We were a real couple again after that day… but we continued living in our own world, our little cocoon as I always call it.
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Cheers
SL
Really great story bro!
I re-read again from the first to last and it just amazed me again.
As I grew older in life, I had also learned that life is sometimes not as simple as it seems.
The most important is that we are not too overly concerned with judgement from others and knows what we wanted.
I wish you happiness and stay strong!
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Don't Save-up Sex for Old Age!!! (Warren Buffet)
We were a real couple again after that day… but we continued living in our own world, our little cocoon as I always call it. There were a couple of occasions we met some friends, but J was comfortable only because they were acquaintance that we knew fairly recently.. Our social circle remains extremely small, and we try to avoid most crowded places. Was it hard to live like this? Well, not really.. most of the time..
It was towards the middle of 2018 that J and I spoke about marriage in the near future. And she decided that she wanted to tell her mum and sis when it happens. But first, she has to let them know that we have been in contact before revealing to them how far we have gone. So she made an arrangement to meet up with them at her mum’s place. J was of course very nervous and uneasy. She had spent the whole week thinking how to broach the subject up. When they met, she mentioned that she bumped into me near her workplace and we went out for dinner together. Atmosphere was very awkward, and both her sis and mother didn’t make a comment nor say a single word. She felt so uncomfortable, she just couldn’t continue telling them anything about us, let alone allowing this conversation about our chanced meeting to build up into more occasions to mention my presence in her life. So, the idea of the family accepting me died… before it even began.
Was I really troubled? Not exactly. Was J? Yes to a certain extent. However, away from all these distractions, we were very happy together. I asked J to move in with me but she didn’t want to because her family visits her once a while. But other than that, its either J stays at my place or the other way round. We have dual income with no kids, hold very good jobs with good package, drive quite a flashy car, wines and dines without much thoughts, travels frequently and most important of all, we were still madly in love with each other… well, most of the time unless we have the occasional squabbles.
Is this what we call a happy life? Hmmm.. depends on how you see it and what you value in life.
On one hand, J and I are like Mal and Cobb in the show, Inception (Starring Leonardo DiCaprio). Why? We are in love, so happy and comfortable living in our own ‘constructed’ dream world that we do not want to return to the real world called reality. Because in the real world, they are people who cannot accept who we are because of our past relationship as brother and sister in law. In the real world, we cannot truly be ourselves. In the real world, we are judged and scrutinized. So Mal and Cobb didn’t want to leave the dream world they created. Likewise, J and I continue to live in a dream world of our own… even though its not normal.
Which surely begs the question, what’s normal? Is only being accepted by others normal? Is living a life based on something you cannot control normal? My answer to both is, fucking hell, I don’t give a damn. So yeah, I do continue to lead a hedonistic lifestyle, just that its all with J now. And we continue to be like Mal and Cobb… living in our world… or are we still living in our dreams? It’s a blur sometimes to be honest… but who cares so long as we are happy aye? Almost exactly like Mal and Cobb in Inception isn’t it? Only J and I are luckier, we don’t have kids to hold us back…
So once again.. there you have it. from page 1 till here, its been a good 10 years of my life’s ups and downs with J (we started in 2009 and I created this thread in 2011). I thank everyone that was interested in J and me, especially some of you that have been following this thread since 2011. There is also a good number of people that didn’t like what I shared, and I got zapped here quite a lot of times.. well, that’s life…
Anyway, I disappear for quite a few years at a stretch and came back to finish it as my life journey unfolds. I have received quite a lot of messages here and also private inbox that I didn’t reply personally. To that I am sorry.. please forgive me will ya?
A while back, there was a samster that enjoyed following my past and wrote a very long private message to ask if I can share my love/sex life before J and my ex-wife. I honestly find it pretty amusing.. why would a person want to hear old uncle stories in his younger days huh??? Although truth be told, I did have quite a colorful past before J and her sis.. love/ sex/ fuck buddies/ gangs/ chiong discos/ school/ brotherhood/ family/ work etc. Been there, done that. Ahhh… the silly things we do when we were younger… I will consider sharing because I came to realize that writing is an excellent way of reminiscing the past and keeping memories intact… if I can find the time to write that is…
Till then, take care bros and a small number of sisters out there.. the pleasure is mine to have your ears and advice.
Cheers
SL
Sincerely wish you all the luck and happiness that you deserved regardless of what people say..
Life is too short to be drowning in what ifs, I’m glad that you found your own heaven in the world..
The fact that you worked hard to find and get together with your soulmate.. you deserve more applauses that you really know.. in this messed up world how many of us can say we truly found our own happiness..
Sincerely wish you all the luck and happiness that you deserved regardless of what people say..
Life is too short to be drowning in what ifs, I’m glad that you found your own heaven in the world..
The fact that you worked hard to find and get together with your soulmate.. you deserve more applauses that you really know.. in this messed up world how many of us can say we truly found our own happiness..
This has got to be the most insane thread I read in this forum. A thread that spans 10 years! I happen to see this tonight and read through the entire thread from page 1 to now.
It made my eyes hurt, my heart hurts and my head hurts.
I won't comment on morality, what should you or should you not do. Personally, I will agree with a bro here that closing the chapter with J and moving on with your life is an option that I like to see but as SL mentioned before, life does throw curve balls in your way and you just have to handle it the best you can.
Since you and J chose this path, a path that is considered morally wrong and the blowback will be huge. I have to say that we are ultimately responsible for our own actions. Nobody else can answer for our own actions except for ourselves. Not the divine nor the damned can take the blame for us. That is how I view life.
We can always say tough situations will affect our decisions we took but it is still the decision we took based on the best judgement we can afford ourselves in that point in time.
I sincerely hope SL and J will find whatever joy and meaning in their love for each other because we only have this life to live and to live in misery and a void in our hearts is certainly a waste of life.
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my sister in law is a fans of sugarbok, she has dated many people out from there whether is guy or girl....she is an agent, thus when meet more people, means higher chance of deals
27-04-2021, 04:24 AM
