are u living as a TYPICAL UNHAPPY SINGAPOREAN?

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When i was fourteen years old, i was studying for my O-level examinations in a high school in London. My parents and teachers advised me to stop playing soccer in the evenings and weekends to stay at home instead giving the time to my homework. They explained how important the O-level exams were and that if i did well, then id be happy.

I followed their advice and did very well on the exams. But it didnt make me that happy, because my success meant that now i must study even harder, for another two years, for the A-level exams. My parents and teachers advised me to stop going out in the evenings and weekends, to stop chasing girls now rather than chasing a soccer ball, and to stay at home instead and study. They told me how important the A-level exams were and that if i did well, then Id be happy.

Once again, i followed their advice and did very well. Once again, it didnt make me happy. Because now i had to study hardest of all, for three more long years, for a degree at a university. My mother and teachers (my father was now dead) advised me to steer clear of the bars and parties in college, but instead to work hard and long at my studies. They told me how important a university degree was, and that if i did well, then id be happy.

At this point, I started to become suspicious.
I saw some of my older friends who had worked very hard and got their degree. Now they were working even harder in their first job. They were working extremely hard to save up enough money to buy something important, say, a car. They told me, "When i have enough money to buy a car, then i'll be happy."

When they had enough funds and had bought their first car, they still weren't happy. Now they were working hard to buy something else, and then they'd be happy. Or they were struggling in the turmoil of romance, looking for a partner in life. They told me, "When i get married and settle down, then I'll be happy."

Once married, they still weren't happy. They had to work even harder, even taking extra jobs, to save up enough money for a deposit on an apartment, or even a small house. They told me, "When we have bought our own house, then we'll be happy."

Unfortunately, paying off the monthly installment for the house loan meant that they still werent very happy. Moreover, they would now start a family. They would have children to wake them up at night, swallow up their spare money and increase their worries in quantum leaps and bounds. Now it would be another twenty years before they could do what they wanted. So they told me, "when the kids are grown up, have left home and settled, then we'll be happy."

By the time the kids had left home, most of the parents were staring at retirement. So they continued to postpone their happiness, working hard to save for their old age. They told me, "When i retire, then I'll be happy."

Even before they retired, and certainly after, they started becoming religious and going to church. Have you ever noticed how many old people occupy the pews in a church? i asked them why they were now going to church. They told me, "because, when i die, then ill be happy!"

For those who believe that "when i get this, then ill be happy." their happiness will be just a dream in the future.

It will be like a rainbow one or two steps ahead, but forever just out of reach. They will never in their life, or after, realize happiness.

Ajahn Brahm


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