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09-09-2012, 06:04 PM
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09-09-2012, 06:41 PM
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Hi All,
I have a matter of the heart to discuss. I fell in love with a vietnamese WL. As per golden rule, never fall in love with WL. I have fell for her nevertheless. I knew her for 2.5 months now. Below is a profile write up - her first time working as WL - She is 19 - Reason for working is to pay off medical bill for her family - She fell in love with me and will not want to continue in this - She would like to start a family with me - Her family already heard about me - back in vn she is working as a clothes seller - she never had a bf as she mentioned that her parents are strict she doesn't ask me for money to send home. Only occasionally she ask me to help her top up her sim card to call home. We have been communicating via sms and also talk on phone daily. There were friction and we sort of weathered thru the arguements. I am asking for some advice on the following 1) Is it best to just end this despite genuinely feeling that we are both in love ? Or should I give it a try ? 2) I am still unsure about the huge leap of a cross national relationship/marraige. I need advise on how difficult/easy it is for a vn bride to incorporate into the life here and if they are hardy enough to weather thru long periods not away from their homeland. I am just worried that everything becomes so "home-longing" centric where she is putting her heart more at waiting for the next trip back to visit her parents than on focusing on our relationship/marraige. 3) I am 30 year old. She is 19 year old. Age is no barrier some say. But I would like to collect some opinion from the floor. Thanks. Regards
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09-09-2012, 07:45 PM
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1. the VB may have given birth before she marry the current hubby... 2. the VB may not be even married officially but told you she is married... 3. both hubby and her surname are the same... the above is just my guess...others may want to add... 
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09-09-2012, 08:01 PM
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everyone's experiences IS and WILL BE different so there is no point asking for too much opinion... Do you want to live your life based on other people's experiences & opinions?  Universal Truth: Spend more time together before making a decision...
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09-09-2012, 08:11 PM
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All the things u said above, it has been written in a little booklet called "de day dai dai cau ca to to!" (DDDDCCTT) This book has caught attention of some of the WL and its spreading like a cult. Followers of this cult will read this book and act accordingly to what their grandmaster recommends, and the grandmaster's advices has been extremely consistent all these while and seldom differs in any way. So as a result, many brothers here whom have encountered such followers, share similar stories... many fall prey and later regret... however a small group of Rebels is holding strong still, with their Anti-DDDDCCTT skills, more popularly known as KCIE (KC with Internal Energy) skills... we have a couple of such renowned Rebels contributing actively to this thread... seek them out and buy the kopi and meet face to face to learn more is better...and be humbled by their war stories.... and may the force be with you..... nano nano.... Anyway, ur nick really suits you very well!
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09-09-2012, 09:39 PM
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I am very negative about WL..to me they are mostly untrustworthy... You sure cannot tahan when she sits and get groped by clients...or go to hotel with clients... You should visit more often Vn...learn their culture...understand the ppl there...plenty of VBs to choose there...especially decent gals.. Only time will tell...why dun you let nature takes its course...just go along and let time gives you the answers... she is 19 yrs old and her thinking is not matured enough.. Guaranteed you that you have to come here to ask for more answers as time goes by... dun blame you because long distance relationships is simply not easy and grueling long haul...if you not committed then pls dun take any drastic actions...think not twice but thrice before you take the leap... my quote...if you trust WL then pigs can climb trees...
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09-09-2012, 09:54 PM
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some WL do not go hotel or like to be groped by client. They will just move away and find other customer if the customer is dam tac 19 - 23 yo vb are really not matured in their thinking... only want have fun and easily influenced by her group of friend.. worst if surrounded by WL. yes...long distance relationship very very hard to maintain... so greener can just faster marry his beloved vb and save her from falling too deep into being a WL. fetch her to sillypore and stay by his side.
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09-09-2012, 10:28 PM
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I think u have to spend more time to observe and know her b4 jumping into and committing yurself into this relationship fully. Remember she is from another country, long distance cross nation relationship is not easy to maintain. Also u cant get to know and understand a person much from being separated long. U say she now working some proper job, she told u? Did u go over to see it yourself? Always take what they say with a pinch of salt as u know her not long. Marrige is not just a 2 person affair, it concerns 2 families, yur family and her family. Did yur family know and consent to this relationship? If not, trust me, it gonna be a tough road ahead with yur parents. Also, how is her side? Family good or not? everyone got job or just lazing around wait for $$ to fall from sky (which may be u in the future). Like bro KT said, she is still young, can be easily influenced by others especially if she hang with those WLs. Heard of this chinese phrase: 近朱者赤，近墨者黑？ Also, young can still be not stable in their thinking. Its best to give yurselves some time to know each other better b4 committing yurselves. Follow bro Casannova's universal Truth. Above are my 2 dongs. Like bro Casannova said, these are all our views and opinions, u dun have to follow what we said. Think carefully and act coherently.
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09-09-2012, 10:29 PM
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Whenever a guy falls for WL, he will find reasons to accept her while others say differently. Anyway, end of the day, it is your life. Just do whatever u are happy with your life.
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09-09-2012, 10:34 PM
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09-09-2012, 10:59 PM
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Hi All,
Thank you for replying to my posting. Seems like there is stil a divide between people going strongly against any relationship with WL and also those who would say " give it a try " No right answer no wrong answers. Perhaps just ultimately good or bad experiences. I will go to VN to observe more first and see for myself. I generally trust her about the things that she shares with me about her and her family. It has been consistent. I would have to really see for myself how she is conducting her life there with her family. I do think that there is a need for me to at least do a shout out here to keep myself in check. Because i may and will only see one view ( i.e the good side ) of things. There are many social/family/cultural differences as the relationship progress. Not to say language and mindsets. So yes it is not a bed of roses at all. Let alone the fact that she is a WL who will stop working for good. Even if I find a normal girl in WL, i would still be facing the same major issues stated by all of you here. thanks for holding back my horses. I will have to think about this carefully. Sometimes seriously, i wonder what has happened to me. Singapore girls and Malaysia girls don't want. Go for far far places like VN to find the so called right one. I will keep all updated again once i have some insight with myself. Again thank you for those who have responded and provided your opinions. Cam on rat nhieu. Regards
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Does Age Really Matters ??? Just to share with you ... VN Gals like Guys who are Older than Them ... Probably They are More Mature .... Maybe you fall into the Category ? Quote:
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But then come back to reality .... VN Gals are always $$$ making tools to bring home $$$ ... SO NOT surprise after all ... Or Maybe the reason that you mention is Genuine ... Quote:
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Keep it up ... YOu are 30 yrs old .. you should be able to COMMUNICATE Properly ... you should be able to give in to her .. baseing what you told us .. "You Love Her ' Remember Don't be Egoistic as a SINGAPOREAN GuY .. No Big Deal ... Quote:
IF Both of you are seriously in Love ... Take the Opportunity and Time to find out MORE about each other ... Understand their cultures ... Understand their lifestyle .. Understand their behaviour ... Understand their thinking ... Quote:
THis is NOT a 1-week .. 1-month .. 1-Year thing ... It takes many Years of COMMITTMENT ... TRAVELLING ... SACRIFICING and etc ... It is NOT by Talking in here ... Sharing in here ... Learning in here ... You will gain experience and knowledge ... It is about TRAVELLING to the Country to LEARN .. SEE ... EXPERIENCE ... for yourself if it is the true and you are able to get used to this type of life ... Most of US know each other here ... They have been IN & OUT of VN for at least 5 years and some more ... For a Relationship to WORKS and LASTS ... All goes back to the basis of "COMMUNICATION" .... "UNDERSTANDING" their Cultures ... Behaviour ... Thinking ... Life-style and many many .... "SACRIFCES" and "COMMITTMENT" Quote:
ALL BARRIERS are in YOURSELF .... Keep an Open Mind .....
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