Seeking advise from the experienced

[zinc0]

Originally Posted by see see only

This... happened to me before ... after much of FL. Me realise normal chic avoiding me or simply take me for a ride - some not even treating as a simple friend Me then found out it is the way we carry ourseleves

I guess you hav to change your mindset first ....

• Befriend with them should be the first thing in your mind while talking to them, not sex

• Talk to any of them regardless how they look or whether they are up-able, the gal that you r interested in, will be looking

• Do not give them the impression that you are those type that goes FL

• Never tried to impress them with your $$$ power --- cannot never make them feel that you wanted something in return after buying them drinks or dinner

Finally & importantly kick away those habits or talking style while you r "FL-ing"


GOOD LUCK

Thank you. I will try and keep in mind on your guidance

Originally Posted by Mr_don_juan

1.) If you are overweight and unhappy about it then start exercising. Go to a gym, lift weights, run, swim, anything that will get you fit.

2.) If you are lack of confidence, then start talking to as many persons as you can. Even if they’re total strangers, you can practice your conversation skills with them. Maybe it will be hard, but all it requires is a little courage. You’ll see that in no time you will loose the fear.

You have to be satisfied with yourself. If you aren’t, then work hard to become the person you desire. How can you expect others to respect you if you don’t respect yourself? How can you expect others to like you if you don’t like yourself?

I am not fat. I am skinny instead, real skinny. I tried to exercise but still skinny. My height is not tall either the girls see my appearance alrdy sian 1/2.

Originally Posted by Softcore

This is an interesting topic and I will chip in.

The problem here is that you are using money to compensate for your lack of a personality. Girls will love you for your money... But then what? They'll end up being bored and seek pleasure from other men while leeching onto you for your money. This isn't being devious - it's about making good use of an opportunity, or having your cake and eating it.

Here are some tips to make yourself more attractive:

- Build up your body: being lean has its advantages.
- Be well-groomed: most men severely underestimate the impact of grooming and fashion
- Develop your own interests - what do you like to do? Share them with your female companions.
- Belief: If you don't believe in yourself, you can't attract women.

Thank you for your guide, but as im very skinny and short in height, it's always hard for me to chase girls. They always telling me "i prefer guys who are tall and fit in size. If handsome thats the best." thats y i really heartbroken and almost lost confidence in myself already..

[Mr_don_juan]

Originally Posted by zinc0

I am not fat. I am skinny instead, real skinny. I tried to exercise but still skinny. My height is not tall either the girls see my appearance alrdy sian 1/2.

If you're not confident in yourself, how can you expect a woman to be confident in you? And if a women says "I dont go out with short guys" then why do you care what she thinks anyway?

Alot of women dont mind short guys, for eg my dad (haha i so much taller) is shorter than my mum. My mum has heaps of guys chasing after her but choose my dad why? Because he was confident in himself and didnt use his height as an excuse for everything in his life.

It's not that girls like taller guys, is an IDEA that a man who is taller than they are is more able to protect them. Taller guys do has the initial advantage over the "shorties" like yourself. but in the end, personality etc takes over. If i am a shortie I can be a better protector just by showing i'm not scared of anything, and i'm not scared to do anything.

It all comes down to confidence and attitudes. Taking things such as appearance and wealth too seriously can seriously fuck you up.

[Lust4ML]

i think to have a long term relationship , personality is more important

For short term relationship like sex and flirt, money and looks more important

i am not as battle hardened in women as most bros here, these is just my little humble thoughts

[tomyamramee]

when they like you, they will come to you...
but the problem is dun stay in that small circle...hop around...go for a bigger circle and you will see one or a few that keep coming near you... and now u choose...
choose wisely...

[ilovesingapore]

after so much advice, worst come to worst, get a viet bride. Dun trouble urself over a gf, instead focus on career n ur passion. life's short.

[peterfox]

Read 'The Game' by Neil Strauss.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

TS - Just fxxking be confident and go out to talk to girls

Confidenceis a state of mind.

It cannot be taugh
It cannot be learned from someone else
It cannot be realized if you are so caught up in " negative thoughts of fear and worry
It is not a “technigue”

Confidence can only happen when you are in a genuinely relaxed state of mind, body, emotions and spirit. Stop fighting your inner demon .

Just go and chat up any girls - Ugly, far or slim or other wise

STOP FEELIBNG SORRY FOR YOURSELF!

[matt.lim1970]

i agree with many of the bros out there..

1st - build up confidence in yourself... if U believe in urself, then u will realise its much easier to talk to pple!!

2nd - "ask urself what you want" - we all choose our 'girls' because we see 'something in them' that we like.. i like girlA does not mean u like girlA.. same thing, girlZ dun like u doesnt mean girlX oso dont like..

3rd - tk ur mind off! rem! not all girls will be impressed with $$. many do look for personality, honesty, etc...

good luck bro! find strength in your friends, they know u the best and should support u!!

[newbieboy]

my approach is to have a very VERY sincere wallet.

[HCKing]

TS start socialising more n dont start thinking of bonking them all when u 1st get to knw new girl friends. as to hw to know them can always try social networking like FB, twitters etc. at the same time make an effort to go read up more articles or books on effective social and communication skills. there r tons of these helpful materials out there.

[torrentman123]

This is a very useful thread.

I think ultimately, it boils down to CONFIDENCE.

Looks and money are 1 thing, but people can SMELL your confidence.

I agree with the previous post that you should start talking to strangers.
That will help to muster up your courage as well as open up your world to others.
You will become very interesting and knowledgable.

I personally think girls like guys who know something that they don't, be it current affairs or trivia.

Have you thought about saying hello to your neighbour in the lift?
I think that is a good start, because frankly most Singaporeans just stare UP (at the ceiling or floor number), or DOWN (at the floor) in the lift.

I know I'm going to try and start!
All the best

[orneryjoe]

Join a Toastmasters Club.

Aside from learning how to make public speeches, you will naturally meet more people, read more books, have more ideas and become a more interesting person all-round.

Getting a bride from Vietnam or some other country also sounds like a practical idea nowadays -- just as long as you are willing to take pains to overcome the cultural gaps between you and your foreign bride.