Do you feel lonely?

stillgottheblue · #1 18-02-2013, 08:15 PM

I'm just wondering if bros out there feel lonely sometimes though you have good company?

I always have 2 women with me somehow at any one time (or within a short lapse). This is not what I intended but somehow, somehow things just happen when another woman come along, we got along well and ended up as couple, though we know we shouldn't.

Despite of all these, I do not feel loved or bliss at all, though both women loved me. Somewhere deep the corner of my heart I felt that I have hurt both party very deeply,

I do not know what I really want and I feel that I really cannot control my heart. I ended up being alone and quiet at work most of the time as I became withdrawn.

mackewell · #2 18-02-2013, 08:18 PM

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Originally Posted by stillgottheblue

I'm just wondering if bros out there feel lonely sometimes though you have good company?

I always have 2 women with me somehow at any one time (or within a short lapse). This is not what I intended but somehow, somehow things just happen when another woman come along, we got along well and ended up as couple, though we know we shouldn't.

Despite of all these, I do not feel loved or bliss at all, though both women loved me. Somewhere deep the corner of my heart I felt that I have hurt both party very deeply,

I do not know what I really want and I feel that I really cannot control my heart. I ended up being alone and quiet at work most of the time as I became withdrawn.

Hey bro u suaning me LOL? i dun have gf before at 28 yrs old! :P

stillgottheblue · #3 18-02-2013, 08:24 PM

No but you always tell people all women want money in order to love. Some women really love you for who you are leh, you sure don't believe me. And I am 40 plus already.and nit rich.....

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Originally Posted by mackewell

Hey bro u suaning me LOL? i dun have gf before at 28 yrs old! :P

mackewell · #4 18-02-2013, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by stillgottheblue

No but you always tell people all women want money in order to love. Some women really love you for who you are leh, you sure don't believe me. And I am 40 plus already.and nit rich.....

Of cos i believe you. Earlier last year i met this vietnam chick who was really super nice and was totally into me(i tested her alot of times, best part is when i no money, she can WALK home with me!).

Even when i say the magic word i no money, she still say NVM and call me everyday, just want to see me and talk to me. Even when i avoided her calls when she went back to vietnam, she came back to singapore and still talk to me 2 months later.

But i freak out and bail out, i was thinking about my financial status and she had a daughter(from her previous unsuccessful marriage). Damn, i like her man, she nice and when i go macdonald makan wif her, she will feed me eat, take good care of me.

But being cruel and honest to her is probably the best thing to do(she was crying her heart out to my friends, saying i heartless all this. Damn, i was quite sad lah but i no choice). I am no father figure(i never like kids) and i cant really give her a decent life in sg for the moment. True love exists cos she is this vietnam girl that was damn real and nice i met in the last 5 years.

Bottom line, i want to find love but i want a responsible and solid one. Look at ur status first b4 thinking if you can give her happiness. Tts the reality of love nowadays.... i dont have the balls to go with the flow liao i will say, its not that easy in love...

flowbow · #5 19-02-2013, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by stillgottheblue

I'm just wondering if bros out there feel lonely sometimes though you have good company?

I always have 2 women with me somehow at any one time (or within a short lapse). This is not what I intended but somehow, somehow things just happen when another woman come along, we got along well and ended up as couple, though we know we shouldn't.

Despite of all these, I do not feel loved or bliss at all, though both women loved me. Somewhere deep the corner of my heart I felt that I have hurt both party very deeply,

I do not know what I really want and I feel that I really cannot control my heart. I ended up being alone and quiet at work most of the time as I became withdrawn.

Agree with you bro, and I believe there are many people who are like this. No lack of companionship, but despite all of that your heart still feels empty. The temporary companionship and attention I'm getting doesn't fill the void in my heart at all. I think the only way to solve this problem is to find a stable boyfriend and enter a serious, committed relationship - that's probably the only way I can mend the gaping hole in my heart. But I can't see myself being in a committed relationship at the moment. I don't think I'm ready for one. And though the empty, lonely feeling deep in my heart gets to me sometimes, I still value my freedom more than anything else.

DegenerationX · #6 19-02-2013, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by flowbow

Agree with you bro, and I believe there are many people who are like this. No lack of companionship, but despite all of that your heart still feels empty. The temporary companionship and attention I'm getting doesn't fill the void in my heart at all. I think the only way to solve this problem is to find a stable boyfriend and enter a serious, committed relationship - that's probably the only way I can mend the gaping hole in my heart. But I can't see myself being in a committed relationship at the moment. I don't think I'm ready for one. And though the empty, lonely feeling deep in my heart gets to me sometimes, I still value my freedom more than anything else.

Very complexed.

Meow^^ · #7 19-02-2013, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by stillgottheblue

I'm just wondering if bros out there feel lonely sometimes though you have good company?

I always have 2 women with me somehow at any one time (or within a short lapse). This is not what I intended but somehow, somehow things just happen when another woman come along, we got along well and ended up as couple, though we know we shouldn't.

Despite of all these, I do not feel loved or bliss at all, though both women loved me. Somewhere deep the corner of my heart I felt that I have hurt both party very deeply,

I do not know what I really want and I feel that I really cannot control my heart. I ended up being alone and quiet at work most of the time as I became withdrawn.

I Guess both of them are not your true love.

All human are scare of being alone, esp when come to a mature age stage. If permitted, who wanna be alone? Hence we wanted compaionship so much that it somehow hurt people around you. You may wonder at a stage, since both are not your true love, can you live w/o them? Or what will it be w/o them.....the answer is lonely. We just want to stay away from the loneliness and make sure when we need someone, that someone is there. To me, it's selfish. But somehow, we can't be cruel to ourself and we end up cruel to others....

I had also been through this stage somewhere 2 years ago, had a fun group of friends but somehow I seems like I can't really find someone to fill in that loneliness....esp when in the night where everyone was a sleep and you look into the sky and stare blank......

wayne23416 · #8 19-02-2013, 05:14 PM

I get that problem too...they come in pairs and are polar opposites...

hOsEhKiA · #9 20-02-2013, 03:19 AM

people always wan more when have stil feel nt enuff, when don have complain hard to content de la.

stillgottheblue · #10 20-02-2013, 07:15 AM

I go into ALL relationships seriously, I do love both but I am feeling guilty to my (no.1) for so many years. She find out 1 of my relationship at one stage yet she forgave me.

However, I want to make clear that I do not have gf just for bonking, there are other means of doing that and I don't look for the girls but they came across my life at certain point of life and we get hitched.

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Originally Posted by Meow^^

I Guess both of them are not your true love.

... since both are not your true love, can you live w/o them? Or what will it be w/o them.....the answer is lonely. We just want to stay away from the loneliness and make sure when we need someone, that someone is there. To me, it's selfish. But somehow, we can't be cruel to ourself and we end up cruel to others....

Triple70 · #11 20-02-2013, 09:02 AM

In a similar situation with TS and also abt the same age group.

I think the loneliness stems from the fact that there is not much forward planning being done, thus.. there is nothing to look forward to in the long run.
With a proper spouse, there are home, car, kids, holidays to plan and execute.

I don't have a solution for myself either, since I can't possibly be co-sharing multiple sets of home/car/kids/holidays.

DegenerationX · #12 20-02-2013, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by stillgottheblue

I go into ALL relationships seriously, I do love both but I am feeling guilty to my (no.1) for so many years. She find out 1 of my relationship at one stage yet she forgave me.

However, I want to make clear that I do not have gf just for bonking, there are other means of doing that and I don't look for the girls but they came across my life at certain point of life and we get hitched.

You 楚留香？

by73 · #13 20-02-2013, 02:09 PM

Or maybe chu ba wang?

flowbow · #14 20-02-2013, 07:34 PM

Thanks to the kind bro who upped me 9 points from this thread

you didn't leave your nick so I don't know who you are, but thanks anyway

WhitePaper · #15 20-02-2013, 07:42 PM

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But being cruel and honest to her is probably the best thing to do(she was crying her heart out to my friends, saying i heartless all this. Damn, i was quite sad lah but i no choice). I am no father figure(i never like kids) and i cant really give her a decent life in sg for the moment.

You don't want.. can intro to me?