Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[GLHunter]

[QUOTE=monicalf;7154332]Good day all bros

Appealing to everyone, who can advise which GP or doc that your Viet spouse or gf will visit when they are unwell?

In my case, there is potential communication issues as she only knows simple English or mandarin.

Trying to seek anywhere can find any local GP able to converse basic if not simple Viet.

Thanks alot in advance.[/QUOTE
if you can communicate with your spouse/gf well, suggest you go with her to relate what she says to the doctor.

[demondemon]

hi guys

need advise here

i have a VB fling for say close to a year
know her from ktv,
be her chauffeur and pick her up/down,
thats how i got her

got go HCM visit her twice
she do not work in ktv anymore, she is learning manicure back home

i do not give her any money or allowance
juz some small gifts and surprises like how i xian any sg girl

recently, she ask me for 4mil viet dong, about 240sgd
not a big amount, but i told her, i will give u but this is the last time i will give u money

i dunno is she crying or wat or felt insulted,
she juz remain silent and hang up the phone
i called back, she picked up, the atmosphere is weird, so i told her
ur mood is bad, i'll call u tml

what shd i do ? bros
am i too much and went overboard?

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by demondemon

what shd i do ? bros
am i too much and went overboard?

Donate your money to charity.... it will make u feel better.

[Seletar]

Originally Posted by demondemon

what shd i do ? bros
am i too much and went overboard?

quit the r/s. Better find one that can feed you.

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by demondemon

hi guys

need advise here

i have a VB fling for say close to a year
know her from ktv,
be her chauffeur and pick her up/down,
thats how i got her

got go HCM visit her twice
she do not work in ktv anymore, she is learning manicure back home

i do not give her any money or allowance
juz some small gifts and surprises like how i xian any sg girl

recently, she ask me for 4mil viet dong, about 240sgd
not a big amount, but i told her, i will give u but this is the last time i will give u money

i dunno is she crying or wat or felt insulted,
she juz remain silent and hang up the phone
i called back, she picked up, the atmosphere is weird, so i told her
ur mood is bad, i'll call u tml

what shd i do ? bros
am i too much and went overboard?

U did the rite thing. Dun let them be used to getting $$ from u. Once, there will be twice, thrice n more to come. Maybe u can explain to her say u wan her to be independent dun always ask others for money. But on the other hand, if she still learning manicure n not started working, how can she have money?

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by vietboy

U did the rite thing. Dun let them be used to getting $$ from u. Once, there will be twice, thrice n more to come. Maybe u can explain to her say u wan her to be independent dun always ask others for money. But on the other hand, if she still learning manicure n not started working, how can she have money?

This is very common in vn. They will find 101 reasons to borrow from foreigners. Be it their boss, their son-in-law, their bf, their relatives etc. they borrow but don't have the ability to return you. Borrow is just sound good, the reality is asking you to give her. Starts off with 4 million VND, few weeks later will be 6 million, and so on. Finally they will ask you for 40 million vnd or even more.

[demondemon]

Originally Posted by vietboy

U did the rite thing. Dun let them be used to getting $$ from u. Once, there will be twice, thrice n more to come. Maybe u can explain to her say u wan her to be independent dun always ask others for money. But on the other hand, if she still learning manicure n not started working, how can she have money?

her sisters are married to SG husbands, so they send money back home
thats what i was told last time

Originally Posted by SingViet

This is very common in vn. They will find 101 reasons to borrow from foreigners. Be it their boss, their son-in-law, their bf, their relatives etc. they borrow but don't have the ability to return you. Borrow is just sound good, the reality is asking you to give her. Starts off with 4 million VND, few weeks later will be 6 million, and so on. Finally they will ask you for 40 million vnd or even more.

yeah thats what i think

last night she whatsapp me and rage
say no need me to help
she will settle it herself

i was thinking oh either she have other "bf" or she dun need money that urgently afterall

for now i will juz ignore her

[broxson]

Can anyone be kind enough to explain to me the procedures for done getting married in vietnam? like just getting registered without a wedding dinner, how much will it cost? what do i need to have? must both side parents be present? how long would it take?

[elth]

Originally Posted by demondemon

her sisters are married to SG husbands, so they send money back home
thats what i was told last time



yeah thats what i think

last night she whatsapp me and rage
say no need me to help
she will settle it herself

i was thinking oh either she have other "bf" or she dun need money that urgently afterall

for now i will juz ignore her

having many bf is very common

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by broxson

Can anyone be kind enough to explain to me the procedures for done getting married in vietnam? like just getting registered without a wedding dinner, how much will it cost? what do i need to have? must both side parents be present? how long would it take?

Dont exactly know what u want

With or without wedding dinner is up to u or your spouse.For your info,that time i need to show them my marriage photo before they fix a date for us to sign on our marriage cert,sound funny or stupid,but is their way of doing things

How much depends how 'grand' you want.No money put 1 big table,if u have money put 100 table also can.what is your budget my bro.Dont let your future wife say she want 1000 tables and u follow her blindly.

You need to have your passport and SG ROM cert to prove your maritial status.

Parents is up to u,my parents did not go and they allow us to sign

Mine is take around 3 months cos make 3 seperate trip there.

Why so troublesome,marry here better lah

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by demondemon

her sisters are married to SG husbands, so they send money back home
thats what i was told last time



yeah thats what i think

last night she whatsapp me and rage
say no need me to help
she will settle it herself

i was thinking oh either she have other "bf" or she dun need money that urgently afterall

for now i will juz ignore her

Ignore her and u will know what kind of person she is

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by SingViet

This is very common in vn. They will find 101 reasons to borrow from foreigners. Be it their boss, their son-in-law, their bf, their relatives etc. they borrow but don't have the ability to return you. Borrow is just sound good, the reality is asking you to give her. Starts off with 4 million VND, few weeks later will be 6 million, and so on. Finally they will ask you for 40 million vnd or even more.

my wife recently just know a viet in the lift and who happen to stay in the same block as us.

They exchange their numbers and she ask my wife whether can borrow her $300 first or not when she make the first call to her.

My wife say dont have and she told me most probably is the first and also the last call to her

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by elth

having many bf is very common

Common until they dont even feel that is wrong to lied

[broxson]

Originally Posted by Golden question

Dont exactly know what u want

With or without wedding dinner is up to u or your spouse.For your info,that time i need to show them my marriage photo before they fix a date for us to sign on our marriage cert,sound funny or stupid,but is their way of doing things

How much depends how 'grand' you want.No money put 1 big table,if u have money put 100 table also can.what is your budget my bro.Dont let your future wife say she want 1000 tables and u follow her blindly.

You need to have your passport and SG ROM cert to prove your maritial status.

Parents is up to u,my parents did not go and they allow us to sign

Mine is take around 3 months cos make 3 seperate trip there.

Why so troublesome,marry here better lah

Just planning to get married thats all, without her parents. As her parents are forcing her to marry another guy which i have no ideal why.

What do you mean by "You need to have your passport and SG ROM cert to prove your maritial status." ? Must ROM in SG first?

Impossible to be done in one single trip?

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by broxson

Just planning to get married thats all, without her parents. As her parents are forcing her to marry another guy which i have no ideal why.

What do you mean by "You need to have your passport and SG ROM cert to prove your maritial status." ? Must ROM in SG first?

Impossible to be done in one single trip?

You will need to to go Registry of Marriages in Singapore to do a `search' on your marriage records in Singapore. This is to prove that you are single. As for Singapore passport, you will need to bring your passport to a Notary Public, then to Ministry of Foreign Affairs then to Academy of Law in Supreme Court for certification.

Its not possible to finish all procedures for marriage in VN in just 1 trip, minimum 3 trips. Why not get married in Singapore? faster and easier.