Need help in moving on

[alan0338]

Originally Posted by SA23

i even thou of going to police and surrender myself to them wif tat fact tat i had molest her...

then wats holding u back??? pls go ahead asap b4 she decide to report to police ... surrendering urself is a better option then getting caught...

[alan0338]

Originally Posted by Xenna

He has moved on but I have not.

dun worry, few years later when u two meet again, he will tell u he nv move on and will try his best to fuck u again ...

[shiokpleasure]

Originally Posted by Xenna

That is the best way to move on but easier said than done. Why does it always seem that guys move on easier?

Then i must be rather special or foolish.for ever ex that i had, i deliberately took a year to recover before i moved to next gal.

[aczeta76]

learn to talk about it and it is the 1st step to self discovery and recovery..

classic revised...6 steps

[DelisiA]

moving on is not time or what . is really when new people come into ur life u will move on slowly and unexpectely trust me, when ur nxt partner come slowly u wil stil miss ur ex, but if this guy/girl is good slowly u will forget him/her



this is a truth which i myself experience a few times before jus cry it out and soon of later u will be back on ur feet again


takecare TS

[Xenna]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

learn to talk about it and it is the 1st step to self discovery and recovery..

classic revised...6 steps

yeah i talk alot about it but my friends keep asking me not to talk about it anymore and move on. i don't like to avoid because it's only temporary solution. i want to get immune and move on without avoiding.

Originally Posted by DelisiA

moving on is not time or what . is really when new people come into ur life u will move on slowly and unexpectely trust me, when ur nxt partner come slowly u wil stil miss ur ex, but if this guy/girl is good slowly u will forget him/her



this is a truth which i myself experience a few times before jus cry it out and soon of later u will be back on ur feet again


takecare TS

till i meet the next guy then. heart matters are really painful.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by Xenna

That is the best way to move on but easier said than done. Why does it always seem that guys move on easier?

Disagree !, No, not always...quite often, it is a lot harder for guys to move on than gals cos actually the gals hold the trump card...Jus read the recent day's papers n u wld know. Actually its not the gender, whoever is more passionate abt the other tends to lose out and gets depressed...be they guys or gals. My 3 cents worth of tot !

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by Xenna

yeah i talk alot about it but my friends keep asking me not to talk about it anymore and move on. i don't like to avoid because it's only temporary solution. i want to get immune and move on without avoiding.

till i meet the next guy then. heart matters are really painful.

Yah, I agree wholeheartedly wif ur tis statement. Frens will always help wif advice to move on, tat a much beta 1 wld come along ur way. Its good to move on w/o avoiding but tink tat easier said than done. Best wishes to u, sis, in ur search for a new guy. Believe it is not difficult to find tat guy given time.

[asdfghjkl]

My first bf was my JC teacher.. was together for more than a few years.. we were quite intimate.. then he got married..

[mclovin]

time will come u will recover don't think too much about it life is short , eat, drink and be happy

[shiokpleasure]

Originally Posted by DelisiA

moving on is not time or what . is really when new people come into ur life u will move on slowly and unexpectely trust me, when ur nxt partner come slowly u wil stil miss ur ex, but if this guy/girl is good slowly u will forget him/her

this is a truth which i myself experience a few times before jus cry it out and soon of later u will be back on ur feet again

takecare TS

It's not about time, but at least it helps by giving you space and taking a step back.

It should not be about another new one as well, cause if you never give yourself time to displace and remove the old baggage, you're just gonna lug old burden and burden your next partner. Which was probably why you still miss yr ex in new relationship.

Whenever i break up, I'll give myself 1 year to remove any old relationship. After that i never looked back and can plunge all my energy and passion into the new relationship. I never missed any of my ex. Probably the only thing i missed was the passionate bbbj. ;p

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by Xenna

That is the best way to move on but easier said than done. Why does it always seem that guys move on easier?

Disagree.
Not guys nor gals.
Applicable to both gender.
Only the one who has the habit of being over reliant on the other will feel the biggest blow whereas, the one who was in the relationship & is on his/her own 2 feet wud feel pain but wud move on rationally.
Conclusion, a tree wud not die without a fern but a fern will die without a tree

[jj_jj]

Originally Posted by Rickey

Actually its not the gender, whoever is more passionate abt the other tends to lose out and gets depressed...

Fully agree bro!
It depends on whoever was more 'emotionally involved' in the r/s then it makes it harder to 'detach' oneself from a failed r/s, delaying the 'moving on'. End of the day, the heart rules the head.

Girls in general like the guys before they have sex, whereas guys are not genetically wired the same way.

[tinycork]

go join more activities and know more friends, will help u get over quicker...

[ironman73]

Originally Posted by Xenna

Broke up with my ex few months already. He has moved on but I have not. It is said that men can separate sex and emotions while it is the opposite for women generally.

I was warned by my friends before that after intimacy, the girl will feel more emotionally attached. I don't know if this is the case for me or is it because I really love him in the first place. He was the first bf to have such level of intimacy with me.

Hi Xenna, been hurt and hurting others is part and parcel of life. You will fell in and out of many "so-called" love, relationship in your life time. Even after your marriage, this cycle will still exist. I am sure alot of Bro, and Sis will agreed what i have said here.

Secondly, we are all humans, we get disappointed when we don't get the things we THINK we deserve, we get angry when ppl objected the views we have, we get happy when things move along the way we wanted... Both men and women have similar emotional needs, crave, dislike...etc. I have men friends in his 40s cried over a failed relationship and almost commited suicide. MUST always remember, when it come to any failed relationship, THERE IS NO RIGHT AND WRONG..

To me, is good to be hurt, at least it shown that you are still able to love or beloved.

Lastly, my advice is do what you need to do. Cried out aloud, go for a drinking rampage, expand your social circle, concentrate on your studies or work, go screw around etc. But you must remember, just by jumping into another relationship will most likely be fruitless and it will in turn you hurting ther other party. Is not really a responsible act but do it if you think it can help u to get out of current sitituation..