Wife don't like sex

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by AvatarZ

Sex remained a weekly affair but she is mainly passive.

At least you still get to do it, unlike some of us

[hsbc]

Originally Posted by sweetmilf

Read last few post from this thread because of the title. Not sure if there are any married ladies in the same situation as me. It's totally opposite in my marriage with my husband. It was I that constantly initiate sex with him. Begging him for sex regularly. Talked about it with him also. Quarrel a few times too. Been really tired. Sometimes after I begged him and he went on and go to sleep without doing anything, I would just turn to the other side and cry myself quietly to sleep. And he does not care. The feeling of begging, makes me feel I am really cheap to the core.
Asked him what's wrong with me before. He said nothing. I am not ugly, not fat, willing to do anything, good in bed also. So what's wrong?
All along I thought the problem lies with me. But I was so so wrong. I found out coincidentally that he had engaged not once, twice but a few times, the service of Thai girls. This really gave me a real hard stab on my heart. Imagine on of the date was when my little baby girl is just 3 months old.
We rarely had sex. It's been almost 6 months since we last had any sex. There was once I caught him masturbating in the toilet. He just kept quiet.
And I can't do anything.
Can any guys here tell me, whats wrong with my husband. Or whats wrong with me? I am slim, I am quite pretty, I don't smoke, I am educated, I dress well.

Sad. I think guy sometimes just easily get bored with their sex partner

[ah rat]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

At least you still get to do it, unlike some of us

Bro Monster, get 1 new wife

[Dracolash]

Originally Posted by sweetmilf

... Can any guys here tell me, whats wrong with my husband. Or whats wrong with me? I am slim, I am quite pretty, I don't smoke, I am educated, I dress well.

Guess you need to re-turn him on by simply ignoring him and turn your attention to someone else, until he notice the attention you're getting - from others. Don't even give him a chance to see your body, let alone you changing, etc. If these don't work, it is a larger issue...

[Dracolash]

Sweetmilf, just need to turn secretive again and donot let him gain any access of your naked body. Once he gets curious again and all will start over... if this does not work, it is a larger issue...

[Niles]

Originally Posted by sweetmilf

Can any guys here tell me, whats wrong with my husband. Or whats wrong with me? I am slim, I am quite pretty, I don't smoke, I am educated, I dress well.

Try surprising him ? A blowjob while he is sleeping is a classic turn on, but not if has to work the next day. Try it when he is not working the next day. Come back and share the results

[Aizen]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Welcum to the nightmare club....have you gone thru the customary or just register? If only register then maybe you should discuss with her and have the marriage annul.

customary done... didnt want to wait too long after register... Married in hope that it will be easier to BTO a hdb...

i have never thought of the D word... just that i think our work life has made us tired after a day's work... plus we dont stay together, what's the chance of having sex at all?

Originally Posted by analog

Married for at least three years?
Any kids?

almost 2 years, no kids as no home... dont want to have children without a home...

[sweetmilf]

Thanks everyone for giving advices to help me. But what you guys have suggested, I had actually done it all. From hinting, to asking, to questioning. Asked him to go counselling but he insist there's no need for it. Told him that I have my needs also. But turn deaf ear. Cried also no use. For years I have been trying very hard to get him to understand but he just brush it off.
I did told him before that its a matter of time if I decide to divorce him. Guess what, he said if I do, I will never get to see my girl again. And I can leave anytime. For the sake of my girl, I chose to stay in a loveless marriage.
I have tried wearing sexy lingerie too. But nothing helps. Ignored him for months but still the same. He has not seen me naked for months also.
Am really tired. Don't want to quarrel with him anymore as it does not help.
My girl is the only thing that keeps me going.

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by sweetmilf

Thanks everyone for giving advices to help me. But what you guys have suggested, I had actually done it all. From hinting, to asking, to questioning. Asked him to go counselling but he insist there's no need for it. Told him that I have my needs also. But turn deaf ear. Cried also no use. For years I have been trying very hard to get him to understand but he just brush it off.
I did told him before that its a matter of time if I decide to divorce him. Guess what, he said if I do, I will never get to see my girl again. And I can leave anytime. For the sake of my girl, I chose to stay in a loveless marriage.
I have tried wearing sexy lingerie too. But nothing helps. Ignored him for months but still the same. He has not seen me naked for months also.
Am really tired. Don't want to quarrel with him anymore as it does not help.
My girl is the only thing that keeps me going.

either he doesnt love u anymore or has a true lover outside giving him all the workout he desires. unless the guy didi cant stand if not no way will he not get turned on when his beloved approaches him in sexy lingerie and giving him the CFM sign.

[samyboys]

Originally Posted by sweetmilf

Thanks everyone for giving advices to help me. But what you guys have suggested, I had actually done it all. From hinting, to asking, to questioning. Asked him to go counselling but he insist there's no need for it. Told him that I have my needs also. But turn deaf ear. Cried also no use. For years I have been trying very hard to get him to understand but he just brush it off.
I did told him before that its a matter of time if I decide to divorce him. Guess what, he said if I do, I will never get to see my girl again. And I can leave anytime. For the sake of my girl, I chose to stay in a loveless marriage.
I have tried wearing sexy lingerie too. But nothing helps. Ignored him for months but still the same. He has not seen me naked for months also.
Am really tired. Don't want to quarrel with him anymore as it does not help.
My girl is the only thing that keeps me going.

maybe u need to find out if what u did, works, from another guy point of view

[samyboys]

seriously i am considering seeking a FB

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by ah rat

Bro Monster, get 1 new wife

This is my second one....sex was fantastic during pre-marriage days but after that go down the drain...so no guarantee test drive first will work...so best option is still to cheong GL WL...at least you are guarantee minimum service expected...

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by Aizen

i have never thought of the D word... just that i think our work life has made us tired after a day's work... plus we dont stay together, what's the chance of having sex at all?..

I think you should both planned something, either one of you moves in to stay with in laws. Its really not good to be kept apart and not see each other often especially when you are married already.

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by samyboys

seriously i am considering seeking a FB

Better to find FL/WL, FB can get sticky after a while..that how i end up with my oc...she started off as my fb but end up in one big mess...and even really prefer FB then stick to a married one...singles can end up like those "FATAL ATTRACTION" situation...believe me bro I been through it..

[ah rat]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

This is my second one....sex was fantastic during pre-marriage days but after that go down the drain...so no guarantee test drive first will work...so best option is still to cheong GL WL...at least you are guarantee minimum service expected...

Bro Monster,get the third lah