HIV spouse

[wahzai]

Originally Posted by shadowlunar04

Wish you and your family all the best.

Cheers
shadowlunar

I have the same feeling. you have a kind heart.

[MoonBlaze]

Originally Posted by smlee

Pardon me from being nasty. I think it is really lame for you to think it is dangerous to have sex with her when you can take the risk to have sex with a WL in HC and Geylang...

Care to enlighten us what you will do if you were in his shoe?

[Wins88]

Originally Posted by average jOe

I am married and I love her deeply. She's a thai from Chiangmai whom i fell in love
Again, I love her but sex with her is almost of the question. I am a guy too and I need physical intimacy. So at times, i find myself in hc or geyland.After my session, my consience comdemns me.
Im at a loss....really.
Any advice?
One last thing, she is attracttive, gentle, non-nagger....I did not have the desire myself to satisfy her sexually while i have my release when I lust uncontroblaly. So unfair to her. Pls help.....
P.S. Well masturbation only increase my sexual desire even faster

But the way, I do not where she got her HIV and I would appreciate that my fellow samster not try making wild guess, for even as a husband, it really does not matter to me.

I am really at a loss. Pls advice.

Bro, I really admire your will to stay strong and your love for your women. I salute you. I guess u have to take every precaution there is when having sex with her. Yes, I know it is difficult to stay the course, and I think you will be compelled to go HC and GL to have additional release. Please take precautions by using lubricating gels, condoms, and please refrain from sex if u have any open wounds or cuts or grazes as this is the way HIV is spread. As for the cause, I can only say that in most 3rd world nations, transmission is probably through lousy luck and uncleaned needles (even at testing centres). Sad to hear about this and I wish you well! I dunno who deduct ur point sbut I will up ur points for bravery!

[average jOe]

Yet again, many replies are peppered with heartwarming kindness.

Since we are on this topic, let me tell you that HIV is not the end of the road. It's not like cancer which can be blunt when the doc tells you how much more you hv to go........In HIV, you will propably take a cocktail of generic form of pill to strenghten the immune system. In another word, you can see it as a long managaeble kind of illness. All is not loss. Just look at Magic Johnson.I do buy some chinese tonic to boast her immune system too.
Strangely, I felt unappreciated by what i did for her. Countless things just to make her please but in doing so. I sufferred financially. Very impulsive. And now quite sad.
Some brothers talked about risk to satisfy my desire. It is now much more of a risk since we decide to adopt a baby gal from chiang mai. U understand?
NO,I will not leave her; I am not like the one guy who left his wife after her illness is made known. Will endure.......

[kumcheng]

I salute you bro. You have my heartfelt admiration and respect. All the best to you and your family.

[average jOe]

Originally Posted by kumcheng

I salute you bro. You have my heartfelt admiration and respect. All the best to you and your family.

Thanks 4 ur salute but if you guys are in shoes, you too will propably be the same like me. It is truely a wake up call 4 me. Wife, after all our foolings, are still the best. It is by enormous 'coincidence' and fate that we are together and we really dun want this illness to separate us.

So,from my example, as much you have your fun outside, remrmber there's a wife waiting at home. Have ur fun and go home.

Thanks again 4 ur encouragement.

[bigggbird69]

Don't know what to say, but stay strong bro. Take care...

[average jOe]

I hope i wont offend any friends here. No harm going 4 a HIV test here and there. If discovered early, it might lengthen your life by many years through the right medicie. If Singapore anti-viral pills are too expensive, go Thailand thru budget plane n get many months supply from the hospitel, not GP. If not detected early, it will bloom to AIDS in which nothing much can be help.
Have fun, take precaution. If ,touch wood, smthing likr this occurs to you, dun despair. All is not loss.

[MMM88]

Originally Posted by average jOe

I am really at a loss. Pls advice.

Bro ....feel sad for you....it is beri difficult for bystanders to offer any sound advise....better consult some support group...
meanwhile ...i salute u for being there with her..n trying hard to make t marriage works....most impt ...is to stay healthy for her...okie....cheers