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This is not a big problem since we had already chose a foreigner as wife. If scare problem then marry SG girl, even then you might see other problems too.
PR does helps that little (ie for discussion of having baby), but doubt many can get PR before all this things u mentioned kicks in. If financially not stable then better not marry first, be it local girls or foreigner girls. Or rather, can marry but no baby first.
The things u had mentioned is when there are critical or urgent illness or any accidents, well.. if that happens, touch wood, no choice, its fate, bite the bullet lo!
agreed with u bro,i marry and only wait till now then decide to have one.Every body say financially steady already then have one but i prefer to have one when both us are are emotionally and responsibly to become a parents rather then rush into it
1. My BX only can speak English ... Initially cannot communicate with my mum .... now with our baby gal ... she began to learn to speak mandarin with my mum becoz of her daily exposure to her ... listen and learn to talk to my mum ... now can listen to basic mandarin and speak a little mandarin too .. she also teaches my mum to cook vn food .. and thus thereis some form of communications ...
2. Like SV ... we always have food at coffee shop ... because my bb gal is very cute .... she began to know people operating food stall, supermarket cashier and etc ... she can go buy food and shop for groceries herself ... she is also not afraid of dirty by walking and shopping in our local wet market ...
All in all, is a matter of exposure for our bx ....
yah,si bei cute,saw your whats app photo,must show my wife haha
My bx know some Mandarin when i first met her. Thru the years, i talk to her daily in mandarin and correct her if necessary. One thing about my bx is that she watch a lot of taiwanese drama serial on Channel 8. She says she learned a lot of her mandarin there. She also talked to my parents and siblings in mandarin. My children communicate with my bx in mandarin, i disallow my kids to learn Tieng Viet as i want them to master both English and Mandarin to a certain level so that they can do well in school. These few years after my children went to school, my bx learned english from my kids. My family operates differently from other families with viet spouse. My bx had a hard life since young and after being with me for the past decade, i educate her a lot thru TV news and also newspaper. I will explain to her what the papers say about vietnam and what's on current affairs daily. She understands and agree with my way of educating and bringing up my kids. I always tell my kids that they are Singaporean chinese, not vietnamese. Although their mother is vietnamese, but since my bx married me, then my kids are chinese.
I bring my bx to coffeeshops to eat, teach her about local food and also local customs. The only thing is that my bx is not too good with Singapore as i drive her everywhere she goes. She has only taken the MRT twice for the past many years and have never taken the bus before in Singapore. My bx understands that she is a Singaporean now and she needs to adapt to the life here. My bx doesn't ask to go back VN all the time. We will only go VN when we need to meet customers in Saigon. My bx's family made her very disaapointed and she places her effort and love in me and my kids.
My wife no need me to educate.she automatically tell me our baby must stay in singapore and get educated here.
She is not educated but she know vietnam is not a good place for children to grow up with cos the environment and due to lots of bad company there
She like singapore for law and order and most important is our clean environment
confirm that guy talk cock one lah then that pinay reporter happy happy go report and tell editor she got great news to cover.
what a crap,also got sakuki sushi news what.2.5 k or 3k for wash plates but 12 hours each day.the money is there but whether u are able to tahan or not is another thing
Work 12 hours everyday only 2.5k - 3k??? i rather stick to drive taxi 12 hours night shift !
My bx know some Mandarin when i first met her. Thru the years, i talk to her daily in mandarin and correct her if necessary. One thing about my bx is that she watch a lot of taiwanese drama serial on Channel 8. She says she learned a lot of her mandarin there. She also talked to my parents and siblings in mandarin. My children communicate with my bx in mandarin, i disallow my kids to learn Tieng Viet as i want them to master both English and Mandarin to a certain level so that they can do well in school. These few years after my children went to school, my bx learned english from my kids. My family operates differently from other families with viet spouse. My bx had a hard life since young and after being with me for the past decade, i educate her a lot thru TV news and also newspaper. I will explain to her what the papers say about vietnam and what's on current affairs daily. She understands and agree with my way of educating and bringing up my kids. I always tell my kids that they are Singaporean chinese, not vietnamese. Although their mother is vietnamese, but since my bx married me, then my kids are chinese.
I bring my bx to coffeeshops to eat, teach her about local food and also local customs. The only thing is that my bx is not too good with Singapore as i drive her everywhere she goes. She has only taken the MRT twice for the past many years and have never taken the bus before in Singapore. My bx understands that she is a Singaporean now and she needs to adapt to the life here. My bx doesn't ask to go back VN all the time. We will only go VN when we need to meet customers in Saigon. My bx's family made her very disaapointed and she places her effort and love in me and my kids.
Thanks Bro, and all other bros that shared their experiences.
My BX can only speak english, i rate her Spoken - Primary 3 standard, Written - Primary 1 Standard. Her Mandarin is basically non-existent that is my huge concern as my 2 kids from my previous marriage good in english and super bad in their chinese, i want to avoid the same mistake again. I understand there are slight similarities in TV and mandarin and hope this will shortcut my BX learning curve.
I never had chance to bring my BX to coffeeshop alot as she cook almost every meal as she cannot take much SG food as of now. But she like Singapore Breakfast - like our prawn noodles, you tiao, soya bean drink etc etc. She almost can go to market without me going to help her translate with the hawkers in wet market and food centre near my house.
Haha, i am ashamed i am Singaporean lor. I dont know how to take bus, as in which bus to take to go where! (i have my own transport, motorbike at 18, car at 25), never take bus mrt anymore since 18years old. Me and BX always go waterloo temple pray guanyin, usually we take a cab go if my taxi is not available for my usage. Now my bx asked my 2 tenents (viet students studying at kalpan) how to take bus. She even tell me the number of the bus hahaha. But of course, i have to guide her how to use ezlink and where to alight la. Now she can go waterloo street herself without me already. but she need a tissue lol, she cannot stand the smell of bus or other people taxi, she will get car-sick!
I had brought her to take MRT 3-4 times already also. She need more time to learn how the stations only.
Well, i side tracked too much, yes my main concern is for my BX to learn mandarin fast... and my mandarin standard also suck cannot be good teacher and we are not staying with my parents... i guess bros here had provided enough advices, i will take it from here. Thanks again!
1. My BX only can speak English ... Initially cannot communicate with my mum .... now with our baby gal ... she began to learn to speak mandarin with my mum becoz of her daily exposure to her ... listen and learn to talk to my mum ... now can listen to basic mandarin and speak a little mandarin too .. she also teaches my mum to cook vn food .. and thus thereis some form of communications ...
2. Like SV ... we always have food at coffee shop ... because my bb gal is very cute .... she began to know people operating food stall, supermarket cashier and etc ... she can go buy food and shop for groceries herself ... she is also not afraid of dirty by walking and shopping in our local wet market ...
All in all, is a matter of exposure for our bx ....
1. Same then. My BX only speak english. But my problem is we not staying with our my parents. That is a really huge concern as i have very limited time to teach her. I work 12 hours a night (some days monday and tuesday work 8-9 hours), and sleep 7 hours a day
2) Yeah she also know a few people/hawker from nearby wet market already. She even angry with my friend (a vege seller who also had a vn vo) because he talk TV with her, saying him deprived her chance to learn our languages haha!
1. Same then. My BX only speak english. But my problem is we not staying with our my parents. That is a really huge concern as i have very limited time to teach her. I work 12 hours a night (some days monday and tuesday work 8-9 hours), and sleep 7 hours a day
2) Yeah she also know a few people/hawker from nearby wet market already. She even angry with my friend (a vege seller who also had a vn vo) because he talk TV with her, saying him deprived her chance to learn our languages haha!
that makes 3 of us ...mine also only english....getting her to pick up mandarin..so i made her try to speak mandarin with little one but of cse with me guiding...
i have a question
my gf ask me to build a house for them
she said she will marry me.
i would like to see how the relationship goes for the next 2 years
do u think vietnam girls can wait that long?
i have a question
my gf ask me to build a house for them
she said she will marry me.
i would like to see how the relationship goes for the next 2 years
do u think vietnam girls can wait that long?
i have a question
my gf ask me to build a house for them
she said she will marry me.
i would like to see how the relationship goes for the next 2 years
do u think vietnam girls can wait that long?
it depends...if during this 2 years she is able to find someone else who can build the house for her , then she might not wait...
1. Same then. My BX only speak english. But my problem is we not staying with our my parents. That is a really huge concern as i have very limited time to teach her. I work 12 hours a night (some days monday and tuesday work 8-9 hours), and sleep 7 hours a day
2) Yeah she also know a few people/hawker from nearby wet market already. She even angry with my friend (a vege seller who also had a vn vo) because he talk TV with her, saying him deprived her chance to learn our languages haha!
Haiz same here, my job is taking much of my time, dun have much time for my wife only wkends. Luckily is we still staying with parents.. I also worry about later children only knows TV and Chinese.. Hahaha then suck cock liao..
Thanks Bro, and all other bros that shared their experiences
good sharing
When I know my bx 7 years back, she knows abit of english but due to staying in vn for too long, she forget. Now I only speak TV to my bx and I do not know her standard of english and mandarin. Sometimes she will ask me how to say this and that in mandarin. At least she still can communicate abit with my mum and dad in mandarin daily. I guess my bx knows alot more now but she just dare not speak out.
My bx only watch viet movies/series online and seldom watch TCS program. She has her niece and friends in Sillypore so her exposure to our language is minimum.
I go market with my bx and i do the translation, queuing up to pay etc.. sometimes i feel that becoz i am around so she depends on me. Few times when going to market, there is no lot to park my car, my bx will ask me to wait in car while she go any buy vege and meat. She will come back with bags full of stuff... it makes me wonder how she did it
As for food, most of the time we eat at home with my parents. Viet cooked by my bx or sillypore food cooked by my mum also no problem. When my bx like a certain food, she will continue eating it for few days. For the past 2 weeks, I have been eating roti prata with my bx for supper every night.
I feel like vomitting even whenever I see roti prata now
Actually we need not worry so much for our viet partner on whether they are used to the life and culture here in Sillypore... Their surviving and adapting skills are stronger than what we can think of.
26-11-2012, 11:09 PM
