woes of a tirak

Originally Posted by witz78

I feel the same way as you too. Kind of think that i m an errand boy running errands for my tirak. Heard she sick, help her buy medicine. She called say she want to eat food, then buy for her. Somemore i have to deliberately make a trip down to GL just to pass her the stuffs she want. Now that i remember that she only calls me when she needs me to do something for her and not to chat or what. Feeling kind of sad about it but when i see her smile during my visits i seem to forget all my sadness. I guess i also need therapy too.

Why pay money to be in a relationship and be treated like shit ? What have you got in return? But if you are playing a game with her, you play the victim now. When the time is right, turn the table around. Of course you must have the heart(or not) to do it. You can ask SC for more regarding this .

[Bangkok Master]

Originally Posted by witz78

I feel the same way as you too. Kind of think that i m an errand boy running errands for my tirak. Heard she sick, help her buy medicine. She called say she want to eat food, then buy for her. Somemore i have to deliberately make a trip down to GL just to pass her the stuffs she want. Now that i remember that she only calls me when she needs me to do something for her and not to chat or what. Feeling kind of sad about it but when i see her smile during my visits i seem to forget all my sadness. I guess i also need therapy too.

Dun worry, you think you are sick, there ppl worse than you even suffering on mental sickness which no medicine can cured. You already dive into the game and your heart is already locked on to her so tell us what you want to do? Probably is that you get all the LOVE which you hadn't experienced before or you are one of a kind of devoted cheongster.It's part of tirakship that you need to go through all these trials and tribulations so either one day you wake up and decided to stop all these shit or you carry on and hopefully a miracle will be created.Nobody can stop u..............Only u can save yourself!

[peterfish]

Originally Posted by Bangkok Master

Dun worry, you think you are sick, there ppl worse than you even suffering on mental sickness which no medicine can cured.

Who is that person???

[norigo77]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

U went through 9 previous ones and all are Cat40?

ME going through Num6 now. Only 4 are Cat40

SC

No, the 1st was an FL. The 7th was a MP girl. The rest are cat40. But basically all are thai girls except for this 10th one.

I'm sure you'll catch up with me very soon.

[witz78]

Originally Posted by sex_maniac2

Why pay money to be in a relationship and be treated like shit ? What have you got in return? But if you are playing a game with her, you play the victim now. When the time is right, turn the table around. Of course you must have the heart(or not) to do it. You can ask SC for more regarding this .

The problem is that i dont have the heart to do like you say. Everynite i was hoping that she will call me and when she dont i feel sad. Then when she finally called, she was asking when m i going to ON with her and remind me to buy her favourite food the next time i visit her.

[willywee]

[QUOTE=witz78. I guess i also need therapy too.[/QUOTE]

wow... u have it bad, bro. everyone seems to think that u are being taken advantage of... perhaps u shd reconsider

[witz78]

Originally Posted by Bangkok Master

Dun worry, you think you are sick, there ppl worse than you even suffering on mental sickness which no medicine can cured. You already dive into the game and your heart is already locked on to her so tell us what you want to do? Probably is that you get all the LOVE which you hadn't experienced before or you are one of a kind of devoted cheongster.It's part of tirakship that you need to go through all these trials and tribulations so either one day you wake up and decided to stop all these shit or you carry on and hopefully a miracle will be created.Nobody can stop u..............Only u can save yourself!

I guess i m hoping that she will at least treat me nicer. She's my 1st tirak and after i met her, i stopped going for other WL in GL. I ever tried twice with other WL when she's not working and the feeling is totally different. So i gave up going to other WL other than her. Although now that i became a regular, i dont get the sweet tender loving treatment. Instead i feel that the relationship became rather complicated and i dunno how to handle it. We became more like buddy, she wont act innocent or sweet in front of me and sometimes she can be rather rough. Sometimes she will share with me some of her personal stuffs and etc. I m not hoping for a miracle to happen cos i once told her frankly that i dunno how far i can go for her. This was when she shared with me that some other customer told her that they want to marry her and follow her to Thailand.

Originally Posted by witz78

The problem is that i dont have the heart to do like you say. Everynite i was hoping that she will call me and when she dont i feel sad. Then when she finally called, she was asking when m i going to ON with her and remind me to buy her favourite food the next time i visit her.

Are you here to look for solutions to your misery or are you here to seek comfort?

I think first of all you have to know why you feel the way you feel now. Despite how she had treated you, you still continue to let her do it to you. She must be damn charming. (does she have those dolls by her beside?? ) You are thinking of her all the time because you dont have other girls to think of. Try not to put all your eggs in one basket because you will feel very bad if one day she says she dont want to see you anymore. So in the mean time, go find another girl so you dont focused so much on the current one.

Which house is this girl from? PM me if you dont want to let the world know.

Originally Posted by witz78

I guess i m hoping that she will at least treat me nicer. She's my 1st tirak and after i met her, i stopped going for other WL in GL. I ever tried twice with other WL when she's not working and the feeling is totally different. So i gave up going to other WL other than her. Although now that i became a regular, i dont get the sweet tender loving treatment. Instead i feel that the relationship became rather complicated and i dunno how to handle it. We became more like buddy, she wont act innocent or sweet in front of me and sometimes she can be rather rough. Sometimes she will share with me some of her personal stuffs and etc. I m not hoping for a miracle to happen cos i once told her frankly that i dunno how far i can go for her. This was when she shared with me that some other customer told her that they want to marry her and follow her to Thailand.

I think hope is what is keeping you in this relationship. Sometimes they also try to give you hope (false hope), talk about the future etc so that you look forward to that day (which may not happen). This kind of make you hang on to the relationship.

Do you remember why you like her in the first place? It's because of the feeling she gave you, sweet, tender loving treatment. Now that she is no longer giving you this treatment, why are you staying on? U are emotionally attached to her and it will take some time for you to detached from her emotionally. Dont hope that she will treat you better. She will only treat you worse.

Bro, it;s difficult, but you have to do it. It's like kicking a drug habit...

[siamcutey]

Originally Posted by norigo77

No, the 1st was an FL. The 7th was a MP girl. The rest are cat40. But basically all are thai girls except for this 10th one.

I'm sure you'll catch up with me very soon.

Very soon, I will hit 10 at the rate I am going.
Every single one is a different experience.

Guess what, My friend is going through his 5th or 6th currently and he only started 1-2 years ago. At the rate he is going, he is going to get his PHD faster than me.

SC

[siamcutey]

Originally Posted by witz78

The problem is that i dont have the heart to do like you say. Everynite i was hoping that she will call me and when she dont i feel sad. Then when she finally called, she was asking when m i going to ON with her and remind me to buy her favourite food the next time i visit her.

Wah, sad to tell you the truth, I don't think she love you.

You see, why do men carry on the relationship when many a times they know it will lead to no where. Different people have different purposes.

But for you, I can read you.

You think you have spent a lot of time, effort, money in this relationship hoping to make it work. Our singaporean mindset teaches us to persevere, but its used in the wrong scenario(meaning to say in this tirak relationship)

And often its because of the above reasons, carrying on seems the wisest thing to do cos you take a gamble and you think you might see miracles. But the truth is, you are just a gambler while you are dealing with house. A gambler will win if he places his bets and bet over a short period of time. As time passes, his percentage of winning goes lower and lower and the house chance of winning gets higher and higher. Until it reaches a point of time, every bet you make loses money.

Take for example, you start up a business with $50K. After 2 years, you realised you have been making losses n losses. By continuing with the business, you might be declared bankrupt or things might take a change for the better.

Which scenario will you take?

1.To continue the business and hope things change for the better. However being declared a bankrupt is a high possibility. If things could change for the better, no need to wait for 2 years too

or

2. To wind up the business and start all over again.


Let me tell you, the path which you are choosing now is Path 1. That is what many are doing. Wait and HOPE.

But the truth is the ones who really know how to think straight is to take up Path 2.

SC

[ruhua]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

Which scenario will you take?

1.To continue the business and hope things change for the better. However being declared a bankrupt is a high possibility. If things could change for the better, no need to wait for 2 years too

or

2. To wind up the business and start all over again.


Let me tell you, the path which you are choosing now is Path 1. That is what many are doing. Wait and HOPE.

But the truth is the ones who really know how to think straight is to take up Path 2.

SC

Just like in all investments and business strategies. Must know when to cut losses. As long as you're still breathing. The mountain will rise again one day. I'll retreat into the Chiang Mai mountains very soon and seek new inspirations and ideas in the peaceful surroundings. When you can find peace in yourself. You can accomplish anything. Haha.

[Bangkok Master]

Originally Posted by peterfish

Who is that person???

Hahaha............you were hoping me to start the new season is it? No lah, just rephrasing the examples only! The truth is there are really ppl who are really involved dramatically like my friend who is suffering from ATS "After Tirak Syndrome" totally loss in life, last time I also almost into level 9 luckily bailed out just in time after reaching level 7. I'm sure that there are brothers who are into this category now or before but I'm sure that everyone will learn after experiences so it's whether you want to seek love from WL again.

[Bangkok Master]

Originally Posted by witz78

I guess i m hoping that she will at least treat me nicer. She's my 1st tirak and after i met her, i stopped going for other WL in GL. I ever tried twice with other WL when she's not working and the feeling is totally different. So i gave up going to other WL other than her. Although now that i became a regular, i dont get the sweet tender loving treatment. Instead i feel that the relationship became rather complicated and i dunno how to handle it. We became more like buddy, she wont act innocent or sweet in front of me and sometimes she can be rather rough. Sometimes she will share with me some of her personal stuffs and etc. I m not hoping for a miracle to happen cos i once told her frankly that i dunno how far i can go for her. This was when she shared with me that some other customer told her that they want to marry her and follow her to Thailand.

IMO,I think you're a case of "ONE-SIDED LOVE" so attracted to her even you can die for her. But look at the facts that you mentioned, she can even tell that somebody else is offering to marry her, so do you think she's your tirak after all? I think you are more of an obedient customer to her rather than the ONE she loves. The trick is that once they know that they can chiak you gao gao, they take advantage of you. Maybe I miss out some of those better moments that both of you spent together as I'm not involved but based on these facts, you can ask her to buzz off from your life already. Okay it's easier said than done but just think of your future and your family, do you want your family to know that you are suffering? Or are you wasting too much time on her rather than something more important to be achieve in life?

Although I agreed all men who fall into this category will have this small hope in their mind that what if she changes her mind and be with you rite? But to tell the fact is that you stand at 5%, maybe even lesser. If you want to convenice yourself, I suggest you make an appointment with a fortune teller in Upper Serangoon Rd next to Upper Serangoon Shopping Centre(he was recommanded by a celebrity who is my friend) who is quite accurate reading on relationship, just get your tirak's birthday and time of birth and yours and see him, he will work it out whether are you compatible with her, this is not a joke as for those who believe like me and my friends who had seek advise from him can get valuable advises.

[peterfish]

Originally Posted by Bangkok Master

Hahaha............you were hoping me to start the new season is it? .

What new season? Now still in the current season. Haven't play finished yet. Anyway don't need me or you to start, somehow others will start. Just a matter of time.
FYI someone zapped 1 pt from me just for asking that question. Anyway you know i know, that's all that matter.