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She probably wasn't ready to commit or couldn't see herself spending the rest of your lives together. Or maybe her heart was captured by someone else (that friend that you don't think will get with her?).
Move on.
Chiong to forget faster
Agree! N u seem to be spamming "matter of heart" section btw nice colour of phone
haha ya u late boomer and TS...! Why u so young in here?
There's even a 21 y.o. in this forum with 3000 posts boasting he stays in a landed property in District 10, has $1.45 million and is the top 1% income earner. Still in NS (and he purposely omits to say it's his father's money) but he is busy dishing out life's advice on how to manage cost of living. Kids these days are amazing.
There's even a 21 y.o. in this forum with 3000 posts boasting he stays in a landed property in District 10, has $1.45 million and is the top 1% income earner. Still in NS (and he purposely omits to say it's his father's money) but he is busy dishing out life's advice on how to manage cost of living. Kids these days are amazing.
Wah really? Where to sign up for advice haha this generation no horse run
There's even a 21 y.o. in this forum with 3000 posts boasting he stays in a landed property in District 10, has $1.45 million and is the top 1% income earner. Still in NS (and he purposely omits to say it's his father's money) but he is busy dishing out life's advice on how to manage cost of living. Kids these days are amazing.
Mojoe313, I know who you are referring to but seriously, you should have just stop it at "There's even a 21 y.o. in this forum"
You may not agree with him but that doesnt mean that there should be a spillover effect from your 2 threads.
Wah really? Where to sign up for advice haha this generation no horse run
LoL. Bo bey zhao lor. Look around to find him. Nowadays 16 y.o. even more hiong. Challenge govt with free speech. I think when I was 16, I was just trying to figure out how come got hair suddenly grow under my armpit lor.
LoL. Bo bey zhao lor. Look around to find him. Nowadays 16 y.o. even more hiong. Challenge govt with free speech. I think when I was 16, I was just trying to figure out how come got hair suddenly grow under my armpit lor.
In my personal opinion I think is fine. Teen n youth is the perfect time to make mistakes. They don't test n make mistakes now, how to understand life n come up with right methods for future? They are going to Mars someday. U have no idea what they need to do for survival when we are gone. Don't box them up. Guide them n let them explore what we can only imagine. They will need to guide the next generation who are flying off to outerspace. Let them enjoy their youthfulness n silly things Human do during that age. I wish my parents didn't bring me in their method. Which is girls no need high education la. My two elder Bros studied till primary 4. I made it to A level but not allow to go on to uni. Must work n help out at housework after sch. Not allow to get tuition also. Haiz. And at 18 I got to know my ex husband and everyone push us to marry. Haiz. And after child is born to support my husband career I became a homemaker. Haiz. Although financially I'm getting reasonable money, I'm not poor, but I want a career!!!!I want I want I want.
Hi samster ,
My girlfriend left me , we've been together for really long .
She left suddenly few day after celebrating my birthday in m hotel for three days . We've great plans , I love her .
People asked , are you gonna marry her .
I'd say yes of course !
They say that it takes two hands to clap but sometimes only one hand does the job. Sorry to hear about the sad news on your end and, like most samsters advised you, you are still young and need to move one. From what your wrote, it seems like your girlfriend had already made plans for the break up prior to spending time with you at M Hotel. One reason, of her spending 3 days with you was more of trying to lighten her conscience and not spoil your birthday. I can understand that it is not only an emotional break up for you but your pride also comes in the picture because you have already told others that you are going to marry her.
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That day she texted me , she wanna break up.
I couldn't accept it , I went bonker .
I went bonker for a week , she just couldn't bothered to even see my message .
She told me she moved on and I should too .
It will be harder on you because the news is rather abrupt for you but for her, it may have been a process where she pondered and gave much thought over the relationship. So, it was a gradual process for her.
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I did everything I can to chase her back , but she wouldn't give me a chance .
If she is no longer interested in the relationship, then there is no point in trying to have her back because relationship is a commitment from both parties. Love has to be given voluntarily and not of obligations.
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We've provlem in our relationship , I'm still serving army .
Gonna ord soon , she's been through with me for so long .
So much stuff we've been thru but she doesn't seems to give no fuck about me anymore .
I would say, having problem(s) in a relationship is normal. The most important thing is how you resolve the differences.
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I asked her you were fine on my birthday , but what happen? She said she wasn't fine for a very long time .
We usually fight quarrel and we didn't solve it and just swept it under the rug .
Unresolved issues in relationships is not a healthy sign as it tends to accumulate and it reaches a point where one party will have to withdraw. In my view, this may be one of the reason where the issues became larger than the relationship. She may or may not have found someone but probably, the unresolved issue(s) were too much for her to handle. I cannot comment much because what is written here is just from your perspective and I wouldn't like to say too much on her.
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What I really wish to say is ,
Guys , whether girlfriend or wife .
Please treat them better, cause If they left you.
They ain't coming back , onces a lady moved on . There's nothing much you can do . It hurts , so bad .
There are cases, where the one who walked out of the door, is the one to return after realizing that what (rather 'who') they left behind is what have been searching for. Sometimes it takes a bad relationships to value past relationship. I am not saying that your ex-girlfriend walked out on you because of someone but just highlighting the fact that there are cases where people do come back. Hey, we are all humans and prone to wrong judgments. It is whether we are willing to accept our mistakes and swallow our pride and go back to where we once came came and also for the other party to accept the other one who came back home, knowing that we are humans and we do make some big mistakes in life.
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Her stuff and everything is in my place but will be slowly taken back to her plce , I haven't had the chance to see her or talk to her properly yet.
When she do come to take her stuffs, don't ask why and what happened, as that will not help. Just treat her well and help her with her things and inquiry about how she is doing and try to have a casual talk on her subject of interests. I don't see much help if you try to rake up some good old memories.
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She's tired of me , sick I would say.
The window of chance she's giving me right now is zero.
She's a tough lady. Very got character type ..
But when we were together , she's very loving and soft .. Cute .
Now that she's gone , I realise my mistake too late .
I'm 23 this year , we've come such a long way only to be swept awy . Breaking up is not easy, I've been thru a lot .
But this time , it's didferent .
Breaking up from a relationship is never easy as it involves many things (mental, emotional and physical connections).
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I'd be different if I have another try , i really will.
But I guess she had moved on. There's nothing I can do , I probably screwed up even more . Spamming her message everyday , she didn't read . Just open my whatsapp chat to clear off notification . I wish she'd have just block me .
But I know she know I might go crazy and spam her text message . So either way blocking wouldn't solve it .
I wouldn't spam her with messages as it will only annoy her more. Give her space and respect her decision. After the storm has calmed down (you are emotional calmed down and can reason properly), you may like to check with her.
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This would be my greatest regret to ever have her leaving me , I wish I could make it up to her but I just couldn't anymore . My friend all told me , just move on. Buts it's hard , it's never easy. We had so much stuff together , I've been in lots of relationship. But I guess reaching such a age , breaking up is really hard . It hurts , it hurts to know that there's so much we could have archive together but because of my neglection she's gone .
I know that it is easier said than done to advise someone to move on in these matters but, to be honest, that is a practical solution. Memories can play a big role with our emotions. I lost a close family member of mine few months back and, even now, tears would swell up when I think of those good old days when we were kids. Unfortunately, memories are there to stay, unless some sickness were to wipe that out, but I wouldn't want that. Breaking relationships hurts but to lose a loved one never to see again, in this life is grieve beyond words. Do I dwell in my past, reminiscing the good times all the time and hinder my present or do I move on with my life? Life is too short, so make the best use of it and without REGRETS.
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I can't help but to blame NS , I took her for granted ...
Hmm... Putting the blame on someone or something is like not taking responsibilities for one's own action. There is no harm or shame in admitting when one has erred. You have already mentioned that you have been negligent or issues that were not resolved, so it was a case where you failed to see the writings on the wall. Like the stand-up comedian Russell Peters says, 'Be a man'. Is it also the reason why you have been in multiple relationships?
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Guys please cherish your gf, Chiong is Chiong but don't forget to Hong your girlfriend occasionally ..
It hurt so much ..
Cherish the present moments with your near and dear ones (friends, family members, relatives..etc), not only with your girlfriend or boyfriend.
We've quarrel time n again , it's always trust issue .
It's my fault I over think everytime , yet everytime she'd give me the chance to make it up. We make up together yet we didn't talk or try to solve it , we knew this provlem exist .
I was so blinded that I didn't care .
Now that I realise , I lost her , and I'm too late ..
We plan to marry in future but not so soon, but then again it doesn't matter anymore .
It hurt so bad ..
There's so many thing we say we would do after I ord , I feel that it's such a waste . We were a perfect couple , but I screw it up.
There is nothing like a perfect couple. Those are media hypes and people follow that cliche. How would one define a perfect couple? You ask different people, they will have different responses. What perfection do you expect from two imperfect beings coming together?
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I waited for her , but she will never let me see her . Sigh it hurts , I know she had moved on. I guess I'll need time . It hurt so bad , I wet my pillow ..
Now we are yet, stranger again..
For whatever reason(s), you consider her to be the perfect one for you, if she is someone worth waiting for, then wait more, otherwise, move on with your life.
Thank you guys, she didn't have a BF , which i strongly believe so.
This isn't my first love either, have been in multiple relationship.
I beleive why it hurt so bad cause, we're both adults,doing adults thing together and probably , have had plans already for future, for the both of us.
Justl ooking back, it's such a waste, such a pity, we could have been better if we'd to resolve that one problem that had been bugging me.
Shouldn't you be grateful that she walked out before marriage? It would been even worse, if she did after marriage?
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She ignore me for a week now, refusing to see me for five mins or whatsoever, i belive she's really gone.
She moved on with the help of her one good friend, its a guy.
We used to hang out tgt when i was with her. But the guy treat her good, and i know they wouldn't be together.
Since you have common friends, I guess you will bump into each other in gatherings. If you do, my advice would be not to chase her down and rake up the issue. The moment you try to get back to the issue, it will only make her uncomfortable and make her want to avoid you even more. Treat her with respect and have a casual talk, like on her subject of interests, her work (if she is working), her family members (if you have meet them during the relationship) etc. That will be a good way to break the ice with her again, provided that you still want to get in touch with her, though it will take time.
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I'd be better, i will to.
My NS life revolve around her, now that she's gone , im utterly lonely.
I rode a bike, so whenever i got on my bike, I tend to just miss her.
Lonely? I am not sure what is the actual reason behind you taking the failure of this relationship so seriously, as compared to others. You did mentioned that you have become and adult in this relationship. I think there is more that what is written here. Anyway, brace yourself for more of life's ups and downs.
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But i know i have to get thru this no matter what, she doesnt want me anymore. It hurts of course.. i wish we could talk it out and split happily.
It's hard for a ex lover to become friends, but i wish i could be hers.
Why do you want to be hers? Can't she be yours? Just a thought.
Take life as it comes - there are many uncertainties in our lives and I guess, that is the beauty of it and that is one reason why we should not take it for granted. There is a reason why things happen to us. We may not see or understand that now, but it do shape and mold us in a manner that will help us in the coming days. Maybe, one day, you will look behind over your shoulder and appreciate even the things that were hard on you at that time. Cheer up! There is so much life waiting ahead of you, since you are only 23, so don't waste that. Go ahead and make full use of it but without further 'REGRETS'. All the best with your life!
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Faster? Fresher? Are you'll referring to relationship or riding? So dirty minded de
fresh(er) is not dirty word but gives you a fresh feelings...
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13-05-2015, 07:02 PM
btw nice colour of phone 
