Been single for more than 10 years

[wayne23416]

Well, to be honest bro, I met up with another single bro here in Sammy boy last night for a beer and supper. Anyone of you guys interested in a really nice beer? Nothing dirty, not at a thai bar / disco but just talk and ladies / gents (for the single ladies here) watching...

I do admit it is a little unnerving meeting a guy from the internet since we're both straight and of the same gender. On a site note, if you guys are interested, i'm starting out on my own to open a dating agency..nothing sleazy...and u get to meet some single people of the opposite gender..but the first event is a month from now...

[kallisan]

Originally Posted by stillgottheblue

Haha, the context is not on motherly love and btw she passed on for many years.

She may have passed on but she will always be your 1st love.

[imodel]

Bro, u are not alone.... hahaha
Hey before proceeding further, u are not gay ya?: confused:
Sorry to say, if u gay, me run liao...

If u normal, we can all share together la...
This forum is a shelter for many of us... hahaha
Life is beautiful... U can live to your max and still feel good about yourself when u lie down....

Don't need those "companions" from the GL gals la....
I think there are always good normal gals who are like us here or anywhere else, once in a while they will also need some "injections" to give some strength to their lives....

I feel this is just an emotional food that we all take... not just needed by the guys... more so for the ladies...
Guys are more willing and daring to open their mouth...
Gals just quietly endure and tahan... hope guys to approach (for some)

But in today's generation, some gals are more open then others...
Whichever start first, it doesn't matter...

But we all the same... Let's remember... LIFE is BEAUTIFUL....

Since u made it through your mom's womb, u ought to enjoy your victory for the rest of your journey!!

Please pardon if i offended anyone... i mean no evil... we are all pilgrims on this earth

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by tehO

I am loving the way you are of coming clean and being honest in a sincere post. Can i earn a date from you? Btw, back to reaility when your right one come you will no longer feel this way anymore. May your sincere confession get you the right fated one soon. God bless.

I feel awkward when an online stranger ask me this question. BTW let me tell you I'm not from SG but from MY, this may probably turn you off and most bros here. And furthermore I'm not good looking. Somewhere in the middle, I guess.

Thanks for your wishing. However, I'm not waiting or seeking for anyone right now. Not desperate too. I am quite surprised and happy for the replies here as I do not expect a boring and lonely guy like me to be ever noticed by the bros and sis here. Once again, a big thank you.

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by imodel

Bro, u are not alone.... hahaha
Hey before proceeding further, u are not gay ya?: confused:
Sorry to say, if u gay, me run liao...

If u normal, we can all share together la...
This forum is a shelter for many of us... hahaha
Life is beautiful... U can live to your max and still feel good about yourself when u lie down....

Don't need those "companions" from the GL gals la....
I think there are always good normal gals who are like us here or anywhere else, once in a while they will also need some "injections" to give some strength to their lives....

I feel this is just an emotional food that we all take... not just needed by the guys... more so for the ladies...
Guys are more willing and daring to open their mouth...
Gals just quietly endure and tahan... hope guys to approach (for some)

But in today's generation, some gals are more open then others...
Whichever start first, it doesn't matter...

But we all the same... Let's remember... LIFE is BEAUTIFUL....

Since u made it through your mom's womb, u ought to enjoy your victory for the rest of your journey!!

Please pardon if i offended anyone... i mean no evil... we are all pilgrims on this earth

I'm straight, I'm not interested with gays or lesbians, although I had met some in my real lives. Their kissing and anal fucking does not turn me on. In fact, I think they are disgusting.

I tried one GL gal before. High GFE, sexy body figure, but in the end, ask me buy gifts for her, luckily I did not visit second time, she would easily made me a broke man.

After a serious thought I think I treat my life more like a journey and not a destination. Friends comes and goes in life. Even best friends can ignore, betray and abandon you when they have someone in their life. This is what I had gone through over the last 10 years. So for me being single is probably the best choice for now.

I dare not to predict on how my future relationship look like, as I always predicted wrongly. For example, with my gf last time I thought we can get married after 3 years. In the end she got married with a different guy after 3 years. Overall she hurted me deeply. As for now I am not dreaming for another gal to come. I just feel being single is not always too bad also 100% freedom to do whatever you like

[Goodmanhood]

Sometimes in your life, you may find your targets but its really depends on both sides to adhere well.

[Beachsea]

Dear TS ,

I not sure if i am in the same situation as you.
But along the 10 years i do have on and off relationships, and i mean really super short on/off. As i can't bring myself into relationships.

Even if there are intimacy involves. The max was only maybe 2 weeks.
But yet when i am single i feel want to be attached, when i am attached , i irk the feeling being chased by my GF.

So end up like you lo...haha.

I like talking to girls just like our guys , but i never thought of getting into relationship. I am near 30 now. But i want focus on my career , alot use it as an excuse, while i meant it cause something bad really happened in my life.
End up i only love cheap thrills but not relationship.Cheap thrills like teasing and flirting with girls, eve if they are attached or married. I don't go further , but at least it tells me that girls and guys are equally easily off the track.

Maybe not meant to settle down.

Pls do not rush in and settle down for anything less. It applies to both man and woman.

Cheers bro.

[kenl8888]

Even after 35 years of marriage, I feel lonely these past 3 years..
My HM is more busy with her mahjong kakis, line dance and genting buddies..
Since 2010.. sex is very limited with her.. and with all my kids grown and away..
I have too much free time on my own.. No wonder so many mat sallehs divorce in their fifties.. as we feel our commitments fulfilled. I like massage and have grown attached to my ML.. which may be good or bad if seen under various perspectives..

[Opportunist]

Sigh bro, my heart goes out to you

[tehO]

Originally Posted by jnudes

I feel awkward when an online stranger ask me this question. BTW let me tell you I'm not from SG but from MY, this may probably turn you off and most bros here. And furthermore I'm not good looking. Somewhere in the middle, I guess.

Oh dear, you are being too humble at your reply. either too humble or lacking of self esteem. Nationality and the range you are classify under is never the main concern of anything. no one is superior enough to judge. if both party are really keen,such things that you mentioned above shouldn't be the main concern. if anyone that come along and list out such issues, then forget it and move on, never waste your precious time with such person.

Originally Posted by jnudes

Thanks for your wishing. However, I'm not waiting or seeking for anyone right now. Not desperate too. I am quite surprised and happy for the replies here as I do not expect a boring and lonely guy like me to be ever noticed by the bros and sis here. Once again, a big thank you.

I wish you because i felt sincerity in your posting and FYI i'm not asking a date from you, my main purpose is just to encourage you. 我们人都必须在鼓励的过程成长.

[Fireball16]

To the TS, hi bro! Welcome to the club! Lol. You shouldn't feel alone. As you can see there are a fair number of us around.

Abit of background: I'm 34 this year and my last major relationship ended in...2002. So 11years for me heh.
Since that time I've gotten to know and have dated a few ladies but nothing serious came out of it. Be it I was still recovering from my failed relationship and so couldn't move forward, I was just too shy and couldn't make the move or it was simply not the right person at the wrong time.

Most of the ladies now are happily married and we are still friends.

Till today I still think its nice to have a lady I can chat with when free, meet up over meals or coffee, laugh and joke, buy her small stuff when I feel like it, listen and help when she has trouble and be intimate with and don't have to be coy about it. It's nice to have someone to look out for and will treat me nicely in return.

That being said I like my own personal space and my own free time, which is rare nowadays due to work.

So I manage that need currently with my regular FL but I don't rue out if someone else special comes along. I believe that I shouldn't put in stone what my future holds or doesn't hold. But instead to just enjoy life currently in what little ways I can while still keeping one eye open to what may come.

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by Fireball16

To the TS, hi bro! Welcome to the club! Lol. You shouldn't feel alone. As you can see there are a fair number of us around.

Abit of background: I'm 34 this year and my last major relationship ended in...2002. So 11years for me heh.
Since that time I've gotten to know and have dated a few ladies but nothing serious came out of it. Be it I was still recovering from my failed relationship and so couldn't move forward, I was just too shy and couldn't make the move or it was simply not the right person at the wrong time.

Most of the ladies now are happily married and we are still friends.

Till today I still think its nice to have a lady I can chat with when free, meet up over meals or coffee, laugh and joke, buy her small stuff when I feel like it, listen and help when she has trouble and be intimate with and don't have to be coy about it. It's nice to have someone to look out for and will treat me nicely in return.

That being said I like my own personal space and my own free time, which is rare nowadays due to work.

So I manage that need currently with my regular FL but I don't rue out if someone else special comes along. I believe that I shouldn't put in stone what my future holds or doesn't hold. But instead to just enjoy life currently in what little ways I can while still keeping one eye open to what may come.

Bro, we are in the same boat. Shy and enjoying my personal space. Well I suppose I have been too lonely most of the times including sleeping alone in my own bedroom. Will get a release soon in my upcoming JB visit in July 2013.

[lemontee]

Being single has its own benefits....and disadvantages... The same goes for being attached. How one choose which path to take depends on what he/she desires for in life. For me, being single is the best. The freedom to do whatever your heart wishes and not be restrict by your the other half. Happiness is forever in your hand, and it should not be dependent on other people.

The most seemingly biggest hurdle to being single is loneliness. But in my opinion the loneliness can be fill up with many stuff. For instance, learning a new hobby/skill... travelling.... meeting your other single frds for movies dinners etc.... For those attached, they face a myriad of emotions like worries for kids...wife/husband having affair?.... anger.... mother-in-law issues..... frustrations cos yr other half do not understand you...... restrictions of movement by other half.... nagging from wife..... demands of sex from hus..... the list go on on on on......

And in the end, i believe alot of people despite being attached they feel more lonely than before.

[owl888]

TS, I oso single and happy man. Thousand cheers!

Enjoy while we can.....got time we can cheong together.

Juzz upzz u!

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by lemontee

Being single has its own benefits....and disadvantages... The same goes for being attached. How one choose which path to take depends on what he/she desires for in life. For me, being single is the best. The freedom to do whatever your heart wishes and not be restrict by your the other half. Happiness is forever in your hand, and it should not be dependent on other people.

The most seemingly biggest hurdle to being single is loneliness. But in my opinion the loneliness can be fill up with many stuff. For instance, learning a new hobby/skill... travelling.... meeting your other single frds for movies dinners etc.... For those attached, they face a myriad of emotions like worries for kids...wife/husband having affair?.... anger.... mother-in-law issues..... frustrations cos yr other half do not understand you...... restrictions of movement by other half.... nagging from wife..... demands of sex from hus..... the list go on on on on......

And in the end, i believe alot of people despite being attached they feel more lonely than before.

I 100% agree with what you have mentioned. My only problem is learn on how to take care of myself when I fell sick like going to hospital for checkup or treatment, learn to cook while I am sick, going to hospital in a sick condition and arrive safely. For a sick person a bed and medicine are his best friends. Loneliness is something I can overcome but getting sick and taking care of myself is a hurdle I need to learn and overcome too.