I guess I am just a lost boy seeking for some advice, please bear with my inexperience and slight stupidity and ignorance if there are any.
To all uncles, well Kor Kors too if you are unmarried or just older than me but prefers Kor Kor over uncle, I am here to seek for advice as I have stated as of above. It will not be in any form related to sex, yes although this is a sex forum, but I believe the fact that people from all aspects of life had gathered here. Hence, I believe I can understand or even solve my problem/situation using different point of views.
My first “situation” is the fact that somehow, I’ve met an older “sis” (she is 18/19 by the way, and I am 15) online, since this March. She was a mutual friend but we got better. She is really nice to me. However, ignores me half the time and was kind of “cold” towards me. Most of the time, she just talk to people of her same age or older online. There was once I remembered why she boasted in-front of me, she said it was because I am special to her (do not really get it also). For a period of time, while I was asking her about choosing subject combination and all, she likes (or just being an ass) to end her sentence of with, “kid”. And I almost met her once in real life, because I was looking for a tutor and she turned out to me one. However, distance kept us apart, as the time consumed traveling is just too great. (She did say we will meet when we are older, but wouldn’t that make her even older? (Before asking her to be my tutor)) By the way, she did gave me her number and the fact that somehow I managed to find her private Twitter account, she allowed me to follow her on it too.
Does it really mean anything to her of what her actions had done?
The other issue comes, is somehow I am having feelings for her for no exact reason that even I myself doesn’t seems to be able to justify. I did try to forget thinking about her, since March. But it was getting harder and somehow I thought of her daily. And will anything happen to both of us eventually?
The second “issue” is the fact that all my friends in school are somehow “fake” are “mask” wearers, in the sense that, they will only come to me when they need my help. Which really sucks for me, as even during recess and projects the feeling of getting abandoned just doesn’t feels nice at all. And the fact that I will be with the same bunch of people or “clique” if you would like to call it, next year.
The third “problem”, I never had a girlfriend before. I am curious why do I whenever treat my crushes nice, I just get “friendzoned” at the end of the day? And some guy got her the next? Or is it maybe the fact that I never have the balls to confess even till now?
The fourth “brain teaser” is the fact that I never really feel “stressed” during exams, but rather the fact that I am annoyed by it as things(revise, revise and more revision) is happening again. What’s more, especially next year I am going to be Sec 3, and will be taking on Triple Science and A+E Maths, most people (seniors) say it’s a tough workload just to be in a normal Sec 3 class. I am rather frustrated at the fact that there are so many more things to learn. I am happy that I will be learning more, new and interesting stuffs. But somehow it is getting the hang of me.
I do know that this problems might not seem much to people like you guys who had even went through worst, but as my life was pretty smooth in the past. This problems had made me unable enjoy my current life to the fullest.
What happened caused by the internet (situation No.1), I do hope to end it by the internet too. (Main reason I was here, because I do not wish to speak about this issue to my parents, as it will seem rather awkward to them.)
-PS- If anybody here somehow recognizes me, or thinks who you think I am, please just keep it to yourself. I believe what said on this forum, stays in this forum.
-PSPS- If the above mention subject on “situation No.1” had read this too, please do approach me if you know who I am, and let’s make this clear once and for all.
-PSPSPS- Sorry if I had posted in the wrong section of the forum, but I believe this section had the most active current user flow.
Last and of all, thank you for the fact that you had spent you time reading finish all this; in the same time I wishes I can get as many opinion on this as possible. As I hope to end all of this by 2011 and start fresh from 2012 onwards. And pardon me for my inability to grasp the full use of the English language.
cant be bothered to read all u wrote in details. personally speaking, just treat life as a game, dont be too emotionally attached to it.
for ur first situation, the girl aint interested in u, so move on, 'kid'
for ur second situation, be a leader n form ur own cligue, 'kid'
for ur third situation, fuck as many whores as possible, steal money frm ur parents, shoplift, or rob the bank with ur toy knife to get the cash to fuck whores. this will train u in some way, to be more confident with chicks n treat them as substitutable product.
for ur forth situation, well i went through it myself. did ten subjects in O levels n get straight As for all of them, O level is just about hardwork n practicing the ten year series. It's A level tt is harder in terms of content, and everything.
for ur pspsps or ps or whtever shit, just take back all of em. nobody gives a motherfucking them, tts the reason why u r treated like shit by ur 'girl' or friends. it's because u care too much too overly sensitive, u will never get chicks in this way.
lastly, i wish u all the best, cheers! ( stop surfing sex forum, stay off the com n study) n for goodness sake, dont post ur lameass prob here again
at teenage,it's normal to be interest in sex and about opposite sex
the girl that you mentioned didn't seem to be real keen to you
about the behavior of your friends or classmates, it is the same kind of 'world' outside your school
till now, at quite old age, I still have yet to have a real friend, meaning the type that I can turn to for help when I need it most
just a matter of luck, they say birds of the same feather flock together, when I look at the people who try to stick with me, I feel very ashamed of myself, I deserve better
as for difficulty in getting gf, don't push yourself too hard
if you want to be attractive to opposite sex, 1st make yourself interesting enough to the opposite sex - by cultivating wide interests, hobbies (maybe learning how to play some musical instruments), be enthusiastic when you decide to do certain things so that people around you will get 'infected' by your passion
Thank you very much for giving me such a clear analysis of my situation. Apreciated it very much, especially the fact that you had listed some personal experience of yours.
Do not worry sir, I won't be pushing myself hard on getting a girlfriend, because as of right now I am a student and my main pirorities are suppose to be in my studies.
To those who had left remarks on my post anonymously, I guess in a way I should thank you too. That infact, "scolding" or to be exact giving responses are a form of caring. I do thank you for that. But is there a need to remain anonymous?
I do hope, that I do not represent the failure of the current generation.
Laughing My Ass Off!!!!
Kid, sorry uncle here have no advice for you but this is a very interesting thread from a 15yo view of life nowadays; I actually read through it fully and find it quite amusing how you answer every post like you should do in an exam paper questionnaire
Sure, maybe there's nothing sexual about that 18yo zeh-zeh your met online, but can you tell all the uncles here why are you on this forum during this school holidays? U should be out there flying kites, shooting marbles or catching spiders la!
You serious? You need to quote the whole post in your reply when picking and choosing a few key areas will do?
Im about to veer off into my Patented American Gangsta Slang soon... gotta control it..... hmmm...
Dont deny it, you didnt jack off to the older "sis" since you admitted you had a crush on her and shit like that? She has the benefit of a few years and most boy - gal relationships IF estabished by the boy has SEX as an ultimate target.
oh homie, you's gotta a lot more exams to go thru, boy! see here, the Sin-ga-porean edu-cation-al system wants yáll to memorise, know what i's saying? yeah you's tired of it already, so you say.... plenty long road to go now, boy!!
focus completely on my studies in 2012 - huh... so after 31st dec 2011 you's not gonna post here anymore huh that obviates your opening an acct here and asking for advices... YOu say also your main priorities are SUPPOSED to be your studies... right.... so why the purpose of your opening post then? YOu been freindzoned too much, eh?
I scared you quote whole posst... so i better start another nao
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To elborate further on another fellow's post: in singapore the legal age to have sex is 16 (if for love) and 18 (if for money), so right now , cherry, if you popped your cherry - its quite possible that BOTH the FUCKER and the FUCKEE will be charged....
Disclaimer: SG Penal code defines sex as "oral or genital contact and/or penetration" and makes very little provision for the other categories of sexual gratification possible to a broadened mind (AHEM)
We could care less if you provided your crushee's number, the more seasoned one's of us know full well a number is of no use without proper backstory or other letters of introduction , so you can keep that...
Here's food for thought: your crushee will eventually get fucked or fuck someone in the future , but the chance of that person being you is right now abysmally low...
See if you can follow that train of thought to the nth degree.... dont!!!!!
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and find it quite amusing how you answer every post like you should do in an exam paper questionnaire
Sorry, but in what way is it amusing? I do talk in this sort of "exam paper questionnaire" format, when I'm talking to people I am not close with.
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but can you tell all the uncles here why are you on this forum during this school holidays?
Actually, it was around last week that I went to my friends house, and by accident found this site. Doesn't really interest me that much, but figured out since most probably a lot of adults are here, I can ask my questions.
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U should be out there flying kites, shooting marbles or catching spiders la!
Technically speaking, I am flying my RC plane, shooting guns on XBOX, and catching some random thing online too (another game). but afraid if I say too much later my friend know who am I. :P
You serious? You need to quote the whole post in your reply when picking and choosing a few key areas will do?
Is this better now?
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Originally Posted by Johnston
Im about to veer off into my Patented American Gangsta Slang soon... gotta control it..... hmmm...
Thank you for controlling your "Patented American Gangsta Slang, just curious what is it?
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Dont deny it, you didnt jack off to the older "sis" since you admitted you had a crush on her and shit like that?
I REALLY DIDN'T, why does it seems that everybody will think that I do?..and by the way, I still don't really know how to "jack off' to. I guess nothing I say can prove I am not doing it. Sir, for a moment just think about it, why will I deny it, when I've already said so much on other factors? Doesn't make sense right?
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Originally Posted by Johnston
She has the benefit of a few years
Not sure what you mean, can explain it a little??
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and most boy - gal relationships IF estabished by the boy has SEX as an ultimate target.
No, if sex is the ultimate target, I'm better off moving on without her. She just seems relatively different, (not a pretty face, FYI). But somehow, she is just awesome (no idea why).
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oh homie, you's gotta a lot more exams to go thru, boy! see here, the Sin-ga-porean edu-cation-al system wants yáll to memorise, know what i's saying? yeah you's tired of it already, so you say.... plenty long road to go now, boy!!
Thanks, I guess I will just have to "tahan" all the way, and find new joy in learing. But still not really much on the exam part.
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focus completely on my studies in 2012 - huh... so after 31st dec 2011 you's not gonna post here anymore huh
Yes I won't be posting on here anymore, after 31st Dec 2011, or till I'm technically welcomed in here. By the way, I am really no interested on the topics, no idea why. Am I normal? o.o... Since you are unlikely to believe, me why don't we do this in instead? -You answer/reply as much as you can until 31st Dec 2011. After that you just stop and ignores this thread?- -Much better to keep me away?-
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that obviates your opening an acct here and asking for advices...
Just asking advices here, I guess no harm was done right? And the fact that I did not post anything sexual here, I guess I can still justify myself on the fact that I am just purely asking for advices. But since, asking advice, I need to open an account right? And the fact that what more can I do with an account?
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YOu say also your main priorities are SUPPOSED to be your studies... right.... so why the purpose of your opening post then? YOu been freindzoned too much, eh?
I guess so, and probably the fact that I am not sure where I can turn to for help. AND YES MY MAIN PIRORITIES IS MY STUDIES, AND CURRENTLY I AM ACING IT. So thank you.
Lastly, do really appreciate the fact that you had made an effort to reply, and read through.
Oh didn't know they had another slogan, only know they had "Just do it'
tats wat the person who replied ur post, trying to tell u.
still dun get it?
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Erm..actually I don't really think about any sexual relationship with her. But just to have her not being that cold towards me, will probably already made my day.
then y r u here in the 1st plc? tis is NOT a counselling forum, tis is a SEX FORUM.
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Pedo... T.T....but the fact that I don't really get what it was meaning.
try to improve ur english cos i dun think "what it was meaning" is a proper english. i use short-form, but at least i make sure it's a proper sentence(s).
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True...to a extend.. but I was hoping for somebody with the same experience as me to explain it a little, or at least use some "common sense" on why I am having a so called "crush' on her. Someone, as being part of the "issue" it seems rather hard for me to apply any "common sense".
for me, emotion is abstract. there's no common sense.
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Sorry, I should've think through in my head, before speaking it or posting it online.
let me tell u y... it's bcos u think tat u r borned in a flawless generation tat is better than the old-timer!
if tats the case, then y r u here askin for our advice?
young kid, hope u hv learnt somethin durin ur 'stay' in SBF tis few days. u hv lots more to learn b4 trying to challenge the older generation.
till u r ready, i wld advise u NOT to come bk here aft ur school starts. if not, u wld make a shame by representing ur generation.
hope tis clear.
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To elborate further on another fellow's post: in singapore the legal age to have sex is 16 (if for love) and 18 (if for money), so right now , cherry, if you popped your cherry - its quite possible that BOTH the FUCKER and the FUCKEE will be charged....
Disclaimer: SG Penal code defines sex as "oral or genital contact and/or penetration" and makes very little provision for the other categories of sexual gratification possible to a broadened mind (AHEM)
Thank you for your extremely detailed "sign of a caution", hmm just curious are you a lawyer by any chance?
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We could care less if you provided your crushee's number, the more seasoned one's of us know full well a number is of no use without proper backstory or other letters of introduction , so you can keep that...
Then, why did some still ask for the number?
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Here's food for thought: your crushee will eventually get fucked or fuck someone in the future , but the chance of that person being you is right now abysmally low...
Oh okay... :P common sense issn't it?
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Originally Posted by Johnston
See if you can follow that train of thought to the nth degree.... dont!!!!!
tats wat the person who replied ur post, trying to tell u.
still dun get it?
Still don't get it.
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then y r u here in the 1st plc? tis is NOT a counselling forum, tis is a SEX FORUM.
Cause I can't seems to find any other form of help, where there are older people to ask questions? - If you do havel links for counselling forum, please do give it to me-
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try to improve ur english cos i dun think "what it was meaning" is a proper english. i use short-form, but at least i make sure it's a proper sentence(s).
Thanks, are you an English teacher by any chance??
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for me, emotion is abstract. there's no common sense.
Emotion is an abstract in which sense? Don't really get it, sorry.
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let me tell u y... it's bcos u think tat u r borned in a flawless generation tat is better than the old-timer!
Since when did I say that I think I am borned in a flawless generation? When in fact, I know flawless is a impossible thing to achiveve right? Sorry, if you thought that I thought that I am borned in a flawless generation.
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if tats the case, then y r u here askin for our advice?
I believe you guys are experienced, and probably might have experience the same thing of what I am going through and the fact that, you guys can give me some advice. 你们吃的盐比我吃的饭还多。< That is why.
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young kid, hope u hv learnt somethin durin ur 'stay' in SBF tis few days.
Did learn something, thanks.
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u hv lots more to learn b4 trying to challenge the older generation.
Sorry, but did my actions in anyway seemed liek I was trying to challenge the older generation? If I did, I am sorry. But can you at least tell me which actions that I did? So that I will not make the same mistakes again.
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till u r ready, i wld advise u NOT to come bk here aft ur school starts. if not, u wld make a shame by representing ur generation.
School does not start till, 3 of Jan. And I did promise I won't be here after 2011. Just curious, representing my generation, in shame by what sense??
Thanks for the effort on keeping me out and in the same time still teaching me.
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