Girl I dated went back to her ex who cheated on her

[coolmanspooky]

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[demonhunter]

Maintain friendship .

once that guy cheats on her again , she will be knocking at your door .

Just make her your Fuck Buddy . nothing else .

[Hurricane88]

There is a forest of flowers. Dun pick one but you can pick 2 or more.

[zarniz]

Originally Posted by Acemann

At least you learn the truth early. Time to move on.

Yes. I guess it wouldve hurt more if it became more serious. Thanks. Will move on. 😁

[zarniz]

Originally Posted by demonhunter

Maintain friendship .

once that guy cheats on her again , she will be knocking at your door .

Just make her your Fuck Buddy . nothing else .

Lol, they sound serious for now. Sure. Will take your advice.

[porscheclub]

Good riddance. This is part of growing up buddy, she's just a bus stop so look for the terminal or interchange

[agentorange24]

Sorry to read your story, dude.
Here's my 2 cents worth based on my own personal experiences...
Somehow, it's not suprising that she did what she did. Some might say she's bad, or she doesn't deserve you, or that you are "too nice", but everything you are going through is very natural and, also, very common.
Think of it this way...
Every person has three spaces to fill:
1. Emotional (feelings, shared experiences, excitement, etc)
2. Physical (holding hands, kissing, sex, etc)
3. Communication (having common interests, being able to share secrets, etc)
All three would need to be fulfilled in order to have a balanced and meaningful relationship.
It is human nature in all of us to constantly go out and try to fill whichever of the 3 missing spaces in our lives or relationships to feel complete. In a friendship or even a marriage, whichever of the three is missing in their partner, you can be 100% sure, they will either try to "modify" their existing relationship or find someone else who can fill that space. Nobody can hide or avoid this, and anyone who says this isn't true is lying.
In your situation, you were looking for her companionship to fill one or even all three of those spaces. On the other side of the coin, she was also using you to do the same thing.
Ultimately, there is nothing wrong or bad about you or the things you did, or even the way you did it. She headed back to her cheating ex simply because to her, he covers all three areas and the guy has the added advantage of having been with her for 4 years.
You shouldn't feel down or sad. The fact that you came here and reached out for advice already shows everyone reading that you've got a good head on your shoulders and you're not the type to make impulsive choices.
When being with someone as a partner or a friend, always remember that it's not the destination, but the journey that adds meaning to your life.
That being said, you seem like a great guy and keep in mind that you will find someone to make you feel complete and content, and likewise, that person will need you to make them complete as well.

Have a great week ahead.

[zarniz]

Originally Posted by agentorange24

Sorry to read your story, dude.
Here's my 2 cents worth based on my own personal experiences...
Somehow, it's not suprising that she did what she did. Some might say she's bad, or she doesn't deserve you, or that you are "too nice", but everything you are going through is very natural and, also, very common.
Think of it this way...
Every person has three spaces to fill:
1. Emotional (feelings, shared experiences, excitement, etc)
2. Physical (holding hands, kissing, sex, etc)
3. Communication (having common interests, being able to share secrets, etc)
All three would need to be fulfilled in order to have a balanced and meaningful relationship.
It is human nature in all of us to constantly go out and try to fill whichever of the 3 missing spaces in our lives or relationships to feel complete. In a friendship or even a marriage, whichever of the three is missing in their partner, you can be 100% sure, they will either try to "modify" their existing relationship or find someone else who can fill that space. Nobody can hide or avoid this, and anyone who says this isn't true is lying.
In your situation, you were looking for her companionship to fill one or even all three of those spaces. On the other side of the coin, she was also using you to do the same thing.
Ultimately, there is nothing wrong or bad about you or the things you did, or even the way you did it. She headed back to her cheating ex simply because to her, he covers all three areas and the guy has the added advantage of having been with her for 4 years.
You shouldn't feel down or sad. The fact that you came here and reached out for advice already shows everyone reading that you've got a good head on your shoulders and you're not the type to make impulsive choices.
When being with someone as a partner or a friend, always remember that it's not the destination, but the journey that adds meaning to your life.
That being said, you seem like a great guy and keep in mind that you will find someone to make you feel complete and content, and likewise, that person will need you to make them complete as well.

Have a great week ahead.

Hi agentorange,
Your words are worth more than 2 cents! thinking back,what you said about her is actually true. I didnt really have the chance nor time to help fill up / satisfy the 3 needs of her side as it was long distance and my work issues. I had hoped and wished that she wouldve waited, instead of jumping back to her cheating ex the very moment he returned and apologized. But it didnt happen.
(I sound like a pussy ) thank you for the advice and kind words too.

[middleofnowhere]

Long distance relationships almost never work. And not all relationships work out even with maximum effort put in.

Just accept that you two are not meant to be, and move on. To look on the bright side of things, you have not sacrificed much for this eventual lost cause. You got out early, and are not burdened much by this memory.

Cheers to you, bro.

[jameschong1]

1. she confirm is a gong cb.
2. confirm she not only bus INTERchange but also pubic toilet
so u just splash all your sperm in her toilet bowl, NO need to flush
next guy will com & flush yours!

[SureWinnner]

You win already lor

Originally Posted by jameschong1

1. she confirm is a gong cb.
2. confirm she not only bus INTERchange but also pubic toilet
so u just splash all your sperm in her toilet bowl, NO need to flush
next guy will com & flush yours!

[zarniz]

Originally Posted by middleofnowhere

Long distance relationships almost never work. And not all relationships work out even with maximum effort put in.

Just accept that you two are not meant to be, and move on. To look on the bright side of things, you have not sacrificed much for this eventual lost cause. You got out early, and are not burdened much by this memory.

Cheers to you, bro.

True bro. Initial stage was tough. But now i am gradually getting over it and back on my feet.
Thanks for the kind words.

[Mr_Oreh]

TS be a Man step up & forget about her so that you can find another new girl who's worth your time & commitments! She made her choice to be back with past. Why don't you move on & look ahead for a new future!

[cowlek]

Dear TS,

Move on bro get a new life. U deserve better~!