I Cannot Believe My Eyes

[daggerboy]

Love is a very powerful thing. That is the reason behind the saying that "Love is blind". All normal standards of judgment cease to operate for those in love. William Shakespeare catches this in these few lines from A Midsummer Night's Dream:

"Love looks not with your eyes, but with the mind,
And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind."

[repsolman]

Originally Posted by Charmaine

I only hope people can see it from his emotional perspective and refrain from condemning, rediculing or judging this sorry case based on a narrow-minded viewpoint.

A*Star scholar or not, PRC plain-Jane or not, this was a young man who has never been in a previous relationship long enough to experience the pain, suffering and turmoil that bugs, bothers and hurts every one of us thoughout our own lives. Love is love and it reduces us all. Regardless of nationality, intellect or social standing, everybody is the same in the eyes of love. He fell in love for the first time and had to endure the pain of witnessing the only thing (to him anyway) that mattered most to him in his life being taken away by his best friend - that, no matter how you look at it, has to be hard to take. Does anyone remember how heartbroken they were when they finished their relationship with their first girlfriend? I'm sure all of us do - I for one remember every detail distinctly. Your first love will always remain the sweetest and it stays with you for life. I remember when I lost my first girlfriend, I cried like a girl, talked to my parents everyday about it (yes lame, but I was only 15 then) and entertained the thought of suicide. Yes, it did cross my mind. I'm glad I never went through with it, but I really feel for this guy as his story is not a unique one - the only difference was, he decided to go ahead with it.

Love is a strange thing. I hope he finds peace. Human beings long for love their entire lives, even more so that they do money, because this is the only one thing money can never buy, and many have died or killed in a bid to find it. Sometimes you do, sometimes you don't. Most of the time, though, we're all slaves to this thing called love. As much as I admire the big-balls, ego-maniac talk that many forummers here like to proclaim, the fact will remain that all of us have a beating human heart, and we spend our lives looking for that someone to love and to love us back that same way. In the meantime, we die.

Power!!!

[repsolman]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Y jump? Cos no book can teach him the winning formula.....so die lor!
Y pity 1 that does not even treasure his own life?
Not ridicule, just my personal stand, like i said, parents i pity, this kinda kid, die also better.....or else will be useless to family n society!

Wah, people die still tok until like dat...
why so mean n heart so black one...

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by repsolman

Wah, people die still tok until like dat...
why so mean n heart so black one...

Expression of one's tot does that doesn't coincide wif yours does not constitute to being mean or unreasonable.
Yes he's dead, too bad.....heart mean & black????? No no, it's called 认事不认人.
In life, we have to be clear when to apply or release our emotions and when not to release or let go any.
This kinda fellow falls under 有些人值得同情而有些人根本不值得你去同情.
To his parents, yes, please do but to him, no need la!
He already dun respect his own life you so heart felt for wat???
I'd rather feel sad for the dog that got knocked down by the car!
Why? Cos it didnt choose to die at its own WILL but that clown did!

[mike1304k]

Life is a very precious commodity that cannot be even priced. The guy had a tough break, but then that is life. Dying is easy, but living for some reason, finding the reason to live, is hard.

In so saying, the parents of this guy must have sacrificed a lot for him. No matter how brainy or talented a guy is, the start must have been hard for the parents. Perhaps his parents may be rich... I don't know. But then their dreams, their future, their investment..... all gone at the spur of a moment. This is like having your whole world torn down in one instant and you cannot get enough to even think of rebuilding. Death is permanent.... Death solves nothing.

[repsolman]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Expression of one's tot does that doesn't coincide wif yours does not constitute to being mean or unreasonable.
Yes he's dead, too bad.....heart mean & black????? No no, it's called ¤‹
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In life, we have to be clear when to apply or release our emotions and when not to release or let go any.
This kinda fellow falls under ›º<—Å ›º9,
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To his parents, yes, please do but to him, no need la!
He already dun respect his own life you so heart felt for wat???
I'd rather feel sad for the dog that got knocked down by the car!
Why? Cos it didnt choose to die at its own WILL but that clown did!

Please refer Charmaine's post

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by repsolman

Please refer Charmaine's post

I have read his post but i will not look and feel the emotional strain that fella had!
Why?
How many of us did not end up wif our 1st true love?
How many of us lost our 1st true love to another man?
How many of us didnt feel like dying after that happened to us?
How many of us are reading this now?
Why, yes, many felt like dying, but they chose to brave the storm........

[repsolman]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

I have read his post but i will not look and feel the emotional strain that fella had!
Why?
How many of us did not end up wif our 1st true love?
How many of us lost our 1st true love to another man?
How many of us didnt feel like dying after that happened to us?
How many of us are reading this now?
Why, yes, many felt like dying, but they chose to brave the storm........

Honestly, I enjoy reading your posts.
u r strong and powerful, and it's hard for u to understand there are emotionally and mentally weak people in the world.
It takes all kinds to make this world...
but these lost souls don't 'deserve' it lah...

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by repsolman

Honestly, I enjoy reading your posts.
u r strong and powerful, and it's hard for u to understand there are emotionally and mentally weak people in the world.
It takes all kinds to make this world...
but these lost souls don't 'deserve' it lah...

I totally agree wif you that there's all kinds of different souls on this earth.
As to strong or powerful, no la, me just a simple RETIRED or UNEMPLOYED man.......
To hard to understand there are emotionally & mentally weak people...well maybe yes or no.
Most here are matured adults, of cos, there are those who are matured by age but brains still infants la hahahahahaha...we know who they are hehehehe
k back to topic
My earlier post already spelled everything out clearly.
We all suffer but suffering is all part and parcel of life......and best is, is we all face life positively, accept and learn to live with the pain and suffering, then, isnt that suppose to be called growing up?

As to why i dun pity them, its because to choose not to face life but run away from it......this, in all religion, is the mother of all mortal sin!

Well, like a bro posted, maybe if he knew SBF earlier, we cud have saved his sorry ass.....ah well......
Cheers bro...and yes, I'm not the type to pity easily cos i tend to see through plots very easily & understand why so & so is at what state then & now no matter how hard they try to portray a strong front or wear a nice mask!

[Panamera]

I believe that the very person who takes his own life also may, at the moment of decision, only be partially aware of his reasons for doing so.

Strained relationships - He feel frustrated and angry because his psychological need to be understood and loved is not being met

Loss - Loss of a dream and a significant relationship (see "Identification," below)

Identification - He has made a deep emotional commitment to that person adn the loss of that person caused significant emotional trauma

Unbearable psychological pain - The psychological suffering became so unbearable that he desperately wanted a way to escape

Mental constriction - Lacking the ability to think creatively about his problems. Instead, his thinking becomes rigid, his focus narrows, and he begin to think more and more concretely, without the ability to imagine many different solutions. Suicide suddenly looks like the only solution

Inability to adjust - An inability to fit in to live life without a loved one Considering hinself too weak to overcome difficulties, he reject every option except death.

That there is more to life than we have been taught in school. There seems to be a yearning - to connect with ourselves, to connect with others in a place of safety and vulnerability - to be all that we know we can be ~ and yet a part of us has forgotten the path to take.

In fact many of us never even knew there was a path and so we have been walking or running up one road, only to find a dead end, or more painfully, we are afraid to move at all and so we remain stagnant, stuck and fractured ~ believing that this is all there is - Death

Do I think if suicide is a selfish act? Boy, this is a loaded question..I keep the answer in my heart...

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Nothing in life justifies suicide.
NOTTIN!!!!!!!
Loss a loved one......MOVE ON
Millionaire.........Bankrupt....CLIMB BACK UP AGAIN
Loss family in disaster.........LIVE ON

To me...its only 1 reason...MENTALITY!
One who take his/her own life has done the right thing, they dun deserve to be around......

[Panamera]

Loss a loved one......MOVE ON..
Our Heart must go on...it is as big as the universe to have plently of love - Love for parents, Love for friends, Love for the living, Love for new sex partners..

Millionaire.........Bankrupt....CLIMB BACK UP AGAIN
Its only money and status, ONCE DEAD, YOU'RE BANKRUPT FOR LIFE, Real Money is definately more useful and practical than Paper Money.Think of the people who have caused you to this state and who have laughed at you....This is definately a booster to live and make back double the amount lost or gone.....

Loss family in disaster.........LIVE ON..
We need to be living to REMEMBER them, to keep them ALIVE in our heart and this is what they want us to do!

To me...its only 1 reason...MENTALITY!
Love yourself

They are regretting in hell now..Thats why when people jump, they scream because halfway down, they regretted....its like a flashback...

My 1st sighting of a suicide was when I was in Primary 3, we were lining-up for recess and saw a woman on top of a HDB roof opposite our school, she looked down and she jumped..I never forget her scream...I told my classmate who was holidng my little hand, She is a coward....she has the courage to jump but no courage to live and face the world...It does seems more painful with your brain busted.. Yup, these were the exact words I used..

[fee3fow]

Ya people should never commit suicide. Remember no matter how bad the situation you are in today, as long as you are alive, there is still a chance no matter how small that tomorrow will be better.

[Tony Stark]

Originally Posted by ptgary

A*Star scholar commits suicide over PRC girl

A*Star scholar commits suicide over PRC girl : The Singapore Enquirer: An independent online news daily

Sad for this lad. If he had been to PRC land to cheong or gamble in Macau casinos and bath in Macau saunas before I'm sure he'll not be that foolish.

Originally Posted by BKnight

Having said, all these, I do love my Country, Singapore and will sacrifice my life in defending this great tiny nation…So Say We All !!!!

Let's not be naive.

https://www.cia.gov/library/publicat.../print/sn.html

Population: 4,608,167 (July 2008 est.)

Manpower fit for military service: males age 16-49: 1,038,603 (2008 est.)

There's about 1 million foreigners working and living in Singapore. Which means that include PRs and WP holders? So 1 million pink IC holders defending another 2.6 million pink IC holders and 1 million blue IC and WP holders. Haha. The figures speak for itself. Population for Singapore is every 3.6 Singapore Citizens = 1 Foreigner. What a joke.

Originally Posted by Panamera

My 1st sighting of a suicide was when I was in Primary 3,

I can't even remember what I did when I was in Primary 4.

[xyz1001]

Originally Posted by mike1304k

In so saying, the parents of this guy must have sacrificed a lot for him. No matter how brainy or talented a guy is, the start must have been hard for the parents. Perhaps his parents may be rich... I don't know. But then their dreams, their future, their investment..... all gone at the spur of a moment. This is like having your whole world torn down in one instant and you cannot get enough to even think of rebuilding. Death is permanent.... Death solves nothing.

That's why as a parent, i think character building is the most impt task.
Teach him how to fish, not keep giving the best fishes u can find.
In life, must be a fighter, not a quitter. Life will just keep pushing u around and u are in your current situation becoz u allow it to happen.
Every setback is meant to make u stronger, every time u pull yourself, u grow. They are never meant to kill u. When the going get tough, the tough gets going.

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Nothing in life justifies suicide.
NOTTIN!!!!!!!
Loss a loved one......MOVE ON
Millionaire.........Bankrupt....CLIMB BACK UP AGAIN
Loss family in disaster.........LIVE ON

To me...its only 1 reason...MENTALITY!
One who take his/her own life has done the right thing, they dun deserve to be around......

Super agreed.
In fact, i disagree with the saying 士可杀,不可辱.
As long as i live, i get the chance to see how the humiliation is paid back ten folds. Coz 大丈夫能曲能伸. Yes it all bores down to mentality.

Originally Posted by fee3fow

Ya people should never commit suicide. Remember no matter how bad the situation you are in today, as long as you are alive, there is still a chance no matter how small that tomorrow will be better.

If it is really so bad, it couldn't get any worse, so tmr will DEFINITELY be better ya BUT u need to be alive to be able to see the many wonderful things that has yet to come.