Wife don't like sex

[kue19xx]

I join SBF out of curiosity and to share my own experiences..I am still expolring..this few days then come to this section..

Now I know Im not alone. I wont be able to give any good advise as I am experiencing the same senerio.

I cant remember when is the last time we did it...its is not that she dun like it..infact she like it..but I realy duno the reason..I belive many bros is in same situation but different reasons..some good smoe bad...

Like some of bros here..we got our own sexual needs..thats the reason why I ventured out to realease my desires..started fives year ago and I could not stop..can you imagine that thru this 5 years I had spent almost $12K and still counting..had any bros out there made a calculation how much you had spent??

I do feel guilty after each deed but I realy cant help it..I always let 2nd IC do the thinking..do you think I need conselling? Will it help? I dun have friends to turn to about this issue..

this will always be a secret for me and only bros here knows...

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Bro at least you still get it once a week..for me it could go for a couple of months and then also like buay gam guan to do....painting forget it, she won't even bj me for the same reason that she thinks the mouth is full of germs...for that matter no fingering too...even try to rabba her boobs a bit she say not showing her any respect...so i ask you how to turn her on in the first place??

Hi Bro Frank..really empathise wif u.. so sorry to hear tis frm u...most of us bros here are in the same boat..our OCs giving us very little or NO SEX at all ...their sudden or gradual disinterest in sex wif their HBs esp after child birth...tis pretty common here in SG it seems...But tink yours is the most serious of cases of bros here...yr OC showing u, her HB, so much resentment & disrespect in tis matter..

Wish i hav all the answers..wld gladly share them wif u to help u out of a situation which shd never hav happened in the 1st place to any of us bros here...if only those OCs concerned just know & remember their obligations or duty to their HBs they made on their marriage day...or why their HBs married them in the 1st place...so much unpleasantness, animosity & break-ups wld hav been averted & saved...the world then wld be a better, happier place for ALL to live in..

[Tazz]

Bros here, me oso no sex wt my wife very long Liao...more than a mth...yest buy her a cake for valentine day as she wanted it.I thought got chance tonite.but I failed it,I try 2 times say wan to hug hug her.she say go away n even shouted at me...sian n then I go sleep other rm...sian...we been sleep separate rm after my first bb born.I envious those bros here that have gd sex wt her wife still after marriage.my wife is plump n big boobs,she is braless at Hme n can c her panty when we watch tv together at nite...I misses those time when our daughter haven't cum out to this world...

[brokuan0]

Originally Posted by Rickey

Hi Bro Frank..really empathise wif u.. so sorry to hear tis frm u...most of us bros here are in the same boat..our OCs giving us very little or NO SEX at all ...their sudden or gradual disinterest in sex wif their HBs esp after child birth...tis pretty common here in SG it seems...But tink yours is the most serious of cases of bros here...yr OC showing u, her HB, so much resentment & disrespect in tis matter..

Wish i hav all the answers..wld gladly share them wif u to help u out of a situation which shd never hav happened in the 1st place to any of us bros here...if only those OCs concerned just know & remember their obligations or duty to their HBs they made on their marriage day...or why their HBs married them in the 1st place...so much unpleasantness, animosity & break-ups wld hav been averted & saved...the world then wld be a better, happier place for ALL to live in..

I think the answer is to have a 2nd wife. then the women will fall in line.
i have started the thread & looking for support. if more did it, quantify the reasons & substaining it by debate, the law have to be reversed. Finally, increase in birth rates. Also, we spend less time outside.

Q&A Taking a 2nd wife
http://sammyboy.today/showthread.php?t=228120

[pharoahbb]

Well this issue happen to mi too, i have times where partner didnt want or to say didnt give so well one way is to go toilet settle yurself another way is to find someone else do it with u
I asked once n she go very cold want to slp as in just slp n nothing else the next moment i went to look for replacement
Mosg important dun bring disease home. If yur partner evef find out do ask her to justify her action too. If yur gf or wife did their duties n u still search for new partner then its yur fault if not well is tbe other way round

[Cunt-Sucker]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Bro at least you still get it once a week..for me it could go for a couple of months and then also like buay gam guan to do....painting forget it, she won't even bj me for the same reason that she thinks the mouth is full of germs...for that matter no fingering too...even try to rabba her boobs a bit she say not showing her any respect...so i ask you how to turn her on in the first place??

Hor sie liao Bro! U & I are INDEED on the same boat! In fact, I'm beginning to wonder if we married the same wife You've just completely spelt out my agony! No sex for a few months, and then when I asked for it, she quoted one of her friends' hubby who've NOT had sex for 1 year, ever since the wife pregnant until the baby now 6-months plus liao. I tulan & said then u go & marry him for a sexless marriage lah! then she flew into a rage & said why must I always kick a big fuss about sex? If no sex will I die? If won't die then stop complaining! My jaws just dropped to the floor ... )

Then last week, she suddenly asked from me a full-body massage, so I thought got chance liao, and I gave a a truly sensual massage, & she was feeling so comfortable that she felt asleep. So when I gently flipped her over for the front massage, and threw in all the necessary titillations of the breasts & pussy after the whole thing, she suddenly opened her eyes and said to me:" You pervert! Don't disturb me lah! I need my beauty sleep now! Go turn off the lights & if you still got so much energy, then go out & play your laptop / FB / PS3!" Again, my jaws dropped to the floor ... (& I ended my night by going to the toilet to PCC 'cos I already so aroused when I was massaging for her in nude!)

& on those days when she granted me with sex, which I can unfortunately count using my fingers, she'd be making the deed seems like a torture to her, complaining that she did it just to satisfy me, why never wash every part of my body thoroughly, no painting, no bbbj, no DATY 'cos all these very unhygienic, & when I tried to suggest some sex-toys or different positions or role-plays to spice up the acts, she retorted that she's NOT an AV porn star, so don't try to demean her by asking her to do "all these stupid things" ... Once again, you've guessed correctly, my jaws dropped and dislocated when it hit the floor ...

[naturegreen]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Bro at least you still get it once a week..for me it could go for a couple of months and then also like buay gam guan to do....painting forget it, she won't even bj me for the same reason that she thinks the mouth is full of germs...for that matter no fingering too...even try to rabba her boobs a bit she say not showing her any respect...so i ask you how to turn her on in the first place??

Wa bro we are in the same boat.

[cncs]

After reading all the comments, I felt so lucky even after so many years of marriage me and my wife are still into sex.

[lee2001sg]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Bro at least you still get it once a week..for me it could go for a couple of months and then also like buay gam guan to do....painting forget it, she won't even bj me for the same reason that she thinks the mouth is full of germs...for that matter no fingering too...even try to rabba her boobs a bit she say not showing her any respect...so i ask you how to turn her on in the first place??

This is the saddest post I seen in the whole topic. I really salute Frankie for still being so cool in this situation. If it happened to me, I think I would end my life just like Cunt-Sucker mentioned.

That night, I discussed with my wife regarding sex life. She had just joined a all female company selling skin-care products. I know there are lots of divorcee, so I ask her whether she know her colleagues who are divorcee have sex urgue or not. She said they do not need sex at all and their vaginal had grown spider-webs. What have our society turned into? I thought someone mentioned lady of 30s have HSD. Bullshit!!!

[shitrules]

I feel so sad for the guys after reading this thread.... think the key thing to making your wife want sex is communication and attraction. You have to learn what attracts girls to guys, and apply those techniques.

Even now that I am married, perhaps more so now that I am married, I still spend lots of time learning how to seduce my wife, play games with her, to keep our marriage sexciting and our sex life active.

I sincerely believe there is an "inner slut" in all girls, and the magic key to opening that door to let the slut out, is using the correct words, tone and behaviour.

[samyboys]

Originally Posted by shitrules

I feel so sad for the guys after reading this thread.... think the key thing to making your wife want sex is communication and attraction. You have to learn what attracts girls to guys, and apply those techniques.

Even now that I am married, perhaps more so now that I am married, I still spend lots of time learning how to seduce my wife, play games with her, to keep our marriage sexciting and our sex life active.

I sincerely believe there is an "inner slut" in all girls, and the magic key to opening that door to let the slut out, is using the correct words, tone and behaviour.

share some tips with us here

[sgiceboy]

wah hahahah

i didn't know there so much bro like me.. suffering in silence.

for my case no sex since wifey preggie... now kid 3 year old liao...

so gg 4 years liao.... wo actual sex..

the last time i ask for it.. we had a big fight after tat.. i told myself i'm not gg to beg for sex cos i'm not a beggar... since then... no physical contact liao.. cos we sleep seperate due to the small one.

been surviving on porn & DIY if not sure die die... neva really go for FL cos jus not me.

do i still love her? i duno leh... all i know... now see her naked so no feelings...wan to do romantic things also sian cos... in the end get nothing.....

when i hear those bros having great sex after having kids.. i really envy... knn duno real or bluff i also duno...... i jus know i not get any...

[Cunt-Sucker]

Originally Posted by sgiceboy

wah hahahah

i didn't know there so much bro like me.. suffering in silence.

for my case no sex since wifey preggie... now kid 3 year old liao...

so gg 4 years liao.... wo actual sex..

the last time i ask for it.. we had a big fight after tat.. i told myself i'm not gg to beg for sex cos i'm not a beggar... since then... no physical contact liao.. cos we sleep seperate due to the small one.

Bro! I salute you! Almost 4 years w/o sex! Wow! err ... Can I just check if you actually still remember to do the act? Haha! No hard feelings! 'Cos I'm so afraid that I'll forget how to do it eventually if I allow my wife to starve me like this, so on & off, when I have a bit of spare cash in my pocket, I'll go engage the professionals to get them help me revise on the proper techniques ...

For all the brothers who are suffering as us, have you actually asked your wife then what's her purpose of marrying to you? I asked mine: does she just consider me as a legal sperm donor to our kids? And am I just supposed to bring back the dough & take care of the necessary expenses? Am I totally not worth her tiny bit of attention / love? Too bad, she's never really given to me her answers 'cos she'll either play dumb & go for the kids, or just shout at me, asking me if I really so "eng" & wanna pick a fight ... But just interested to find out from all the deprived bros here: Have you ever thought about this question? What are we to our wives?

[geckoSG]

Hmmm, seems that there is some need to re-energize the marriage here...
Most women are too tired after a day of work and children manning... For
those DIV woman, they too need love and sex... but most of them when in
a group of ladies, they won't say they are desperate for sex. It will make
them look CHEAP.

I guess you guys try to spice up life a bit, for me, I guess I still lucky that
once a while I still get sex, but nowsaday, I am initiating lesser and lesser
sex with spouse... Too tired to keep initiating...

[Vice Master]

My wife rarely initiates physical intimacy, be it sex or even a quick kiss. If there is any physical interaction, I initiate it. I hint rather often that I desire more physically. When I try to talk to her about this, she gets annoyed.