell you what is rite anot. U got to decide or your ownself in the end. Can Not say go SBF got support use as EXCUSE for tis that decision you make. You can ask 1 million people but in end up onli ur ONE decision matter hope U understand.

Difficult to read your advice, but I can catch 70% of it. Thanks and I will think carefully again.

[label34]

Originally Posted by virginboy

...I don't know if this is really workable or am I asking for trouble. I like to hear from brothers who have such experience. Thanks!

Hi TS, just read your thread and here's my 2 cents:

My granddad kept his family in China a secret until his kids were all grown up and married. When my grandma found out, she was heartbroken. His kids were all disappointed in him as well. I, as his grandchild, am not very happy with what he did. Times may have been different back then, but he was definitely not forced into making this decision.

China side, his kids have only seen him once. Growing up without a father is painful, and knowing that their father is staying with another family in another country is even more painful. Needless to say, respect is lost as well. A father is merely a sentence that is used in the family, not someone that they see or know.

What's the gain in this situation? Kids from both families lose respect for you, and your wife will probably hate you for it. Not to mention the monetary and emotional burden on your shoulders when you have to support both sides.

Please look at the big picture while you make your decision.

[PuTonRen]

Originally Posted by label34

Hi TS, just read your thread and here's my 2 cents:

My granddad kept his family in China a secret until his kids were all grown up and married. When my grandma found out, she was heartbroken. His kids were all disappointed in him as well. I, as his grandchild, am not very happy with what he did. Times may have been different back then, but he was definitely not forced into making this decision.

China side, his kids have only seen him once. Growing up without a father is painful, and knowing that their father is staying with another family in another country is even more painful. Needless to say, respect is lost as well. A father is merely a sentence that is used in the family, not someone that they see or know.

What's the gain in this situation? Kids from both families lose respect for you, and your wife will probably hate you for it. Not to mention the monetary and emotional burden on your shoulders when you have to support both sides.

Please look at the big picture while you make your decision.

Brother,

A good and balanced view indeed. I hope the TS would now think twice.

[etct88]

Originally Posted by label34

Hi TS, just read your thread and here's my 2 cents:

My granddad kept his family in China a secret until his kids were all grown up and married. When my grandma found out, she was heartbroken. His kids were all disappointed in him as well. I, as his grandchild, am not very happy with what he did. Times may have been different back then, but he was definitely not forced into making this decision.

China side, his kids have only seen him once. Growing up without a father is painful, and knowing that their father is staying with another family in another country is even more painful. Needless to say, respect is lost as well. A father is merely a sentence that is used in the family, not someone that they see or know.

What's the gain in this situation? Kids from both families lose respect for you, and your wife will probably hate you for it. Not to mention the monetary and emotional burden on your shoulders when you have to support both sides.

Please look at the big picture while you make your decision.

powerful!

[label34]

Thanks, bros etct88 & PuTonRen Just hope TS won't repeat the same mistake.