What is the underlying motivation?

Edyta · #1 09-09-2012, 09:07 AM

This is a question about why married/attached man would want to ask other woman out on a one on one drinks/lunches/dinners etc, especially the woman belongs to the same work circle.

I can understand if its just to catchup/network professionally but if these appointments become too frequent/man gets too persistent it seems abit out of line. If its from a single man, its normal he might just want to go out with this woman to see how things can dev. But a married/attached man? Are they just looking for friends or there is always a sexual motive? If its just sex, why dont they go and look for paid services? Isnt it easier to have no strings attached as compared to asking a woman out to drinks and the woman treats him as platonic?

Just a matter of curiousity to understand better. These men are actually respectful and never try anything funny. I just wonder why, even after the woman backed off they sort of step up their effort.

Thanks for sharing.

sammyboyfor · #2 09-09-2012, 09:29 AM

They hope to fuck them.

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Originally Posted by Edyta

This is a question about why married/attached man would want to ask other woman out on a one on one drinks/lunches/dinners etc,

spidey7 · #3 09-09-2012, 10:03 AM

Edyta wat is wrong w married/attached man askg lady/ladies 4drinks/meals/etc? It is normal 2do if both parties agree. R u a female?

Klein76 · #4 09-09-2012, 01:36 PM

I guess nothin wrong with that if you dont try anything funny, i think it just a simple dates to enjoy others company once in a while,Be it married or attached guy,they just need some one to pour their sorrow with...I believe not everything you tell your wifey or dear dear rite...lol...Not all dates are about beding rite Agree?

OnGoingSearch · #5 09-09-2012, 02:01 PM

I am pretty certain TS you are a female and u're posting the thread bcoz u're confused as you are in such a situation. My suggestion is stay away from the guy at all cost unless u dont mind being a 3rd party.

Short and simple answer. If a married/attached guy ask a woman out solo, he simply wants to get into her pants, period.

Elaborated answer, take myself for example. I am engaged and time to time, I have the urge to ask other girl/s out. I ask myself too, am I juz looking for companionship? No, plain old honest answer, I want to try my luck and see if I can experience courtship feel once more or at least a chance to get in bed.

Any hypocrite may feel free to disagree with me.

Edyta · #6 09-09-2012, 05:27 PM

Thanks for all the replies.

In essence, its just sex they are after assuming there are no other motives like sucking up to bosses etc.

Just to clarify I am not saying going out solo is wrong, it can be for networking etc. if the solo outings are all initiated by the married/attached man and quite regularly it raises the question of underlying motive. What is it the man is after?

If its just sex why not go for paid services? I am sure there are no lack of great looking ones. Its a paid and no strings - v neat transaction. Why not? Why bother to ask a woman out and unsure of the outcome and have to wait?

piero · #7 09-09-2012, 06:37 PM

Straight forward. Free and challenging is sometime better than paid.
Why not try and if she agrees and kapish.. u have it

slider_72 · #8 09-09-2012, 06:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Edyta

If its just sex why not go for paid services? I am sure there are no lack of great looking ones. Its a paid and no strings - v neat transaction. Why not? Why bother to ask a woman out and unsure of the outcome and have to wait?

Some men like the thrill of the hunt.

Imagine the difference between bringing your rifle, going out to the wild in your diesel SUV, hunting your own food, and compare that with driving to the supermarket in your MPV and stopping by the meat section.

Which scenario sounds more exciting?

OnGoingSearch · #9 09-09-2012, 06:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Edyta

Thanks for all the replies.

In essence, its just sex they are after assuming there are no other motives like sucking up to bosses etc.

Just to clarify I am not saying going out solo is wrong, it can be for networking etc. if the solo outings are all initiated by the married/attached man and quite regularly it raises the question of underlying motive. What is it the man is after?

If its just sex why not go for paid services? I am sure there are no lack of great looking ones. Its a paid and no strings - v neat transaction. Why not? Why bother to ask a woman out and unsure of the outcome and have to wait?

I sorta answered this in my previous reply but guess u didn't pick that up. I'll try to be explicit. We men are simple, when the head down there is thinking, all we need is a hole to fire into. However, at times we look for excitement or perhaps the word sexitement is more appropriate. This is when men lack the adrenaline that's felt when flirting and teasing with attractive women. That is something men can't get from paid sex. Hope that answer your question.

cremecrm · #10 09-09-2012, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Edyta

Thanks for all the replies.

In essence, its just sex they are after assuming there are no other motives like sucking up to bosses etc.

Just to clarify I am not saying going out solo is wrong, it can be for networking etc. if the solo outings are all initiated by the married/attached man and quite regularly it raises the question of underlying motive. What is it the man is after?

If its just sex why not go for paid services? I am sure there are no lack of great looking ones. Its a paid and no strings - v neat transaction. Why not? Why bother to ask a woman out and unsure of the outcome and have to wait?

Men like challenges. KC feeling

sleepygordon · #11 09-09-2012, 10:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Edyta

Thanks for all the replies.

In essence, its just sex they are after assuming there are no other motives like sucking up to bosses etc.

Just to clarify I am not saying going out solo is wrong, it can be for networking etc. if the solo outings are all initiated by the married/attached man and quite regularly it raises the question of underlying motive. What is it the man is after?

If its just sex why not go for paid services? I am sure there are no lack of great looking ones. Its a paid and no strings - v neat transaction. Why not? Why bother to ask a woman out and unsure of the outcome and have to wait?

Some men are just plain cheapskate. They have bloated egos (my apologies if this offends anyone reading this) and they believe that they can get laid without the need to fork out a single cent.

For others the thrill is in the hunt and may not be all about the target.

And for the more rare and innocent ones, it is just having the attention of the opposite sex. Men enjoy the attention of women and vice versa.

For the tragic ones, it is to escape the one at home.

naturegreen · #12 09-09-2012, 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

They hope to fuck them.

Haha I like your answer.

astcrsv2 · #13 09-09-2012, 11:04 PM

The simplest answer is usually the right answer.

shiokpleasure · #14 09-09-2012, 11:10 PM

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Originally Posted by slider_72

Some men like the thrill of the hunt.

Imagine the difference between bringing your rifle, going out to the wild in your diesel SUV, hunting your own food, and compare that with driving to the supermarket in your MPV and stopping by the meat section.

Which scenario sounds more exciting?

I guess given the choice, i rather go hunting than supermarket. After getting my kill, roast and cook it on the spot for the great outdoor taste.

Secret7 · #15 09-09-2012, 11:31 PM

These men most of them want free sex. Married already can go for drink with girl and bring wife along also can, right? Why must drink with girl alone unless want to tackle her. Some more act sincere, business like.

These type of man only want cheap kicks. Girls go out with them if serious type, sure get hurt.

Best you avoid these type of two timer. Fish plenty in the sea. Why go for second hand goods.