Marriage issues revisited

[jayson]

Bro,

Just some ideas:

A get away, gifts and others you have tried. Why not confront her not about sex, but rather affection you are not receiving. Like what we learnt in school, identified problem, possible solutions and implementation and lastly feedback. If all dont work go back to the first stage.

The other thing you should try, (what we learnt in the army) use all direction attacking strategy. For example, gifts, get away, romantic dinner and etc, top up with 'spanish fly' see if it works. Hopefully with all the 'weapons and strategies' suggested by all the bros here can spark some light in your sex life with your wife.

Lastly, if they dont work, see a marriage therapist. It did some help for me and my wife, but our issue is not about sex, rather other more pressing issues.

Sadly if she do not want to face this problem, you might need to find out if she is seeing someone. Man can handle more than 1 woman, whereas woman can't. Thus they cannot share their love with both men, whereas we can love more than 1 lady and if financially sound, we will fairly provide for both.

These are some ideas, but due to lack of information such as her job, her friends, family background and etc its hard to really make any comments or analyse your problem in depth.

[Blast88]

TS,

Women require organsm to enjoy sex & desire for more. In your case, i suspect your wife might be having some hormone imbalance & this symstom will make them very low sex drive. pl seek specialist doctor advice & medication might help.

[consultant]

Originally Posted by consultant

Bro, I believe your prob quite serious.Only professional counseling might work IMHO as, like u said u hv tried many ways already.

Bro,I was only trying to help but got zapped until -40 pts?!!! Trust me this is advice given only after consulting professional counseling websites when other techniques fail. So pl return my pts

[zomgbaby]

Haven't got time to login recently. Thank you bros very much for all your valuable inputs. Will definitely try some of the other suggestions which i've yet to try. Hopefully this goes all out well otherwise this marriage will be doomed. Wish me luck.

[flowbow]

Originally Posted by consultant

Bro,I was only trying to help but got zapped until -40 pts?!!! Trust me this is advice given only after consulting professional counseling websites when other techniques fail. So pl return my pts

"please return your points"!?!?!?!!? Hahahaha first time I heard of this. Since when points can be returned one?!??!

[peanodood1337]

Firstly - DO NOT seek alternative sex partners. Whack it off on your own if necessary. Sleeping around will only make matters worse. Even if she never finds out, the guilt will remain with you for life.

As for wifey's problem, it might be stress related. How's she doing at work? Observe her more. Show more concern on a daily basis. That's what husbands do right? Get her to open up cos for all you know, there might be some sinister reason why she is not willing to be intimate (e.g. illness etc.) - tell/show her that your marriage matters and you worry about her.

Or maybe, she has anxiety issues when it comes to sex? For that, try wooing her all over again. Weekend getaways from the stress. Flowers, presents, chocolates to pique the interest. Sensual massages to get into the mood.

Just don't over-do it and make it seem like you are pandering to her like a whipped dog.

Oh, and I reckon you are not a selfish lover? Not speculating here, just reminding you to make sure she gets off whenever you guys are intimate. In normal circumstances, I don't think anyone would turn down a good orgasm from his/her significant other.

Good luck bro.

[zomgbaby]

Thank you bro for your valuable input. Will definitely try whatever means to rekindle. Only time will tell.

[consultant]

Originally Posted by flowbow

"please return your points"!?!?!?!!? Hahahaha first time I heard of this. Since when points can be returned one?!??!

Don't make fun of me leH, already many "people" cannot get new business when they try to pm me ctc, find that they cannot do so, quite Cham don't you agree. Ok to use the right lingo, do me a favour all bros here, up me can?

[flowbow]

Originally Posted by consultant

Don't make fun of me leH, already many "people" cannot get new business when they try to pm me ctc, find that they cannot do so, quite Cham don't you agree. Ok to use the right lingo, do me a favour all bros here, up me can?

Cham? You must have done something to piss the samsters off so bad that they decided to zap you to -30. So no, I don't think you are cham and I don't pity you. and I believe if you continue going on and on and on about this you're just gonna get zapped even more.

To be instantly out of the reds is actually very easy... Just pay money lor

[edison07]

I feel for you bro.

Something to ponder. Do u engage in pre marital sex with her. If you do, how was the session?

If you do not engage in pre marital sex with her, then I assume that you did not know where her problem lies only after marriage.

If you have pre marital sex with her before marriage and things were hot before marriage and it comes to a stalemate after marriage, you will have to be careful.

Is that post marriage stress or is she seeing someone else. You have to get to these matter clear first. That said, i guess she isn't exactly seeing someone else because of the fact that she wants to have a family with you as you had stated.

Have a heart to heart talk with her. Most importanttly don't throw your temper even though chances are she wiill start to roar at you and accused you of only thinking about sex and neglecting her feelings.

[owl888]

When u have sex with her previously, is her CB dry

Maybe she painful, that's why afraid to have sex

[karoosel]

Originally Posted by peanodood1337

Firstly - DO NOT seek alternative sex partners. Whack it off on your own if necessary. Sleeping around will only make matters worse. Even if she never finds out, the guilt will remain with you for life.

As for wifey's problem, it might be stress related. How's she doing at work? Observe her more. Show more concern on a daily basis. That's what husbands do right? Get her to open up cos for all you know, there might be some sinister reason why she is not willing to be intimate (e.g. illness etc.) - tell/show her that your marriage matters and you worry about her.

Or maybe, she has anxiety issues when it comes to sex? For that, try wooing her all over again. Weekend getaways from the stress. Flowers, presents, chocolates to pique the interest. Sensual massages to get into the mood.

Just don't over-do it and make it seem like you are pandering to her like a whipped dog.

Oh, and I reckon you are not a selfish lover? Not speculating here, just reminding you to make sure she gets off whenever you guys are intimate. In normal circumstances, I don't think anyone would turn down a good orgasm from his/her significant other.

Good luck bro.

well said! i am a newbie here and surprisingly a female.

i am newly married and pregnant. due to the pregnancy, sex has not been the same for my husband and i especially during the first trimester. i try my best to keep up with his needs then and now (on my 2nd trimester). sadly he doesn't seem to share the respect you have for the marital vows. so while i suffered through my nausea and discomfort for our unborn child, he went and bonked in geylang. i just found out about this recently and it fricking hurts.

to the TS, i hope you and your wife resolve this issue. the only thing i could think of to suggest is perhaps going through counselling. late twenties is too early to give up on sex.. especially for us women.

[cuntarow]

Originally Posted by LengKia

my friend has no sex with his wife for 3.5 years

its ok because i think he had it with others instead haha no offence

[Laoshu]

Originally Posted by tanhockgin

Hey Bro,

Same shit is happening to me.

At least yours does not involve kids. We dun even sleep on the same bed anymore and we are living just for the kids. Hate it. No life, no future!

Be prepared for the worse. As you cant change her nor do you want her to change you, seek an anullment. Not sure if that is still valid. If not, go your own way.

Then never ink a contract again till you are damn sure the next person is THE ONE.

Hard cold reality.

Bro, feel you too. I'm in the same situation with you. I don't know how to solve this issue till today. Totally give me a cold shoulder

[strikeback4]

Have you try initiating sex with condom or her taking birth control pill?

If despite this she don't want, maybe because she lost her sex drive, not everyone is into sex you know

What is important if both of you talk about it and agree on something like once a week or a month thing