Gers Are Still Gers

[Harrier24B]

Originally Posted by coldckk

never find a gf earn more than you and it jux like me my gf always blame me for using her money when going out most of expenses she pay but i earn less than her of coz i contribute less lor have to blame me huh? At 1st we start our relationship i already told her im poor guy no money but she said she very happy i so honest she don mind! Help me bro wat should i do? Should i break off with her i cannot face her anymore because she look down on me and even her family..

First thing you should do is to find ways to carve a better career so she won't look down on you! How do you expect to gain her respect when you just take a day as it comes and live with the fact that you earn less all the time?

I started poor too when i met my wife, when she was regional sales manager of a MNC, but now I've managed to set up my successful businesses and provide a better life for my family.....

Important thing is to let her see you making progress and this should gain her respect .....

[sherrry]

Originally Posted by coldckk

never find a gf earn more than you and it jux like me my gf always blame me for using her money when going out most of expenses she pay but i earn less than her of coz i contribute less lor have to blame me huh? At 1st we start our relationship i already told her im poor guy no money but she said she very happy i so honest she don mind! Help me bro wat should i do? Should i break off with her i cannot face her anymore because she look down on me and even her family..

Do what your heart & brain tell you. If you think you got the strength to face her mockery, then you carry on. If you think she don't respect you, then tell her F_ck off. Love is about sacrifices, but not on 1 party's expense.

[no_faith]

bro harrier, tbh we do not know the full inside story.
yes, u can worked super hard for the family but sumtimes u juz damn f**king
suay in life and the chances seem alway bypass u. wat can u do?
u r lucky but how many can be tat lucky? maybe bro coldckk has tried his very best to change tat.
summore, it could be his gf fault?

bro coldckk, pls tink carefully, watz the point holding on to a painful relationships?
but itz a matter of time she will ask for breakup coz she has lost her patience.
imho, no point dragging. it hurts more. itz no more love issue, itz abt despise.
leave her, try again in ur career. maybe itz her making u suay leh?(tis is joke)
maybe ur career really soared in the future and get another one.

[coldckk]

to all bro and sister ya me very tired abt it but i love her we together abt 2years plus tis problem bring up e second time i already sad and hurt y she insisted i used her money all e time i did contribute alot too but i think she think tat i never contribute more tat she did for wat she earn but sometime i think is a waste of money when we are outside makan good food with her family not once but twice every weekend i said no money but she said don mind she pay so i had no choice to eat with her family you cant go away to eat your chicken rice and they eat their meal when i together with them right ? Haiz hope you all understand my english because i study only ite..

[coldckk]

i have to take course to upgrade myself also need money she said where my money go to she already know i only spend all my time with her and my job i never go out when she not meeting me and yet still suspect i keep e money don wanna spend with her !

[Harrier24B]

Originally Posted by coldckk

Haiz hope you all understand my english because i study only ite..

Root of problem is that you didn't study well in your younger days........hence, you've only got yourself to blame for not earning as much as her....!

Either upgrade yourself or find another woman who is at your level and stop bitching already....

[coldckk]

ok i'll stop bitching !but other still wanna know my problem . If they don want i'll stop..

[Five Stone]

Originally Posted by coldckk

never find a gf earn more than you and it jux like me my gf always blame me for using her money when going out most of expenses she pay but i earn less than her of coz i contribute less lor have to blame me huh? At 1st we start our relationship i already told her im poor guy no money but she said she very happy i so honest she don mind! Help me bro wat should i do? Should i break off with her i cannot face her anymore because she look down on me and even her family..

I don’t see much of a problem here, matter if fact why don’t you turn the tables around then. Bring her to places you can afford and make sure you pay unless you are getting too comfy for her to pay nowadays. You do your part within you abilities, case closed.

[nickygoh]

Originally Posted by suteerak1099

quite typical lah, she cant decide to go for island A or island B... swimming to & fro... ?????... too bad, sooner or later will drown.

then when a sampan comes along to rescue, she'd be sulking that the sampan not big/stable enough... so she refuse & continue frolicking in the water.

when shark come, she curse & swear, cry heaven & earth... beat her "runway" chest like gorilla, say heaven unfair.... complain there's no knight in shining armor to come rescue her.

end up, shark dun fancy her as a meal...swim away, then she realise she must not be too choosy.

but by that time she wake up her idea, she's already a mess wrinkled/pruned skin + seaweed decoration.

bro, i really am impressed and was laughing at your analogy. Really creative. like what most people say - the value of women depreciates with time.... BUT the value of men appreciates with time.

[84gunner]

Originally Posted by coldckk

never find a gf earn more than you and it jux like me my gf always blame me for using her money when going out most of expenses she pay but i earn less than her of coz i contribute less lor have to blame me huh? At 1st we start our relationship i already told her im poor guy no money but she said she very happy i so honest she don mind! Help me bro wat should i do? Should i break off with her i cannot face her anymore because she look down on me and even her family..

depends on individual gal lah. I ever had a gf who earns more than me, & when I was down & out (really very very down), she even supported me like a good wife, cheer me up etc etc. All, if not almost all, expenses when we go out 2gether, she pay.

At 1st, she can even feel, cos of my situation, I dun really want a r'ship. But she kinda told me off, 4 not only not giving her a chance, by oso not giving myself a chance!

Whenever I was troubled, not in good mood, & cos I was poor, no $$$, dowan go out, she'd make me go out wif her, have some fresh air, go makan, drinks, karaoke, etc etc, she pays most times, knowing tat I really poor.

We broke off cos I had no way out, no job, nothing, gotta go another country 2 find a living. She even encouraged me, knowing full well the risk that it may be the end of our r'ship. Shortly after I go overseas, I know I'll be out there for a v long time, if not rest of my life, while she cant leave her family 2 join me, I had 2 harden my heart 2 break off wif her.

[asdfghjkl]

my heart not so hard ler.. just ask him if i still unattached when i come back then i marry him lor ~

[coldckk]

even i took to e places i can effort and i pay while i can she also think of she paying more than me and than she told me im useless too haiz..

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by coldckk

even i took to e places i can effort and i pay while i can she also think of she paying more than me and than she told me im useless too haiz..

then bro coldckk, let me ask u. by continuing to go out with her, u have to put up with her digs and frustrations that u r useless in her eyes... in my humble opinion, yr pride has taken a beating and do u think u deserve that? however, u said that she didnt mind last time but obviously, she does mind now. there might be a chance that she is unhappy with u for not trying to improve yr present situation. not having a good education or good prospects is not a crime, but not wanting to improve for her sake is a crime in her eyes. go find out and ask yourself, do u want to improve yr own situation, rather than sit back and moan about it???

but if she is regretting her decision now, then no point going on lah. yr pride dont deserve that kind of treatment and neither does yr family deserve to be looked down upon as well.

therefore, instead of spending time here talking about yr situation, why not find time to sit down and talk to her??? if she wants to, in the first place...

i went through a period of that when i first started working. my ex-gf was the same age, meaning she started working 2 years before i did. at that time, she was the one paying for quite a bit of stuff as well. but she never ever did pay in public. instead, she would quietly ensure that i have had more than enough cash in my wallet to do whatever activities we wanted to do, be it going for a meal, movies and stuff... in my view, that is the way for a woman who truly loves u and wants to help pay the bills. she was very mindful of my pride should she pays for me in public. that, really touched me. unfortunately, i was not matured enough and we didnt end up together. still regretting till this day...

my point being, if she wants to care for u, there r many things she could have done and she is not doing it. talk to yr gf and find out why she is not doing it. does she mind the $ so much or is it u that she minds? my 2 cents, ignore me if u find that u dont agree with me. cheers.

[coldckk]

simply weird to me when she said all such things but she still wanna carry on to our relationship but i cant take it her nonsense i already did wat i can to improve myself in tis two years how much i can improve maybe im jux a bad luck person all company i work for all close down but not because of me la haha!! I suspect she heard someone bad abt me! But really thanks to all brother who give me all your experience thanks alot to all i'll stop posting !

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by nickygoh

bro, i really am impressed and was laughing at your analogy. Really creative. like what most people say - the value of women depreciates with time.... BUT the value of men appreciates with time.

u see bro, many of our sg gals 生在福中不知福 (take things for granted) they tend to think that they can manouvre us like puppets, thinking men can be easily subdued by beauty. truth is, many hardly qualify for that category. some even to the extent where they use their pussies as collateral... which then examplifies the term "no $, no honey". (IMHO, its not any different from being whores)

whilst gals of some other nationalities, regardless upbringing/family background, tend to hold on tight, cherish the moment while it lasts, and mind you... possesive in their own unique way. in fact, some give you no reason to trash her.

if only our sg gals can fulfill ½ or the above stated.