Gers Are Still Gers

[OceanEleven]

Most women presumes that a good BF or husband is one that gives in to her, be obedient and submissive towards them but on the other hand none had really been spending enough time to consider our needs. Not only on the sex part but also but also the emotional and mentality needs.

I had come across a couple where the wife decides most in the house where the hubby plays an understanding role, share the burden and housework while she be his submissive wife when outside in public. Both of them doing well till now and getting better only. Of course there are the few hiccups here and there but then again, nothing major to tip the balance. For me, I appreciate the effort that wife had put into the relationship for one, she really know how to smooth his ego. I had seen many a times where she had her way while not upsetting her hubby, where the hubby did many things willingly.

Bottom line, I guess to sustain the relationship is always to give before you look for return. If the return does not justify the efforts, perhaps it is time to move on.

[JWNY]

Originally Posted by OceanEleven

Most women presumes that a good BF or husband is one that gives in to her, be obedient and submissive towards them but on the other hand none had really been spending enough time to consider our needs. Not only on the sex part but also but also the emotional and mentality needs.

Oh dear...even Superman would have trouble complying!!

JWNY

[Kyser Soze]

Originally Posted by OceanEleven

I had come across a couple where the wife decides most in the house where the hubby plays an understanding role, share the burden and housework while she be his submissive wife when outside in public. Both of them doing well till now and getting better only. Of course there are the few hiccups here and there but then again, nothing major to tip the balance. For me, I appreciate the effort that wife had put into the relationship for one, she really know how to smooth his ego. I had seen many a times where she had her way while not upsetting her hubby, where the hubby did many things willingly.

This is the kind of marriage I'm looking forward to.

[jng1103]

Originally Posted by OceanEleven

I had come across a couple where the wife decides most in the house where the hubby plays an understanding role, share the burden and housework while she be his submissive wife when outside in public. Both of them doing well till now and getting better only. Of course there are the few hiccups here and there but then again, nothing major to tip the balance. For me, I appreciate the effort that wife had put into the relationship for one, she really know how to smooth his ego. I had seen many a times where she had her way while not upsetting her hubby, where the hubby did many things willingly.

R U referring to me? This is the role I'm currently playing, and I'm looking forward to retire from daytime job and be a full time investor

My principle is very simple: Whoever contributes the bigger portion financially, he/she has the bigger say. So far, we never have any disputes.

jimbo

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by Picocloud

What you say is true but one must not forget that even if inadequacies are tolerated in a relationship, that does not mean they can be accepted. There must always be room for improvement for a relationship to grow and become more meaningful.

see, if there's some tolerance for the inadequacies, not too bad. if the inadequacies are accepted, good. which means, regardless how much flaws seen in each other... its still balanced & not perceived negative. (presumably afloat ranging at about 50-60%)

and when there's efforts invested to improve, to grow & become better... then it should then be perceived as something positive. (which then brings about to 65-75%, subject to the level of improvements & time as well)

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by iporno

i agree bro... im not a mcp and dont believe in that I'm bigger or head of the house because im the man or things like that...
i love my girl but it seems like im the only one who loves. Must shower money attention love everything on her, and yet still be satisfied by whatever little tiny bit of appreciation she shows to me, if she feels like it. It feels more n more like being a beggar sometimes, that I have to offer everything i have my heart soul and possessions just to evoke a simple smile from her.

sigh, then in that case isnt it a losing battle? u're pouring out everything, you show hand, just to bring a smile to her face.... very unhealthy.

[iporno]

Originally Posted by suteerak1099

sigh, then in that case isnt it a losing battle?

yes bro... its not even a battle, im just being annihilated...
i want n love her so badly i just keep giving, while she expects nothing less...

i know this isnt good or healthy at all but im afraid that if i do anything different i might lose her...

Im really at a loss of what to do.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by iporno

yes bro... its not even a battle, im just being annihilated...
i want n love her so badly i just keep giving, while she expects nothing less...

i know this isnt good or healthy at all but im afraid that if i do anything different i might lose her...

Im really at a loss of what to do.

in everything we do in life, there's always risks involved. but the thing is, we're given intelligence & ability to rationalize... hence there's such a term called calculated risk.

there're times when you have to cut your losses. painful it may be, but think about it (in the long run), if it benefits or is it gonna land u up in bigger losses? by that, you should be able to decide for yourself whether if its worth your while.

be reminded that we encounter lots of prospecting partners in life's long journey. but some are meant to be passers by, some are meant to be temporary, there'd be a handful that may end up sharing the rest of life together with you... set your priorities right, and you'd soon find a better match.

meanwhile, just hang loose & maintain a healthy social life (when time permits), there's just no telling when & where u might find "the one". fate works in most mysterious ways.

[Thai Rak Thai]

Originally Posted by suteerak1099

fate works in most mysterious ways.

Sigh..like how Liverpool and AC Milan will be meeting again wor...

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by Thai Rak Thai

Sigh..like how Liverpool and AC Milan will be meeting again wor...

guess lightning does strike twice somehow...

[mexx01]

just to share....
i'll still stik to this....

u can walk thru life alone but never in a marriage....

[GLHunter]

Originally Posted by iporno

yes bro... its not even a battle, im just being annihilated...
i want n love her so badly i just keep giving, while she expects nothing less...

i know this isnt good or healthy at all but im afraid that if i do anything different i might lose her...

Im really at a loss of what to do.

Bro, i have been through this type of all out relationship twice, all failed.
I can only tell you, gers will take you for granted when they know their extreme importance in your heart. They will take & take & take, thinking its
their privilege, yi ge yuan da, yi ge yuan ai ma. Who to blame?

There might come to a time when you think the world is crashing down on you, & you can't let go even though your rational mind is screaming the solution at you.

But the truth is, its an unbelieveable relieve when you finally let go & you will feel that you never want to pick it up again (tangled in a one sided love).
For gers that want to play hard to get/ mind games, I will tell them fuxk you.
(In my mind lah, haha)

Being alone/ lonely is always better than living in despair & in pain.

Chok Dee.

[jng1103]

Originally Posted by GLHunter

But the truth is, its an unbelieveable relieve when you finally let go & you will feel that you never want to pick it up again (tangled in a one sided love).

For gers that want to play hard to get/ mind games, I will tell them fuxk you.
(In my mind lah, haha)

Being alone/ lonely is always better than living in despair & in pain.

Wise men think alike. Women will take u for granted if u are the only party who sacrifices, gives, etc... End of the day, they will shit on ur head, and u suffer (both big and small dead)

P/S: deservedly added u +5points.

jimbo

[suteerak1099]

whatever the down side of things may be, as my fren once advised me; wat doenst kill u only makes u stronger.... the way to success is to identify opportunity in the bleekest moments.

for those of us who've experienced bad times with local girls, well... take it as good exercise, training & sharpening of skills for handling women. the rewards shall be revealed in many folds when it comes to foreign chicks, or at least the fateful right 1 (sg gal) when opportunity unfolds.

[iporno]

Originally Posted by suteerak1099

there're times when you have to cut your losses. painful it may be, but think about it (in the long run), if it benefits or is it gonna land u up in bigger losses? by that, you should be able to decide for yourself whether if its worth your while.

Originally Posted by GLHunter

Bro, i have been through this type of all out relationship twice, all failed.
I can only tell you, gers will take you for granted when they know their extreme importance in your heart. They will take & take & take, thinking its
their privilege, yi ge yuan da, yi ge yuan ai ma. Who to blame?

Bros, thank you for your extremely good advice and experience. A pity I am unable to up your points so can only say thank you here.

I think I must make a decision soon. In the name of love I can tolerate somethings, but now it is up to her. If she doen't love me, and just making use of me then it might be time for me to move on.