Gers Are Still Gers

[singexpat]

Originally Posted by Rof|maoxz

At home more worst. During quarreling, she will use ash tray and swing directly to his head, or use the pool table cue to whack him. Just imagine my frd something retaliate by lifting up the cue with his wife dangling above the ground. Quite funny stuff there.

Bro, i tried this before but lucky no ashtray yet, only books (dictionaries, management books with hard covers)...

somemore tht time was in NS, still remember its during the SISPEC course..
so weekday kanna hantam by PC, Specs n weekends kanna by my ex..

my ex was 155cm n i'm 180cm.. can do retaliation but soft hearted...
or most likely no balls left..

[OceanEleven]

Originally Posted by singexpat

Bro, i tried this before but lucky no ashtray yet, only books (dictionaries, management books with hard covers)...
my ex was 155cm n i'm 180cm.. can do retaliation but soft hearted...
or most likely no balls left..

Women all the same, give them face and they climb on top of yr head. Dont understand, tell them many a times angry dont throw things, later spoil own self pay again. What's the point?

[singexpat]

Originally Posted by OceanEleven

Dont understand, tell them many a times angry dont throw things, later spoil own self pay again. What's the point?

agree agree... but most times i kanna e one payin...nb..

[MoonBlaze]

Originally Posted by singexpat

agree agree... but most times i kanna e one payin...nb..

Tell her to throw her own stuff, her handphone will be a good choice.

[lament]

a little off topic but some interesting points from new paper columnist janice wong from www.janice-wong.com

Want a girlfriend? Get a nice car
MY leggy friend Shirley couldn't wait to tell me all about her new boyfriend.

Before she even dropped her handbag on the seat at Coffee Bean, she gushed: Guess what? He drives a Porsche!

Great, I said. But what do you like about him?

His Porsche.

There you have it - the nub of modern courtship.

The more expensive the man's car, the greater his eligibility.

It is interesting to see how a metal structure on wheels can accord a man so much magnetism. It doesn't work the other way; a woman with a car is not as prized.

Indeed, it could work against her.

Shirley would never give a car-less man a second look.

With the number of men falling over themselves to date her, the car rule gives her a quick and easy disqualifier.

I don't think she is alone in judging men on the basis of their cars or lack thereof.

My man friends lament the plentiful anecdotal evidence of the prevalence of this characteristic among women.

George, who recently upgraded from a 10-year-old Japanese car to a new Beemer (for those who are car-challenged, that's a BMW), told me that the difference this has made in the attitude of his woman friends is remarkable.

When women saw my old car, they gave me a thinly veiled disappointed look.

They would rush out of the car like they were embarrassed to be seen in it.

Now I don't have this problem at all, he said.

It's the ultimate litmus test - same guy, different car, different reaction.

My conclusion: Want a girlfriend? Get a nice car.

Sounds crass? But it's true.

A car makes snaring a girlfriend easier in several ways. With a car, there are more options regarding where to go.

The man gets an opportunity to demonstrate his chivalry by sending the girl home and running other car-essential errands. You know, the knight in shining car myth.

A car doubles as a cosy private space for those intimate moments.

Lastly, a man with an expensive car is just more socially desirable. The message is clear: Look, I am successful.

For all these reasons, if I like two men equally and the only thing that differentiates them is a car, I would go for the one with the wheels.

What if your girlfriend is not the materialistic sort?

Be realistic.

Even if she is indifferent to taking an MRT train or riding in a Mercedes-Benz E200, some of her relatives and friends would judge you a failure if you show up with an ez-link card instead of car keys.

To Shirley's parents, any boyfriend of their daughter who has no car is a dim prospect as a son-in-law. It would also be a big loss of face.

Lash out at them if you want to. But like it or not, we live in a society which grades people: our family and educational background, the house we live in, the job we hold and the car we drive.

Not only does a car signal you have arrived, but where you park also seals your social status.

Higher-ranking staff get to park in reserved lots nearer the exits.

From personal experience, I know that many parking valets pay more attention, and display a degree of servility, to owners of prestigious marques.

Shirley is not a gold digger by a long shot. She finds her boyfriend's personality attractive.

She has simply not reached that sublime state to say honestly that such things as the calibre of car ownership does not matter to her.

So, if you are male and dateless, why not hop down to Performance Motors or Cycle & Carriage this weekend if you can afford it?

With the Monetary Authority of Singapore allowing zero downpayment, you could jump-start your eligibility quotient instantly.

Of course, it would plunge you in debt for a long time, too.

However, those who take this route and find their appointment calendar filling up will do well to bear in mind this caution from talk-show host Oprah Winfrey: Everyone wants to ride with you in the limo, but what you need is someone who'll take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.

[MoonBlaze]

Originally Posted by vesfreq

I took her word for it and casually asked Miss A out for lunch. Miss A paused and see ceiling here and there. Then hesitated for a while for, "hmmm.... actually i need to do some shopping during lunch." ie, Kenna rejected there and then. .... the rejection was complete Bull.....

I think the signal she put across is quite clear. She was merely being polite with the rejection. Try again if you intend to give it one more shot. If been rejected another time...can forget abt it and move on with other things in life. Three times will be a resasonable limit depending on the desirability of the intended target.

Originally Posted by vesfreq

Till now, I have no idea whether this colleague meant what she said. I was also wondering whether Miss A is aware of what the colleague said. Should I continue to ask Miss A out for lunch?

Perhaps it was a casual remarks, unlikely to be a hint on behalf of Ms A. Dun have to take it seriously. But then if she is single, and you find her acceptable, can try to date her again. But office romance can get quite sticky at times.

Originally Posted by vesfreq

Its so tedious. Some bros probably think I should give up. I'm already more than 3/4 demoralised. Sometimes, when I walk pass her, I don't even bother to look at her to TCSS.

Talk to her as you usually do...cannot work out anything, can still be frens beside being colleague....you never know, next time she may have some frens that may interest you...If you ignore her completely, she might be thinking that you are sore with her for rejecting your date.

Originally Posted by vesfreq

I already reached a point where I'd look to the opposite wall or close my eyes, when a chio bu or SYT (office colleague) walk by. So mah fan having to entertain them.

Dun need to entertain them, just flash a smile (friendly not cheeky ) or a few words of regards will do.

Originally Posted by vesfreq

Worse is, after putting in so much time and effort, you realise that this girl is already attached or chose someone else.

Look ahead, it's alright if they are attached...they will have some other gal frens who are not....Cheer Up

[singexpat]

Originally Posted by MoonBlaze

Tell her to throw her own stuff, her handphone will be a good choice.

bro, i bought her 2 handphones.. (stuoopi rite??)

dunno wat gong tao she feed me...

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by MoonBlaze

I think the signal she put across is quite clear. She was merely being polite with the rejection. Try again if you intend to give it one more shot. If been rejected another time...can forget abt it and move on with other things in life. Three times will be a resasonable limit depending on the desirability of the intended target.

Thanks. I agree with your opinion. It was a clear message. I already got over it. Just that it felt more like a set up.

I told a friend that I rather make the money and date the girls I want or even "bao" a mistress or two. It was plain disappointing, with regards to that incident.

Originally Posted by MoonBlaze

Perhaps it was a casual remarks, unlikely to be a hint on behalf of Ms A. Dun have to take it seriously. But then if she is single, and you find her acceptable, can try to date her again. But office romance can get quite sticky at times.

I'm already steering clear of her. Look left and right, she still isn't worth it.

Originally Posted by MoonBlaze

Talk to her as you usually do...cannot work out anything, can still be frens beside being colleague....you never know, next time she may have some frens that may interest you...If you ignore her completely, she might be thinking that you are sore with her for rejecting your date.

Ehh.... u really have foresight. Anyway, I wrote off that possibility. Besides, getting rejected once for lunch is bad enough. I don't even want to visualise meeting her in future. Its just awkward, no thanks to her friend's "advice".

You have a point regarding her "thinking" that i'm sore. On the other hand, since I already completed whatever biz with her, I have sufficient legitimate excuse to avoid seeing her.

Originally Posted by MoonBlaze

Dun need to entertain them, just flash a smile (friendly not cheeky ) or a few words of regards will do.

Look ahead, it's alright if they are attached...they will have some other gal frens who are not....Cheer Up

Thanks for the advice.

[free]

Originally Posted by t123

I am no casanova, I got 10% of the 1st choice, I will blessed by my ancestors liao.

Sorry I dun mean that. I meant going by what is posted in this thread, almost every ger is like 100% we guys sure kena. So funny maths say 3 gers = 3x100% = 300% chance of kena. Either one we choose also kena! Yeah of course proper maths says it is still 100%.

[free]

Originally Posted by Zappy

knn think we like ah mat sometimes.... sigh.....

Anyone ever experienced this? Worked in Jurong so out of the house since 7am or so. After a long hard and mad day at office, I will still wait for her to finish work and go to pick her up from her office (starts work later, 11am-pm), timing myself as she smsed to tell me she's finishing at a particular time. Almost always had to wait 1-3 hours at her office lobby (or next to taxi stand & feeling like an inconsiderate driver obstructing traffic cos she said she is on the way down). This happens almost at least 3 times a week, every week for years. And not a single time I hear a "sorry I made u wait". Ever realised that when one is tired, the moment u sit down a while doing nothing, your whole body goes to sleep? and even hurts all over? Well, alternate means of transport were not acceptable topics of discussion for her.

Then one day I was 20 minutes late cos of accident causing a traffic jam. Not easy to sms while driving, so tried calling her hand./office phone but always engaged or no answer.

When I got there, she wasn't and after waiting an hour, I called her office only to be told she;s already left. Call her hp but no answer again and finally called home and maid said she is already at home. KNN enjoying dinner somemore. Asked her why she did not wait for me, knowing I was coming or call me to say she's going home 1st. Her answer "Cos u late what! Came down and dun see u anywhere, so I took the 1st taxi that comes along and go home lah. Wait for u for what?"

It's worse than being an Amat, I think!

Originally Posted by free

Her answer "Cos u late what! Came down and dun see u anywhere, so I took the 1st taxi that comes along and go home lah. Wait for u for what?"

U should have turn up late the next few times and let her take the taxi home lah. Soon u dun even need to go fetch her mah

[chickenzip]

Originally Posted by free

Her answer "Cos u late what! Came down and dun see u anywhere, so I took the 1st taxi that comes along and go home lah. Wait for u for what?"

Bro no offence huh, but if i'm u..i will

KNN CHAO CHEE BYE NAIBEI HO LAN KAN HO KOU KAN

Pardon my badly used language...

[MoonBlaze]

Originally Posted by free

Anyone ever experienced this? Worked in Jurong so out of the house since 7am or so. After a long hard and mad day at office, I will still wait for her to finish work and go to pick her up from her office (starts work later, 11am-pm)

On days that you are really tired or unwell, inform her to take taxi. If she has a driving lic, you can leave the car with her when you need to meet up with your frens for a drink or gathering for the night since she finish work pretty late. Ask her to pick up and maybe she can appreciate what you had been doing for years.

Originally Posted by free

timing myself as she smsed to tell me she's finishing at a particular time. Almost always had to wait 1-3 hours at her office lobby (or next to taxi stand & feeling like an inconsiderate driver obstructing traffic cos she said she is on the way down). This happens almost at least 3 times a week, every week for years. And not a single time I hear a "sorry I made u wait".

Unless there is a waiting area else, it is not only inconveniening others but posing as safety hazards at times.

Originally Posted by free

Well, alternate means of transport were not acceptable topics of discussion for her.

I think a discussion is inevitable, either tell her at an appropriate opportunity or when it finally took its toll on your patience

Originally Posted by free

Then one day I was 20 minutes late cos of accident causing a traffic jam. Asked her why she did not wait for me, knowing I was coming or call me to say she's going home 1st. Her answer "Cos u late what! Came down and dun see u anywhere, so I took the 1st taxi that comes along and go home lah. Wait for u for what?"

Tell her to at least informed you. Ask her If you do not see her waiting at the pick up point next time and just drove off, how will she feel?

Originally Posted by free

It's worse than being an Amat, I think!

You are right... at least a chauffeur gets paid. In the world, someone who give their best to the other is often taken for granted. Male to Female or vice-versa. All these nonsense really adds on to take out the flair out of a R/S. I think a discussion with your CO to address this problem is imminent. It is never easy but you got to try. Wish you luck!

[Wins88]

Originally Posted by free

Anyone ever experienced this? Worked in Jurong so out of the house since 7am or so. After a long hard and mad day at office, I will still wait for her to finish work and go to pick her up from her office (starts work later, 11am-pm), timing myself as she smsed to tell me she's finishing at a particular time. Almost always had to wait 1-3 hours at her office lobby (or next to taxi stand & feeling like an inconsiderate driver obstructing traffic cos she said she is on the way down). This happens almost at least 3 times a week, every week for years. And not a single time I hear a "sorry I made u wait". Ever realised that when one is tired, the moment u sit down a while doing nothing, your whole body goes to sleep? and even hurts all over? Well, alternate means of transport were not acceptable topics of discussion for her.

Then one day I was 20 minutes late cos of accident causing a traffic jam. Not easy to sms while driving, so tried calling her hand./office phone but always engaged or no answer.

When I got there, she wasn't and after waiting an hour, I called her office only to be told she;s already left. Call her hp but no answer again and finally called home and maid said she is already at home. KNN enjoying dinner somemore. Asked her why she did not wait for me, knowing I was coming or call me to say she's going home 1st. Her answer "Cos u late what! Came down and dun see u anywhere, so I took the 1st taxi that comes along and go home lah. Wait for u for what?"

It's worse than being an Amat, I think!

Bro, the girl is obviously taking you for granted BIG TIME. Dump her is all I can say. Stop fetching her, and let her take her lazy ass home in a taxi or bus - let her go public transport. Stop being a nice guy - trust me - girls do not appreciate nice guys. They like the "ai lai mai suah" attitude type of guy. Anyway, the ocean full of other fishes lah.

[OceanEleven]

Kindness begets kindness but never seems to exist in today’s context of BGR. Sparks flew all the time, from the time you just met her, chasing her even till the day you got that slap on the face knowing that the only woman who had such honor in this world is your mother. While unwillingly allow such episode to take place and still you have to tuck your tail under your balls and go back to her with your tongue sticking out wagging and pleading for forgiveness. To them perhaps this qualifies you as an ideal BF.

I can never fathom such proceedings, could be it due to the fact that their balls are up there compared to us and had that extra edge over us or the fact they are better than us because they will touch the finish line before us with their protruded mounts of flesh in front? At times I beg to differ but normally you will not even get a chance to express your slightest concern. Imagine, she tries to teach you to wash your balls. What had the world come to? I don’t mind sharing the pants or even to give it up and times but there is always a limit but this seems to be not in their dictionary.

Like a black hole, not even the slightest glimpse of things can escape the judgment of their critical mouth and mind you, nothing bless spew from those traps most of the time. Fanatic one liners to brainless remarks, you name it, they got it. It never fail to amaze me their capability to spin reasons for the catastrophic consequences which was time and again warn against. Most of the time, the reasons given were “I don’t know what’ and this is enough to leave your balls hanging by the thread……..

What can I say, take a deep breath, life goes on…….