Help to improve sex life...

[lowprofile]

since u are not so confident with urself, maybe u can go slim down first? once u are confident with urself, u will automatically fell sexy

[Castrol]

Originally Posted by tissue

But my belly was in the way and I started to hear the 'piak piak' sounds and it started to turn me off.

the piak piak sound is a turn on for guys, we will pump harder to make it louder.

anyway if you think you're too fat, go join the california gym or something, or go run 6 rounds on the track every day.

[darylcch]

Hi,
My wife has quite the same problem as you.
Before birth, she has very nice and smooth tummy.
After birth, her tummy becomes rough and the tension loose causing layers of layers of skin.
I always tell her that I don't mind. But she is still conssious about it.
So, whenever we make love, we will just off the lights and explore each other by tongue or touch.

[primalhunter]

Originally Posted by lowprofile

since u are not so confident with urself, maybe u can go slim down first? once u are confident with urself, u will automatically fell sexy

You have a point here bro lowprofile, but the most important thing is to do it for yourself sis tissue. You have a good man in your husband. He values you for who you are to him, and not how much you weigh. You have given him 2 kids already. Naturally, this will take its toll on ur body. My wife has put on quite a few kilos since giving birth too but i love her just as much and would only MAKE LOVE to her.

Pretty girls are everywhere but there will only be one true love....cheers

[mike3329]

Hi tissue

I expect most men prefer to make love to a more buxom woman than a skinny one! I do anyway; so don't worry about those few extra lbs...

I totally agree with the other forummers who said that nothing beats a good 'lovemaking' session as opposed to just a good 'f**k' ; especially when the female partner 'cums' with abandon and gusto...hehe.

U sound (literally) like you enjoy great sex and has no difficulty 'cumming' as well. i am sure your hubby is most appreciative and knows he has a great lovemaking buddy in you.....so just loosen up and don't be too self conscious.

May the two of you have many, many more hot and satisfying nites....Have fun!!

[dionysusex]

Originally Posted by tissue

Hi all,
We both have regular sex, at least we make an effort to. We will do it at least twice a week if possible. We will do it mostly at home. I am always the more daring one, I would suggest to do it at some car parks at some ulu industrial estate at night or I suggested to go 81 Lavender for our previous rounds. I am very loud during sex and I hate having to control myself when we are doing it as the kids are sleeping with us. Thanks to some recommendations from some brothers here, we managed to release ourselves in some transit hotels.

First off, let me congratulate you for your healthy and frequent sex life. It may not be conclusive but it a good yardstick to show that your husband still finds you attractive.

I think women often forget the fact that physiologically, they are very different from men. It is far easier for women to have sex. To be very straightforward, if a woman is unwilling to have sex, penetration can still be achieved with the help of lubrication, etc. However, if a man is unwilling to have sex or is turned off by the partner, it will be very difficult to get an erection or sustain it. Thus, you and your husband having regular sex is a very good sign that he still finds you attractive.

Originally Posted by tissue

All in all, I am simply conscious of my fats.

...but please don't ask me to slim down as it's not easy I have been there and is finally able to be comfortable enough to be what I am

I think you are contradicting yourself. I don't think that you are comfortable with yourself if you are conscious of your fats.

In any case, it is good to lose some weight for general health purposes. Losing weight do not have to be all that difficult depending on how much you wanna lose and how fast you wanna lose it. Do NOT ever go on a crash diet!!!

You can try minimum 30-minute session of brisk walking (when there's no haze) and cutting down about 30% on your food intake. Take more vegetables. Go easy on carbohydrates and avoid oily stuff. Do NOT develop habit of eating supper. If hungry (at night), drink low fat or skimmed milk.

You will not see results immediately. It will be slow but you will slowly feel lighter and healthier. I have been there and done it. I lost almost 10kg from my top weight of 82kg and still aiming to be within healthy BMI levels.

When you are healthy, you are likely to enjoy your sex life even more!!!

I strongly advise you to consult your family doctor to devise a better strategy for long term health benefits.

Originally Posted by tissue

Anyway, I would love to do something to make it more exciting. We used to do it at least twice a day when we were dating and I feel that our current sex life is still pretty healthy, considering the fact that we have 2 kids.

My wife and I used to do it several times a day when we were dating. Now, I count myself lucky to get it twice a month even though we do not have children yet. I envy you, lady!

Originally Posted by tissue

I am just so conscious of my fats which dis-allows me to enjoy throughly. Is it all just in my head? Please advise.

Yes, I think you are too self-conscious. If you are truly comfortable with your present self, there is no reason to let your body stop your mind from enjoying. From what you described, your husband does not seem to mind your body at all. It seems that you are indeed your greatest enemy.

Originally Posted by tissue

We will be going to Bangkok, just us with no kids, and I would like to really enjoy this trip with tons of sex but I'm afraid that my body will affect us. Btw, can we bring a vibrator on board? Thanks for your time taken and if you find me being paranoid or boring, at least appreciate me for helping you fill up 5mins of your day,ya?

You can try alternative/kinky sex. For starters, you can get sexy lingerie (including plus sizes) to spice things up. Since you described yourself as being more wild, try to take things slowly but I think most men would be very surprised and turned on by change in modus operandi of sex especially with the women they find attractive.

As some forumers have suggested, you can try getting some sex toys to try out mild bondage. Try blind-folds so that you know he wil not be able to see you (but ultimately you must still learn to be comfortable with yourself).

Or you can try some mild forms of S&M like spanking, wax or play-acting. Please note that I am only suggesting things that I have tried before and found sexy which should help.

Yes, you can bring sex toys onboard the plane. Please however try to remove the batteries and pack them separately and put these in the check-in luggage.

This is to prevent accidental switching on (and no power when you need it). More importantly, it is to prevent undue embarrassment of confrontation by Customs who find suspicious items in your hand carry luggage and request that you open your hand-carry for inspection.

Hope this helps. May you continue to have a happy sextisfying married life!!!

[screamer]

no need to feel bad... just a matter of how you feel yourself.

Does it matter what your husband thinks? as long as you feel sexy, even with a tummy, then it doesnt matter. People change with age, pregnancies, etc... love between you and your hubby should not change because of that... I dont think your relationship is built on looks alone???

[tissue]

Hi All,

Thanks alot for your kind advice and guidance.

I feel confident as long as I do not see my flabby stomach bouncing in front me..We still bath and change in front of each other and I do not feel embarassed at all but during sex, I hate the feeling of seeing the bouncing stomach..Funnily enough, he still adores my ass, stretch marks and expanded version..

I am trying to watch my weight due to health reasons..I have been losing weight, but quite slow as I do not exercise often..I have at least 2 entertainements per week for work and the most I can do is to climb the stairs whenever possible and cut down on dinner and carbo..BUt how to tone the tummy? I still look 4 mths pregnant

I have HSD, my husband is always complaining that I'm too hungry.. but there are also times when I dun feel like doing anything too..

I know I'm too self conscious but the reason I'm asking is that I would like to have some men opinions about 'MEN' in general..So the consensus I'm getting is that my husband will not mind my fats as long as he sees me enjoying myself..

And I think 'I am my GREATEST ENEMY'..

FYI, we are a very kinky couple, or at least I am...Sexy Lingerie, pouring beer over me and asking him to lick it up, having Nutella spread on my cunt, ice, warm light bulbs with cloth covering..Him inhaling from his cig while I ride him, giving him a full cat bath using only tongue, or no tongue only lips and teeth and many many more...As long as it's written somewhere, we have done and tested...I also gave him BJ while he was driving and once, it nearly caused an accident..Blindfolds and cuffs and tying to bed have been played so many times but not recently as we have kids and not much time and privacy to enjoy..

I love role playing and we have tried many..I'm usually dominant so I think he prefers the slave and master..But we tried Doc and patient, nurse and doc, police and thief and many more common ones..

I just came back..I just left it in the lugguage and hope that they dun check my lugguage..We also bought a toy for him..It's part of a doll's cunt and A/hole and after playing together, he told me that he prefers me more..

Any bros here can advise if after your wife has given birth the natural way, her cunt would naturally be looser, right? Would you mind?

I tend to get very wet and being so wet and after 2 kids, my husband may not feel so good cos it's not tight?

But seriously, thanks alot for all the guidance...I really appreciate it!

Cheers / Tissue

[sunkiss]

Originally Posted by tissue

Any bros here can advise if after your wife has given birth the natural way, her cunt would naturally be looser, right?
Cheers / Tissue

I don't think so. She will recover. A good gynae can also stitch up the tear to make it nicer. I think you are still young. So enjoy and don't worry. Lucky you, you have great sexlife.

[BigmanJ]

exercise increase sex drive... maybe you can exercise together with your hubby. you will loss weight and increase sex drive further.

the key to losing weigth is to watch what you eat and drink... not soft drinks and cut down on the sugary stuff...

also, wear different color contact lens, wear a wig... this would definately spice up your sex life

Originally Posted by tissue

Hi All,

Thanks alot for your kind advice and guidance.

I feel confident as long as I do not see my flabby stomach bouncing in front me..We still bath and change in front of each other and I do not feel embarassed at all but during sex, I hate the feeling of seeing the bouncing stomach..Funnily enough, he still adores my ass, stretch marks and expanded version..

I am trying to watch my weight due to health reasons..I have been losing weight, but quite slow as I do not exercise often..I have at least 2 entertainements per week for work and the most I can do is to climb the stairs whenever possible and cut down on dinner and carbo..BUt how to tone the tummy? I still look 4 mths pregnant

I have HSD, my husband is always complaining that I'm too hungry.. but there are also times when I dun feel like doing anything too..

I know I'm too self conscious but the reason I'm asking is that I would like to have some men opinions about 'MEN' in general..So the consensus I'm getting is that my husband will not mind my fats as long as he sees me enjoying myself..

And I think 'I am my GREATEST ENEMY'..

FYI, we are a very kinky couple, or at least I am...Sexy Lingerie, pouring beer over me and asking him to lick it up, having Nutella spread on my cunt, ice, warm light bulbs with cloth covering..Him inhaling from his cig while I ride him, giving him a full cat bath using only tongue, or no tongue only lips and teeth and many many more...As long as it's written somewhere, we have done and tested...I also gave him BJ while he was driving and once, it nearly caused an accident..Blindfolds and cuffs and tying to bed have been played so many times but not recently as we have kids and not much time and privacy to enjoy..

I love role playing and we have tried many..I'm usually dominant so I think he prefers the slave and master..But we tried Doc and patient, nurse and doc, police and thief and many more common ones..

I just came back..I just left it in the lugguage and hope that they dun check my lugguage..We also bought a toy for him..It's part of a doll's cunt and A/hole and after playing together, he told me that he prefers me more..

Any bros here can advise if after your wife has given birth the natural way, her cunt would naturally be looser, right? Would you mind?

I tend to get very wet and being so wet and after 2 kids, my husband may not feel so good cos it's not tight?

But seriously, thanks alot for all the guidance...I really appreciate it!

Cheers / Tissue

[hi5550]

The best way to lose weight is to go on vegetarian.

Morning you just had bread with soya milk.

Afternoon, you had rice with vegetable only!

Night, you had noodle with little meat.

Then you will slim down

[mokermania]

[QUOTE=tissue;1680364]
How to make it more exciting and more fun for us? I am open to ideas but please don't ask me to slim down as it's not easy Anyway, I would love to do something to make it more exciting. [QUOTE]

Hi Sis Tissue,

sorry saw this thread late.
mayb u can spice up by masturbating/playing with yourself with yr hands or with vibrator in front of him & with him watching beside u on the sofa....

as for the fats part... it okie. it all in yr mind lah.....im glad u have a very happy sex life n with 2 wonderful kids too. hope mine will be like yr too.

merry Xmas & Happy new yr

[ass_robber]

Find a cosmetic surgeon, do a tummy tuck or lippo, its probably the fastest way. A gyne can stitch up your cunt to make it tighter, or even reconstruct ur hymen if u need one.

[cereal-killer]

Tissue, go EXCERCISE / Diet... Thats your only solutiion to loosing your flabby tummy. Of cos there's Crash Diet, but you'll feel lousy a few weeks later, and no energy and that would lead to unhealthy sex life that you are having now.

[solidrock]

Originally Posted by tissue

Husband is ok with weight gain, it's just me....!
Cheers / Tissue

If that is the case, then you'll have to change your perspective and learn to love yourself the way you are regardless of how you look.

Nobody can do that for you except you.

Look at it this way, he STILL loves you regardless of your weight gain. Isn't this a big BONUS? You should be worried if he starts looking elsewhere even when you are slim....

It's still a good idea to lose weight as it boosts your confidence and also your HEALTH.

The formula for normal weight loss is simple: Calorie intake minus calories used up.

That means your either
- take in LESS calories or
- use up MORE calories.

To do the former, you either
- eat less or
- REPLACE the SAME amount of food but eat those with LESS calories.

Eating less is called DIETING. Dieting = DYING to most people! Why? They cannot take the hunger pangs. Most people are allergic to pain.

The most sensible way is to fill your stomach with the SAME amount of food that has LESSER calories. This will pacify your grumbling stomach.

What kind of food? Try eating a lot of FRESH fruits and veggies.

It'll take getting used to but it'll

- give you a lot of energy
- also bring down your weight
- make you healthier
- give you a positive outlook in life
- give you great complexion.

How about burning up more calories? Answer: exercise.

How about going for walks with your family? Or try climbing the stairs instead of using the lift? These are things that you can integrate into your routine without much of a hassle.

Last tip on PAINLESS weight loss: DRINK PLENTY OF WATER!

See: http://weight-loss-story.blogspot.co...se-weight.html

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Study: Drink more water, lose more weight
Updated 10/24/2006 11:19 PM ET

By Nanci Hellmich, USA TODAY

BOSTON — Dieters who replace sugary drinks with water lose an extra 5 pounds a year, and those who drink a couple of more cups of water a day increase weight loss by 2 pounds a year, a study presented Tuesday at the annual meeting of the Obesity Society suggests.

Most popular diet programs and books advise drinking plenty of water to aid digestion and to help reduce intake of sodas and other high-calorie drinks, but there haven't been many studies to back up the advice.

LOW-FAT FOODS: Still pack caloric punch

So researchers analyzed weight-loss data on 240 overweight women, ages 25 to 50, who were following one of several popular diet plans, including Atkins and The Zone, programs that restrict carbohydrate consumption to varying degrees.

Before beginning their programs, the women drank an average of about two cans a day of sugary drinks (about 200 calories total), including soda and juice. Findings:

•Dieters who replaced virtually all sweetened drinks with water lost an average 5 pounds more in a year than dieters who didn't.

•Those who drank more than four cups of water a day lost an additional 2 pounds more than dieters who did not drink that much.

"Drinking water can help you lose weight, partially because you are replacing some calories, and there may be additional reasons related to the total volume of water that we don't understand," says lead researcher Jodi Stookey of Children's Hospital and Oakland Research Institute in California.

Thomas Wadden, president of the Obesity Society, says the study "is a provocative and important finding. Water displaced the consumption of sweetened beverages, and that's great news."

When you are trying to lose weight, it's easy to change the beverages you drink, says Barry Popkin, nutrition professor at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill.

"It doesn't matter if you drink bottled water or tap water: Just drink more water. It's a powerful way to cut weight."

Adults haven't changed their water intake over the past decade, but they are drinking about 20 more ounces a day of caloric beverages. "This is the major cause of our overall caloric increase during this period, and it's clearly linked with the increase of obesity."

See: http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/...ter-diet_x.htm