Just having the peace of my mind.

[BartSimpson]

I guess I am just a lost boy seeking for some advice, please bear with my inexperience and slight stupidity and ignorance if there are any.

To all uncles, well Kor Kors too if you are unmarried or just older than me but prefers Kor Kor over uncle, I am here to seek for advice as I have stated as of above. It will not be in any form related to sex, yes although this is a sex forum, but I believe the fact that people from all aspects of life had gathered here. Hence, I believe I can understand or even solve my problem/situation using different point of views.



My first “situation” is the fact that somehow, I’ve met an older “sis” (she is 18/19 by the way, and I am 15) online, since this March. She was a mutual friend but we got better. She is really nice to me. However, ignores me half the time and was kind of “cold” towards me. Most of the time, she just talk to people of her same age or older online. There was once I remembered why she boasted in-front of me, she said it was because I am special to her (do not really get it also). For a period of time, while I was asking her about choosing subject combination and all, she likes (or just being an ass) to end her sentence of with, “kid”. And I almost met her once in real life, because I was looking for a tutor and she turned out to me one. However, distance kept us apart, as the time consumed traveling is just too great. (She did say we will meet when we are older, but wouldn’t that make her even older? (Before asking her to be my tutor)) By the way, she did gave me her number and the fact that somehow I managed to find her private Twitter account, she allowed me to follow her on it too.

Does it really mean anything to her of what her actions had done?

The other issue comes, is somehow I am having feelings for her for no exact reason that even I myself doesn’t seems to be able to justify. I did try to forget thinking about her, since March. But it was getting harder and somehow I thought of her daily. And will anything happen to both of us eventually?



The second “issue” is the fact that all my friends in school are somehow “fake” are “mask” wearers, in the sense that, they will only come to me when they need my help. Which really sucks for me, as even during recess and projects the feeling of getting abandoned just doesn’t feels nice at all. And the fact that I will be with the same bunch of people or “clique” if you would like to call it, next year.



The third “problem”, I never had a girlfriend before. I am curious why do I whenever treat my crushes nice, I just get “friendzoned” at the end of the day? And some guy got her the next? Or is it maybe the fact that I never have the balls to confess even till now?



The fourth “brain teaser” is the fact that I never really feel “stressed” during exams, but rather the fact that I am annoyed by it as things(revise, revise and more revision) is happening again. What’s more, especially next year I am going to be Sec 3, and will be taking on Triple Science and A+E Maths, most people (seniors) say it’s a tough workload just to be in a normal Sec 3 class. I am rather frustrated at the fact that there are so many more things to learn. I am happy that I will be learning more, new and interesting stuffs. But somehow it is getting the hang of me.



I do know that this problems might not seem much to people like you guys who had even went through worst, but as my life was pretty smooth in the past. This problems had made me unable enjoy my current life to the fullest.
What happened caused by the internet (situation No.1), I do hope to end it by the internet too. (Main reason I was here, because I do not wish to speak about this issue to my parents, as it will seem rather awkward to them.)

-PS- If anybody here somehow recognizes me, or thinks who you think I am, please just keep it to yourself. I believe what said on this forum, stays in this forum.

-PSPS- If the above mention subject on “situation No.1” had read this too, please do approach me if you know who I am, and let’s make this clear once and for all.

-PSPSPS- Sorry if I had posted in the wrong section of the forum, but I believe this section had the most active current user flow.

Last and of all, thank you for the fact that you had spent you time reading finish all this; in the same time I wishes I can get as many opinion on this as possible. As I hope to end all of this by 2011 and start fresh from 2012 onwards. And pardon me for my inability to grasp the full use of the English language.

[kharu]

Dear TS suggest you ignore all other things for the time being and just concentrate on your studies. Get good grades so that you can further your studies . don't waste time on all thee small issues.

[smartke]

u r ONLY 15yo, wat more do u expect? haven learn to walk, wan to learn to fly?

well, i wun b answerin ur questions, cos wats more impt for u NOW is to acquire knowledge, by concentrate on ur studies in school.

[IwantbustyKim]

Originally Posted by BartSimpson

I guess I am just a lost boy seeking for some advice, please bear with my inexperience and slight stupidity and ignorance if there are any.

To all uncles, well Kor Kors too if you are unmarried or just older than me but prefers Kor Kor over uncle, I am here to seek for advice as I have stated as of above. It will not be in any form related to sex, yes although this is a sex forum, but I believe the fact that people from all aspects of life had gathered here. Hence, I believe I can understand or even solve my problem/situation using different point of views.



My first “situation” is the fact that somehow, I’ve met an older “sis” (she is 18/19 by the way, and I am 15) online, since this March. She was a mutual friend but we got better. She is really nice to me. However, ignores me half the time and was kind of “cold” towards me. Most of the time, she just talk to people of her same age or older online. There was once I remembered why she boasted in-front of me, she said it was because I am special to her (do not really get it also). For a period of time, while I was asking her about choosing subject combination and all, she likes (or just being an ass) to end her sentence of with, “kid”. And I almost met her once in real life, because I was looking for a tutor and she turned out to me one. However, distance kept us apart, as the time consumed traveling is just too great. (She did say we will meet when we are older, but wouldn’t that make her even older? (Before asking her to be my tutor)) By the way, she did gave me her number and the fact that somehow I managed to find her private Twitter account, she allowed me to follow her on it too.

Does it really mean anything to her of what her actions had done?

The other issue comes, is somehow I am having feelings for her for no exact reason that even I myself doesn’t seems to be able to justify. I did try to forget thinking about her, since March. But it was getting harder and somehow I thought of her daily. And will anything happen to both of us eventually?



The second “issue” is the fact that all my friends in school are somehow “fake” are “mask” wearers, in the sense that, they will only come to me when they need my help. Which really sucks for me, as even during recess and projects the feeling of getting abandoned just doesn’t feels nice at all. And the fact that I will be with the same bunch of people or “clique” if you would like to call it, next year.



The third “problem”, I never had a girlfriend before. I am curious why do I whenever treat my crushes nice, I just get “friendzoned” at the end of the day? And some guy got her the next? Or is it maybe the fact that I never have the balls to confess even till now?



The fourth “brain teaser” is the fact that I never really feel “stressed” during exams, but rather the fact that I am annoyed by it as things(revise, revise and more revision) is happening again. What’s more, especially next year I am going to be Sec 3, and will be taking on Triple Science and A+E Maths, most people (seniors) say it’s a tough workload just to be in a normal Sec 3 class. I am rather frustrated at the fact that there are so many more things to learn. I am happy that I will be learning more, new and interesting stuffs. But somehow it is getting the hang of me.



I do know that this problems might not seem much to people like you guys who had even went through worst, but as my life was pretty smooth in the past. This problems had made me unable enjoy my current life to the fullest.
What happened caused by the internet (situation No.1), I do hope to end it by the internet too. (Main reason I was here, because I do not wish to speak about this issue to my parents, as it will seem rather awkward to them.)

-PS- If anybody here somehow recognizes me, or thinks who you think I am, please just keep it to yourself. I believe what said on this forum, stays in this forum.

-PSPS- If the above mention subject on “situation No.1” had read this too, please do approach me if you know who I am, and let’s make this clear once and for all.

-PSPSPS- Sorry if I had posted in the wrong section of the forum, but I believe this section had the most active current user flow.

Last and of all, thank you for the fact that you had spent you time reading finish all this; in the same time I wishes I can get as many opinion on this as possible. As I hope to end all of this by 2011 and start fresh from 2012 onwards. And pardon me for my inability to grasp the full use of the English language.

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[IwantbustyKim]

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[HunterJ]

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[alan0338]

the jie jie scared she kena for having sex with underaged la, tats y wait till u older ma

[Reoxy]

Originally Posted by BartSimpson

I guess I am just a lost boy seeking for some advice, please bear with my inexperience and slight stupidity and ignorance if there are any.

We do not give any advice to persons under the legal age limit.

I suggest you to send your problems to "Teenage" magazine.

We would also like you to let us know the contact details of your older "sis" so that we can make contact and see if she needs any "assistance".

[Johnston]

Originally Posted by BartSimpson

-PS- If anybody here somehow recognizes me, or thinks who you think I am, please just keep it to yourself. I believe what said on this forum, stays in this forum.

-PSPS- If the above mention subject on “situation No.1” had read this too, please do approach me if you know who I am, and let’s make this clear once and for all.

-PSPSPS- Sorry if I had posted in the wrong section of the forum, but I believe this section had the most active current user flow.

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Firstly : Aye carumba and eat my shorts, dude!!!

We could care less who or what you are - and nothing said on the internet stays on the internet, but never mind your too buzy creaming your pants from the latest IPAD....

I feeling in a generous mood and may say things on subjects 1 to 3 but for number 4,,, well welcome to singapore, we teach rote rivision heres....

And finally "And pardon me for my inability to grasp the full use of the English language"

But somehow it is getting the hang of me - should be Somehow i am getting the hang of the subject

Last and of all - should be Last but not least or alternatively, Lastly, finally, in closing etc etc

Your whole post has shades of "proper school teaching" mixed with "internet slangs" and a peppering of "american english slang" finally held together by "typical singapore singlishz"

There's 4 days left to end of 2011, homie.... so whatcha gonna do?

[Johnston]

To start off with : firstlysz

What can a 15 y/o sec 3 fellow offer to a 18- 19 f who is already working at least part time? You gonna buy her tifanny, or bring her to USS or other places??? maybe buy her perfumes?

From a cold logical standpoint, any gratification you could possibly offer her would be sexual, and sex with people under 16 is a criminal offence in singapore so yeah you can see why not she is cold.

There is also the consideration of the 4 year age difference so by the time you completed NS and found a job (let's be kind) you will be 21 and she 25 so she is approaching the sell-by date. Even if the two of you are still together, she will be thinking marriage and you might be thinking "FUK HOT CHICS YEAH".

You might dump her and then she will have wasted several years of her life in waiting....

She is thinking the long campaign here, but you are thinking short term skirmish. I do think i have succintly summed up what she is thinking and she is likely distancing herself so as not to have any "underage sex complication yes"

I cant help it... i must...
And pardon me for my inability to grasp the full use of the English language

[I.m.Jim]

You remind me of myself when i was young . I lost it at 14 ! Fumbling through everything ! Watch where u fire can already . hahaha

[5ag1_Boar]

You are 15... you ARE supposed to be lost in life. Most of us were. Some of us still are. So don't worry. The fact that you can verbalise your "lostness" is a good sign: it shows you are using your brain. So don't worry, you'll figure out life step by step.

15 Y.O. with crush on 18 Y.O. girl... also nothing new. A word of advice, forget her. It isn't going to happen. Not any time soon, at least. Maybe when you are 30 and she's 33, you bump into each other again, blah blah blah fairy tale blah blah blah. By then, you would have known/dated many other girls/woman and you would be wise enough to know if she's the one.

But for now... forget her. She is 18, she probably going through the teenage phase where she's fantasising about young buff older boys, etc. Nothing to be sad about.

Plus you do not have any good reason to "love" her... i.e. it is just a crush. I'll bet that it's because she is older and pretty and bothers to actually have a conversation with you, unlike the other fakey friends you have. Think about it.

It'll be hard to forget her, for sure... but you will. By the way, it took most of us here a long time to figure out "love" and again some of us are still figuring it out.

When I was in sec 3, a sec 1 girl stalked me. At that time... it was CREEPY. Because at sec 3, a sec 1 girl seems really immature and kiddish. Opps... she called you "kid", didn't she?

Fakey friends. Fact of life. Get over it. Learn to recognise them and be the nice guy, but don't let them step all over you and don't let them make you feel worthless. The fact that they need your help for some things just shows that you are worthy.

Friendships can't be forced. When you move on to tertiary education like poly and uni, you will meet more people with the same interests and wavelength, simply because you will (most likely) be choosing the same courses which is usually influenced by one's interests and personality. Many people will tell you that they enjoyed uni and.or poly most in their life... even though that was probably the toughest part of their academic life... because of the friends they make.

Studies... you seem to enjoy learning. Unfortunately, schooling = learning + exams. As long as you enjoy learning, exams should not be as difficult for you as it is for those who don't. With this attitude/aptitude, you will go far in life. Don't worry that you are not stressed by exams, as long as you are responsible enough to try your best and work for your future.

[BartSimpson]

Originally Posted by kharu

Dear TS suggest you ignore all other things for the time being and just concentrate on your studies. Get good grades so that you can further your studies . don't waste time on all thee small issues.

No offense sir, but the fact that I am having good grades right now, that is why I am kind of bothered by this "small" issues considered by you guys.

[BartSimpson]

Originally Posted by smartke

u r ONLY 15yo, wat more do u expect? haven learn to walk, wan to learn to fly?

well, i wun b answerin ur questions, cos wats more impt for u NOW is to acquire knowledge, by concentrate on ur studies in school.

Yes, I admit I am 15 years old, I am not expecting much, but trying to have advice on how to learn to walk properly.

Thank you for the fact that you had at least cared, and asked me to concentrate on my studies, which I will be doing next year, as of right now, it is still the holidays.

[BartSimpson]

Originally Posted by IwantbustyKim

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