Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[analog]

Originally Posted by Teddman

OMG Guys (and the occasional gals), this thread is scaring the crap out of me.

I am 29 and getting married next year. Upfront I will say now the sex is hardly sizzling. Long long relationship and with heavy workload, the Tiger inside me is not released enough. I contemplated before that, since I am so horny, might as well be fair to her lah, just break up and she goes her own way, find another man to give her the HDB 5 room flat package with Korean car and ample CPF for retirement after the 2.2 kids abandon her.

And while she goes her own way, I go about donating my seed worldwide. It's very painful now already! I have friends who tell me Macau no need to book hotel, the massage place already provides you heaven (sleep, eat, make sweet love to hot russian/chinese/korean/hot girls, repeat cycle), or Bangkok got Poseidon model floor.

HOW TO TAKE THIS GUYS!?

And after visiting spa a few times, I can honestly say the experience of masseuse asking GQ to you may be funny and interesting the first few times, but after that, feels damn pathetic. The Tiger wants MORE. But having more is like selling my soul man.

It is honestly very very difficult to stay on the straight and narrow. I think it's her fault for giving so little. But really the amount I demand, my friends also think i am abit abnormal. I proposed ultimately because some voice inside me said that this marriage thing - cannot be about satisfying the Tiger alone right?

I think after we get our flat, I will insist that the design plans to our study room will be kept secret and up to me to decide. The Internet may be my only salvation.

Hey Bro Teddman:

Fear is a good thing, it keeps you alive and should keep you out of trouble. Be very scared and very wary.

"I am 29 and getting married next year. Upfront I will say now the sex is hardly sizzling. Long long relationship and with heavy workload, the Tiger inside me is not released enough. I contemplated before that, since I am so horny, might as well be fair to her lah, just break up and she goes her own way, find another man to give her the HDB 5 room flat package with Korean car and ample CPF for retirement after the 2.2 kids abandon her. "

BOLT NOW WHILE YOU CAN! You think it will be embarrassing and messy to call off the wedding now, just wait to see how embarrassing and messy it is with 2 kids and property. RUN NOW!!!! Take a job overseas, join the army, just get out while you can!!!!

You admit that the sex is not all that great now and you still want to marry this bitch? Bro Teddman, WAKE UP!!!!! At least most of us here got honestly conned, our wives were once COMPLETE SLUTS!!! But you....mate, all I'm going to tell you is that it goes down from here and from what you wrote, you're situation is almost crap already, what's below crap?

Run buddy, run! I'm telling you this honestly...fuck this "work pressure" excuse garbage. If you like each other enough you'd be in each other's pants every night of the week, work pressure or not. The fact that you're not should give you a MAJOR moment of pause.

Bro, call it off (the wedding) and cut it off(the relationship). Get yourself a fuck buddy and move on. Marriage and internet porn is NOT the answer. Just because you're not married doesn't mean you have to see pros all the time, just get a GF and keep it that way. Your comments about pros are well taken and I agree, it gets long in the tooth after a while. But thinking marriage is the answer especially with someone that you have admitted to us is a dead fish in the bed department?

As Obi Wan said, "Run Luke, Run!".

Cheers,
jim

[Sen5eS]

hehee Analog ... you're making it sound really "scary" !!!

Hope that Ted Bro considers the merit of YOUR marriage on how you and your partner feels for each other and not the "quantity" of sexual intercourse.

oh well ... if all's been said and dusted ... maybe single-hood might be your cup of tea unless you work out something regarding polygamy/polyamory.

[arsenal_84]

is the same situation happening with foreign wifes ?
damn i'm getting worried reading this thread

[Window7]

Originally Posted by DannyBoy4

Wow bro... ur wife is different to many others (in a good way)... Any secret on why and how this could happen. As you may read the thread, most of us have wives that are not interested in sex anymore... the urge is declining...
However, I am sure that some women have even higher urge with years..

Guess I'm another lucky guy here. Wife was not so sexual active after our 2 kids but 2 years ago she changed. Think it came naturally.

For pass 2 years I had sex with her better then ever.
And she damn high sex drive. She can come 4 to 5 time each section.
We had sex 3 to 5 times a week. Bbbj will spend about 20 to 30 mins.

[analog]

Originally Posted by Window7

Guess I'm another lucky guy here. Wife was not so sexual active after our 2 kids but 2 years ago she changed. Think it came naturally.

For pass 2 years I had sex with her better then ever.
And she damn high sex drive. She can come 4 to 5 time each section.
We had sex 3 to 5 times a week. Bbbj will spend about 20 to 30 mins.

Bro Window7:

You lucky, lucky, lucky, lucky bastard!

I am VERY envious.

Good for you.

Cheers,
jim

[Window7]

Originally Posted by analog

Bro Window7:

You lucky, lucky, lucky, lucky bastard!

I am VERY envious.

Good for you.

Cheers,
jim

bro, it came a long way.
there's a few years sex is off the topic. there's 1 year that we had only once.

[nuclearkid]

Originally Posted by sgjoey

As for the book you mentioned, I am guessing you are talking about the Bible. To be honest, all holy books contain lots of rubbish. No contest when we contrast religion with science as custodians of the truth. Science wins, hands down.

And the latest science research is telling us something which is so revolutionary that most people are still not ready to accept -- essentially, humans (males as well as females) like most animal species, are non-monogamous.

Your parochial outlook of the world is indeed stupefying. Science is discovering but the tip of the iceberg of what we are, the world we live in, how it all comes together... if you don't quite understand how it all interacts, the problem doesn't lie with religion, it lies with you.

If you have time to read beyond your pet subject of polygamy, perhaps you would do well to pick up a different genre. An introductory chapter of Gerald Schroeder's 'The Science of God' will debunk your misguided impressions about the six days of Genesis (Big Bang Theory, anyone?), humanity's evolution, the great flood of Israel and a whole lot more. Its heavy stuff but a total eye/mind opener. Science has only recently developed the technology to corroborate what the Bible has said 2000 years ago. They are complementary, not opposing. You have alot of catching up to bring yourself up to speed.

To other readers of this thread and especially to threadstarter ferragamo, my most humble apologies for veering so off topic. I felt the compulsion to address his post and this will be my last on this debate.

[Teddman]

Bro Jim,

Thanks man. I read your reply and I can tell it comes from the heart of one bro to another. Either that or from one cock to another.

Been reading further on this thread and I'll tell you this is starting to scare the crap out of me. I guess it's time I make the right next move and cut things off.

Wish me luck bros! Better dead with an STD and sperm donated all over the world than to be a dedicated husband and father in SG! And no more internet porn! Damn connection to Singnet has been damn laggy - enough of semi-cumshots that freeze in mid air and don't land on the face!

I have a feeling I'm going to wake up in the morning and change my mind. True Singaporean style hahaha!

Originally Posted by analog

Hey Bro Teddman:

Fear is a good thing, it keeps you alive and should keep you out of trouble. Be very scared and very wary.

"I am 29 and getting married next year. Upfront I will say now the sex is hardly sizzling. Long long relationship and with heavy workload, the Tiger inside me is not released enough. I contemplated before that, since I am so horny, might as well be fair to her lah, just break up and she goes her own way, find another man to give her the HDB 5 room flat package with Korean car and ample CPF for retirement after the 2.2 kids abandon her. "

BOLT NOW WHILE YOU CAN! You think it will be embarrassing and messy to call off the wedding now, just wait to see how embarrassing and messy it is with 2 kids and property. RUN NOW!!!! Take a job overseas, join the army, just get out while you can!!!!

You admit that the sex is not all that great now and you still want to marry this bitch? Bro Teddman, WAKE UP!!!!! At least most of us here got honestly conned, our wives were once COMPLETE SLUTS!!! But you....mate, all I'm going to tell you is that it goes down from here and from what you wrote, you're situation is almost crap already, what's below crap?

Run buddy, run! I'm telling you this honestly...fuck this "work pressure" excuse garbage. If you like each other enough you'd be in each other's pants every night of the week, work pressure or not. The fact that you're not should give you a MAJOR moment of pause.

Bro, call it off (the wedding) and cut it off(the relationship). Get yourself a fuck buddy and move on. Marriage and internet porn is NOT the answer. Just because you're not married doesn't mean you have to see pros all the time, just get a GF and keep it that way. Your comments about pros are well taken and I agree, it gets long in the tooth after a while. But thinking marriage is the answer especially with someone that you have admitted to us is a dead fish in the bed department?

As Obi Wan said, "Run Luke, Run!".

Cheers,
jim

[sgjoey]

Nuclear...

The Sc of God.... you must be kidding....

The most reasonable view about God (although I don't believe in such an entity) is Karen Armstrong's view that anything you can say about God is distorting.

Looks like my suspicion that you are a fundie is spot-on. Notice that my earlier post does not single out any religion. But it is rather disconcerting that many so-called educated Singaporeans are turning Christian, not realising that they are pawns of our former colonists, who themselves have mostly given up on religion.

You totally misunderstand my view when you take it that I support polygamy -- I don't. Just goes to show how gross your misinterpretation is when you make such a fundamental error.

[Frankiestine]

Hullo people lets still to topic of sex or rather lack of sex and not veered off course...religion is a one man meat another man poison thing...

[DannyBoy4]

Originally Posted by Window7

bro, it came a long way.
there's a few years sex is off the topic. there's 1 year that we had only once.

Bro Window7, thanks for sharing your circumstance.
Again the question is whether there is a 'secret' for this turning point, or were there things (e.g. important events, family circumstances, kids grown up or left home, health...) that suddenly turned everything upside down from once a year to very good record today...
Is there any tipping point (as some books call it)?
or is it just a pure luck or coincidence that suddenly sex becomes great.. (again)...
This is what puzzling me.
Thanks Window7 for sharing.

[SparkleDoll]

Seeing guys complain about this problem with their wives just make me real sian. That's because I'm the high and dry wife with a high sex drive. We fucked like bunnies before marriage and now 2 years in, my husband says he has no sex drive at all. Help!

He always says how mentally tired he is from his business that he has no mood for anything else. He finds sex too draining on the energy. I know myself and actually told him when we were dating that if a marriage has no more sex, that is kinda the end for me. Sex is not the ONLY ingredient in a marriage but it's sure as hell a very important. He laughed then because he felt there was no way he will not want sex. However, after marriage, he has literally settled down so much he just wants to use the time and energy for other things. Agrrr

I have tried talking, initiating and always end up feeling rejected. When ppl ard us joke about how lucky he is to have such a hot wife, I wanna rip off someone's head! What's the use of being hot when I am probably gonna have to live like a nun for the rest of my life. I asked him if he was not afraid I will stray. He gets angry and say there are other things in a marriage more improtant than sex.

Frankly, I get very fustrated and have thought of having FB or even divorce. I don't want to live the rest of my life like this. What am I doing wrong here? Can too much of a good thing make a man take for granted? I did not let myself go, I have a habit of sleeping in lingerie every night. Everytime someone hits on me I get angst and wonder why I got such a bad roll in the marriage dice. Why the fuck doesn't my husband want me.

Well, this long rant only proves that this issue rans both ways. Regardless of gender. May you guys find a solution soon and may I have the strength to remain faithful.

[sgjoey]

Sparkle...

Interesting. But yes, humans -- males as well as females -- are generally non-monogamous, especially when they are allowed to be themselves.

Words like "faithful" are moralistic traps that reinforce the thinking that monogamy is good and non-monogamy, bad. It's like the proverbial elephant tethered by a string, but thinking that the string was a secure iron chain. As a result of this perception, the elephant remains content to stay in one place.

I would suggest that you should feel free to explore your sexuality. How you choose to do this is, of course, entirely up to you. If you need suggestions, I think you have come to the right place. Just ask... and many will oblige.

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by SparkleDoll

When ppl ard us joke about how lucky he is to have such a hot wife, I wanna rip off someone's head! What's the use of being hot when I am probably gonna have to live like a nun for the rest of my life..

How ironic, whenever pple sees a pic of my oc they also say i am such a lucky man to have a hot looking wife....but they don't know deep inside how rotten i feel...see no touch..that why i always bring up the joke that my wife is like a piece of counterfeit art...looks like a masterpiece but worthless in value...

[acidicavex]

Originally Posted by SparkleDoll

Seeing guys complain about this problem with their wives just make me real sian. That's because I'm the high and dry wife with a high sex drive. We fucked like bunnies before marriage and now 2 years in, my husband says he has no sex drive at all. Help!

He always says how mentally tired he is from his business that he has no mood for anything else. He finds sex too draining on the energy. I know myself and actually told him when we were dating that if a marriage has no more sex, that is kinda the end for me. Sex is not the ONLY ingredient in a marriage but it's sure as hell a very important. He laughed then because he felt there was no way he will not want sex. However, after marriage, he has literally settled down so much he just wants to use the time and energy for other things. Agrrr

I have tried talking, initiating and always end up feeling rejected. When ppl ard us joke about how lucky he is to have such a hot wife, I wanna rip off someone's head! What's the use of being hot when I am probably gonna have to live like a nun for the rest of my life. I asked him if he was not afraid I will stray. He gets angry and say there are other things in a marriage more improtant than sex.

Frankly, I get very fustrated and have thought of having FB or even divorce. I don't want to live the rest of my life like this. What am I doing wrong here? Can too much of a good thing make a man take for granted? I did not let myself go, I have a habit of sleeping in lingerie every night. Everytime someone hits on me I get angst and wonder why I got such a bad roll in the marriage dice. Why the fuck doesn't my husband want me.

Well, this long rant only proves that this issue rans both ways. Regardless of gender. May you guys find a solution soon and may I have the strength to remain faithful.

Hi sparkle doll my sentiment to u your husband will miss out all this fun sooner or later i guess. Being faithful in non-sexual marriage is harm very very harm i guess it play both way frankly your husband sound very like my wife she always say this "in marriage and family sex is not everything" It is make up of communication blab blab etc etc. But it is part of it maybe a small faction in it. Frankly those whom really find the right partner i would say is really really lucky. Majority of cases will be either one is high the other is low in sex...... Straying mean you already gave up why not try alternative like using or getting the help of toys?

For me i resort to my hand and hmmm porno help so that it and than.