Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[Darina]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

???Wah that one a big too chim for monster to understand not unless you mean you been "swinging" tree to tree like Tarzan...

It means that even if you make the effort to "shake the tree" or "stroke the tree" it doesn't mean that anything might come out of it

And no I'm not "swinging" from tree to tree like Tarzan

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by Darina

It means that even if you make the effort to "shake the tree" or "stroke the tree" it doesn't mean that anything might come out of it

Looks like you been stroking a dried, dead and shrivel tree for too long..

Or perhaps his could be a cactus...can tahan long long without "water"

[kgbkgb]

Originally Posted by Darina

I learnt that hitting the tree does not mean the fruits will drop for you to eat

Dun waste ur time shaking the wrong tree. Try shaking mine and I guarantee u fruits of yr labour

[SG_FUN]

Just want to share some of my suffering too along with all bros here.

Only married for 3 yrs and already can count the number of times having sex. Before the wedding, she was like raping me and i like that but once paper signed, all the raping etc are gone. And i have no sex for the last one year and having a lot of excuses like most bro here experiencing. I have done all i can, try to be romantic, bring her out for expensive dinner, buy her gifts but at the end, just a statement " not in the mood" .

Hiaz, if this continue, the only way out will be separate way as i think i do not want to waste my life just like that. We all only have 20+,30+ once and i do not want to life with regrets when i am old.

[nuclearkid]

Originally Posted by SG_FUN

Just want to share some of my suffering too along with all bros here.

Only married for 3 yrs and already can count the number of times having sex. Before the wedding, she was like raping me and i like that but once paper signed, all the raping etc are gone. And i have no sex for the last one year and having a lot of excuses like most bro here experiencing. I have done all i can, try to be romantic, bring her out for expensive dinner, buy her gifts but at the end, just a statement " not in the mood" .

Hiaz, if this continue, the only way out will be separate way as i think i do not want to waste my life just like that. We all only have 20+,30+ once and i do not want to life with regrets when i am old.

Bro, if you have yet to have kids, keep it that way. If she's gonna re-rape you just for getting herself pregnant, chances are it'll revert back to status quo upon fait accompli and you'll be stuck for a long time. Boy, I've gotta say to go all celibate at the 3 year mark is pretty saddening...

[hickeybites]

Originally Posted by SG_FUN

Just want to share some of my suffering too along with all bros here.

Only married for 3 yrs and already can count the number of times having sex. Before the wedding, she was like raping me and i like that but once paper signed, all the raping etc are gone. And i have no sex for the last one year and having a lot of excuses like most bro here experiencing. I have done all i can, try to be romantic, bring her out for expensive dinner, buy her gifts but at the end, just a statement " not in the mood" .

Hiaz, if this continue, the only way out will be separate way as i think i do not want to waste my life just like that. We all only have 20+,30+ once and i do not want to life with regrets when i am old.

Hey... I kinda feel for you & the other bros in the same plight. As a female, I personally find it rather baffling this "phenomena" of overnight-absence-of-sex-drive; especially if there're no kids in the picture or if the marriage has yet to reach the 7yr-mark. Granted -- if either partner (male or female) always has had low sex drive even during dating, then perhaps one can only begrudge the lack of test-driving before actual "purchase".
(*However, there are many many ladies out there who're more sexually adventurous when in their 30s & beyond; and they've could have been more cloistered in their teens/20s. And this is not some fiction spun here in the sbf annals.... so all hope is not lost!

Anyways, to bro SG_FUN: you did not mention much details or background so I can only guess.... do pardon me if I'm wrong. I can only roughly fathom the possible reasons behind the sudden lack of raping almost immediately after wedding (again just guesses... just trying to put a 1c here)
- Kids conceived or born almost immediately after wedding?
- Are you two staying with parents-in-laws?
- Changes in jobs? Increase in bills? Waiting for flat or whatever?
- How long were u two dating before getting married? Many years?
- Has your wife put on weight after the wedding?
- Has your wife made new friends in the past 3 years?

Okay -- I'm NOT saying that the above cited are valid reasons to deny sexual intimacy. And yes, there are ways around each & every problem or hindrance to getting it on.
For e.g., checking into hotel if it's inconvenient with old folks around the house. However do note that most females generally abhor going into those transit hotels even with husbands -- there's just this stigma attached & we may feel pai-seh at times. But that can still be overcome (hint: masterful seduction... )
Just suggesting that you & your wife sit down & talk, go counselling, go holiday - anything! And hopefully you & your wife are able to resolve issues (the obvious & the underlying) without resorting to separation...

[Stud00]

Originally Posted by hickeybites

Hey... I kinda feel for you & the other bros in the same plight. As a female, I personally find it rather baffling this "phenomena" of overnight-absence-of-sex-drive; especially if there're no kids in the picture or if the marriage has yet to reach the 7yr-mark. Granted -- if either partner (male or female) always has had low sex drive even during dating, then perhaps one can only begrudge the lack of test-driving before actual "purchase".
(*However, there are many many ladies out there who're more sexually adventurous when in their 30s & beyond; and they've could have been more cloistered in their teens/20s. And this is not some fiction spun here in the sbf annals.... so all hope is not lost!

Anyways, to bro SG_FUN: you did not mention much details or background so I can only guess.... do pardon me if I'm wrong. I can only roughly fathom the possible reasons behind the sudden lack of raping almost immediately after wedding (again just guesses... just trying to put a 1c here)
- Kids conceived or born almost immediately after wedding?
- Are you two staying with parents-in-laws?
- Changes in jobs? Increase in bills? Waiting for flat or whatever?
- How long were u two dating before getting married? Many years?
- Has your wife put on weight after the wedding?
- Has your wife made new friends in the past 3 years?

Okay -- I'm NOT saying that the above cited are valid reasons to deny sexual intimacy. And yes, there are ways around each & every problem or hindrance to getting it on.
For e.g., checking into hotel if it's inconvenient with old folks around the house. However do note that most females generally abhor going into those transit hotels even with husbands -- there's just this stigma attached & we may feel pai-seh at times. But that can still be overcome (hint: masterful seduction... )
Just suggesting that you & your wife sit down & talk, go counselling, go holiday - anything! And hopefully you & your wife are able to resolve issues (the obvious & the underlying) without resorting to separation...

Well said!...

[Sen5eS]

Stud00: Congrats ! You're not -147 any more !

Hickey: Yeah ... guess its counseling for some then ... oh ... more adventurous but in 30s and beyond ... anyone in particular to introduce to us gents who might be in the same category ? haha

[Darina]

Originally Posted by kgbkgb

Dun waste ur time shaking the wrong tree. Try shaking mine and I guarantee u fruits of yr labour

Haha, I already stopped wasting my time but I don't need to try shaking yrs in hope of something

[wankytonky]

Bro Ferragamo, i seldom post here but can totally relate to you. Married 4 years with bad sex life. I've struggled through this year without cheating but dont know how long i can last..

[Sen5eS]

hahahha good try anyway

[Monster80]

same as all bro here, i'm marriage around 4 yr with kid. nowaday feel bored when having sex with my wife, even cant get horny when see her naked. now only 1 thing can make me feel excited which is imagine her fuck by others.

[DannyBoy4]

Originally Posted by Monster80

same as all bro here, i'm marriage around 4 yr with kid. nowaday feel bored when having sex with my wife, even cant get horny when see her naked. now only 1 thing can make me feel excited which is imagine her fuck by others.

Bro Monster80. Glad to hear your story.. You are not alone in this case - that is the feeling to imagine that wife being fucked by others.. in my case.. even by the younger ones. I mentioned this to my good friend who is female and she tought that I was strange...
Any other bros have this feeling?

[nuclearkid]

Originally Posted by DannyBoy4

Bro Monster80. Glad to hear your story.. You are not alone in this case - that is the feeling to imagine that wife being fucked by others.. in my case.. even by the younger ones. I mentioned this to my good friend who is female and she tought that I was strange...
Any other bros have this feeling?

This feeling you speak of is bit unconventional in my part of the world, bro. Personally, to rev up my old engine, I would prefer to do another lady then watch my wife get banged by another bro. Colour me selfish.

[lglg666]

There is no right and wrong when sex is concern......important to enjoy and not cause too much pain onto others. Best .....to have willing partners