Gers Are Still Gers

[sibaysianz]

Originally Posted by red-perrier

in short.. its just sad...

bro, wa bo way gong liao... u said it all....*clap clap* hmm..u seem to have analysed the situation very well leh haha must be a veteran in the house... but just wanna say again that "not all gers are like that lah" and the fun is in the search lor...

[t123]

Originally Posted by sibaysianz

bro, wat I gather frm yr case leh is yr ger either playing hard to get or she seriously considering you....

I think is the former. I think for relationship I have been thru the worst of all shit. So a bot numb liao. She not that chio, a bit outgoin tomboy type. Haiz, anyway, I aso prepared to be single for whole life liao. go in and out of GL and like the 4 uncle sitting at the corner of the coffeeshop facing the main road at Lor 18, maybe me and my fren destined to kio kway till we die. Other s'pore gals I not interested unless she is priscilla chan or katherine tan.

[t123]

Originally Posted by sibaysianz

but da duo shu dou shi leh hehehe

当他们说外国的月亮圆，他们忘记外国的 lanjiao 更大更长。haiz.

[Rof|maoxz]

Originally Posted by sibaysianz

I know what you are trying to say but in Singapore the women are more educated and hence have more "say" these days... so bo pian mah...it's the culture wat...but then dun you find it lucky that men can go overseas looking for wives when they cannot find any here? What about those highly-educated women who will someday realise that they are very lonely? They cannot go and buy overseas husband wat... so take it that life is fair wan lah......

Paiseh hor, as compared as 20 yrs b4 when our grandfathers duration, girls only do household cores whereby boys get the priority to study. Now of course girls get equal opportunity, and most of the girls excel the guys in terms of academic in recent studies. It's fair that they have their demands. But just look around SGP, chiina for instances, see how they study and get good grades without study so hard for it. Yes, their command of english is not as good as in SGP but who cares, SGP ppl speak singlish!!! And one thing for sure they are more modest and willing to take in criticism openly.

[free]

Originally Posted by sibaysianz

Anyway do you also admit that singaporean men in general are about the least romantic in the world (they are also not caring, insensitive, egoistic blah blah blah haha let me have a chance to release lah) ...maybe when they are chasing the gers they have a lot of ideas but once hook up liao...no more liao...marriage die off also cos of that wat the feeling before marriage and after marriage totally different...

I beg to differ. Men in general are suckers for love. They usually enjoy carrying on with the courtship if the women bother to continue to make it exciting. Problem is the gf they married (or become steady with) can almost instantly morph into a monster or at least a black hole of expectancy. Nothing is good enough, they want the 5Cs and the guy works his butts off. At home he faces more pressure cos he hears her wanting this and wanting that! Even if she works, these things are beyond her earning capacity and even mine or ours combined! Worse is her talk of the future and what kind of life they should have and by when, how much money he should me making by the time he reaches a certain age....dun even care whether he happy in his job or not. Or if she is even meeting his needs as his partner.

It is not just about romanticism - to me that is just an excuse (incidentally gals from foreign countries tells me I am very romantic). No, she want me to be the Jack of all trades and Master of them all too. Romance, $$$$ (and plenty of it), time, understanding, patience to listen to her complains about boss/office (but I can;t even share happy things with her w/o her getting upset), 2 holidays a year (and 1 is MAJOR, ok?)..... what else? I can't care to remember anymore!

Is waiting for her 1-3 hrs at her office (often) and not getting upset but still give her a huggy and kissy being romantic? And still take her to a nice dinner (arrive 3hrs later than original reservation time). And not even a thanks or sorry from her? Or cannot even wait for him for 10-15 minutes (seldom) , cos he was caught in an expected Jam, and took the taxi home...and sulk the whole night thru cos she was upset he was not there waiting and she had to wait for him for a LONG time (15 minutes!!)? Is that being romantic of her?

What is the poor guy who loves her to do? Work/Try even harder? At least it would be nice to get a massage from her - like when his head and neck is throbbing due to stress. No, she piles on even more complains.....No not only want the 5Cs, she also wants more time. Sometimes want to talk until 1-2am and dun even care when she sees him dozing off (literally fell off the chair). Pity him, sympathize with him or worry about him she did not; she got angry with him instead? Come to think of it, when was she not angry whenever things dun go the way she wanted? Well, she kept adding on the straws until finally the last straw broke the camel's back. He gave up on what he had hope would be his heaven on earth but entered into a living hell instead. That angel had all but morphed into a monster full of anger and discontentment

Comparatively I will never forget the times when my foreign gf and I were in a taxi going to the mall. I fell asleep in the taxi about 3-quartersway to the mall, and the next thing I know when I woke up, we had arrived back at my hotel!! She had asked the taxi driver to turn back to the hotel - simply cos she saw I was tired and needed to rest. I wanted to go back to the mall, but she said the mall can wait - I needed my rest 1st.

For the SG gal, she would never have done this (tell me honestly, would u?). At best (if I give her the benefit of doubt), she will let me sleep in the taxi until we reach, and we will carry on with our plan (actually her plan) and go optimize the trip (the way she sees optimization - meet her shopping goals). This happened not once but 3 times, with 2 different foreign gals (once my 1st ex-gf, twice with my current tirak). Nowadays we made even sure I am not tired (or get destressed 1st before we go out. The shopping trip (or whatever it is) can wait, until I rhad rested/destressed enough - even though we have only a few days together and dun get to see each other often.

[walkingdick]

Hey, you guys are lucky on food and apparel topics, I kena this;

GER: who is prettier? Cecilia Cheung or me?
ME: Cecilia lah (cannot bullshit), but I lust for you only
GER:Then, is your ex GF prettier or me?
ME: It's you definitely darling (this one can smoke a bit)
GER: Bullshit, you're lying!
ME: How am I to prove?
GER: I don't care, it's your fault to make me feel this way, you dun love me
ME: *silence*
GER: Nothing to say izit?
ME: Dunno wat to say, bcoz you can counter me with every ridiculous ramblings in or outside the book!
GER: See? now you think I'm a nuisance.
ME:*Groans, tugs hair and spew froth and blood*

[t123]

try this, at 2 am during a weeknite. I was sleeping. My ex called, sobbing.
I was scared stiff, maybe something happened.

Me:dear, why are you crying?
Ex:I can't help it.
Me:What Happened?
Ex:I can't help thinking you lost your virginity to your ex before me. You are my first BF you know.
Me:Ok, ok, please you are all I have now.
Ex:I don't care, tommorrow got class, you must coaxed me to sleep.because of you I will have eyebag and how to face my classmates. You know I am so sad now I can't stop crying.

There I go, telling her how sweet she was and how cute, how good she is compared to the gal before her. Only managed to get back to sleep at 4.00am and I wake up at 6.30am to prepare for work.

PS:we didn't have sex during the 4 years together.

[Rof|maoxz]

Originally Posted by walkingdick

Hey, you guys are lucky on food and apparel topics, I kena this;

ME:*Groans, tugs hair and spew froth and blood*

You are in big time man. I also kana like this b4. I Q on her past relationship, she can say it has already happened in the past. Den when my mother chatted with her on how I so 痴情 can travelled up to HGK to buy a rare melody doll to a girl. That was also happened in the past. Den my wife will say, wah so romantic hor, can buy doll, bag etc. Keep pestering me on the past. Afterwhich her face changed like charcoal when I bo hiu her. haha~

[sibaysianz]

Originally Posted by Rof|maoxz

But just look around SGP, chiina for instances, see how they study and get good grades without study so hard for it. Yes, their command of english is not as good as in SGP but who cares, SGP ppl speak singlish!!! And one thing for sure they are more modest and willing to take in criticism openly.

eh.. cannot comment about the good grades thingy but I do agree with your last sentence....I do have a couple of good PRC galfriends whom I can honestly talk to very openly and they also honestly tell me that they really dig "Singaporean" men because "ta men hen rong yi pian" and very naive. (mai angry hor) One of my friend married a singaporean guy who was 35 yrs her senior cos she wanted to live in SG (they are divorced liao BTW married for 5 yrs I think) and she told me that except for his money she do not find him attractive at all but she have no problems with pretending to love him (no singapore gal can do that, i think) she can even joke with us that her ex still believed that he is a handsome stud cos of her. Anyway I understand her position, just pity the guy who succumb to her chioness. hehe She is just one of those gals who decided to quit her poor life in China and work her way towards the life that she wants... anyway i very lo sor hor...

[sibaysianz]

Originally Posted by free

2 holidays a year (and 1 is MAJOR, ok?)..... what else? I can't care to remember anymore!

Is waiting for her 1-3 hrs at her office (often) and not getting upset but still give her a huggy and kissy being romantic? And still take her to a nice dinner (arrive 3hrs later than original reservation time). And not even a thanks or sorry from her? Or cannot even wait for him for 10-15 minutes (seldom) , cos he was caught in an expected Jam, and took the taxi home...and sulk the whole night thru cos she was upset he was not there waiting and she had to wait for him for a LONG time (15 minutes!!)? Is that being romantic of her?

Wah....u so good wan ah....maybe your wife and I should switch roles so she can realise how pampered she is, she will immediately run back to you and be the nice sweet gal she was before hahaha anyway your case is a classic lah "being taken for granted liao"....

Have u talked to her or not? I used to be like ur wife oso wat...quite stuck up lah complain this complain that but as I know more men I realised that actually my hubby not too bad lah...then I start to pamper him until all my friends and colleagues say I spoil market but I enjoy being xiao nu ren leh hahaha so now he take me for granted liao but bo pian lor.... I occasionally make him gan cheong a bit ask male colleague send me home lah then he next day treat me very nicely wan ... why am I in this forum in the first place.. cos I wanna learn how to please him lor and hope that he dun go out and tao chiak lor.

Originally Posted by free

For the SG gal, she would never have done this (tell me honestly, would u?). At best (if I give her the benefit of doubt), she will let me sleep in the taxi until we reach, and we will carry on with our plan (actually her plan) and go optimize the trip (the way she sees optimization - meet her shopping goals). This happened not once but 3 times, with 2 different foreign gals (once my 1st ex-gf, twice with my current tirak). Nowadays we made even sure I am not tired (or get destressed 1st before we go out. The shopping trip (or whatever it is) can wait, until I rhad rested/destressed enough - even though we have only a few days together and dun get to see each other often.

Well to answer yr question honestly, I would. As for yr gf's case u said it yrself wat... u guys dun get to see each otehr often.. u wanna try marrying her and a few years down the road the same scenario will happen

[sibaysianz]

Originally Posted by Rof|maoxz

You are in big time man. I also kana like this b4. I Q on her past relationship, she can say it has already happened in the past. Den when my mother chatted with her on how I so 痴情 can travelled up to HGK to buy a rare melody doll to a girl. That was also happened in the past. Den my wife will say, wah so romantic hor, can buy doll, bag etc. Keep pestering me on the past. Afterwhich her face changed like charcoal when I bo hiu her. haha~

thats why some things are better left unspoken....

[sibaysianz]

Originally Posted by t123

try this, at 2 am during a weeknite. I was sleeping. My ex called, sobbing.
I was scared stiff, maybe something happened.

PS:we didn't have sex during the 4 years together.

hahahaha but she is a nice sweet innocent ger wat...

[sibaysianz]

Originally Posted by walkingdick

Hey, you guys are lucky on food and apparel topics, I kena this;

ME:*Groans, tugs hair and spew froth and blood*

this one sound familiar leh hehe me guilty of similar thing :-
ME: why u look at that girl? she pretty meh?
HIM : not bad lor
ME: she where got pretty? got slut look
HIM : yar I agree
ME : but u like rite, thats why u look at her.
HIM : she just passed by so I just look lor
ME : isit? so many aunties passed by never see u turn leh?
HIM : no words to say liao
ME : I not pretty rite so u must look at other girls and blah blah blah

the moral of the story is when u see girl and kenna caught dun ever admit...

If u ask why I ahve to torture him like this, it's cos I buay song.. me sit with him and he still look at other gers... no give me face mah hahaha

[jugesam]

sibersianz,

when u are deeply involved in a relationship, everything is taken for granted, and it applies to both sexes.

almost all the guyz situation, i have met before, dunno sway or what......otherwise i won't be here to look for another warm bed.....

but cheong also got limit lah....not by $, but if you got spare time, spend 95% time with your wife and 5% to cheong lor, than your relationship will last longer mah.....

if everyone go out and cheong when got spare time, than better not get married lah..............

IMHO, ger dun understand guys 2 things......1) when small head wants, he really mean it, dun act high and mighty..thats why we got this forum. 2) preserve his ego..........very important to have mutual respect and dun act like a big woman when you dun want us to act like mcp........

Guys only dun understand gers 1 thing..........that is EVERYTHING!!!!!! mood change, aunty come monthly, shopping etc, we really cannot catch up with you!!!!!!!!!!

haha, my 2 cents worth

[JWNY]

Originally Posted by sibaysianz

ME: why u look at that girl? she pretty meh?
HIM : not bad lor
ME: she where got pretty? got slut look
HIM : yar I agree
ME : but u like rite, thats why u look at her.
HIM : she just passed by so I just look lor
ME : isit? so many aunties passed by never see u turn leh?
HIM : no words to say liao
ME : I not pretty rite so u must look at other girls and blah blah blah

My story

Mrs: Why look at that girl? Pretty is it?
MM: No lah...just glance then saw her...
Mrs: more than 3 seconds call glance?
MM: Aiyah...small thing only..look her don't mean I lust for her
Mrs: Ya lah...now talk back...good lah like that you...
MM: (lost for words)
Mrs: Want to look also see one more pretty than me lah...she got no backside
Mrs: blah....blah...blah...(until next morning)

PS: MM means Miserable Me

Moral: wear shades