Marry PRC

[Beem]

yup
reality bites

she told me many match making by parents whose the other party parent will buy house
(In Singapore i also can abeit with CPF)

my question is actually to see if she will for love ignore the material part of the r/s
i do not wish to build a r/s based on the availability of a house.
you can called me a idealist but love shouldn't it be about feeling for each other?
plain and simple

[Beem]

it was a fruitful year though
just that sweet dreams doesn't last

in the modern world and China now,
Love is mixed with the smell of money....

[abchow]

HI Beem,

Time to move on. If the love is measured by how big and expensive the house or material stuff.. then if some tycoon come along, u will be more heart broken by then. Time to cut the lost and re-acquire another target.

Most Girls are too materalistic to realise the good point in a man. So since she does not appreciate u , then u can bid her bye bye , its her lost!!

Cheers!!

[K9696]

Originally Posted by Beem

self check fail thats why pose to forum to gather wisdom...
love dont come easy...
if i were only more bankable...
just read China self made billionaires under 40s.. sigh

dun compare other made billionaires under 40s, u just do what u nid to do..
god is fair..

I post this song for you....

[SHalone]

Originally Posted by Beem

but i am not staying in China...anyway owning a house in China seemed complicated and ex
seem like only rich people can marry PRC?
1 time 10k dowry should be ok but monthly allowance
thought average pay of PRC worker only 2000 RMB
so what is the quantum for the allowance?

& thought they got a son?
as for house here; HDB should not be an issue?

Buying a house in china is not complicated, as long u are paying full cash without loan.
If u marry a PRC with influence parents who are well connected then u hor seh.. Can use their connection to do business.
But if her parents are some poor farmers u marry her is like as thou u married the entire family clan.
There are alot of cash rich people in china and I am sure she is not kidding she could easily get someone from the village that can pay full cash for the house. As u said this is not your league to play in then find a field u are comfortable. Stay in nice HDB in Singapore, better environment and I am sure there will be nice pRC looking to lead a Singapore life with u. Please don't decide lightly to come over here, not every one can make it. It's a tough environment thou the opportunities are heaps..

[Aniuge]

Hi TS,

Imho, she weighs a house heavier than you. Beside, she may use your real age as a pretext to part with you when she finds out.

Think thrice before u act.

[RealEstateGuy]

Brother, I have heard of a case where a guy buys a house in preparation for marraige and provided dowry in preparation for marriage then a year later the girl calls it off and is gone with the goods. Was also an SG uncle young PRC thing type of situation. I think you should see reality and invest in your own real estate here locally. If a woman loves you it shouldn't matter how big your house is or if you rent an apartment in perpetuity. Of course this conflicts with modern economic reality in SG but the prinicpal still holds in that wedlock should not be conditional on money if the foundation of your union is based on love and compatibility.

[justbob]

I would say, call it off in your heart but keep her tied up to you for as long as you are getting action. You lose nothing really because she is like most PRC girls. Many guys there for her to choose.

I don't believe most PRC girls who get married demand house and parents dowry because half people there still very poor. Someone please correct me if I am wrong and tell me that is the normal practice.

I don't mean to sound rude, but you sound vulnerable and easy target for smart prc girls.

Like others said, it will be a better life for you if you find SG woman to grow old with.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

TS, remember this:

PRCs - 对她们太好。就是对自己下毒手

[wonder81]

TS,

Only decide if you have really visited her in China, most of PRCs in Sg are only looking for Big Fish (大款爷). Once you promise her anything, that will be end of your $$$$. They are born actresses.No doubt its the trend in China for the male to buy house for marriage, some big cities the girl's family even request for a car and so on.... Take note.. there is this law in China call 婚前财产，婚后财产..dun fall for the trap..anything bought before the marriage under her name is her asset...this is what most PRC CHICKS are doing! think twice or thrice... even village girls are clever than city girls nowadays..cos they have been through bad times but farmers nowadays are damn rich..so they will 狮子大开口！Anyway as
long as foreigners to them are rich people..so they will squeeze you till dry...
I have been through and luckily I am out of the terrible state now...
Good luck to you ! Cheers!

[sifatt]

bro,

better think twice. experience tell you that all this PRC woman want singaporean lover to buy them a house first, telling stories like yours to please her parent, made her feel secure or something to hold on and likely also want you to commit so that you cant run away from her. all this is pressure testing. I can tell you honestly age is not a matter but to them vitamin is her most important issue. Good luck and my best wishes !!!

[golden arrow]

Originally Posted by Beem

it was a fruitful year though
just that sweet dreams doesn't last

in the modern world and China now,
Love is mixed with the smell of money....

Bro Beem, it's a great relieve to see you are still in one whole piece after all this ordeal.

Move on Bro Beem

[FromBoy2Man]

Originally Posted by jameschong1

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or her real past marrisage is exposed, will u mind?
eg. divorced 3 times in China? can u take it?
or abortion 2 times, can u take it?

huh so, any different if co-habitate 3 time,
or break out with boyfriend 3 time,
or taking "medication" 2 times when after shooting inside 2 times?

maybe i think just that one is black n white, the other one is dark secret.... i cant see any differences...

[cognacrex]

Bro,
Congrat to letting go.

PRC will alway ask for house.
Excuse this and that, They say it is their support in case we leave them(Divorce we still need to pay what). Parent want u to buy for me before marriage(No Buy no nid marry ar, If yes forget it! Dun Push!). It is my dream to own a house here(who dunwan dream to have a house if never buy before).

Ask them this question, if we buy house and yet we are not staying in china, what are we going to do with the house? Rent Out with that little rental?
We will be buying hse in Singapore to fulfill your dreamhome, it also has your name on it. Rental yield still higher if we rent out even a room.

PAP!!!!!!
Yes, It is a never ending issue if we tie up with a PRC marriage.
If you are wealthy enough earning a lot then shld be ok. They will have these stupid mentality, all those stupid 3 8 妇女节，7 7 jie, 10 01 GUO qing jie, all these many celebration will suck u dry. If their family members is small in number is okie, u meet those with ten brothers and sisters, u have to spend a lot when u head back for a visit for buying gifts for them.

Then one things u must know is the Angpao u give back to them must not be smaller then the last angpao they give you. And such you must a 555 booklet to remember. If you give back lesser, you will have a lot of negative remark from your In-Law.

Airticket:
Imagine she eng eng say wanna go back to visit, each time average 600sgd excluding the expense mentioned above. What if you have a baby with her and whole family going back 600sgd x 2.5 will be your air tickets. If your parent are invited over to in law celebration=600sgd x4.

Another impt issue:
If future u need her to go out and help contributing to family expense.
1) if you know this girl doing proper sale line. she still have no excuse working back the old line.
2) if your is the KTV or Singer type. You ask her go do sale line, later she ask you let her go work back KTV or Singer, u faint. Ask them work as sales, they say siong. Let them work back old trade, u no worry?

Marriage.
It is a long term commitment! If starting part request this and that knowing you are not earning a lot, u better consider. If you give in, you will have never ending PAP. If you can continue to pay, everything will be going smoothly, if not you will everyday quarrel.
Quarrel no baby the most divorce, if quarrel then got small kids, must think for the small kidS!

But if you find those say nevermind no nid anything, i will give you some money to do biz then grab her tight. LOL.

My conclusion, better find some local girl settled down. She work and you work, both got cpf no need worry about house payment.

Just my tots,

[nacho]

Originally Posted by Beem

sigh...

insist on skipping the house issue and instead ask her to persuade her parents otherwise...
the end result, she say forget about it and be friend instead
i say cannot be friends cause it hurts...

...

TS,

Her statement is a summarily or everything that both of your had gone through.

Note my verb "gone" >>> past term >>> finished >>> game over.

My suggestion is to move on and either find a good wife in SG, or some short term ones in PRC (like some brother said here).

Good luck.